Tissue problem when giving oral!
Q. I love pleasing my wife orally. However, there's often some tissue remnants. just small bits which is really off putting. Blokes, is this common? How do you deal with it in the moment? Ladies, how can I broach this with her?...
A. 31 May 2013: When you’re in the moment I’d introduce the use of a warm moist flannel washer… It’s more pleasant than a chemical swipe after taste and a bit more of a sensual approach when you think about it!?
Have Fun – CAA
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Could I be putting myself in danger by allowing my Ex back in my new life?
Q. Dear Cupid,I have been single for ten years now and I want to be back with my ex he is my daughter father I moved to another state to get my life together I stopped drinking and getting high( pot) .Now that we are going older the children are grown ...
A. 30 May 2013: When you say you love him for all the right reasons; I always ask myself this question when I’m thinking of re-cycling… Do I love the person they are (DRUNK) OR Do I love the person I want them to be (SOBER)?
I also think after 10 years you’ve s... (read in full...)
Fiance walked out on me while pregnant, I found out he's living with his ex. He wants me back but I can't get over the hurt!
Q. he walked away without a word and left town when I was pregnant. two days later said he left to give me space. I was hurt so I didn't allow him to come right back. then I had the baby he said he was so sorry about hurting me the way he did by ...
A. 30 May 2013: What I think about this would not be printed so I’ll give you the G Rated version. I truly think you have done the right thing in asking him to leave and by changing your email etc. For me; I would not want the aggravation and emotional torment ... (read in full...)
Why is my brother so LAZY?!?!
Q. So, like my previous posts, this is again about my brother. My brother has Asperger's syndrome. I've learned to accept that he is and probably forever will be socially awkward. But I can't come to accept how lazy he is. As the older sister, you ...
A. 29 May 2013: You are learning fast Anonymous how parents do enable their children to remain lazy and disabled etc. even without Asperger’s Syndrome. Some Parents don’t bother to correct or teach their children good behavioural routines like cleaning up their ... (read in full...)
Risk our friendship by stating I still love him?
Q. I dated this guy for a few months. He graduated last year and I'm a sophomore in high school. Please don't start saying he's too old for me because my mother is okay with it and so are both of his parents. Well, we broke up a year ago because he was ...
A. 29 May 2013: I think you’re more afraid of him not feeling the same way and that’s what‘s tormenting you inside? You’re also giving yourself knots over something that hasn’t happened yet… It’s like projecting into the future; this will happen if I say how I feel ... (read in full...)
I feel confused as to what he is thinking!
Q. I need help my new relationship confuses the hell out of me! I have been seeing someone for four months and I don't get my relationship!. I've been divorced twice have three kids. I started seeing my little boys friends Dad in January he split wi...
A. 29 May 2013: Looks like he has all the bases covered; Mum cooks every night for him; he sees you as an instant baby-sitter until you object, you keep the mattress warm between 9pm-6am while he works 7 days a week to pay off HIS big happy future, since he’s back ... (read in full...)
Is marriage a deal breaker?
Q. I've been with my partner for 3 1/2 yrs now and we still don't live together because of both our situations. He going through a divorce and almost at the end and me because 'im not working. I love him very much and he loves me too, i would really l...
A. 29 May 2013: Nobody likes to go through the ringer, let alone twice… Or be put in the same box as an Ex. So what I did for my partners’ sake and our peace of mind was to have a Property Agreement drawn up by our Solicitors. Be it I have more to lose and him much ... (read in full...)
It bothers me that my b/f has a tatoo on his foot of the day his g/f died
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year. He has a tattoo on his foot representing the date that his first girlfriend died in a car accident several years ago. At the beginning of our relationship I didn't mention the tattoo, but ...
A. 28 May 2013: Since it’s been several years; how does he tell people the story? Is it long and detailed, bought out to show people, does he mention it as a matter of fact or briefly explains why it is there? As you’re hearing it like a cracked record over and ... (read in full...)
I have a live-in mother-in-law who criticizes everything I do!
Q. Hi, This is my first post. please be kind to me and excuse me for long boring passage. I have a mother in law who criticizes everything I do or say. It goes from a simple recipe to how to take care of my baby. She lives in with us. My husband...
