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writes:Im engaged to the woman of my dreams yet have issues with her past. We've been together for 18mos. We're both early 30's so obviously there are going to be people before us, but I have a feeling that if I asked for her number I would probably cringe. I cant say I was an angel, but I guess Im giving it a double standard b/c I am a guy. Right out of HS her father died a bad death and I feel that her past has something to do with this, giving her commitment issues therefore dating many different people. I knew her yrs ago in HS and knew some of the people she dated. Its crazy to say but sometimes when we have sex I think about her having sex with other people. I know that she is totally in love with me, but my ego gets in the way on this one. Will this fade away or will it be with me forever
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (27 February 2007):
 Speaking just from my experience, I went through exactly the same thing with my wife (I was hubby #3 for her, and she'd had five kids by the time I met her, plus she was by no means sleeping by herself even when she wasn't married). I used to wonder who else had done just the things we were doing. But as time went on and I saw how completely wrapped up in me she was, it became less important. I was lucky that she got (and took) the chance to "show me off" to a couple of her ex-lovers, and her attitude was strictly "you're history and I'm HIS now". That did a LOT for my ego and very soon I totally forgot about those other guys and gave myself entirely to her as she gave herself entirely to me. Our marriage lasted more than 20 years, and only ended when she died. I never gave them another thought.
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