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writes:As the above question says, would you go out on a date with a guy who you had only met on that occasion asked you out at the end of the evening?If you perceive that as needy, if a guy fancies a girl when should he ask her out? Reply to this Question
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reader, MsSadie  +, writes (7 March 2012):
 I would (and I have) if I felt the same intense attraction that drove him over to me.
Otherwise, no. I'm not into guys who simply lust over me. But to each her own, right? :)
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (2 March 2012):
Depends on the girl.
As for me, I probably wouldn't unless the chemistry/click was undeniable. My response to guys who tried this was usually a knee-jerk "no". I hate being put on the spot in an unpredictable situation and I usually take the easy 'safe' way out.
So my advice is to get to know the girl a bit first, see if she's truly your type and try your luck later in the evening.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2012): I'm around your age and I wouldn't find it weird at all, provided there was chemistry. In fact my current bf and I did things that way ourselves. We met, hit it off, and exchanged numbers that same night with plans to meet later in the week.If you know she liked you too, go for it. Far from thinking you are needy, she will probably appreciate how straightforward you are. Girls don't actually dig sitting by the phone for the obligatory three days or whatever while the guy waits a suitably "cool" period of time to call so he doesn't look too interested.That said, if she wasn't as into you as you are into her, she may feel uncomfortable and she may not accept. If you think this is the case, try seeing her again in a group setting and getting to know each other a little more before taking the next step.Best of luck!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 March 2012):
 It looks to me like your submittal is "circular"... and YOU'VE ANSWERED OUR OWN QUESTION!!!! (albeit, with another question!!!).....
Cripes... how small a hoop do you expect a guy to jump through before he's allowed to ask you out?????
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (1 March 2012):
 No, what you're suggesting is something a NORMAL, healthy and confident man would do. Wimpy men, who need more reassurance because they fear rejection, wait around. Women like to be pursued and they like confident men. If your conversation went well and there was an attraction, you should ask her out before someone else does.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2012): If there was a strong connection and you hadn't come across as weird in any other way, then yeah I'd go on the date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2012): Yea sure....beats waiting for a phone call
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 March 2012):
 I see no problem with it.
It's not that he came up to you out of the blue and said "I think you look hot go out with me"
he asked at the end of meeting you... how else would they ask?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (1 March 2012):
 Needy ? Why ? If we really want to be nitpicking, maybe someone could perceive you in fact as a bit too cocky .
But in general I see nothing wrong in going straight for the kill. You see someone you like, and you try to "get " her - it's legitimate. If they say no, though, don't be upset and don't go think strange things about looking needy. Remember, as we say here : Asking is always legitimate,- and accepting is always optional.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2012): As Mandy said, if you have background information on him ( from a reliable mutual friend, why not?
This is exactly what happened to me, and we're still together 1.6 years later.
There is nothing wrong if a guy fancies a girl and asks her out soon after. It's what I always wanted - someone who is sure of himself, when the interest is there he pursues, and is consistent and shows his intentions early on so there is no games, no fake rules or anything else. Just be yourself.
It's not needy at all. Needy is when a person has to have your constant time and attention. He is always needing help with something whether it be a problem or a task, and requires constant assurance. Needy people can leave you frustrated, irritated, and plain exhausted if you let them.
This guy is a potential in your life and he is merely showing you he is interested by asking you out so soon.
Enjoy it!
Best Wishes
xxxx E
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reader, YouWish +, writes (1 March 2012):
 What's wrong with that? If I were interested, sure I would! You get more heads up than on a blind date or meeting on the internet.
Neediness has nothing to do with it. You see someone you are interested in and you ask her out. That's happened since the dawn of time and shows no neediness at all. In fact, it shows courage in my opinion.
I'd say yes if I were interested, make sure we exchanged phone numbers, and then afterwards, like Mandy had said, I'd probably call a few friends, tell them a cute guy asked me out, and see what they think. Unless they said something like the guy who asked me out was a registered sex offender or a serial user of women, I'd then look forward to it.
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reader, N91 +, writes (1 March 2012):
 If there's an attraction and some chemistry from the off, then I don't see a problem with that.
Good luck
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reader, Miamine +, writes (1 March 2012):
 If I was 18-21, and we had talked during the occasion and found we liked each other and wanted to continue talking, sure I would like a date, I'd probably be expecting one. But the date would have to be nice and safe, in the daytime, somewhere like go out for coffee or for a walk in the park, somewhere not serving drinks and where loads of other people are around. I would think your not interested if you just wanted my number to talk but made no move to see me again.
But what I think and do, and what this girl may think and do, may be different things.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (1 March 2012):
 HI
Not unless I had some background information on him ( from a reliable mutual friend) Other than that yeah why not, you got to start somewhere right :)
Mandy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2012): Yes i would go on a date with a guy who ive met and enjoyed his company and he asks me at the end of the evening. I wouldnt perceive it as being needy.
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