Suspicious my boyfriend might be talking to other women
Q. I live with my boyfriend. I noticed his battery lost 10 % battery power overnight. Is this possible when you do not use the phone? I ask because it has happened twice this week. He said it just fell off the charger. It has never happened before....
A. 5 December 2016: If you suspect or worry about him talking to other women, then why not go the whole way and get evidence?
It'll be found in his Call Logs on those dates the phone fell off the charger.
Other than that, tape the dang phone to the charger or p... (read in full...)
I just found out my boyfriend's best female friend does porn to pay for college
Q. My boyfriends best friend is a girl which I've always been ok with because she was dating one of his friends and my boyfriend says that even though she is attractive, he doesn't find her attractive. however I've recently found out that she does porn ...
A. 5 December 2016: What could you possibly do to allay your worry, discomfort and insecurity to rest when your colleges are hours apart? Move to his College?
He says; he doesn’t find her attractive. I’m wondering when he found her unattractive; before or after he... (read in full...)
My mother in law always sides with her son regardless of how badly he treats me
Q. I have recently had an argument with my mother in law my severely disabled son attacked me , he pulled my hair and my head back and forth several times, I now have terrible pains on my back and neck. I can cope with that but during the attack m...
A. 5 December 2016: In a perfect world your MIL would stay out of family affairs, stay neutral unbiased OR take part as a support person, give you respect, be fair, give her wisdom of experiences and lend a helping hand. Here she does neither but drives a wedge between ... (read in full...)
My fiance has been offered a job in America
Q. Hi everyone Just came here for some advice really... So I been with my fiancé for eight years, we have a child together who is six, My fiancé has been offered a job but it will mean moving to America permanently, which will mean all of us goin...
A. 4 December 2016: You’re looking at this move from an emotional subjective perspective. For me a move to America would have me scared at of my wits to leave the UK Health Care system for an American system! Unless you come from the Commonwealth this is hard for some ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have borderline personality yet lack the urge to be a slut and cheater???
Q. I found out recently that I might have borderline personality disorder and dependent personality disorder. Ever since I been researching and trying to fix all the annoying parts these disorders have...And I keep coming to this question here, ho...
A. 3 December 2016: YES it is possible not to have ALL symptoms of BPD.
When it comes to any website diagnosis there is further reading of other contributing factors to consider; genetics – hereditary family illness, environment and social – exposed to hostilit... (read in full...)
Shouldn't he ask I be included?
Q. My boyfriend and I live together. He has been invited to a wedding of a friend that I don't know. He has not been given a plus one but still wants to go. I feel that as we are a proper couple an invite should have been extended to me. If it is a ...
A. 1 December 2016: From the view point of Wedding Etiquette; when there's no “plus-one”, it doesn’t mean its open for negotiation by offering the lovely gesture to pay for your meal and drinks... The lack of plus-one is not to be taken personally, it doesn’t mean the ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend made a online dating profile and when I confronted her she lied. Where to now, with this relationship??
Q. So I found out my girlfriend had made a online dating profile and when I confronted her she lied straight to my face about it and after a little while she finally admitted she made it. When I asked her why she made it she told me she was bored an...
A. 1 December 2016: Boredom I do understand, accusing you of cheating is a reflex to change the subject/focus when she can check on whom you talk with, but her lying when you asked her why, says to me she’s hiding something.
Hiding the embarrassment of being caught, ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my former friend's betrayal?
Q. Hi, How do I get my lying, cheating friend out of my head?? I was conned and lied to by a girl I thought was a friend of mine just so she could take my ex (we were on a temporary break)! I totally trusted her but she ended up ruining my life, wi...
A. 30 November 2016: Seriously it's been a year and you're still grieving over a lost friendship; a lying deceitful GF and EX? These obnoxious people were weeds in your life; they needed plucking out! Instead you want to water these weeds, cultivate them, and give ‘em ... (read in full...)
Is she in the wrong more than me?
Q. I have been with C----- for 2 years, engaged for 5 month. Pretty solid relationship, love her to pieces but our communication is off, she yells at/threatens me to get her point across and I just plain ignore her to spite her. This situation is a ...
