Since I refused to do things he's seen in porn he wants nothing to do with me
Q. My bf watch too much porn and he gets himself relief by watching but he still want to have sex with me and wanted to do it from behind but I won't let him and he doesn't understand when I tell him no. He tells me I'm no fun, I did what he wanted me ...
A. 6 July 2014: I’m not sure what you mean by him “blowing up” your phone/mobile? If he has damaged or smashed it I would expect he’d not be interested in paying for another one... If possible, remove the SIM Card and buy yourself another Mobile/Phone and firmly ... (read in full...)
Do some people go to extremes to break up with someone?
Q. My boyfriend has decided to end our relationship and we have agreed to be friends he told me he's not been well and had been to the hospital he won't tell me what's going on just its best for me to find someone else he said it was not good news and ...
A. 6 July 2014: Now that you’ve submitted extremely VITAL information, the missing piece of the puzzle; “have a child together”! It would certainly be crucial for him to make known his foreboding mystery illness, lest he be lying and trying to dump you as you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend living with me temporarily the love is dying, what should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 3 years now and the love is seriously dying out. We have a few past personal issues but that isn't what's pushing us apart. Recently, about 3 or so months ago, he got evicted from his...
A. 5 July 2014: “If we can't remain affectionate and work as a good partnership whilst we're temporarily living together, what does that mean for the future?” (You’re a smart clever girl for thinking this!)
It will mean more of the same!
I believe when we ... (read in full...)
I lost respect for him when he told me about his experience with hookers
Q. Today I have found out something about my boyfriend's past that has really bothered me. We've been dating only around 5 months now but it's getting to the point where it's pretty serious and we're actually going on holiday together for a week in a ...
A. 5 July 2014: Thank you OP for your additional sensitive information...
I commend your proactive stance from what transpired 3 threes ago... for becoming a Victor over victim adversity. Such courage and mental power are commendable and I encourage you to remai... (read in full...)
Since I refused to do things he's seen in porn he wants nothing to do with me
Q. My bf watch too much porn and he gets himself relief by watching but he still want to have sex with me and wanted to do it from behind but I won't let him and he doesn't understand when I tell him no. He tells me I'm no fun, I did what he wanted me ...
A. 5 July 2014: Are you referring to anal sex? Because if you are, I suggest you say to him, “Honey I’ve seen this porn actor take it from behind and it looks like fun for you guys... How about I get a cucumber (Lebanese) or a strap on dildo and whack it up your ... (read in full...)
I lost respect for him when he told me about his experience with hookers
Q. Today I have found out something about my boyfriend's past that has really bothered me. We've been dating only around 5 months now but it's getting to the point where it's pretty serious and we're actually going on holiday together for a week in a ...
A. 4 July 2014: Of all the exotic places in the sun he (and his mates) chose Thailand for a holiday 10 years ago (5,847miles away)...
From what has been said, it doesn’t tell me he had a keen interest in the Asian culture and history at the time, but for Thai... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has double standards ..
Q. Hi everyone! I have been with my bf for almost a year. Long story short, I went drinking with our mutual friends (he was not present) last week and he got mad with me. True, we did drink But within the circle of 6 friends, we only shared 3 bottles ...
A. 4 July 2014: A piss pot and a quick temper... Was he concerned for your welfare, the dear pet? How about you tell him to shut his cake hole (mouth) and shove his double standard social drinking BS down the toilet!
You don’t use tact for his type of imposing... (read in full...)
I'm in turmoil. I love my husband, so do I stay with him or move in with my lover?
Q. I've been having an affair with a co-worker for the past 6 months behind my husband's back. I'll admit, our marriage has become a bit stale in the bedroom department, all my husband talks about is bills, paying the next bill, financial st...
A. 4 July 2014: Women have different reasons for having affairs... The thing is you needed someone to revitalise you from the mundane rituals of life and all that IRS talk and retirement planning... You needed attention and you got that up to a point with lover ... (read in full...)
Do I have to go to bed the same time as my girlfriend every night?
Q. I don't have to get up early, but on 4 days a week my partner does have to. She doesn't like me going to bed at a different time as her.The thing is, it's very rare I want to stay up watching TV in the living room when she goes to bed.If it was all ...
