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Girls say its small! Is it?

Q.   I'm 20 and I want to know why girls keep telling Me that my 7" long 6" girth penis is small? is it small or what? please answer. ...

A.   21 October 2010: Why are you talking about the size of your penis to girls? It sounds a little immature to me. I agree with Tisha-1 stop talking about it. Nobody want to hear about your penis. Its inappropriate. Average penis is 5.5 inches... (read in full...)

Weight advice needed!!!

Q.   I have been on a very low cal diet (450-700 cals) for the past 2 months, I have no idea how much weight I have lost, my scales have been broken. I now have a pair of scales :) I weigh 115lbs at 5'6.5" and I am 22 years old. Basically, I need to lose ...

A.   21 October 2010: For a 22-25 year old I thought you would have more sense then tampering with permanent damage to your vital organs. I'm not going to give you any advice for losing weight. The story you have given is very intricate, I'm not sure If I believe... (read in full...)

Do women like to catch a glimpse of a man's penis or balls?

Q.   Do women like it when men wear shortish kind of shorts and maybe you catch a glimpse of what he is packing here or there (san undies, of course). I love it when I happen to catch a glimpse up a woman's skirt, or into her shorts, or down her top to ...

A.   21 October 2010: NO NO NO NO NO!! Yuck!! For fashions sake, men shouldent wear short any shorter than just abovve the knee. I don't want to see some other guys bits, it makes me feel sick when I see guys in speedos or too tight trousers.... (read in full...)

I'm always tired, is something wrong?

Q.   Hi, I'm 19 and female, and I keep getting really tired! I keep needing a nap mid-afternoon. I'm unemployed, I eat ok, and I usually go to sleep about midnight and wake up at 8. What's going on? Is this normal? I'm exhausted! ...

A.   20 October 2010: I have been in your situation before and sometimes still. I was so tired because I had nothing to do during the day and I wasn't eating enough GREEN vegetables. So your unemployed; what do you do with your day? Do you get out of the house? I... (read in full...)

Husband having sex with me while sleeping

Q.   I'm a happily married woman but lately I've been encountering problems with my husband.first a roving eye which caused me to have a very low self confidence,then a porn addiction to which I was livid with, which he overcame or so I thought but now ...

A.   20 October 2010: Have you thought that maybe he doesn't remember what he's done? There have been several occasions where my partner and I have had sleepy sex in the middle of the night and he doesn't remember it the next morning. He often feels me up in his sleep. I... (read in full...)

Do you think he's sterile?

Q.   I'm nineteen and my boyfriend is a thirty-seven. We've been dating for over a year now. Our sex life has always been great. We have sex at least once a week if not more. (Usually on weekends due to busy schedules.) We're not interested in ha...

A.   20 October 2010: Yes, my boyfriend and I went for over a year without getting pregnant. You have to bear several things in mind.. Do either of you smoke, drink alcohol or caffeine and do you get plenty of exercise? These things can greatly effect fertilit... (read in full...)

I need advice, I want to have a baby, I am 14, please help??

Q.   hey im 14 and i really want a baby i have wanted one sence i was 11 and i dont know what to do my family and friends say i am a natual when it comes to looking after children and careing for them i really don tknow what to do please help x...

A.   19 October 2010: I agree with eyeswideopen. I too know what its like to be incredibly broody, its natural for a lot of women to have this feeling and it can be hard for those don't have it to understand. I got past this by engrossing myself in something else. ... (read in full...)

Pregnancy hopes... Am I doing something wrong here?

Q.   Hi, I want to know... I have been trying to conceive for 4 months... I have followed the ovulation and fertility rules and still no positive, am i doing something wrong... my partner's sperm flows out sometimes... is that the reason? what am i doing ...

A.   19 October 2010: I know a lot about TTC, I can give you a few facts and tips; - It takes a normal fertile couple up to a year to conceive - For 2 months before TTC ad during, neither of you should be drinking caffeine, alcohol, taking drugs or smoking. (th... (read in full...)

Should I dump the girl I love to go for a hotter girl?

Q.   Hi I am currently in a relationship with someone I love. My friends say she is gross and ugly. A "hotter" girl likes me but I don't like her. Should I dump my current gf and go for the other one?...

A.   16 October 2010: Dump your girlfriend. She deserves better than to be talked about like this behind her back. But don't go crying back to her when the "hot" girl decides she's had enough of you. ... (read in full...)

This complex situation is taking its toll on me!

Q.   i am a married women in love with a married men who is involved with my collegue. they have a child together and we all work together. to make things worse the wife hate my collegue but likes me, she invites me without knowing that i am involved ...

A.   14 October 2010: I know that this isnt what you are going to want to hear but.. You need to stop this now! It sounds like this guy is using you to get some more excitement back into his life. If he loved you like he says he would leave his wife for you. What abou... (read in full...)

