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Although I live in a town dominated by a major university, I choose to teach part-time at a very small college about a half-hour drive from home. There I can make a difference in the lives of the small number of students (typically about 10 in a class) that I teach each semester. |
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My mate has been gay for 3 years and said he's been thinking about what it would be like to be with me.
Q. my best mate whos been gay for 3 years , said he cares for me a lot, and has been thinking about what it would be like if we got together I dont know what to say to this as i know hes saying this cause hes lonely, cause since hes been gay he hasn...
A. 25 March 2007: Sexual identity can be a slippery thing at his age. Right now I suspect he's trying to decide if he's NOT sleeping with boys or NOT sleeping with girls, and either way he's frustrated. He sees you as a solution because you've been mates for so ... (read in full...)
I've been having a bad time with self confidence and to a certan extent self loathing
Q. Hi, I've been having a bad time with self confidence and to a certan extent self loathing. I believe its starting to affect my relationship, as im constantly putting myself down. I was bullied at school (most people are). I was told by many ...
A. 25 March 2007: OK guy, start by being honest with yourself. What is there about yourself that you can fix? Anything? If there is, get your rear in gear and start fixing it. You can tell what's real from what's just bull, and you can tell what you can really ... (read in full...)
I found out after turning up at her work place that she had moved on with someone else.
Q. My ex partner of 17 years decided to leave without any explanation. I tried to get closure but didn't get any joy. I found out after turning up at her work place that she had moved on with someone else. When her new boyfriend turned up to pick her ...
A. 25 March 2007: That'd sure be my guess. It's a harsh way to go, but there's not a whole heck of a lot you can do about it once she's made her choice. Wish her well in your heart (I know, it's tough, but you felt something for this woman for a long time, and ... (read in full...)
I really did like her until she got all insecure in bed!
Q. i'm a guy that likes to have fun. i'm young but i'm pretty mature for my age so i like to date older women for the experience. when i finally met this girl my own age i started to really like her because of her personality and she was beautiful but ...
A. 25 March 2007: Look, man, the woman is young and not all that experienced. You need time and patience with her. If you're just out for a quick bang, you probably should move on. If you care at all about this woman, you have a unique opportunity to help her ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's Erectile Dysfunction
Q. Boyfriend's Erectile Disfunction My bf (37) and I have been dating for 7 months - it is a long distance relationship and we generally see each other for a 3 weeks stretch and then have a few weeks apart. For most of the relationship we have...
A. 2 March 2007: Get him to a doctor NOW. At his age, chances are better than they should be that ED is hiding something bad, like maybe circulatory or prostate problems. Or the cause could even be psychological in nature. And even if it's not, there are medical ... (read in full...)
We're going to have sex, how can I keep my boyfriend calm?
Q. me and my bf have been talking about having sex he is a virgin and i am not we planned to either do it when we go away for a weekend in may is we both feel comfortable or in july after my prom. i and very nervous as i want to make it special for ...
A. 2 March 2007: How can you make a male virgin who's about to get laid for the first time calm? Well, you could probably shoot him in the head, but short of that I can't think of a way.
It really does help if the two of you are thoroughly familiar with one anot... (read in full...)
Why do I keep looking for ways to spice up sex with others?
Q. I get so bored of sex with one person so fast. After a year of a relationship, I either get with someone else or, if I stay, I constantly look for things to spice it up.I'm quite insecure so most of them are bad ideas but I need them to keep me ...
A. 2 March 2007: Or maybe you just need to find a guy with more imagination. There are LOTS of variations on sex that can be done by just a man and a woman together. It doesn't need to become boring. There must be dozens of books out there about how to spice up ... (read in full...)
How can I last longer than 30 seconds before I orgasm?
Q. is there any way to make you last longer before an orgasm? cause when my guy goes down on me and i last like 30 seconds, its a little embarrassing ya know, any advice would be great!...
A. 2 March 2007: You didn't say how old you are or how long you'd been with your partner(s).
In an established relationship, a partner can sense when a woman is getting close, and back off (if that's what they've agreed to) to prolong her "high" and let her drop... (read in full...)
Do you think a woman would be happy in a relationship that would never lead to marriage?
Q. Do you think a woman will be happy in a relationship that will never lead to marriage? What's the pros and cons if a couple lives as a common-law vs. as a marriage couple? (kids are out of the question)...
A. 27 February 2007: WAY too wide open a question. A woman of what age? What are her circumstances? What is she looking for in life at this time?
I know a woman who is VERY happy living with a man and neither one has any plans to get married, ever. She's 83... (read in full...)
I'm so confused about these texts. What do you make of them?
Q. Hello, im very confused.... im just gonna show you all exactly the messages i have received today, but let me tell you all this.... first.... things have been fine between me and my boyfriend (me 26 him 23, atleast i thought they were....w...
A. 27 February 2007: I'm sorry, but the only thing I can come up with is that this guy seriously needs to grow up. And you need to stop buying into his sh*t. Maturity is defined in terms of mental and emotional stability, and on those terms he just doesn't pass. A... (read in full...)
Im engaged to the woman of my dreams yet have issues with her past
Q. Im engaged to the woman of my dreams yet have issues with her past. We've been together for 18mos. We're both early 30's so obviously there are going to be people before us, but I have a feeling that if I asked for her number I would probably ...
A. 27 February 2007: Speaking just from my experience, I went through exactly the same thing with my wife (I was hubby #3 for her, and she'd had five kids by the time I met her, plus she was by no means sleeping by herself even when she wasn't married). I used to ... (read in full...)
What do you do when your husband does not see the bigger picture?
Q. whre do i go from here , im with my husband 13 years and since having twins 16 months ago life has become hard work ,im not complaining but i miss 1on 1 with my husband talking and just holding each other he thinks im just nagging .. i am only 27 ...
A. 25 February 2007: One couple I know, who re-married after a divorce, now plan a "date night" once a week and turn their son over to a close friend of the family who keeps him overnight. The friend also has a son the same age, so it works well. They go out and do ... (read in full...)
Why do girls always laugh for silly reasons and why are they so emotional? It really pisses me off sometimes, why are they like this?
Q. I don't like girls who cannot control their emotions. Especially those who keep laughing for silly reasons and get overwhelmed easily. It just pisses me off to be with someone who only likes to have fun and has nothing serious. But i don't ...
A. 24 February 2007: Ever heard of "hormones"? They wonder why guys are all competitive and get physical with one another. We wonder why they giggle and display emotions. It's hard-wired. It's how humans deal with certain types of social stress. Relax. It's n... (read in full...)
Why can I not get a date? I'm told I'm pretty but I won't "put it about!"
Q. Hi! I have boy troubles! Well I don't want to sound concieted but I at least get told I'm pretty or beautiful by strangers everyday. I was nominated for most beautiful in high school and I won miss personality plus. I was in the 10% of my class n I ...
A. 24 February 2007: OK, here's what you do. Find a GUY who is also in the top 10% of your class and doesn't have any dates either, and ask HIM out. He's scared sh*tless of you, so you've got to take the initiative, but you'll both be a lot happier. Once you get it ... (read in full...)
I'm seeing my boyfriend Saturday night and I know he wants to finger me, any tips or advice?
Q. On saturday night i'm seeing my boyfriend, and i no he like wants to finger me. I've been fingered before, but i really really like this boy. Are there any tips or advice anyone can give me? Boys and Girls x...
A. 24 February 2007: What do YOU want? None of us are going to be sitting there next to you when you are alone with him, so you had better decide ahead of time what YOU want to do. Do or don't. You are the one who has to live with the regrets of what you did or did ... (read in full...)
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