Why is my chemistry teacher avoiding me?

A female age 30-35, *lice0110 writes:

im really confused. i've had a teacher for about a year now, he teaches me chemistry and i really like him! hes so funny, kind and willing to help you to understand even if it means making himself look stupid. i noticed that hes been looking at me alot in lessons and smiling at me and he always checks that i understand things, even if im the only one who does, he will move on. for ages it carried on like this and when he would come over i would touch his arm and then appologise and he would just smile and say its fine and make some sweet remark. i know it sounds like nothing but i really felt something. at parents evenings its felt like hes wanted to make a good impression infront of my parents. i know hes single and i know hes about 45 and im 17 but he is so lovely. he would moan at my friends for talking in lessons yet i could get away with it. if i saw him around school he would smile and talk even if it meant ignoring someone who he was speaking too. he explained an experiment involving a condom and he looked at me smiled and winked. it was all going fine. then one day, i saw him shopping in a supermarket, like where you pack your shopping. he seemed to look in my direction but he didnt smile. i felt like my heart had been broken! he just blanked me, but im not 100% sure if he saw me or not. but then after at school, in the lessons he doesnt look at me now and i use to see him every morning but now he must rush so hes not there at the same time as me. i cant help but think i have done something wrong but maybe he's trying to distance himself to stop something happening? i waited behind at the end of my lesson the other day and i asked him when he was free to explain something, he said he would after school but i had to go. i went and found him when i had a free peroid but some of my friends came too, i was hoping it would just be me and him. i need to know why he has suddenly changed around me. although last lesson i had something in my eye so me and my friend were talking whilst he was explaining and the whole class was silent, he looked over but then noticed my eye was watering and i think he thought i was crying. he then kept looking at me but he didnt smile. maybe now i am expecting too much, its just i know its wrong and i know people will think its only a crush get over it and he wouldnt risk his job for a 17 year old but i truely love him. he isnt perfect, he has weird teeth, hes noisey but simultaneously he is perfect. and like before, my other chemistry teacher is really bad, i told him this and he was so lovely to me. one of the other teachers told him i was worried so he called me out of a lesson and spoke to me outside and said such lovely things. he called me kiddo which confused me, but then he said i will do amazingly and if i ever have problems with anything he will always be there for me. so now, even if understand things, i will ask him for help, im going to try to talk to him as much as possible and try to get back to how we were. and im not trying to make him feel uncomfortable, we got on so well before, i just dont know what has changed. maybe he is scared of what might happen, but the thought of it just excites me!

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