A. 28 May 2013: You cannot teach an old ethnic dog new tricks; she is set in her ways and wishes to remain ignorant about cook-ware. But what is more disappointing is that your Mother-In-Law is ungrateful for the blessing of having such a lovely Daughter-In-Law who ... (read in full...)
The men I date always talk about their ex's is this normal?
Q. Hello, I just want an honest opinion on this one. Im an attractive, pretty cool young woman who is independent. I wonder why men that I date always tell me or talk about other women? When I say other women I mean ex girlfriends or some women in ...
A. 28 May 2013: It just goes to show you they don’t have much to talk about? Although it’s very insightful knowledge to have about where their head is!? Be it in the past or how they’re comparing you to their Ex-girlfriends… Some guys also just like to get things ... (read in full...)
Help! My boyfriend is putting me in awful moods!
Q. Hi everyone. So I've been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. No, our relationship isn't perfect as I've been struggling with depression and its killed my sex drive but he understands and is really nice about it. However, it really doe...
A. 27 May 2013: Other than him being ill (needing to seek a Doctor) or just plain lazy (needing a kick into gear) it would be best to go about your own business, plan and enjoy the day without him. Don’t depend on him for your happiness. As for your depression ... (read in full...)
After a fight and make up, girlfriend says no sex. We are going on a holiday and no sex???
Q. Hi AA's This question is long winded so apologies. Ive been going out with a girl for 4 years now, in reality she is very insecure but also has to have her own way as she believes what she wants is the right thing and dosnt see outside the bo...
A. 27 May 2013: Passive Aggressive, Manipulative, Insecure, and Game Playing take your pick which one you’re going on holidays with… I gather this is not the first time she’s acted like this, so I’m sure you’ll have a great time enjoying this Punishing ... (read in full...)
How to deal with disappear reappear guy
Q. Hi I really need an advice. Apparently I'm dealing with a houdini. The old disappear and reappear acts. I've dated this guy for a month. we went on 4 great dates. on our last date he brought me home, we watched movie, we kissed for the first ti...
A. 26 May 2013: Unless you like vanishing (virginity) acts… This is how I see him; he’ll reappear only to take your virginity and disappear again! He’s not into waiting or dating you as proper. I’d play it COOL like an Arctic Zone with this one! He’s not the right ... (read in full...)
Why do guys pay flirty, promiscuous girls so much attention?
Q. Do guys usually like the flirty and promiscuous type of girls? I need some advice because I hate to say I'm a little jealous of this girl I know who gets so much attention from my guy friends and just a lot of guys in general. She sleeps around wi...
A. 25 May 2013: Some men are like moths to a light bulb… Switch on the promiscuous light in yourself and see what you’ll attract; promiscuous guys to put it politely.
Once you switch this light off, the moths will find other light and other and other… It’s not... (read in full...)
I confronted my friend about never paying when we go out together. Was this the right way to deal with the situation? Please advise?
Q. I have a friend who never pays for her drinks when we go out to bars. She is the one that ussualy drives, so I always buy her first drink, but then she kind of assumes that the whole nite is on me. It happened already so many times, that I fi...
A. 25 May 2013: It’s like the straw the broke the camels back – splitting hairs over a bill with $2 drinks… Now that’s a cheapskate! Although as much as she could have been thoughtful and applied her own philosophy, you could have been more diplomatic!? After all ... (read in full...)
Every few days we have anal sex but I hate it and scares me to think of having it all my life!
Q. Hello! Straight to the facts: I have a rather big problem in my nearly perfect relationship. For introduction, I must inform you that I am (23) in relationship for nearly 7 month, 2 month ago we have moved together, he is so much caring and lovin...
A. 24 May 2013: The problem is; …“I don't feel much pain”
YOUR GOOD EXCUSE IS – HEALTH RISKS of INFECTION through tearing, CANCER and PHYSICAL DAMAGE Rectal Prolapse and exacerbating Haemorrhoids!
Experiment, have fun by all means; but do not accept anal sex as a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has changed his mind about wanting children and now I feel like he resents me....
Q. At the beginning of my relationship i made it clear i had no plans for children in my life, not because i dont like them but because i want to keep my freedom etc and not go through pregnancy in general. My boyfriend said he did not mind either ...