I'm cold toward my wife and need to get the love back!

Q.   Hi, we have been married for 11 years and have two beautiful daughters. My question is that my wife is not or rather seem not to be interested in sex. Whenever I get close to her or try to make a move towards having sex she shrugs me off and says ...

A.   14 October 2010: Dont be so hard on yourself! It sounds like you are unintentionally resenting your wife for her lack of sex drive. You dont have a cold heart, other wise you wouldent be asking for help :-) Did you have sex before you were married? Do you know of ... (read in full...)

Why do I find teenage girls attractive?

Q.   Hey, I'm a 22 year old guy and would just like to know why I still find teenagers attractive, nothing under legal age of course, just barely legal really turns me on. My last few girlfriends have all been 16, it's not that I don't find girls my own ...

A.   14 October 2010: 16 year old girls are much more easily impressed..... (read in full...)

We had sex and he orgasmed inside me..but didn't tell me!! What should I do?

Q.   I was with my boyfriend in the car the other night and we were making out and it got to the point to where he wanted to have sex. i was resisting and he knew it and i even said no once but finally i gave in because he wasn't giving up. Then after i ...

A.   14 October 2010: HerLovelyWorld... "I gave in..." NOT "I kept telling him no but he forced himself on me" There is a HUGE difference. If she didn't want to have sex that badly she could have gotten out of the car or hit him, or bitten him or screamed. ... (read in full...)

How can I learn to make myself squirt?

Q.   How can I learn to make myself squirt?...

A.   14 October 2010: You cant make yourself squirt. Its not something you can train yourself to do. It happens to some people because the gland in their vagina that makes you wet secrets a build-up of excess fluid when they orgasm. Sorry!... (read in full...)

Can you date your half brother?

Q.   is it ok to date your half brother?i didint know him till the start of summer, i didint know i had a half brother till dad died then mum said we had a half brother...

A.   12 October 2010: No, that is really not OK. If he was your step brother, that would be a different matter. But because you are joined by blood and DNA, it is illegal. If you had kids, there would be a very high % that they would be physically and menta... (read in full...)

Do I look fat in this?

Q.   I am about 132 and 5'7 3/4". My husband keeps saying that I am fat. Are there any circumstances under which, or cultures in which this would be considered fat? Are there any guys here that consider this proportion too fat for their taste?...

A.   9 October 2010: Jeez, what an ass. At my lowest weight I was 154, and 5ft5 and was wearing size 6 (US) clothes. Being under 10stone is closer to being underweight than overweight!... (read in full...)

Is this usual in Germany?

Q.   In fact if I could speak German, I should post it in German agony website... One day, I was travelling in Germany, I went to a kind of pub which looks normal. Some people started to speak with me. One German young guy suddenely asked me t...

A.   8 October 2010: No this is not normal!!! I think you have just been unlucky in the people you have bumped into!!... (read in full...)

Why do people say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder?

Q.   I am a bit confused about this people say that the beauty is the eye of the beholder but in this world we tend to look at beauty in a different way; It's been said that people who are beautiful gets the best of everything good ...

A.   8 October 2010: Beauty in the eye of the beholder means that everyone finds different things beautiful. E.g. Some guys find skinny girls beautiful, like kate moss. However some guys like girls who have a bit of meat to them. Some people dont care about looks... (read in full...)

My lady tastes like salt??

Q.   Hi there, I wonder if other guys (esp) have the same experience? I am not used to giving oral as my long term ex liked to give but didnt want me down there...although we did loads of "other things" ;)...lol I am with a new partner who I t...

A.   6 October 2010: It doesnt taste like salt because of what you eat.. My ex girlfriend tasted the same, its just the way vaginal lubrication tastes! I've tasted mine after kissing my boyfriend after he has gone down on me and its the same! The only thing i can... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants a ''threesome''!

Q.   Hi there, I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He's lovely and I love him so much. I lost my virginity to him and want him to be the only one in my life. Few months ago, he said something that hurt me. He said ''what do you think abou...

A.   5 October 2010: olderthandirt and honeypie are being a little too biased and serious I think! It can be a fun experience if you want to do it, and you do it with the right girl. Its totally natural to be jealous, I was at first. But remember guys think differen... (read in full...)

This is normal right...?

Q.   ok i had sex with my boyfriend and when we were done i went to the bathroom and i was bleeding. this is normal right? how long does the bleeding go on for? ...

A.   5 October 2010: Yes this is normal. It should stop within a couple hours of having sex. Its probably just small tears in the vagina which on the whole are unnoticeable. Remember sex is quite rough on the vagina even when its slow thrusting!!... (read in full...)

Can my boyfriend force me to give up our child?

