How soon is too soon to go on a trip together? I'm a virgin.
Q. I've been seeing someone for 3 weeks, seven dates, and we speak daily. Our connection is amazing and we share everything. However one subject we haven't mentioned is sex. I went to his place once and we didn't do anything physical except kiss. Just ...
A. 4 May 2016: I wouldn’t be so naïve to think after 3 weeks there’s this amazing connection. However IF you're not concerned about loosing your virginity, then GO to L.A. But your friends are right, and if he’s paying for your flight or not, then rest assured ... (read in full...)
What are the main reasons that would motivate a woman to want to break up with a guy?
Q. I would like the opinion of the lady's an men who write in all the time, my question is what's the main reasons for women to dump the guys? Is it they found some one new, he cheated , he treats her bad, got bored of him, he was to nice, came on ...
A. 2 May 2016: What is there to admit? The guy who leaves a good woman for a sexier wild woman and finds himself dumped IS NOT a ‘nice guy’ to begin with. It’s a dang myth!
Besides what constitutes a nice guy to you is different to each woman. A guy doesn’t ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't have respect for my religious beliefs!
Q. Hi Dear Cupid! I have been dating this wonderful guy for about 8 months now and I am worried about one thing . . . . he doesn't respect my religious beliefs. He says he's not an atheist, but he also says he doesn't really believe in anythi...
A. 2 May 2016: He is not ever going to listen, respect your beliefs or perhaps be the father of your children. Presently you’re unevenly yoked, dating a non-believer, whom shows contempt for people of the faith.
Since you are in the dating phase this is where... (read in full...)
Wearing jewelry from an ex whilst out on a date with a new partner... thoughts?
Q. I want to know what everybody's thoughts are on wearing jewellery from an ex partner whilst out on a date with a new partner. Thank you!...
A. 30 April 2016: The ONLY piece of jewelry you need to concern yourself with is a Wedding ring being worn!
Even so; when I asked my ex-husband (long ago) why he still wore his wedding ring, (on the other hand)? He said, he liked the unique design; which I created.... (read in full...)
He thinks I stole his money! I’m so hurt! Should I leave?
Q. Dear cupid I’ve been seeing a man for almost 6 years I’m now living with him he say he lost so I'm money and the first person he blames is me because we are the only 2 people live in the house but his son is always comes in as he please a...
A. 30 April 2016: WOW, isn’t that just showing you where his loyalty lays? His son has a key to the house and you’re the first target to blame, to point the finger at, and too accuse you of theft!? Is his son beyond reproach, so faultless in his eyes?
Leave... (read in full...)
I want my parents blessing before moving in with my boyfriend
Q. Hey Everyone, So, my boyfriend and I have been together for a year now, and he's brought up us moving in together. I come from a background where my family believes its meet a guy,fall in love,engage,marry then move in. Whereas my boyfrien...
A. 29 April 2016: There will be plenty of occasions for you to consider your boyfriend’s wishes AFTER you get married... But now is the time for you to stick with tradition; fall in love, engage, marry then move in.
This step of moving in is not the same as a mar... (read in full...)
Please help me, it turns out that my boyfriend has a brother, the same man I slept with a few years ago!
Q. I know a boy for about seven years, and we started dating a few months ago, and last Saturday he decided to introduce me to his family. It turns out that he has a brother, who was never mentioned, and is the same man that I slept a few years ago. I ...
A. 28 April 2016: It’s a small world or neighbourhood by the sounds of it, bumping into a former bed-fellow who happens to be your boyfriend’s brother?
I agree brothers do talk and can laugh this off, but so long as the brother doesn’t start bragging or stirring... (read in full...)
How can someone who claims to love you be so unfeeling?
Q. I got pretty sick this past week. I was bed ridden for days had no energy throwing up. My husband had it the week before so naturally I was concerned for him took care of his every need and made sure he felt loved and taken care of. Fast forw...
A. 28 April 2016: So much for the vow; in sickness and in health…?
It's his dang duty to look after you when an illness takes you down, not neglect you like a fair-weather friend.
I believe there’s nothing better than when we are ill, injured or recovering fr... (read in full...)
What are the risks of having a roommate?
