I've fallen in love with my brother in law and I'm not sure where to go with these feelings
Q. My husband passed away unexpectely in August of 2016. We had been separated for 2 years but we were working on our relationship towards getting back together just before he passed. We have a 21 year old daughter and she was greatly affected by his ...
A. 19 July 2017: Regardless of the BIL feelings for his late brother, he put that aside and stepped up to care for family. I don't know what that shows you of him personally; was it a call of duty or an act of kindness and caring?
Either way, how you get along wi... (read in full...)
I can't forget THE ONE
Q. It's been 10 years since I met A,the man of my life. Someone whom i've dreamt of being with since I was a child. I thought he'd exist only in my imagination, but I found him - and we shared mutual sentiments for each other. Unfortunately, we led ...
A. 16 July 2017: You have built Mr A. a pedestal to stand on; he is perfect in your eyes, a childhood dream (a Prince) that turned up in reality. Yet you forget he too has flaws like everyone. Flaws that you may not have experienced with him if circumstances where ... (read in full...)
My friend doesn't have enough to do. How do I tell her to back off?
Q. Im a single mum of a teenager i have full time as my ex didnt want to know. I also work so aswell as that i have housework on top. my child helps a lot too which im proud to say i dont have to harass him to help. I have a friend who doesnt work due ...
A. 15 July 2017: A 24/7 running commentary of the dreary days of her live can be painful indeed. Consider texting a blessing as phone calls of this nature are even more exhausting to deal with.
Once these people latch on to you, it’s because you’ve unwittin... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex wife still comes into the house every week
Q. My boyfriend of a year is divorced three years and his ex wife comes into his house with their High School children to collect any things they have left there when hes at work. She comes in with them and into the lounge and kitchen etc and has a ...
A. 15 July 2017: This is utterly ridiculous... has the EX heard of KNOCKING? Key or no key there is such a thing as manners! Your car is plainly outside, handbag in the hall and she could have simply called out from the doorway, Hello, anyone home? Lest you be ... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with my brother in law and I'm not sure where to go with these feelings
Q. My husband passed away unexpectely in August of 2016. We had been separated for 2 years but we were working on our relationship towards getting back together just before he passed. We have a 21 year old daughter and she was greatly affected by his ...
A. 14 July 2017: You've fallen in love with your emotional rescuer, much like some women fall for a Fireman who helped them escape a burning building. And some men are like Firemen who seek to save and give comfort to a person in distress.
Indeed your BIL has ... (read in full...)
Is my daughter possibly being used by the guy she moved in with?
Q. My daughter has moved in with her boyfriend they have only being together 5 months and moved in with him after 2 months. She is paying him £300 a month plus half for food. It is his house and her name is not on the mortgage. She has also bought ...
A. 13 July 2017: He’s a stingy unromantic BF with a business mind if he gets a GF move in like lightening after 5 months, has her pay for nights out and uses her car. He’s totally irresponsible to drive her car and is taking full advantage of her generosity which ... (read in full...)
The love of my life just shamed my dressing style and said that I embarrassed him
Q. The man I thought was the love of my life just informed me that when I visited him in his home town I embarrassed him because of my outfit because, he says , it was way too short I feel totally embarrassed . I'm in my 40s and somewhat chubby ...
A. 11 July 2017: IF he polices you in other areas of your life, then you have a sign of things to come. However if it's just your wardrobe malfunction for this hometown occasion I wouldn't blow it out of proportion and call the Divorce Lawyers just yet.
First... (read in full...)
I'm always trying to please my husband so he won't get upset
Q. So I have been married a little over two years, he knew while we were dating that I did not like to cook and also lacked the gene for cooking. When I do try to cook for him, he is brutally honest and also criticizes me on what I could of done ...
A. 10 July 2017: No doubt you’ve heard of the saying; a way to a man’s heart is through his stomach? It’s one good trick in the book if you want to please and listen to your man? This issue is not divorce worthy! I can’t see how difficult a roast and veggies in the ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why she wont just delete her profile from online dating sites!
