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Could fate bring us back together?

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Question - (27 February 2012) 7 Answers - (Newest, 26 September 2013)
A female New Zealand age 18-21, anonymous writes:

Do you honestly believe if two people are meant to be together that they will meet again? Because I made a stupid, stupid mistake! I'm not going to go into what happened. It was down to miscommunication and things being twisted and misconstrued. Which is why it is more upsetting, because I know the truth and he's too nice to say he is annoyed, he just instead showed it by stop talking to me and now we haven't spoken in quite a while.

I was seeing this guy, it was instant attraction, we liked exactly the same stuff, played the same instruments and sports, wanted to do similar things with our lives. It was surprising how alike we were! But because of what happened it ended so quickly I didn't see it coming. Well, my mum said if we are meant to be together then somehow, sometime, fate will step in and we will run into each other again.

But I don't know how true that is, how could fate bring us together? Do you believe in this stuff? And has anyone got any experiences of this they wouldn't mind sharing?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2013):

I know this is old, but maybe you will see the answer. My answer is YES, but sometimes it takes a LONG TIME. I did something stupid to my unofficial fiance, and well he walked out and I for years blamed myself. But, I never believed it was over, because we were so perfect for each other. Like you and your special person, we were like 2 peas in a pod, liked all the same things, got along great, and always had a great time together. Well, after 17 years, we are happily back together for over a year now. And neither of us wants to lose the other again.

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A female reader, chocoholicforever United States +, writes (28 February 2012):

"Do you honestly believe if two people are meant to be together that they will meet again?"

yes but only on hindsight, after they have met again does it then seem to be the case. Usually it's after people have been reunited then do they come to believe they were meant to be all along and that it was fate that brought them together.

I guess I think that fate only works on hindsight. Meaning, only after some outcome has happened, then do people look back and say it must have been fate because of the way it happened. But if you're trying to predict the future, I think that intentional effort is more likely to get you what you want. I mean, why would you want something specific and yet do nothing to try to obtain it?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2012):

there is the saying "Luck favors the prepared." I suppose it's similar with fate. what the saying means is that you have to actively do something to increase the odds that you'll get lucky. you can't win the lottery if you never buy a ticket.

with love I think it's very similar. you can't control situations or other people, so a lot of it is out of your hands thereby fate. But, you can and probably should do at least something to increase the chance that it will turn out the way you want. If there's someone you like, and they don't even know you exist because you never make a move, the odds are much smaller that you'll someday end up together than if you actually made a move to meet them. Even though in the end you can't control someone else's thoughts and make them want you, the point is that you still have to do something to move yourself closer to the circumstances that might lead to something more.

maybe in your situation it's already past the point of whether you should do anything. or maybe it isn't. maybe you could contact him to apologize.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2012):

sorry I don't believe in fate, I believe in going after the things you want, DO you like him? GO after him, I don't know what happened but if you didn't do anything he might consider unforgivable, e.g cheating on him go talk to him, explain what happened, or at least try. Leave things unresolved, or in the hands of the destiny may bring you comfort now, but this is just a sad pathetic excuse for your indolence. ACT now when you can still fix things up with him ( if he's such a nice bloke in no time he'll be taken again) sitting on your butt waiting on fate, can make you regretful of your decision in the future. what may happen if you go talk to him? he can ignore you, since he already doesn't speak with you, but apart from that what else can he do? Girl don't stay at home thinking of what could have been, and wishing fate will bring you back together.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2012):

Hi, yes I do believe that if you are meant to be together you will be. As Mandy said if you love someone let them go, if they love you enough they will come back. I have some experience with this. I loved someone and it just wasn't the right time for us, and I made a stupid mistake and walked away. He let me go, and got on with his life, but he still kept all the stuff that I gave him. We lost contact with each other for a few years. When I found him again, we started talking and after some time, we became a couple and have been happily together for over a year. It doesn't always work out this way though, and you can't just wait around for it to happen either, you have to get on with your life, and if it truly is meant to be, you will be together again. I hope this helps. Good Luck.

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A female reader, Dear Mandy United Kingdom +, writes (28 February 2012):

Dear Mandy agony auntIf you love someone enough you let them go, and if they love you enough they will come back. You can either spend your life wishing, hoping or waiting, or you can get on with your life, I believe in fate, and that everything happens for a reason. If its meant to be it will be. :)

Mandy x

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A female reader, Sweety Pie United Kingdom +, writes (28 February 2012):

Sweety Pie agony auntI believe in fate, but I also believe you have to work hard to get what you want. If you want this guy back, go get him. If that doesn't work, you're not meant to be, and there will be someone else out there who's a million times better for you :)

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