A. 24 May 2013: You made it clear from the beginning that you didn’t want children so that’s not leading anyone on. As you noted in a relationship things can and do change. But from your perspective you have remained the same on this topic and he has not… He’s now ... (read in full...)
How can I help my girlfriend be comfortable discussing serious matters with me?
Q. We've been together 3 years. I'm having a really hard time getting my girlfriend to be willing to communicate with me about serious matters. She's great to spend time with when we're doing well, but when something serious does come up, sh...
A. 23 May 2013: Sounds like a fair weather friend or a good time girl unable to emotionally connect or even listen to a friend/boyfriend in need… Perhaps she hasn’t grown to realise there are times and a place to discuss real issues up until now. Or her genuine ... (read in full...)
How do I teach my partner to apologise and show him it isnt a sign of weakness?
Q. My partner doesn't know how to sincerely apologise. He can do something wrong but he will never say sorry, let alone mean it. He will most likely get angry with me and find something to blame me for and turn it all around. My question is, how...
A. 22 May 2013: You could help him ‘understand’ that apologising is by way of him solely accounting for ‘his’ behaviour in an argument for example. It’s about how he could have acted wiser, used better judgement and or refrained from exploding into a raging bull ... (read in full...)
How do I teach my partner to apologise and show him it isnt a sign of weakness?
Q. My partner doesn't know how to sincerely apologise. He can do something wrong but he will never say sorry, let alone mean it. He will most likely get angry with me and find something to blame me for and turn it all around. My question is, how...
A. 22 May 2013: Extract used: Type 2 men think they are inerrable and above mistakes. According to him, he is always correct (blames others). These men don’t admit their mistakes to their partner or to themselves. His dignity prevents him from apologising to anyon... (read in full...)
Are there too many issues in our relationship to continue?
Q. Are there too many issues in our relationship to continue? My bf and I have been together for 3 years most of the time our relationship is brilliant, but some issues keep coming up and we don't seem to be able to resolve them. When we argue (which ...
A. 21 May 2013: Its certainly sounds like there are unresolved issues, this guy hasn’t a clue how to behave? The issues keep reappearing because they have never left. Plus you’re not being jealous or the bad guy; you’re simply finding what is inappropriate for you ... (read in full...)
New relationship advice needed! How much togetherness is too much? Do I push back on the alcohol issue?
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for almost 2 months. We met at work and so far everything has gone fairly well. So far, we only have 2 issues that cause a little tension. When we first started talking as friends, she mentioned that there was an ...
A. 21 May 2013: There’s nothing to push back except for spending a lot of time together. At first it’s always a bit intense, but after a while you could plan to have date nights rather than taking it for granted that you’re only an apartment away. Otherwise the ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend really want the gift to be from both of us or is he just trying to get off cheap?
Q. My boyfriends sibling got married not too long ago. I wasn't able to make it to the wedding due to being away, but my boyfriend was the best man. He asked me if I wanted to go in on a wedding gift for his sibling. My question is, is my boyfrien...
A. 21 May 2013: To be fair you were an invited guest but somehow could not attend, so this actually becomes a question about gift giving to the Married Couple… This has nothing to do with your boyfriend spending more or less money. It’s a matter of (social) wedding ... (read in full...)
Would you date someone with so many tattoos? Or would you fear it would ruin your reputation?
Q. Today while on lunch break a friend said to me, very openly and out loud, "did you see all the tattoos on that guy's face? He must have been to prison!" I quietly nodded then thought of something... I was very attracted to another friend who had m...
A. 21 May 2013: All Tattoos be it Tribal or an Art form have a way of telling us a story about that person or culture! It depicts a time, a person’s belief, and their rebellion or documents an event… For me tattoos reveal that’s person’s individual message/story to ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with the issue of bad breath tactfully, yet firmly enough that the behaviour changes without resentment or hurt feelings?
Q. My new boyfriend (3 months) has horrific breath sometimes. I tried subtle, then obvious hints like putting a toothbrush on his overnight bag. I finally said that didnt cut it, brush your teeth man! Then I turned it into a game about brushed te...
A. 20 May 2013: Fortunately for me my partner then boyfriend (of 3 months) was ‘self-conscious’ of his teeth etc. before I came along. So it didn’t take much encouragement for him to see a Dentist; he knew and wanted to change and just needed that extra support. ... (read in full...)