Q. It's hard to know where to start, and I know this will turn into a long post so I appreciate anyone willing to read through and offer advice. I've been in a long-term-relationship for about six years, we're the same age. When things are good,...
A. 10 July 2017: After a fight people can do stupid vengeful crazy things as she's done. YES she was AUDITIONING perspective suitors, no doubt about that and you have every right to be distrustful of her!
I too would be upset knowing a partner would sign up as qu... (read in full...)
Step daughter doesn't want the step family moving into Dad's house!
Q. My boyfriend has a 10 year old daughter with his ex, I have a 8 year old from a previous relationship, and when we first got together our girls got on well. We have been together for 2 years, and recently we started thinking about moving in ...
A. 9 July 2017: "Should we just let her get her way for now?" Who's running this show; the grownups or the 10yo (step) daughter? I think you’ve been doing real well, blending, and sharing family time together to bow down to her fit sessions.
I say you'll need to ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of my mother to suggest these things because I'm not married and I don't have children?
Q. My mother tells me that because I am single and without kids I don't understand her nor my siblings who are married. There's been many times when according to her I'm at fault. I just feel that is wrong for her to tell me this. If I'm not mar...
A. 7 July 2017: It’s patronising that’s what it is. Just because you are neither wife nor mother you lack understanding according to them. Unless you totally lack empathy or cannot draw wisdom from others experience, then yes your Mother may have a point in what ... (read in full...)
Nothing ever goes right in our relationship. Should I stay with him?
Q. I have been with my partner for over 2 years and it just seems nothing EVER goes right in our relationship. There is no such thing as peaceful, pleasant times for us. It has never been like that, unfortunately. When we got together, instea...
A. 6 July 2017: I remember your previous posts regarding his brother etc. and it certainly appears you guys are JINXED :( For every step forward there are 10 steps back in your life.
It’s just as well the overseas trip was cancelled, it probably saved you both... (read in full...)
I work while my husband stays home, he goes on vacation but I cant!
Q. A little over a year ago my husband left hos job because it was too stressful and demanding and became a househusband. I own our house, so no mortgage and extra espenses, and although our lifestyle has changed a bit- meaning that we try and save ...
A. 6 July 2017: When either sex reserves their role there can be resentment, confusion, double standards, and conflicting expectations? My expectations of our roles are he man, me woman :)
I know that role reversal seldom sits well with women being the bread-wi... (read in full...)
Boyfriend did nothing for me on my 21st birthday and says I'm stupid if I expect things to be romantic
Q. so i dont want to sound like a nag or like im being selfish but here it is. 25th june was my 21st birthday i had a meal and a night out planned. on the 24th my boyfriend didnt want to spend it with me but i told him if he doesnt try its over bec...
A. 5 July 2017: WTFanny's Fart - "hanging around for when he changes because what if he 'improves' and someone else gets the better version?" BETTER VERSION!? I have to ask, are the pickings in men in your area that woeful to choose him as your BF?
Stupi... (read in full...)
Is he cheating with his ex?
Q. Is my partner cheating??????????? He says he needs 2 clear his head is he cheating with his ex and only talking 2 his daughter his smashed his phone up so no one can get hold off him but I think his stopping at his ex house cos he knows were not ...
A. 5 July 2017: Yeah all fair-tales begin with; I need to clear my head at my Ex's house! I say it's an unhappy ever after and you're not invited to the Ball.
Clever thought from judgedick; did he take out the sim card?
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We want to get married but boyfriend has too many irons in the fire going!
Q. Dear Cupid, I've asked a similar question before but I think I'm going to ask it in a different way since I have a little more insight for what's going on. My boyfriend wants to get married after finishing his renovation projects. But when I say pr...
A. 5 July 2017: He needs to off load 2 houses to another buyer as he's not handling the pressure, hires dodgy workers and dang it’s a mess when you get Lawyers involved!
He sounds like a novice to what really matters in life as he's going all guns with no regar... (read in full...)
Does this mean he just wants casual sex?