A. 4 July 2014: NO it’s not OK to disturb your sleep for her Adult children can text at a sensible hour! As if her ADULT children don’t know if they’re coming or going before 1 AM! It’s flippin’ ridiculous!
Personally I don’t like my sleep broken after years of... (read in full...)
How do I feel less ugly after being ditched on a date twice?
Q. This is the second time I've been ditched/stood up on a date in the past few months and it's really disheartening. I was meant to be having casual drinks with a guy at a bar, conversation was a bit stunted, but I tried my best to keep it flowing. I ...
A. 4 July 2014: Chin up Ingrid; sometimes we have to kiss a few Toads along the way before our Prince comes along...
Meanwhile try to develop your conversation skills with some basic topics so there are no flat line moments of silence. Remember a few jokes to... (read in full...)
Frightened for mom's visit, how do I come clean about my relationship??
Q. I'll try to keep this very long story short. Ever since 16, dating has been discouraged by my parents who are strict, school oriented and religious. (note: I was an honor roll student in highschool, award winner, 4.1 GPA, currently studying ...
A. 3 July 2014: Perfectionists are like a tight piece of string constantly stressed and waiting for the tension to break or be relaxed. It’s like being on watch 24/7 so you don’t get caught for having a flaw or fail someone who has high expectations of you or your ... (read in full...)
Should I move out of state with my husband and try to reconcile our marriage?
Q. My husband and I got married rather quickly after meeting and falling in love (within 6 months) and have been married for over 2 years now. We have a sweet one year old daughter. We are a Christian family, and I have difficulty considering divorce ...
A. 3 July 2014: Moving is simply geography! Our problems will follow us as sure as the head is attached to our shoulders.
The issues your Husband has will not give him or you a fresh start! His vanity, those insecurities and signs of jealousy are part of his p... (read in full...)
My dad is pushing his girlfriend down my throat
Q. hi. I have a problem with my dads girlfriend. I barley know her and my dad keeps pushing her down my throat(not literally). just a month ago he told me they were engaged. it seems like now she is taking him away from everything he once held dear. ...
A. 2 July 2014: For whatever was lacking in the marriage between your Dad and Mom, he has basically found someone he can perhaps be himself with. Her influence may well be what your Dad needs or needed to come alive. (Hopefully they’re both level headed about ... (read in full...)
My friends betrayed me when I was vulnerable
Q. Hi everybody, I'm guessing I'm going to get a lot of opinions on this question, I'm feeling pretty rubbish about it and I understand I was irresponsible. Please don't answer my questions with insults or lectures as I've had that off my parents and ...
A. 1 July 2014: Well Caring Aunty A certainly has been sozzled and pickled a few times in her day! In a time when Mobiles, Facebook, and the Internet didn’t exist :)
By the sounds of it you had a ripper of a night Girl; Happy 21st! But you can’t remember... (read in full...)
I was wrong, I cheated and how do I turn things around?
Q. I cheated on my wife with another woman, she's 29, and now the thrill has worn off. She moans about bills and laundry, and once in anger said "Go back to your ex-wife". Well, I'm still legally married to her, but I quit the marriage for this other ...
A. 1 July 2014: Selena Brunette vs. Brandi Blonde; 2 good looking women but both present problems… One has an eBay addiction which you financed and failed to put your foot down and she allowed herself to look dowdy; the other moans out of the bedroom but is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wont take responsibility for his actions!
Q. Hi all. When my boyfriend has had too much to drink he can be very argumentative, he misunderstands things I say. Last week he asked a stupid question and I gave a stupid answer, he got angry, when I tried to explain he said he never said that. Then ...
A. 30 June 2014: He may well be a good mentor and leader at work, but that has nothing to do with home life and how he performers in his relationship. He may well hide his obnoxious drinking behaviour from staff and be the good guy, but not from his girlfriend!? His ... (read in full...)
Etiquette for sex and periods??
Q. I have recently got a new boyfriend, everything's going well, but I have a question so looking for some advice for people in the same situation. We have a lot of sex, which is great, I'm loving it, especially after having none for a good few years...