Q.   I'm 20 years old and I might be pregnant. I've only ever been with one guy (my bf of a year and a half) and I've always told him that if I got pregnant by accident, the only option for me would be to keep it. I've scheduled a doctor's appt to find ...

A.   5 October 2010: You might be pregnant? What does this mean? If you have taken a home pregnancy test and it is positive then yes you are pregnant. But if you are a few days late for your period and you are feeling a bit bloated then Its really not worth getting ... (read in full...)

Does my teacher have feelings for me?

Q.   Okay... Well first off I need help and want to know if a Certain teacher likes me. Let's call him Mr.B. Anyways I'm 16 junior and there's a teacher who I've known for quite a while I've had him for 2 years and ive known him since I was in 6th grad...

A.   5 October 2010: How old is this guy? If he does like you (I cant really get a good idea of the picture because you will be biased) I am concerned about an older guy in an authoritative position being infatuated with a student..that sounds quite pervy to me, not ... (read in full...)

One Year Anniversary Present?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend are going to make a year in a month.. what is a great present for our aniversary? ...

A.   5 October 2010: I really wouldn't recommend spending lots of money..an anniversary is about spending time together, not buying each other stuff! Save your money for his birthday/christmas. For our first anniversary we didn't buy each other anything, we just re-... (read in full...)

Does breast feeding mess up your breasts?

Q.   Hey well i heard that breast feeding messes up your nipples like makes them not soft any more and stuff and that they wont go back to normal is that true?...

A.   3 October 2010: I am a Doula and I know a lot about breastfeeding. I have found that most of the comments on here are not actually answering your question.. Being pregnant changes your breasts, not the actual breast feeding, unless the baby pulls on them alot. F... (read in full...)

Doggie dilemma!

Q.   I am a 19 year old female and my boyfriend is 18. whenever we have sex, i enjoy the missionary position but as we start doing other positions (esp. dogggie) i just cant bear the pain on my lower stomach. Does anyone know about this? and is this the ...

A.   3 October 2010: Hi, Taylaa x is right, I have experienced this too. It is the penis hitting the cervix, which is very sensitive. You can still do this position, you just have to ask your boyfriend to not push as deep. Periods can be quite irregular througho... (read in full...)

I said yes to a threesome now I am second guessing this!

Q.   I'm almost 15 years old and i'm with an older guy. He's 16 turning 17. We've been together for a while about afew months. We fell in love, or atleast I did. And yesterday out of the blue he asked me to join in on a threesome he wants to have with ...

A.   1 October 2010: Maybe you need to find some that dont piss you off. Having sex at your age is irresponsible and illegal. ... (read in full...)

What do men hate?

Q.   What is the main thing that makes a man hate or dislike a woman? Men only please!...

A.   29 September 2010: Anonymous.. You cant call farting or burping a vulgar habit.. They are natural bodily functions!!... (read in full...)

Boyfriend expects me to have sex with him he's 14 I'm 15!

Q.   Im 15 years old,and im having problems with my boyfriend last night he asked me what my bases are and i told him and now he wants to have sex with me! he is a year younger than me too! I love him and i dont want to break up with him cause that will ...

A.   29 September 2010: He is trying to emotionally blackmail you!! Dont have sex with him. Wait until you are atleast of legal age and you are with someone who respects you and your decisions. Dont let this guy bully you into doing something you arnt totally sur... (read in full...)

I am not sure how to tell my parents about my 10 years older than me boyfriend

Q.   Okay this is going to sound odd at first but im 19 and my bf is 29. I will be 20 next month. He just turned 29. I am not one for age if its reasonable like this....but how am I suppose to tell my parents? I dont want them to judge me or him....

A.   29 September 2010: I met my boyfriend 2 years ago when I had just turned 19 and he was 32. My parents were OK with it, because they support the decisions I make. If you are serious about this guy I am sure your parents will accept it. I have just turned 21 and he i... (read in full...)

I can't get pregnant but I'm afraid to ask my doctor why

Q.   Okay so my and my fiance have been together for 6 years and we are trying to have a child but have had no luck. We have sex all of the time so timeing is not one of my concerns. We know that he is fertile because he got a previous girlfriend ...

A.   27 September 2010: Are you overweight? Do you drink caffiene? Do you drink alcohol? Do you get enough exercise? Do you have a healthy and nutritious diet? - These are questions you and your partner should be asking yourself... (read in full...)

Is thick and yellow normal for cum?

Q.   When I perform oral sex on my man, I noticed when he cum in my mouth, it is thick and yellowish. When I go to spit it out, I gag every time. Have any male experienced this? Can anyone tell me what this could be? It looks like old mucus....

A.   24 September 2010: That isnt normal, it sounds like an infection. Get him to check it out with his GP... (read in full...)

Is it normal to be attracted to older men?