Q. Have you ever had a roommate? Hey aunts, I need some advice on my living situation. I'm in college and I'm about to graduate with my degree. I also started taking classes to get into the medial field (AS) I'm pretty much happy about school. I'...
A. 27 April 2016: You would NOT finally have peace and quiet. No doubt you will politely be asked to do her a favour; like tend to her cute, mischievous, furniture destroying and piddling, whimpering puppy while she’s absent.
Best to share with strangers, because ... (read in full...)
Am I a rebound? I'm concerned about his continued contact with his ex.
Q. Hi dearcupid, I have been dating a pretty nice guy for the last few months. Everything seems pretty good except I'm concerned about something. I'm not sure if I have a right to be concerned. What I'm concerned about is he is still in frequen...
A. 27 April 2016: Nobody with feelings gets over a 3 year relationship in just a few months of dating someone new; there's always emotional residue (baggage), unresolved issues; hurt, anger, good memories, loneliness to deal with.
He did said, he wasn't ready to... (read in full...)
Does she love me for my money? She never offers to pay!
Q. My girlfriend Lisa and I have been going together for almost ten months and our relationship seems to be sailing along quite smoothly. We're very compatible. We always have a lot of fun together and she never nags me. She's beautiful, classy and ...
A. 24 April 2016: If you ask her, “why she never offers to pay for anything” be prepared to see your bubble burst! This may well be the end of your relationship with this type of girl. No doubt she’ll give you excuses and charm you.
The picture or issue that has... (read in full...)
He cuts me off in middle of me speaking. He said people do it all the time. Is this true?
Q. My boyfriend and I were working in the office yesterday. After a while he had to take over from what I was doing and I sat waiting for him. We were talking a little,but every time I was telling him a story he either wouldn't answer me or he would...
A. 22 April 2016: This is an interesting question... However you were at work, he was taking over from you, so was it appropriate timing for story telling from either of you? For all we know, he could have been focused on work and you may have wanted to gossip, hence ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend insists on keeping in touch with his ex
Q. My fiancée still keeps in contact with his ex girlfriend by sms. He says that it's only messaging not talking and he only answers her messages. When i asked him why he did it he said he liked giving her hope and being a shit to her. Once when i a...
A. 19 April 2016: Of all the most genuine promises to vow and keep as a man; he chooses to stand his ground on giving his ex hope and being a shit to her – WOW!
Sounds like he’s immature and grossly incapable of realising his commitment, priorities and responsi... (read in full...)
I'm furious my boyfriend exchanged pleasantries with his former mistress
Q. Hello everyone. Long story short. My boyfriend of 6 years was having an affair earlier with a married woman about 3 years ago. It lasted on and off for about one year so I was lead to believe. I don't think I was ever given the whole truth of the ...
A. 18 April 2016: Overreacted? HELL NO...
But you sure blew the long road to recovery, boundaries in place, truthful transparency out of the water! Fact is you’re not healed in any shape or form, and you never will be if you don’t run out that door!
If I ha... (read in full...)
We've been dating almost 7 months and he wants us to marry and move out of province
Q. I'm a single mom with two kids, a four year old daughter and six your old son. I've been dating a guy for almost 7 months. He is great with my kids and they adore him. Last night he proposed ! I was not expecting it at all and he even said he knew ...
A. 17 April 2016: DEFINITELY TOO SOON Brookesawyer! Are you nuts? No, just hasty, in love and impetuous as he is :)
Thankfully it appears you have a wise friend to advise you. I believe the transfer and him working away may have caused a knee jerk reaction... (read in full...)
My children and I need a different life.
Q. My relationship is very complicated. I met my boyfriend while working as a part-time bartender. The first time I met him he told me that his wife had died six weeks prior. I was in shock by how easily he said it but yet I found that he was easy ...
A. 17 April 2016: This man is a widower, whether he adored his wife of 20 years or not, he was not in a position or proper mind set to start another (serious) relationship, basically he was lonely... he wanted a companionship of sorts, someone “to be there”.
A yea... (read in full...)
Threesome gone wrong and I feel so cheated! Help me please...
Q. I have an issue that I can't get over and I don't know what to do. I have been with my husband for approximately 10 years and he has always been my best friend. We have always joked about a threesome but were never really serious, although secretly ...