A. 28 June 2014: To address the etiquette or custom shall we say, is has been practiced through the centuries to actually abstain for a time when a woman has her period cycle.
That of course is so we don’t interfere or interrupt what nature needs to eliminat... (read in full...)
I called off the wedding. But how do I get past the guilt if I leave him?
Q. I was until recently, engaged to be married. I called off the wedding because my fiancé yells a lot, is very stressed (life choices, poor planning, disorganization, plus regular stresses of job, kids, etc.), blames me and others for everything, ...
A. 27 June 2014: You are feeling guilty for the minuet small times and moments of the relationship that were good! Guilt can also be felt when a relationship comes to an end; in that, how this all could have been better or avoided if only… IF ONLY he didn’t blame, ... (read in full...)
I caught my boyfriend on dating website with profile. He denies it. Do I tell him to take a hike?
Q. Hello So my bf of 3yrs was caught on a dating site. My friend happened to ne on the same site and alerted me. I confronted him and he had some lame excuse for being on it. I asked if he had met anyone off of there, and he said no of course. He sa...
A. 26 June 2014: The time and energy it must have taken him to create a profile leads me to believe this is no idle curiosity, but he is researching the dating field to date… Presently he’s window-shopping!? If one subscribes to a website it would ‘generally’ ... (read in full...)
He went away without me and I feel like I need to even the score
Q. My BF of a year and a half is away for a month. Visiting family in South America. I am not going because I have no $$. He knows this and still went for a month without me. I am hurt and jealous and annoyed. It comes after several rocky months of him ...
A. 26 June 2014: Speaking of even up the score… Isn’t the FIFA Soccer being played in South America – Brazil?
At home the match is between Boyfriend vs. Girlfriend and the score is 1 – NIL
If you wish to play this game (to even the score) on an already rocky fo... (read in full...)
I need him right now but he's not there for me
Q. I'm having a hard time finding a job which is really affecting me emotionally and financially. My parents are splitting up my dad moved out yesterday on my mums birthday:(. and my mum won't talk about it. He's moving in with another woman. B...
A. 23 June 2014: Of all the Birthday gifts one could give, your Dad topped it by spending it on a Divorce by moving in with another woman! Flowers would have been cheaper? I’m sad that you and your Mum have this pain :( I know you would like to share this with ... (read in full...)
My husband always was an agressive man but his cancer has made him worse!
Q. Im so sad, very very sad, help me please. My husband is a cancer patient. Before this illness come, he is already soooo loud and so aggressive but it get more worst now that he is in this situation. My problem is, aside from being so loud and ...
A. 22 June 2014: If you can afford to rent an apartment close by, I think that will be your saving grace… I have implemented this myself and it worked for me. I believe it will save you additional stress, give you an escape from the abuse to recharge your batteries ... (read in full...)
He is pressuring me for anal sex and he is out of my league anyway......
Q. I have just turned eighteen years old and I have been with my boyfriend for about six months. Recently he's been pressuring me to have anal sex with him. He goes on and on about it even though I've said no several times. He doesn't respect my ...
A. 22 June 2014: Due to the influence of him watching anal porn, it’s plain to see where he gets his ideas, he’s trying to pressure and use you like a D class actor… I read somewhere that anal sex actors are commonly paid far less than those other actors who simply ... (read in full...)
I've been faking it for a year and don't know how to tell him, so I'm thinking about breaking up with him so I don't have to explain!
Q. Hi. I need help! Background info: 25 years old, up until very recently I thought that I was incapable of orgasm, I thought maybe something was wrong with me because I've never orgasmed during sex, figured out that I'm pretty normal and can only ...
A. 20 June 2014: 1 minute x average 2.5/week over 1 year = 130minutes 130 FAKE ORGASMS! Ooch!
If he thinks a woman is truly satisfied in e.g. a minute (or 3), he’s either faking he hasn’t PE (premature ejaculation) or he’s a ‘dud root’ (Aussie for slack lover) w... (read in full...)
Why do so many women have issues with men watching porn?