Q. There's this guy who used to work with my dad, who's a few year younger than me but we seemed to get on. Every time I went into his work (a pub) he seemed to be having the usual barman banter and fun with me (sometimes he'd go a little further ...
A. 5 July 2017: I'm sure he had tried flirting with other girls (for casual sex) when he was working as a Barman. Whether he had any luck, who knows?
Now that he's lost his job and you've become chatty, he's straight to the point in that he wants sex, because ... (read in full...)
Went out with a colleague but things took a downward turn. He's not interested anymore and I feel stuck blaming myself. What should I do?
Q. So me and my colleague started to like each other so we exchanged numbers. I wasn't looking for anything serious because of the age difference but I was sexually attracted to him, and it appeared mutual. We were texting and we decided to go out ...
A. 5 July 2017: The only thing he got right was; "you weren't right for each other."
This older man is a total fruit loop and of cause he was sexually attracted to you... you're young totally naive and he's got a penis hasn't he!?
This guy totally hung his... (read in full...)
My boyfriend left me for another woman in the past, we have since made up but I can't seem to get over it
Q. I've known my boyfriend since high school so about 8 years or so. Last November, my boyfriend broke things off with me and within a week started dating the woman he was talking to behind my back. Now, I don't care that he was talking to another ...
A. 4 July 2017: I do sympathise with you.
I believe you need to make it loud and clear to BF that he had no business getting to be great friends with anyone to the point it leads him to lie, and deceive his partner – you! This should disable any clever woman he... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wont make an effort for me.
Q. Hi, I asked my boyfriend several times if he would go with me to the beach and he has always said no. Last time I asked he said that he would think about it, so I rushed to prepare our stuff and then I ask him again he says no! This happens ...
A. 4 July 2017: He does not try the beach or new stuff because there's nothing in it for him except sunburn and feeling out of his comfort zone. He's a creature of habit who needs to be in control of his environment to feel secure.
Take a fish out of water; a... (read in full...)
My LDR girlfriend gets obsessive when I am with my family or friends
Q. So long story short ive been in this relationship and it started off perfectly fine until she got obsessively clingy. Everytime i go out with my parents/friends/family and I'm too busy to respond (I should include this is a long distance ...
A. 3 July 2017: [Lost in Space] DANGER, Will Robinson, DANGER!
Unfortunately you have yourself a Grand emotional blackmailer, among other things... literally and honestly she needs a Psychiatrist – professional help!
Sadly these people are EXTREMELY INSECU... (read in full...)
I don't want to be replaced by a vibrator .... again!
Q. I have a much higher sex drive than my wife. About 10 years ago I bought a vibrator for her. Everything was great and we used it a lot together when we had sex, and sex happened more frequently. After a while, she lost almost all interest in havi...
A. 2 July 2017: I'm afraid I too see a little double standards creeping in here. Whilst you may not see it that way, you're a bit too close to the subject.
If you don't want to be (as you say) "replaced" by a toy, are you prepared to switch off your viewing ... (read in full...)
Is a man without a big wallet a deal breaker for you?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have recently met a great man. We've been dating for a few months but we have met each other's parents because we are serious about each other. Recently though, my worries have been our financial status. He is a hard working chef a...
A. 1 July 2017: Yes a Chef's pay is quite low, but how a man/woman spends, saves; lives within their means would more importantly be my main concern. He already is hard working, tick. He is committed to the relationship, tick.
If you both wish to live in abundanc... (read in full...)
What's going on? I am confused why my partner is now an issue.
Q. I need some objective clarity. So here goes. When we were teens, say 16 years ago, he had a major crush on me and we went out a few times. I never reciprocated because I guess there weren't any feelings there, and I distanced myself from him. He ...
A. 30 June 2017: With Hubby coming along to the meeting I reckon it's burst his bubble. He starts to feel the heat. Can't face the man you’re committed to; knowing there have been playfully touches, flirting and getting close to you.
This now becomes a challeng... (read in full...)
He broke up with me but now is sending messages with hearts!
