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*atman319
writes:Hi! I have boy troubles! Well I don't want to sound concieted but I at least get told I'm pretty or beautiful by strangers everyday. I was nominated for most beautiful in high school and I won miss personality plus. I was in the 10% of my class n I have a 4.0. I hear guys always talking about me but noone approaches me. N I worry there's something wrong with me. For school home comings and dances I never have a "date" I just go with one of guy friends. My guy friends says guys won't talk to me bc I'm a virgin n every1 knows I won't put out. That makes me really sad bc if I was like every other girl having sex..maybe I would have some1 too. Am I weird? Is there something wrong with me bc guys don't approach me? Plz tell me what u think honestly Reply to this Question
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reader, tallbloke +, writes (28 February 2007):
Could it not be that you're putting out this superior aloof image? I know my girlfriend used to do that when she was young. In some ways, she still does!I also used to do the same because I was different to other boys and I used to look at them like they were stupid.
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reader, batman319 +, writes (25 February 2007):
batman319 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well about dating a fellow nerd I tried that n it failed miserably.........I mean we r all so competitive in our grades..for example I was #31 of our class n the guy I was dating was #36. It was horrible bc we couldn't go out bc he spent the weekends doing hmwk so he could beat me
And also all my fellow nerds call me theire queen {yeah I know that's really weird} but when I got nominated for homecomming queen that's what they started calling me n of course I didn't win bc the football trainer won bc all the football playes voter her for obvious reasons...so they're kinda scared of dating me
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2007): I don't think you are weird, I think you are probably a lot more centered and self contained than the majority of the other girls in your school with round heels, and that intimidates the "boys". I know it doesn't help much now, but keep holding out for a guy who gets you and is willing to get to know you before expecting sex....usually as you get older and in college, you will find that you will get asked out a lot more, still you have to weed out the jerks, but guys get more confident as they mature a little and you will be beating them off with a stick, trust me.
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (24 February 2007):
 OK, here's what you do. Find a GUY who is also in the top 10% of your class and doesn't have any dates either, and ask HIM out. He's scared sh*tless of you, so you've got to take the initiative, but you'll both be a lot happier. Once you get it together (without sex ... he'll still be too scared to ask, I promise you) you can have a whole lot of good times watching the rest of the school's dating scene unfold as a really silly game that thank God the two of you don't have to play. And who knows ... you might actually really become fond of one another. Don't worry if he isn't that cute or anything. You're not going to marry him or sleep with him, and if you're not getting any dates anyway it sure can't hurt your dating reputation any now, can it?
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (24 February 2007):
 Good for you for having morals and principles and not "putting it about". You obviously have respect for yourself so well done there. Sometimes guys feel intimidated by beautiful women, they think they're out of their league and get all tongue-tied when they try to speak with them. Maybe that's the case here. It could also be that they don't want to go out with you because they know they won't get anywhere sexually.
If it is the latter reason then they're not worth knowing anyway. I would advise you just to continue being your friendly self. In time someone will ask you out. If you want to you could ask someone YOU like if they fancy doing something like going for a coffee or to a movie one night, it works both ways you know. ;o)
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