Q. I'm just a bit curious. I dont understand why some women get mad just because they caught their husbands/bfs watching porn? what's the deal? I used to watch porn with my bf, I dont see the big deal... It doesnt bother me... but why does it bother o...
A. 20 June 2014: You may not see the “big deal…” Just browse our Pornography 2641 postings; to see why some women get mad, if you are truly interested in learning about how this subject affects wives and impacts on their families!?
I don’t get mad; I simply d... (read in full...)
Was the choice I made cowardly or sensible?
Q. A few nights ago, I took my girlfriend out to eat. It was about 1:30 in the morning when we left home, and yes there are restaurants open at that time. I've never personally been to the place but my friend recommend it with high praise. We were on ...
A. 19 June 2014: Certainly her choice of words was not the best at that given time. But as you agree; it took a moment for her to catch herself, be that from SHOCK, surprise, WTF just happened, the look on your face etc… she then started laughing = A nervous ... (read in full...)
He seems awfully close to his ex
Q. So I've been dating this guy for a month almost to. Him and his ex just recently broke up. And he's still friends with her. They talk every single day and all day! Even when he's with me sometimes. They dated for over a year and lived together. ...
A. 18 June 2014: If you seriously believe his cockamamie BS stories you’ve played right into his hands… He’s playing you for a fool; running low on gas, what a crock load of cow manure!?
Gees this guy could sure fertilize The Sahara Desert with his shyte!
... (read in full...)
How can I accept being ugly?
Q. How can I accept being ugly? I'm too old to be wondering this. But I'm ugly, as a kid I felt awkward about my appearance and high school was hell with all the bullying. There are things I can change, like lose a little weight, take care of my ...
A. 18 June 2014: I’m not sure if this is (100%) accurate; but I have heard of Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD). It may prove insightful to read and understand why you perceive yourself as unattractive and to seek treatment before this becomes severe or disabling?
... (read in full...)
How do you know when men just want a break and when they want to end things
Q. How can you tell if a guy wants to "take a break" in a relationship because he's not sure you can make each other happy? Or if he's just trying to let you down easily and not feel so guilty? Me and the boyfriend of two years have been arguing a l...
A. 17 June 2014: Ditto Wise Owl E; Listen to what he says angrily; "I’ll make this really clear to you - I don't think it's going to work between us"
If you’re acting so needy because he’s emotionally detached, evidently you’re not getting what you emotiona... (read in full...)
Has anyone else ever felt this way after having an abortion?
Q. I'm looking for some advice from anyone who might have been in my situation or know someone who has. I've come to understand it's a far more common situation to be in than I had once believed. I had an abortion 3 weeks ago. At first I felt gla...
A. 17 June 2014: Please disregard your partner’s advice; he’s quoting from what I call; the inapt male medical journal of how to overcome the haunting of an abortion in silence! He is best to learn from this experience that a woman needs to be allowed to talk in ... (read in full...)
Is it inappropriate for your boyfriend to hang out with other females one on one?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 10 months now. He is 30 and I am 21. We are currently trialling living together (I have not officially moved all my stuff in). We have a bit of an issue about friends of the opposite sex. I don't really have ...
A. 16 June 2014: Since the subject has come up; I guess now is a good time as any to start talking and giving reasons about these females? I believe he now has good reason to tell you about them; considering you’re currently trailing living together!
Sure enough i... (read in full...)
I want to go to my boyfriend's mother's wedding but my OCD puts me off the pets in her house, what do I do?
Q. It is my boyfriend's mother's wedding and I am invited to go. If I go, I would need to stay at her house. She lives in another country. There are no hotels or even transportation around, not to mention it is one of the more expensive countries in ...
A. 13 June 2014: You don’t have to have OCD in terms of cleanliness when it comes to staying a week in a menagerie of family pets; I’d cringe at the thought of friendly Porkers and the smell of wet dogs too… It makes me think of a famous Inn and stable in ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex now or later?
Q. I love this guy so much and I know he loves me.......we've been dating since November last year(2013), seriously, i can't wait 2 have sex with him ( we're still virgins)... My question is, should i have sex now or later(but I'm afraid, he might ...
A. 13 June 2014: Yes I see how much he loves you…
He loves you so much that he’s interested in losing his virginity to another girl if you don’t put out for him first.
