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writes:Hi everyone.Well I'm overweight. My parents are annoying me all the time saying 'I have to lose weight or I'll die'. I'm not that fat, it's only them who say things like that to me.My mom also says I have no self esteem cause I'm fat and I don't love myself since I'm fat.When she says things like that she makes me feel like I'm a miserable person.I personally like being fat or I might not but I don't mind being like I am, I don't think it's a sin to be fat especially if you are happy with that.I don't understand if it's me who's wrong by being fat or if my parents are obsessed with looks.I've been overweighted for almost 11 years and I'm a healthy person so far, I don't really eat junk food or any bad food, I eat what an average person eats I just don't do any exercise. I've always felt good about myself but my parents kinda make me feel like I suck just cause I'm somewhat fat.In the past I had some bulimic episodes but my parents never knew about it so now I get very upset when they start saying things like this to me, they can't understand I'm happy being as I am and I'm fat because I am and there's nothing wrong with that it's not like I murdered someone, and if I really wanted to lose weight I know I could do that but that's just not a priority for me now.So can anyone please help me. I need advices on this please...Thanks in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): you need to tell them how upset this makes you! as long as you are healthy and happy with yourself, a little pudge is nothing to be concerned about!! your parents seem to be the only thing causing self esteam issues! talk to them about this calmly
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 You're right, your parents are in the wrong. Simple and easy. Some parents just will never get off your back! My mom is somewhat the same, and it's quite annoying! She keeps picking on things and leaving negative comments where none is needed, totally unnecessary and hurtful! So I don't think there's anything wrong with you, some parents just are that way, they like to pick and control others!
Just to give you an idea, I think I look gorgeous, I never had a problem with myself either, but my mom picks at the way I look, says I have zits where I don't, tells me my hair colour is boring or looks bad on me, if I bought a new dress she tells me she's seen me wear better things, and she always complains that I haven't popped out grandchildren for her yet! At my birthdays she comments how I will start to gain weight soon as my metabolism will go down the older I get, tells me I don't work out enough, tells me I do this and that when I don't... I feel for you!!!
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 Absolultely not, i am 200lbs and feel sexy a lot of the time, even if i do have a couple off days a month.
However, i have accepted that i am unhealithy overweight and am doing something about it, i have recently lost 28lbs to get down to 200 and i feel so much better about my fitness and health.
Although your parents sound quite harsh in the way you are descibing them, what they are saying is because they care for you, even if they may sound bitchy. You havent descirbed how overweight you are so i can comment if their comments are valid or not.
Even though losing weight is not a priority for you right now, there are small things you can do to maintain a healthier lifestyle that wont change your day to day life such as drinking a little extra water, reducing your potato/pasta/rice intake and taking the stairs insead of a lift.
Nobody should try and make you feel something you dont.
Feeling good about your self is an exellent way to live your life, there are milions of people especially women who envy that.
Talk to your parents about their comments and how you feel about it. If you dont want to this, just ignore them and relax in the knowledge that you can lose wieght when you want and that you are happy with you are.
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 There is skinny people that have low self esteem, that hate their lives. Being fat does not necessarily mean your going to have low self esteem, because you could be chubby and love your life. Your parents sound worry about your weight because you are chubby they might think you have bad eating habits. What I think the problem with your parents is that they lack the ability to communicate with you on this subject.
Being bulimic is very dangerous and you should not try this ever again if you ever decide to lose weight. The best solution would be to see a nutritionist.
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