A. 29 November 2016: Sounds like you both need Counselling ASAP and learn how to fight fair; her insults vs. your silence are no winning formula for a long happy marriage.
While she's demanding, confrontational has no boundaries where she picks a fight you egotisti... (read in full...)
My husband is divorcing me we have a severly disabled son
Q. Me and my husband have been married for 12 years. We have a severly disabled son, he is autistic, with learning difficulties and he cannot speak. he is very aggressive at the moment. Friday he pulled me onto the floor by my hair and head butted me. ...
A. 29 November 2016: This is truly heartbreaking indeed... your husband should be ashamed of himself! His measure of staying power has run out... he finds it easier to flee, blame you, abandon his disabled son, than to face responsibility, continue or give support, and ... (read in full...)
I am his great big secret!
Q. I have been dating a guy 16 years older than me for the last 6 months. He has been divorced twice and have 3 teenage/young adult children with his first wife and a 3 yr old daughter with the second. He divorced 18 months ago. I have 2 teenagers and ...
A. 28 November 2016: Introducing you as his GF of 6 months at his let’s say (60th) B’day to all his family and friends would create havoc indeed… just look at his track record when it comes to relationships. Can’t you see he doesn't quite have a gleaming record and if ... (read in full...)
Stuck in the middle and not sure what to do with holidays and family
Q. This Christmas my boyfriend's family have very kindly invited us (me and my two children) to their house for 3 days. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years and he is really great with my two boys,and he is a fantastic dad to his own daug...
A. 27 November 2016: I don't mean to change the subject, but I find the behaviour of both these Ex's infuriating, but more so the Bf’s Ex. How is it you’re perfectly fine when Bf’s Ex dictates the terms of how he’s to have his daughter? Yet when it comes to your Ex you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated but I want him back..
Q. I have been in a 2 year relationship, and after the first year I would catch my boyfriend trying to talk to girls once in a while. He always apologised and used excuses such as "i was bored" "i was just trying out my game again" "it dont mean ...
A. 24 November 2016: I like to think your expectations are higher because after having a BF who cheated on you, who in their right mind would not want a decent honest attentive guy?
If you’re so used to him (the BF) it’s because that’s all you’ve experien... (read in full...)
Fiance issues. What should I do? What needs to change?
Q. MODNOTE two issues concerning fiancé combined. . . . . . . My fiancé a couple of years ago, made some very bad decisions and cheating on me many times as well as lied, hid a 2nd phone to be able to chat with other women, and was sleeping wit...
A. 24 November 2016: No one person is meant or designed to get over it; it being infidelity. Once this sacred bond of trust has been broken you are meant to leave, repair your emotions and learn to live love trust again with someone new. Staying with a cheater who ... (read in full...)
I've taken him back 3 times despite him having broken my trust, now I'm pregnant after a miscarriage and I feel he's straying again
Q. I keep taking my boyfriend back time and time again after he cheats on me or hurts me, and I really don't know why. At first I took him back because I generally felt I was to blame. I'm saying it was my fault, but I did a few stupid things at the ...
A. 23 November 2016: WAKE UP CALL ALERT
Insecure, destructive, dysfunctional, and irresponsible comes to mind what I read here. Good luck with a cheating hubby and a baby on the way... with any luck he is straying again and you’ll finally get the message he’s not wort... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my uncaring in-laws over the holidays?
Q. Just to spare you the medical details: A few weeks ago, out of nowhere my elderly mom had to be hospitalized for a medical emergency. After 5 days she was released to a nursing home, but on Hospice. She Can no longer walk nor hold a conversation, ...
A. 23 November 2016: Do you mean to say; these in-laws (of 30 years) whom your Mom is no stranger to them, had not extended ONE word of support or concern after (I assume) someone informed them about your Mom’s condition? Did the informer not receive any message to pass ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want to work on our relationship he just wants to please himself
Q. Hello so i have a question i have been with my highschool sweet heart for 20 years things have not been good lately i have tried talking to him about how im feeling and maybe how we can fix our relationship but he says everything is fine with him ...