A. 16 April 2016: Imagine if you will a roll reversal threesome; you, your husband and another man... Only this time your husbands ego, self-esteem and insecurities would surface as he hears you talk about this other guys amazingly hard *ock?
The thing about th... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to understand how unhappy I am that he cheated and had sex in a massage parlor
Q. My boyfriend of 4.5 years has been a very loyal and humble person till recently. He had gone on a vacation and has sex at one of the massage parlours. He told me the very next day and has been very guilty and emotionally unstable since then. On the ...
A. 15 April 2016: My first thoughts are; why did you need to warn him? This suggests to me, he has not been very loyal or clean in his thoughts over the last 4½ years, and you know something in his character that can’t be trusted! He has had these thoughts and ... (read in full...)
My ex gave a weak excuse for breaking up
Q. Dear cupid I think my boyfriends excuse for breaking up with me is a cop out and that he won't tell me the real reason why he wanted to break up. He told me that he wanted to break up because of how neglectful I was the first 3 months of our re...
A. 8 April 2016: Yes how dare you finish off school, work full time, neglect servicing your boyfriends needs and make amends thereafter – NOT! How is this starting off really bad? More importantly, where was his support for you in the beginning, whilst you where ... (read in full...)
Do I expose his lies or just blank him ?
Q. Hi everyone 4 week ago me and my ex decided to give our relationship another go he spun me lines and i fell for them. My friend is on a dating site and saw him on there so told me im glad she did , im tempted to message him and tell him liars al...
A. 8 April 2016: If this was a new guy you just met, and after 4 weeks you were informed of this piece of information I’m sure you’d think and act differently; like perhaps giving the guy a chance to explain?
However exes have a reason for being exes and only you... (read in full...)
Boyfriend hasn't been paying the agreed amount and now I am in debt!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for three years. I am in love with him completely and he is in love with me. We moved in together after a year and a half. We have no issues living together and love being able to spend that much time together. our ...
A. 24 March 2016: As suggested, you sit him down and talk.
If it was his signed responsibility to pay the Association Dues $320/month I’d want to know WHY he shrugged off his financial obligation/contribution. Did he stay silent all 6 months and not speak to you a... (read in full...)
I called my boyfriend's parents house several times and he reported me to the police
Q. I did something wrong today. Last night I got into a huge fight with my boyfriend because he never has time for me and always makes me feel second to everything. I was still mad and we argued again today. Not only did he not admit he was wrong, h...
A. 23 March 2016: Sure enough you were ignored, pissed off and he wasn't going to apologise for his ignorant behaviour. He's immature! However for him to call the Police in this boyfriend girlfriend dummy spit was a complete overreaction and a serious waste of Police ... (read in full...)
Are my doubts unfounded? He wanted to fly to Australia to visit a female friend!
Q. A few months ago my bf and I argued over him wanting to travel to Australia to visit a female friend. I felt extremely uncomfortable because 1) he refused to tell me what they would be doing there 2) I have never met this girl before 3) he wa...
A. 9 October 2014: He’s full of BS and deceiving you at the same time by not being open and honest… If he “refuses” to tell you what they or he’ll be doing etc then there’s reason to be suspicious – uncomfortable.
Given your age, it begs the question, how long hav... (read in full...)
My Bf of 3 years still sees the friends he mixed with back when he did take illicit drugs. Is it wrong to expect him to cut ties with them?
Q. Here's the situation: I'm very anti-drug and when I met my bf of 3 years, he told me that he was a recovering addict, clean for the last 7 years and that he was over it. So I was fine with it. The problem is that he still hangs out with frien...
A. 1 October 2014: He’s not helping his mates by providing them with his urine; he’s enabling them to stay addicted, go undetected and hinders them from becoming clean. If he wants to help let it be for the right reasons, that he doesn't contribute to their further ... (read in full...)
Six months together but he's not ready for sex? Is he worth waiting for? Or should I move on?
Q. I have been friends with a guy in my class for about six months. He has made it obvious that he found me attractive from Day 1. We became friends and started hanging out. During this time, he has always initiated affection (hugs, kisses, etc), yet ...
A. 30 September 2014: Well here’s a turn for the books; a man wants to have sex but doesn't feel ready. Yet he says; “we will never be more than friends” (Is he aged 36-40?)