He keeps promising to marry me but seven years later...nothing
Q. Hi all. I've dated my boyfriend for 7 years an we've even bought a house together cause we were both tired of him renting small places. My problem is he forever promises to marry me an when the time comes he become agressive. On the past 4 months I...
A. 20 May 2013: After 7 years he acts more like a single man! He has been clever to lead you along hoping for marriage and now trapping you into buying a house together… My suggestion would be to decide whether you want to hurt now or much later as this is only ... (read in full...)
Was it my fault that she broke up with me? Was I wrong falling in love with a recovering alcoholic?
Q. Hi, I keep hearing I should have left her alone during her tweive step program, but we were together for three months. I don't know if she drank before I picked her up to go dancing, movies, walks in the parks, trips, picnics. I stopped drinking...
A. 19 May 2013: Being familiar with the 12 Step program; it’s wise not to side step someone’s recovery lest you both fall back into temptation of old habits, plus it’s not fair to the program or to them… As a sponsor, your friend should know better than to do what ... (read in full...)
My husband wants sex but I dont!
Q. Please help! I have been married to my husband for 13 years. We have three beautiful children and are financially stable. My husband is the provider and I am a stay- at- home mom. Other than our sexual problem, we have a wonderful relationship. ...
A. 19 May 2013: Hubby sure doesn’t sound sensitive to your low libido; it’s all about him as he keeps you tense to maintain a certain look, to the way you’re supposed to just jump on command. I’m sure that’d make anyone feel hurt and resentful. It pains me that he ... (read in full...)
I haven't had sex in 10 years. Will my sex drive stop if I don't have sex?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am in my early fourties haven't had sex in ten years of my life I was wondering will my sex drive go away if I don't hurry up and have sex.I don't use vibrators, no sex toys period I just try to keep my mind on other things like every ...
A. 19 May 2013: YES your sex drive will fade away when we come to experience the next phase of our life with Menopause. Although you have a few more years before that phase begins and it still doesn’t entirely disappear after that either. Meanwhile if a... (read in full...)
My surprise weekend turned to going to his mom's! Why couldn't he have told me the truth sooner?
Q. Please help I don't know how to handle this. My boyfriend of 2 years told me he was planning a surprise weekend away for this weekend and I told my family and friends and this week ago I wanted him to give me an idea of where we were going so I know ...
A. 17 May 2013: Who in there right mind would think that a surprise week-end can be substituted with going to his Mother’s place!? What a romantic consolation prize? He should have told you when he knew and said; we’ll have to postpone this trip for another time… ... (read in full...)
Relationship problems with my younger mate
Q. I'm 36 and he's 28 when we met and start dating everything was cool and going great. After we end up in a relationship later down the line, I was even more happy. Making a long story a little short, he now stay with me and my 14 year old son. He sm...
A. 17 May 2013: *Sometimes a man doesn’t know what his partner is worth until they are gone…
If he thinks he can do better than $100.00/week plus utilities he is bluffing himself! I believe you are fair and respectful of him as a provider (of sorts) whilst h... (read in full...)
Boyfriend vacationing with his Ex-Wife
Q. I've been dating this guy for several months and it's been absolutely fantastic. He is divorced (6 years ago) and has 2 wonderful children. (8 and 11) I've met his ex-wife and she seems nice and genuinely happy for him being with me. Before I...
A. 16 May 2013: So this was planned with his Ex-Wife ‘before’ you came along and at a time ‘after’ his Divorce which was 6 years ago? His children would have been less then 2 and 5 years old? This to me sounds a bit bizarre… It would have been more poignant to plan ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about my wife's sudden interest in astrology?
Q. I recently saw my wifes Internet search history on her phone and she had visited a horoscope site and specifically looked up "how to seduce a Scorpio". Sounds innocent enough, except for the fact that I am a Cancer!! Been married 19 years. Should ...
A. 16 May 2013: Yes that would strike me as odd and a bit suspect not having an interest in Astrology beforehand and to be looking up Scorpio even though it’s a Water Sign like Cancer and Pisces.
Just to be sure from our perspective; I take it your Wife is not a... (read in full...)