A. 22 November 2016: You’re both in a sink hole, not a rut! A loving good man doesn’t buy or need to buy fake plastic when his needs are being fulfilled. Likewise you don’t withhold sex expecting a man to be happy without it (sex) because you’ve not been happy for a ... (read in full...)
Making love vs having sex
Q. how do you know when your making love and not having sex,...
A. 21 November 2016: How I know the difference between making love vs. sex.
I get better results after creative love making than just having spontaneous sex.
After he’s physically spent I know his Serotonin level is higher, the release of Dopamine to his brain mak... (read in full...)
Six years and no proposal; we've lived together for two. Is he stringing me along?
Q. I love my partner of 6 years. A few years into the relationship he suggested we bought a house together (at the time he had just finished his service in the military, and I was finishing University - he had saved up a house deposit during his time ...
A. 19 November 2016: For your sake I hope you had the smarts to keep receipts and record of all your financial contributions towards tHIS house!?
He’s a clever cookie, leaving you off the mortgage papers under UK Law from what I read – “Lenders may consider the fina... (read in full...)
I'm very attracted to my therapist! Should I just stop with the therapy and ask her out?
Q. I suffer from severe depression and anxiety and I started seeing a therapist yesterday. And she's absolutely beautiful. I would've found it a little easier to talk to some middle aged woman or even an old person, but she's the same age as me, and ...
A. 18 November 2016: Good for you on recognising this Therapist as a distraction to getting your mental health back on track. I agree you'll need to ask for a more experienced/mature Therapist.
Attractive or not I wouldn't feel totally confident with a youngste... (read in full...)
Our fights have become over the top!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. We have had our ups and downs. On occasion, I have had to walk away and take a "break," because the arguments become so personal and heated and so incredibly loud, and I cannot stand the insults any ...
A. 18 November 2016: WOW, what a lousy TRUMP CARD! He says; “he LOVES you and that should be enough”!?
Well let’s review ‘HIS LOVE’; arguments become so personal and heated and so incredibly loud, causing you to walk away... He has bought you a lot of dinners over the... (read in full...)
I broke off a 3 year affair and all he said was ok
Q. Hi, I've been seeing a married man(ex), for 3 years now. I finally got the guts to say "I can't do this anymore, I need more". It was really hard to say this to him since I still love him. He just said to me "ok". nothing else. not why, are you ...
A. 9 November 2016: Perhaps you groaned about needing more from this relationship before and he's aware of your restlessness, yet you still continued on with him despite the fact he cannot or will not give you total devotion... so when you finally say enough is enough ... (read in full...)
My partner is more interested in pleasing his mother than me
Q. My fiancé and I have just discovered that I'm pregnant and our wedding was booked for the same month the baby is due so we've decided to bring it forward. We've given our small party of 40 guests the new date which is still 3 months away and ...
A. 23 October 2016: She has more than enough time, 3 months in fact to notify her employer for ONE day off or to make a switch for that day off with someone at work.
Your MIL was asked about the dates and has now; much to your stress is making your special day abou... (read in full...)
She's no longer into sex. What to do?
Q. The problem I have is. My wife is totally uninterested in sex and lovemaking, and has been for about 3 years now. Its to hot, its to cold, I have a headache?backache/earache whatever. We have discussed it and she assures me that it is not me. I h...
A. 18 September 2016: It's a cruel twist in nature for us women at this age (51-59) to lose the desire, interest in intimacy with and for our partner... Gone are the days of being; Open All Hours (remember Ronnie Barker) as it slowly fades away and goes out of business ... (read in full...)
Please advise!!! What should I do about this situation with my girlfriend??
Q. Okay, so this is my first time posting any sort of question online. I've been on and off this site for years just browsing never thinking I would ever need to post anything on here, but here I am. So here's the issue, me and my girlfriend have bee...
A. 15 September 2016: When you confront her about this situation she's going to promise you it'll never happen again... That is the gamble you take for the rest of your life together.