Why would there be another girl in the picture to fear, if he totally loves you?
I gathe... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's dad told him we were sleeping together! We aren't!
Q. I met my boyfriend's dad last year. We have been friends and that's the extent of the relationship. Recently his dad said in front of me and him that I have been sleeping with dad. Why would he say this? Now I have major issue with boyfriend. ...
A. 13 June 2014: This to me is CREEPY… and your boyfriend actually believes his Dad and thinks he can’t trust you!?
What’s there to straighten out? Both of them are INSANE!
WaLoS – CAA
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Can tall girls get away with heels?
Q. I am 6 feet (183cm) tall and u sometimes wear heels Should tall girls wear heels what do you think ??? ...
A. 13 June 2014: I’ve autographed many a doorway with my forehead in my time especially throughout Europe… and that’s with wearing flat shoes! I’ve also been asked countless times; “…how tall are you?” Which I reply with a smile; “buy me and drink and I’ll tell ... (read in full...)
We're on a break because he thinks he can't make me happy
Q. My boyfriend of a year and a half and I decided to take an 8 week break this week. We have been arguing a lot because of my insecurity. He is INTP {introversion, intuition, thinking, perception - Moderator} personality and he doesn't feel that he ...
A. 13 June 2014: INTP or XYZ personality won’t make it worthwhile in the long run if you don’t address the (unspecified) insecurities that you have, be you with him INTP or somebody else XYZ, in the future. Take care to sort out your jealousy, as it is a most ... (read in full...)
I've been having sex with other men with my husband's consent. Anyone else been there, done that? Has it worked out for you?
Q. I have been having sex with other men because it is a turn on for my husband and he wants me to do it. At first I thought that this was some kind of entrapment scheme he was getting me into but I soon found out he was serious. The first few ...
A. 12 June 2014: It worked out well for my friends who entered the Swingers lifestyle for reasons of their own in their mid-30’s… I think it was more for therapeutic reasons and a bit of adventure, knowing their background.
Today they’re just a regular couple c... (read in full...)
I feel like I have had a snapshot of my B/f and his life and want out of the relationship.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend about 5 months now and over the last couple of weeks I have been staying at his while some major repairs are being done to my home. I noticed some 'odd' behaviours in my boyfriend (who is 39) right at the start when I ...
A. 12 June 2014: Your heart is in the right place OP, for fear of upsetting his upcoming 40th Birthday… Just take care not to give him false hope in the meantime…
There’d be nothing insensitive or cruel about saying what you need to say and then keep it as frien... (read in full...)
I feel like I have had a snapshot of my B/f and his life and want out of the relationship.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend about 5 months now and over the last couple of weeks I have been staying at his while some major repairs are being done to my home. I noticed some 'odd' behaviours in my boyfriend (who is 39) right at the start when I ...
A. 11 June 2014: How fortunate to receive 2 snapshots in one; his life of odd bizarre behavioral habits and your own set of challenges if you were to stay with him…
I would not be too distort by calling it a day; 5 months is a World Guinness Record for him, he ... (read in full...)
We've been together for four years but he's still active on the dating site he joined behind my back!
Q. My boyfriend and I are in our early fifties and been together for almost four years. Our relationship is mostly see each other on weekends.We had an erratic relationship most of the first three years, and had broken up last year on new year's eve ...
A. 10 June 2014: I think what’s he got to lose? If he knows you’ll walk if and when he screws up again, he’s playing his cards accordingly.
I don’t particularly relate to; keeping in contact with all his Ex’s even after 2 dates… This is like keeping them as an op... (read in full...)
When and how are you supposed to know when the end to a relationship is coming?
Q. I wonder , now my ex girlfriend, I thought every thing was going fantastic, then one day in the park she said it was over, out of the blue. So what am asking, when and how are you supposed to know, when it is coming, I treated her good, her ex beat ...
A. 10 June 2014: I think you missed the queue card; it was over before it began!?
This wasn’t out of the blue as you may think… It’s the devil she knows; the ex beating her, the comfort she obtains from drinking, being accepted in and around a familiar environm... (read in full...)
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