Q. Hey i need help, My boyfriend broke up with me recently because he thought we were drifting apart after we got out of school. He told me that we should just be friends and after that he stopped texting me. Now he is texting me a lot and putting ...
A. 30 June 2017: Yes he meant everything he said when you were together, but for what purpose I do not know... yes you are drifting apart because that’s what happens at your age, and right now he is messing with you by texting and putting in hearts... because he has ... (read in full...)
Caught him watching porn
Q. I caught my husband watching father daughter porn twice now is this normal he denied it and got very upset....
A. 30 June 2017: Right “let’s put it in proportion”. Rambo [R - restricted] violent entertainment vs. Incest porn [X-rated]; violating entertainment, a game the whole family can play...
Yeah like we hear a lot of complaints about my hubby viewing blah blah bla... (read in full...)
Am I being irrational for wanting my parents to be involved in my daughters life?
Q. I have a daughter and am expecting another child. And since she was born, my parents have not been very active in her life. The first three or 4 months, they'd come over almost every weekend and after that, it'd be every several months. They...
A. 29 June 2017: My friend had a similar problem with her parents not making effort to come visit them and Grandkids... At the other end, it was a case of grumpy old folks set in their ways... Children no matter how old, they are to come visit their parents. Not so ... (read in full...)
I found out the man I'm dating is married
Q. Am dating married man but on the first he didn't tell that is married,I found it by mi self.I feel like leave him but he is caring man every woman need,He says that he loves even he took me to his home but wife unknowing that am co,What can I do?...
A. 25 June 2017: He is NOT a caring man nor what every woman needs!
What sort of woman are you talking about who says she needs this type of man... a (married) man who openly deceives his wife, by bring home the mistress to be!?
Can you not think what the r... (read in full...)
Am I foolish to forgive my girlfriend for cheating?
Q. In January I found out that I'd been offered a promotion at work. A fantastic opportunity to change my life, but it involved 6 months living abroad. My girlfriend of 4 years didn't want me to go initially, but after talking things through she agreed ...
A. 25 June 2017: We all get lonely at one point or another, but resorting to sex with your best friend for companionship reasons etc. is a low blow from both of them! Sex with a stranger could have been less devastating? But your best friend categorically jumped at ... (read in full...)
Why did he give up his trip with the boys?
Q. My boyfriend turned down a golf trip with the guys next weekend. It's out of town and they go every year. He said it's because he knows I worry and he doesn't want to upset me. In the past I have given him grief. Many of the guys go to strip club...
A. 19 June 2017: Personally that's not what I call a golfing trip, it maybe for your husband but it seems an excuse for some of his friends to play up on their partners once a year... and as much as you trust your husband, you also worry that he may eventually be ... (read in full...)
Should I commit to moving? Worried about his cheating in past and about leaving my family
Q. Hi! I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for a little over two years. He is 27 and I'm 21, so naturally he has more experience than I do. 6 months into our relationship, he confessed that he had cheated on me, so we broke up...
A. 10 June 2017: It's sweet that he wants you to come be with him, but neither of you are settled and there's that sting of having been cheated on still burning inside your head. It stings for a reason and will continue to sting because it’s not meant to be ignored. ... (read in full...)
Living together is making me broke
Q. My question is about sharing expenses as a couple. I've been with my girlfriend for over 3 years, and we enjoy each other's company. We've been living together for 5 months, which has resulted in my expenses more than doubling. We both work and we ...
A. 9 June 2017: So she couldn't see or adapt to what was fair and reasonable and decided to end things instead. Well doesn't that just show you her true colours with any man she meets?
Consider yourself fortunate to be rid of her and please remember not to get a... (read in full...)
What advice can you offer for brides living in same home as their inlaws?
Q. My husband to be is a very simple minded guy. He hates critics, conflicts,and complaints. He tries to keep the peace by keep his patience( which i appreciate highly) or sometimes avoiding from it. We are going to marry in several months and we ar...
A. 5 June 2017: You are both acting like 2 dependent children on his parents for financial reasons. I wager accommodation in China is expensive and or difficult to come by so you are economising until there’s enough money to move out on your own?