That either means he has other priorities or issues going on in his head, and whilst you have... (read in full...)
Did I overreact to my boyfriend and his question?
Q. Did I over react? My boyfriend asked a girl to show him a slut drop (this is a dance move according to wikipedia) , which she did in front of me. I think this was inappropriate of him to ask he said he didn't think anymore of it other than he was ...
A. 30 September 2014: He’s not ever going to understand (validate) the slightest reason why you’re annoyed and hurt when living in a slut drop culture… In this instance he’s one in a crowd of millions, with no censorship or manners to remotely think what is appropriate – ... (read in full...)
We found out our close friends gave us a recycled gift as our wedding gift! Would you mention that you know to them?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm really annoyed about something and I can appreciate there are more important things to worry about but I do feel I've been taken for a fool. My fiance and I got married 2 months ago and because we already live together...
A. 27 July 2014: If you wish to make an on going issue of this; by all means return the card to them Friday night after dinner; or invite them back after dinner to your place for some Champagne… at the end of the evening, simply say there was something left in the ... (read in full...)
I used to be happy in this marriage but now I'm just angry all the time
Q. Hi I'm married been together for four years with a one year old daughter. I have a problem, I don't want to have sex with my hubby anymore, I don't like him touching me he has to initiate sex I'm really not in the mood so I can't enjoy it, i try to ...
A. 23 July 2014: You’re angry because you’re not getting what you want or expected from this marriage. Still he needs to know politely of course that sex with him is pathetic, he is selfish, lazy with help caring for your daughter and in every other aspect that is ... (read in full...)
It's not that he's cheap, but he resents my paying for a housekeeper
Q. Started living with my boyfriend and he expresses his negative opinion about my housekeeping methods. Basically I really can make myself do all the housework and i don't want him to do it also. He grew up in a household where his mother stayed home ...
A. 22 July 2014: After further clarification; I comprehend the dynamics of your relationship better; now that you’ve amplified; you “can not” make yourself do housework. I understand tiredness and hiring help etc.
From the start of this question; “he said he of co... (read in full...)
It's not that he's cheap, but he resents my paying for a housekeeper
Q. Started living with my boyfriend and he expresses his negative opinion about my housekeeping methods. Basically I really can make myself do all the housework and i don't want him to do it also. He grew up in a household where his mother stayed home ...
A. 21 July 2014: “I really can make myself do all the housework… I don't want him to do it”
“He of course doesn't expect me to do it all, but at least some cooking or cleaning”
“It's not that I don't have time to do house work… he will do his part.”
“I eat at... (read in full...)
Married 50 years. What do I do now: start over or live the rest of my life like this?
Q. Well where do you start, I just reached my 50Th wedding anniversary, I said* reached( not celebrate) because my husband said if I take you somewhere you will just just start a argument, which is not true as I paid for a trip to Vegas and he didn't ...
A. 16 July 2014: After 50 years it’s a bit hard to teach, an old dog new tricks… To have him behave in the proper manner; what is done is done. He is who he is, and you are who you are. However the remaining time is yours to steer!?
But why put yourself through ... (read in full...)
They say I would have been rocked by a tree stump. Do they have a point?
Q. OK, I had sex with a new boyfriend recently. It was our first date and he took me to the highest heaven. My friends were not as impressed. They told me my reaction was based on circumstances and looks, ie it was my first time after 23 years of ...
A. 16 July 2014: Does it truly matter what your friends say? You’re over 18!
Let the good times roll girl… :)
Just beware if it develops into an attachment; it’s not all about his rockin’ hot body and your revitalised sex life.
CAA
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My B/f waits for me to fall asleep after sex and then proceeds to masturbate!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in a one year long distance relationship with my boyfriend we love about six hours away and we see each other about once every two months. Whenever we have sex he later waits for me to fall asleep and then proceeds to mastu...
A. 8 July 2014: Good logic aside; it’s a damn waste if you ask me... I’d desensitise it for him real quick... Get in there and don’t let a good time go to waste girl :)
This very 2 months is like being on a lettuce diet in between getting some meat! What’s t... (read in full...)
My inlaws have out stayed their welcome and my husband doesn't get it!
Q. My husbands parents live in canada, weve been together 10 years and they've only come to England once in that time (for our wedding). After the birth of our 1st child they said they were coming to see their grand daughter. They kept changing their ...