Maybe this was a one of poor judgement on her behalf; it does happen to some of us. A... (read in full...)
How can and should I handle this situation? My Bf has announced that his baby mother will be visiting us with the children this weekend.
Q. Hi everyone, I feel that my boyfriend is too close to his baby mother. He is always making her come to his house with the kids. He insists they are just friends. His baby mother is a lesbian and she tried to come on to me the other night whil...
A. 11 September 2016: It's a bit suspicious for me, with her coming onto you and hanging out along with the kids. By all means she can drop the kids off let them have time with Dad, him have good communication with the EX, but no thanks to hanging around... unless she ... (read in full...)
Is it fair? Is he expecting me to pay more than my share?
Q. Hi everyone my boyfriend and me have just got a house together we have 2 kids we have lived together for 4 months now the problem is he agreed to pay the rent while I pay the gas electric and water food and things for the kids I have 2 jobs only...
A. 10 September 2016: Straight up he’s trying to mooch off you and save himself a pretty penny! IF the rental lease is in 2 names, then yes he can ask you to pay half. Yet what does that say about his agreement, his word as a man? Plus IF the children are his, he can ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend a total loser I should lose or am I missing something?
Q. I have been seeing a man in his 40s for six months. I am also in my 40s. He has told me he cares about me and we've talked about a future together. Four days ago my father was rushed to the hospital. He had two large blood clots in his lungs and...
A. 10 September 2016: Since when is it so hard to ask or relay a simple appropriate message of caring; how’s your Dad going etc.? This man has been on the planet long enough to know and communicate some sort of empathy when circumstances like this arise in life. It’s ... (read in full...)
He got a strip dance and lied to me about it. Should I stay or move on?
Q. 29 F dating 1.5 years. We talked about how I did not like strip dances. I told him I was fine with him going with friends, but not get a dance. He ended going with just his best friend and went to a private room and got a dance. He lied to me ab...
A. 10 September 2016: YES he lied, broke your trust, can’t be trusted, deceived you, doesn’t have values nor cares for your hurt feelings… But why did you give him permission to go into the den of temptation in the first place if your values are such?
You basicall... (read in full...)
My Cheating Girlfriend.... What do I do?
Q. So here it. As I write this my girlfriend is at 35,000ft with the guy she has been cheating on me with on their way to Tenerife. I had been with my girlfriend for almost 7 years. For a couple of months now I had suspected she was cheating a...
A. 7 September 2016: Unfortunately this locomotive stops at every emotional Station; there’s no express route that I know of that’ll get you out of this journey quicker. For now you’re on-board the Heartbreak Express line with freight full of mixed emotions - shock, ... (read in full...)
I've had sex with many men and I'm afraid of what my future husband will think?
Q. I had an intimate relationship with many boys when I was 19-20 years old. Im really upset with what I had done. And I'm scared that what would happen if in the future my husband would get to know about my bad body figure. Please help me?...
A. 30 August 2016: What is done is done; the past is behind you... and unless there is a sexual transmitted disease (STD), or you cannot have children or the future husband requires a virgin there is no need to share your previous experiences in any great detail.
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I want romance and committment in our marriage!
Q. I'm having some emotional problems and troubles with my wife. I wanted to post the question here before I seek the support of counselling. My wife and I have been together for 7 years and married for 4. It was rough in the first couple of years ...
A. 26 August 2016: My dear you've had enough time to know and experience what it's like to be miserable, unloved and disrespected... you have no understanding (or experience) of what it’s like to be normal. You fear the shame of failure of your marriage if you were to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend promised to go on a trip with my mother and I but spent the money on other things and said he couldn't go!
Q. My Bf of 3 years and I planned at trip with my mother. My mother lives overseas and while I was doing the application process to be able to bring her to America we planned to make a trip the 3 of us to welcome her. It was 6 months ago. The time ...
A. 25 August 2016: He's passive aggressive... One minute he says yes, but as soon as the time comes closer he's like Elvis and has left the building.
He's made himself an unreliable person – BF, in that he doesn't honour his word in doing what he said he'll do... (read in full...)