Q.   I'm 18, and for as early as I could remember I've been attracted to older men (40-50). Maybe because of their masculinity and overall maturity. My dad recently told me if he found out I was seeing a man in that age group, he wouldn't approve of it. ...

A.   24 September 2010: Yes, of course that is normal! My boyfriend is 13 years older than me :-) However a lot of older men are no more mature than they were in their teens underneath so you should be careful of who you pick to date. I had to go through a few frogs be... (read in full...)

I'm 15, I lost a child and I'm still craving one!

Q.   I'm 15 years old and I'm craving a child. I know many other people have asked about this but I feel my situation is somewhat different and would like specific advice please. 11 months ago today I had a miscarrige; I was almost 4 months pregnant...

A.   23 September 2010: I see that you didnt want any answers related to your age but you have too see that your age is the main concern here. In order to have sex and conceive a child you will have to have ILLEGAL sex. Your boyfriend could be sent to jail if anyone find... (read in full...)

Three years and no proposal!

Q.   I've been with the same guy for 3 years now. We have a daughter together and all of our friends say they are jealous of our relationship because we never fight. We know everything about eachother. The only thing I dont have is an engagment ring or a ...

A.   23 September 2010: Maybe he doesnt want to propose.. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for the same length of time and have agreed that its not for us. Maybe hes thinking the same thing but hasnt mentioned it. Do you feel like you have to get marr... (read in full...)

I'm 15, I lost a child and I'm still craving one!

Q.   I'm 15 years old and I'm craving a child. I know many other people have asked about this but I feel my situation is somewhat different and would like specific advice please. 11 months ago today I had a miscarrige; I was almost 4 months pregnant...

A.   23 September 2010: I'm sorry for you loss, from experience I can imagine how your feeling now. I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks last year and it was devestating and a few weeks after it happened all i could think about was getting pregnant again. And those thou... (read in full...)

Does wearing a bra to bed, help your boobs grow?

Q.   Ok so usually I wear a bra to sleep. I hear that if u do your breasts won't grow. Mine are not the biggest so I'm wondering if that's true and if not, what are some ways that I can help them grow? Love, A...

A.   22 September 2010: The girls will only wear them at slumber parties because they feel self concious about their friends seeing the outline of their breasts and nipples. Nothing to do with it making them grow! ... (read in full...)

My wife decieved me about having an abortion and an STD in the past, and now I am struggling to forgive and forget.

Q.   When my wife and I were still dating she told me she had been with lots of guys. I asked her if she had ever had a STD or been pregnant before, she said no. Two weeks later the told me she had herpes, one week later she found out she was pregnant. ...

A.   21 September 2010: Take a moment and imagine how hard this is on her. Take a moment to stand in her shoes. I can imagine she was too ashamed to tell you. Having an abortion is an extremely traumatic process. This is also in her past where you didnt exist in her life, ... (read in full...)

Why are his parents so over protective towards us?

Q.   I am 16 and almost 17. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year now. I want a baby and so does he... but his parents say and tell use that we cant do anything till were out of college and a lot older. WE are not allowed to do anything, we ...

A.   21 September 2010: I'm not surprised they are acting like that! You say you want to have a baby with your boyfriend, how are they supposed to act..be happy for you? Have you even considered what will happen when you have a baby? No parents trust their hormonal tee... (read in full...)

I can't seem to squirt... is this normal?

Q.   Ok so I recently saw a video of this girl masterbatin and she squirted really far when she had her orgasm. That's on of the hottest thang I've ever seen so I'm inspired to learn how to do it myself. I googled how to squirt when I orgasm and came up ...

A.   20 September 2010: This is something that your body will or will not do, you cant make it happen. Only a very small percentage of women can, dont feel bad, if your not squirtin its natural!... (read in full...)

Does wearing a bra to bed, help your boobs grow?

Q.   Ok so usually I wear a bra to sleep. I hear that if u do your breasts won't grow. Mine are not the biggest so I'm wondering if that's true and if not, what are some ways that I can help them grow? Love, A...

A.   20 September 2010: LOL no this is not true! The only way you breasts grow is by the hormones your body produces..Whoever told you this is trying to get one over on you. Don't wear your bra to bed, its really bad for you. Under wired bras especially damage and stif... (read in full...)

I said yes to a threesome now I am second guessing this!

Q.   I'm almost 15 years old and i'm with an older guy. He's 16 turning 17. We've been together for a while about afew months. We fell in love, or atleast I did. And yesterday out of the blue he asked me to join in on a threesome he wants to have with ...

A.   19 September 2010: You are only 14 years old..you are a child. I am 21 and I remember very vividly what it was like to be 14. Dont have sex, its illegal, your boyfriend will be put in jail if anyone finds out. Enjoy the rest of your childhood and teenage years before ... (read in full...)

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