A. 8 July 2014: This stress could have all been avoided had you not listened to your Husbands assurance that it will be ok... where has he been during this time; work or home entertaining his parents? When some men say, it’ll all be ok, it seldom is; that is not a ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend not going to my graduation but going with his friends. What does this say?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend flr ober a year. Were quite serious and are currently living together and saving for a new home. Were very much in love and generally get along great. The thing is its my masters graduation this week. I got 3 tickets, o...
A. 8 July 2014: Did you give him ample time to be aware of your Graduation date?
My girlfriend chose me out of all her friends and family to see her Graduate Interstate... I was one of three. It was an absolute Honour, to date I am very proud of her achievem... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable to not want my baby exposed to an unhygenic environment?
Q. Hello everyone I am having a problem with my parents and i'm wondering if i'm being reasonable. I'm 19 and i'm almost 36 weeks pregnant me and my fiance live with my parents we have our room and our nursery. My parents have always told me they never ...
A. 8 July 2014: It is neither wise nor hygienic to have Baby upstairs in isolation or downstairs in utter fur and poop filth... For all concerned, when you can afford it, hopefully sooner than later, you find your own apartment near your Parents; before baby starts ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is as unromantic as can be
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. We connect so well in everything. He challenges me intellectually, is fun, sweet, affectionate. The thing is, he is as unromantic as a person can be. As an example, he lives right across t...
A. 7 July 2014: [I first thought the subject title was referring to my Partner... as I continued reading, your boyfriend at least cuddles kisses holds and challenges you... Here I have to drop myself naked on his lap covered in chocolate to get his romantic ... (read in full...)
Do I leave the man in his mancave?
Q. My boy friend whom I have been living with for the past two years well I came home from work and I found out that he had moved all his clothes in to the spare room it has been like this for two weeks. He says he need time to sort out his thoughts ...
A. 7 July 2014: What The Hey – I sense there’s something else going on here, as who locks, and to what purpose does it serve to lock his (spare) room from a girlfriend of 2 years? More information is needed Zannie...
I understand the man-cave, space, timeout ... (read in full...)
Is he serious or am I just to pass the time?
Q. Hello: brief background to me. I am 24 this year, my longest relationship was over a year with my ex that ended four years ago. I have gone on dates and seen guys after but nothing that was serious so I moved on. Recently its been a month on m...
A. 7 July 2014: If after ‘a month’ of dating, a guy told me they love me, I’d be paranoid too... however from experience; I’d know and understand they didn’t mean LOVE in the sense, ring on the finger till death do us part, or that it meant we’re in a serious ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says for our relationship to survive I need to start surprising him sexually
Q. Quick and short... My boyfriend says that for our relationship to survive I need to start "surprising" him sexually. One of his versions of being surprised is a spontaneous blowjob in the car. That's pretty much all the hints he has given me! An...
A. 7 July 2014: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/boyfriend-living-with-me-temporarily-the-love-is.html
Is this his answer to your recent post; 5 July 2014 – Boyfriend living with me temporarily the love is dying, what should I do? That YOU START surprisi... (read in full...)
Since I refused to do things he's seen in porn he wants nothing to do with me
Q. My bf watch too much porn and he gets himself relief by watching but he still want to have sex with me and wanted to do it from behind but I won't let him and he doesn't understand when I tell him no. He tells me I'm no fun, I did what he wanted me ...
A. 6 July 2014: I’m not sure what you mean by him “blowing up” your phone/mobile? If he has damaged or smashed it I would expect he’d not be interested in paying for another one... If possible, remove the SIM Card and buy yourself another Mobile/Phone and firmly ... (read in full...)
Since I refused to do things he's seen in porn he wants nothing to do with me
Q. My bf watch too much porn and he gets himself relief by watching but he still want to have sex with me and wanted to do it from behind but I won't let him and he doesn't understand when I tell him no. He tells me I'm no fun, I did what he wanted me ...
A. 5 July 2014: Are you referring to anal sex? Because if you are, I suggest you say to him, “Honey I’ve seen this porn actor take it from behind and it looks like fun for you guys... How about I get a cucumber (Lebanese) or a strap on dildo and whack it up your ... (read in full...)
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