How can I control my feelings about my Bf masturbating, alone, when I'm not there?
Q. Somebody please tell me what is wrong with me. I cannot cope with my bf masturbating when I'm not here. I am paranoid about it. We only have sexual encounters once a week as it is. Aside from everything else when I know he's done it I get so upse...
A. 19 August 2016: Once a week maybe average for some, but I would think it boring and an unacceptable sex-life in the 26-29 age brackets.
Your BF is selfish and ignorant, probably distracted by porn for years and doesn't care to understand that his jerking off has ... (read in full...)
I’m feeling guilty for not throwing my baby a party for her first birthday!
Q. Has anyone here held off the idea of throwing a 1yr old birthday party for tgeir baby? My baby turns 1 next month. Myself and dad mostly dad planned to not throw her a party. For some reason i have started to feel really bad. I feel like i was ...
A. 4 August 2016: It’s true; the whole 1st Birthday Party is more about the parents making a fuss... Not so much for the child who won’t remember farting out her candle.
Although if you’ve wept as I have at a child’s funeral, who didn’t reach her 2nd or first Bi... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to not like my boyfriend's very intrusive room mate?
Q. Did I overreact? My fiancé and I have seperate places. He has an apartment with roommates as do I. One of his roommates rubs me the wrong way. She's a girl. One time he invited me over to cook me dinner for a date indoors. As he was preparing our ...
A. 4 August 2016: Some roommates like her can't pick up social quos when to bow out, mind their own business or keep their mouth shut... Yes she's looking for attention which basically says she's immature, lonely, going to miss him when he goes and or is jealous of ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep running into cheap dudes?
Q. Why do I keep running into men that are cheap,they always want something for nothing? I've ran into plenty of guys who want to use me for sex but then if I need something they won't have my back. Like why should I give u what u want but you can't ...
A. 3 August 2016: Sorry to say; but the fact is if one acts cheap by letting plenty of guys use them for sex, then you get cheap in return. There’s no obligation to fulfill anyone’s needs thereafter when it’s straight out casual sex you’re having. Are you in a decent ... (read in full...)
My partner lives in the old days!
Q. both me and my partner both work my partner thinks he lives in the old days thinks its down to the woman to do all the chores and dinner and gardening i feel this is very unfair he wants to get married and im undecided with way our relationship is ...
A. 20 July 2016: I recently watched a TV series of a (British) family giving up their 21st-Century gadgets and travel back in time to discover the radical transformation of our leisure time since 1950’s to the present.
I noted in the 50’s: women predomin... (read in full...)
How can I stop looking for revenge? Is it a case of "what goes around comes around" ?
Q. How can I stop looking for revenge? I just recently got dumped by my ex of 6 months via text - my stuff all is still is at his house . This was two months ago and since being hurt the stage has moved on to anger and waves of depression. I have ta...
A. 16 July 2016: Shift your focus from angry thoughts to more positive aspirations. Dwelling on the negative only acts as an acid, it corrodes the very heart of you.
The fact that he did not bend over backwards for you, as you did for him eats away at your cor... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's assistant is inappropriate! How do I get him to set boundaries?
Q. My boyfriend has a new assistant of 3 months. She is too comfortable around him and especially in our home. He invited her to hang out with our friends and she made a very bad first impression. She starts smoking weed, talking about how she deals, ...
A. 11 July 2016: Perhaps your BF needs to go beyond the moon and see a few stars swirling around his head; CLANG! In order to wake up from his BS – ‘they have to be friends outside of work.’ What sort of work requires you to do that, let alone with an employee who ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my bullying sister-in-law off?
Q. What do I do if my nerving bully of a sister in law comes in and says something smart about me not going to my husband s doctors appointment. Its at 11 30 my daughter attends a day support program 5 days a week her van has certain times ca...
A. 11 July 2016: This would be the time to say something smart yourself; oh thanks sister-in-law for offering to stay here/come over and mind your niece… She’s picked up at 11:30 and dropped off at 3:30… I’ll see you when hubby and I get back. (BYE BYE nasty cow!)
... (read in full...)
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