Meanw... (read in full...)
Living together is making me broke
Q. My question is about sharing expenses as a couple. I've been with my girlfriend for over 3 years, and we enjoy each other's company. We've been living together for 5 months, which has resulted in my expenses more than doubling. We both work and we ...
A. 3 June 2017: She sure worked her magic thighs around you didn't she? This is pure manipulation and emotional blackmail at work!
There is no “acting more as a couple” with someone so self entitled they’d rather see you go broke than pay and be responsi... (read in full...)
Am I selfish for wanting some intimacy?
Q. My Fiancee and I have been together for a few years now and at first we had a fantastic sex life but now we are down to having sex maybe once every couple of months if that. And even then she doesn't seem to be interested so neither of us enjoy it. ...
A. 3 May 2017: So how much weight has she put on that we're actually talking about? As that'll curve a woman's self-esteem, desire and attractiveness. Nobody produces happy hormones by eating poorly etc. as it slows every component down for that person to do or ... (read in full...)
I've been with my boyfriend 2.5 years and never had sex. I think he's in love with his ex
Q. Hi. I am 56years old and my boyfriend is 55. I have been with him for 2 1/2years. Lived with him for 14 months out of that time. He has never made love to me although he says he loves me. I also found out, reading his own words that right before ...
A. 30 April 2017: You may have to ask yourself why you're in this relationship and what keeps you there when there's no significant intimacy? Evidently his attention is drawn elsewhere while you supply him with... company, cooking and cleaning? This doesn't sound ... (read in full...)
My husband lies about watching porn and masturbating
Q. My husband lies about watching porn and masturbating. I know he does this to avoid an argument, and I don't really mind his porn usage - I just don't want him to be lying to me. However we had a massive argument a couple of weeks ago - it came up...
A. 20 April 2017: This has nothing to do with you being insecure or a bit controlling as that's him pointing the finger at you to avoid addressing the issue. He knows he’s pushed the limit of you tolerating his porn and wrist usage.
As you know when a person i... (read in full...)
He pressured me for sex, even started undressing me. But disappeared when I revealed my status as a virgin!
Q. I went for a few dates with a guy. He was very insitent about sex but everytime I refused him he was ok and still wanted more dates with me. He tried to get me at his place after our very first date and at our second too, but i refused. However we ...
A. 18 April 2017: Sweetie he and this type of male who pressure girls have no respect, but one intention in mind. All he wanted was to swirl his penis inside you and call it a day. He utterly played you and played you even more because you're not an easy hook-up ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a fiance who makes me feel stupid?
Q. Hi how do I deal with a fiance who makes me feel thick and cannot do things properly this morning I was putting the washing machine on I was just about to put the powder in the drawer he walked over and took it off me and said he would do it i told ...
A. 17 April 2017: I think he feels frustrated and worried with how you do things and takes over to prevent unnecessary breakages or extra work, extra expense. Problem with that is you don't learn to do things better or perhaps properly?
If you know you are a clumsy... (read in full...)
I waited 3 years to tell my LDR boyfriend that I have 2 children and now he's unsure of how he feels
Q. I've been in a 3 year long distance relationship with my boyfriend. I'll admit I've been wrong in never disclosing to him that I've been married, divorced, and have two teenage children. I'm also 42 yrs old while he's only 33 yrs old. I've trav...
A. 16 April 2017: I understand your nondisclosure impart (lying as others have mentioned), but LRD or not everyone has a history, previous life and present existence... yet from what I gather he did not think to ask you these basic relationship questions either, if ... (read in full...)
I love my husband but don't know how long I can keep carrying everything on my back!
Q. Not sure if this is really a question or just needing to vent but I could use some advice. I'm just feeling very worthless in my marriage. I feel like he's always mad at me and my kids and nothing we do is ever good enough. Like I go shopping after ...
A. 15 April 2017: Role reversal never sits well with most men as they're usually the breadwinner and leave the ever important nurturing to his spouse. Sure enough it's still a team effort in any marriage when times are tested... the true colours of who we really ... (read in full...)
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