Thinking about moving in together so I wanted to go furniture shopping, he just tells me to go on my own so he can go out drinking! Is this what our life is going to be like?
Q. I am 27 and have been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years. We have recently been talking about moving in together, but it has started causing problems between us because we have such different ideas about what it will be like. At the moment we have ...
A. 15 May 2013: There’s a time and place to have a drink with your mates… But he’s more excited about his Sunday sessions with his friends in the Beer Garden than looking at furniture with you. Like how often does shopping come up – rarely? So where’s the strain on ... (read in full...)
His wife has moved back in with him and he cant divorce her, but he wants to continue seeing me. What should I do?
Q. Hi, how I’m going to start this. I read some of “my boyfriend has a wife” discussion and I’m in the same situation now. We start as a friend since then all of our friends knew that his separated to his wife. He has a kid, and that is the only thing ...
A. 15 May 2013: Okay no crappy words :) How about reality? ‘Cause I think this man is quite clever and you would be incredibly gullible to believe his excuses!? And in only 2 months he’s already got you eating out of his hands! Think about this, even though “he’... (read in full...)
Do you stay out of the financial decisions your fiance makes with his children from another marriage?
Q. We live together. My fiance has two adult children from his first marriage. His son has a nice job and a new girlfriend. His son moved out of his apartment with his last girlfriend...he broke it off with her. His son is now moving into an ...
A. 14 May 2013: The fact that this son is pumping his father out of $500.00 is what I take issue with. What a consolation that this Son hasn’t asked for money in over a year and had a miraculous car repair done in 2 weeks – Oh Please… You are so right on the money ... (read in full...)
Sister and husband had an affair, and I am expected to act all happy at family gatherings!
Q. Dear Cupid, I'd married my first love for more than 10 years. we have one college daughter. Few years ago, I found out he cheated with my younger sister. I filed for a divorce, but never left our house beacause he was begging, crying ...
A. 13 May 2013: It would be a constant reminder of betrayal each time you see your sister in the same room. Especially when you see his eyes sparkle… There’s no escaping it and it plays over like a cracked record!
Given that you have somehow forgiven your Hus... (read in full...)
I'm ready for a baby now but my fiance wants to wait a few years
Q. I am having a bad case of baby fever, I'm afraid. I've always loved kids and adored the thought of having my own. I work at a daycare, and I am responsible for 4 infants on my own. I love it. It's difficult at times, especially when they're all ...
A. 13 May 2013: After a miscarriage there is always the grief and yearning for another baby to fill in the emptiness of heartache. It’s understandable and only natural that you’d feel this strong desire after such a lose – planned or not :( I hope your partner ... (read in full...)
Why do a lot of guys like easy girls? Will my boyfriend cheat on me?
Q. Why do a lot of guys like and go for really easy and slutty women? The reason I ask this is because even though I'm a woman myself, I've had bad experiences with these types of women. The current situation I'm in is really annoying me. Ther...
A. 13 May 2013: I’m actually wondering how is it you know these guys who cheated and dated etc with A. Do you all live in a small community or in a neighbourhood where people like that exist, because that would explain why you can’t be rid of her? She and those gu... (read in full...)
My friend's wife keeps commenting on my size and weight and its really starting to bother me!
Q. I have a little problem with the new wife of my friend. She is very thin, may be the most 110 lb. she is a bit shorter than me, but her body frame is very small. I am 5.4 and weigh 137 lb. I ve been like this for the past 15 years since I ha...
A. 13 May 2013: I would have thought for someone lactose intolerant they’d ask the question; what the dessert is made from before eating it. Generally when you’re invited to dinner the Hostess would ask if anyone has any allergies and if not it’s a good time to say ... (read in full...)
Not a romantic relationship question, it's a cry for help. Should I leave my alcoholic dad and start my own life?
Q. I want to move with my boyfriend and our to kids to Michigan, where we both have jobs waiting and we can stay with his Aunt for cheap while we save up for our own place. My mother died about four years ago, my dad is an alcoholic and was before m...
A. 10 May 2013: You have grown up fast beyond your years and have a caring, maternal and responsible nature. You’re a survivor who toughed it out being a Mother when you should have been a Daughter!? (Role reversal) It is admirable of you to have and want to prot... (read in full...)
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