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writes:Hi all. I've dated my boyfriend for 7 years an we've even bought a house together cause we were both tired of him renting small places. My problem is he forever promises to marry me an when the time comes he become agressive. On the past 4 months I went back home thinking he was going to miss me an hurry up the process to marry me but only to find out that he was having a freedom to bring his friends to our home an let them distroy my furniture. I even found some womans hair in the bathroom an when I ask him about it he denied. Since I'm back home his phone is always on silence and makes sure that he doesn't leave it behind even when he goes to the bathroom. I just need your opinion just to understand and on what to do with this problem. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2013): You are wasting your youth on him. I dated my boyfriend when ai was 22 he was 25 for 6 years and we live together he always talk about marring me after 2 years and when the time comes he gets aggravated and angry when I mentioned it. I straight up told him that I'm wasting my youth on him and don't be surprised if I cheat on him with a man that want to marry me...two months later I met a guy at a club he's an FBI agent he just got a divorce with 1 kid so I went out on a date with him met his son (he's 4) i did not sleep with him, he wanted to settle down so I went back home and told him we're done, sometimes people needs to lose what they have before they can realize how important it is to them...it hurts cause I did it out of anger I break it off when he was still at work so I start packing15 minutes later I almost got an heart attack of him running to our apartment crying his eyes off begging me to stay he's going to get the ring lmao, we're married now with 3 kids lol hope your man is like mine...good luck
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (20 May 2013):
 After 7 years he acts more like a single man! He has been clever to lead you along hoping for marriage and now trapping you into buying a house together… My suggestion would be to decide whether you want to hurt now or much later as this is only going to get worse if you believe in his promises – lies.Plus no-one needs to put their phone on silence or take it with them if there’s nothing to hide! Or is he perhaps ordering new furniture for the house as a surprise, after it got destroyed by his friends? I don’t think so, but that would be nice. As mentioned there are legal and Real-Estate options open for your consideration on how best to handle this 7 year fake arse of a man.Take Care – CAA
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (19 May 2013):
 I'd consult with an attorney to see what needs to be done to keep your financial circumstances from being hurt by a breakup. I expect you or he would have to buy the other out of the other's share in the house you jointly own.
Your other option is to speak with a real estate agent to find out how much your home is worth. You could put it on the market and split the proceeds, or as I mentioned earlier, one could buy out the other's share.
It's pretty obvious that he's not faithful nor will he actually marry you. When you realize this maybe you'll be ready to protect your own interests.
Sorry he's not a keeper but at least you'll be free to find a guy who is interested in marriage! Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2013): Don't you be his bitch any longer. You just told us what this dork is doing. Why do you keep taking this crap? Dump him and move on or are you so blinded by his bullshit stories really?? In the meantime he is porking some other bitch while your away? What the hell here?? Get out now. Enough is enough. Next he will be asking you not to come on Monday nights so he can pork some other women. Don't you be that stupid and dumb about this. Leave now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2013): if you look at the tags under the title of this question at the top of the page, and read them carefully, you will find these are the problems. good luck in moving on
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (19 May 2013):
 This relationship has long since run it's course.
If I were to take a guess, I'd say that he is either not working or not contributing much (or as much as you are) to the running of the household and he hasn't ended things because he's enjoying the free (or almost free) ride.
He makes promises to shut you up, then becomes agressive when you call him up on it. He allows his friends to damage furniture while you're away and is defensive about some woman's hair in your washroom.
Time for him to go.
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