I know my self esteem is low. But his list of "RULES" is so long. What should I do about his verbal abuse?
Q. Dear Cupid I know the post is long, please read it through and help me. I have been with this person for 3 years, I cook, clean after him, work and pay 3/4 of expenses at home, get him nice gifts for his birthdays and Christmas, never ask...
A. 11 April 2013: Even Introverts have a backbone to leave a relationship like this one… I read you’re a glutton for punishment, even when he’d be relieved if you left.
Is there something medically stopping you from understanding this from him? Or do you need to ... (read in full...)
I am not excited about my boyfriend's teenage daughter possibly moving in with him!
Q. I met a wonderful guy 3 years ago, we both wanted the same things had similar visions for our future. My children have left home but his are still teenagers that live with their mum, so understand we cant go travelling yet until they turn 18. I was ...
A. 11 April 2013: Ever noticed how a baby cries in their Mother’s arms, and then reaches out for their Father to take them and visa versa? Similar thing happens with teenagers when they’re rebelling at home and not getting their own way. They’re reaching out to ... (read in full...)
Sex after marriage vs sex if in a long term relationship, what is right?
Q. I'm in college, have never slept with anyone/had a boyfriend and I'm still undecided as to whether to do so before I get married (I'm also Christian though I wasn't raised religious). I would never sleep around but at the moment I feel it's unfair ...
A. 10 April 2013: PROS: No STD/pregnancy AND makes it more special. Note: The guy’s commitment is to ‘abstain’ from doing it. Establishing friendship, a good foundation and mutual respect, discovering what excites one another without comparisons or baggage.
CONS:... (read in full...)
Depressed after break-up, how do I move on?
Q. Hey all, My boyfriend and I of 2 years recently broke up and I just feel so depressed and lonely. The only friends I had were his friends and now that we broke up I've really lost everyone and I feel so alone. He seems to be so happy and everything ...
A. 8 April 2013: First impression I get from your post lovelydreamer is that; The only friends I had were his friends… This appears that you have relied on him too much, and have not developed or kept a social network of friends of your own? No one person should be ... (read in full...)
How can I get along with my child's father?
Q. How can we get along? Me and my daughters dad HATE eachother we can not have a conversation with out cursing and drama and its interfering with our co parenting we tried the only talking about our child but it always lead to the arguing and disr...
A. 8 April 2013: Consistency, perseverance and commitment are the answer. Plus you’ll have to compartmentalise your hatred as it’s what draws you into arguing with him. Doesn’t matter who starts; you just respond and finish it in a respectful manner. Otherwise ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't like sex, won't let me have someone else. I'm at my rope's end!
Q. Me and my wife have been married for 5 years now, she was 30 and I was 25. She wanted to wait until we were married to have sex, for religious reasons. I was ok with this because I always try to be a gentleman. I was her first boyfriend, and there ...
A. 4 March 2013: OK, let’s not complicate this matter with introducing a female friend into the plot… So far the personal and gynaecologist techniques have not been working? Yet by repeating this over and over in the last 5 years; how can one expect a change ... (read in full...)
How do I get to the point where I can trust my fiance again?
Q. I dont mean to keep repeating myself, but im living in complete agony. Ever since I found out that my fiance flirted with a girl on a jobsite and got her number. And then text her and called her beautiful. Him and. I have been together seven years ...
A. 2 March 2013: I’d have serious doubts running through my mind… A red flag has appeared just moments from walking down the aisle. It’s certainly not how I would have envisaged my/our special day. I’d need to have 100% confidence. Since you know him best; how wo... (read in full...)
Any tips on coping with the stress and co-parenting with a jerk?
Q. Majorly stressed out with work. I work from home so my son doesn't have to go to daycare full time-but this means that 4 hours of my work day, he is here (makes it very hard to get work done!) My job is very stressful and doesn't pay well. Anyw...
A. 27 February 2013: First things first; you got to look after your health anonymous. With having work and a young child at home; scheduling times for work and devoted playtime with your son would have to change to accomplish a balance. Would it be possible for fam... (read in full...)
Is he bored with me? I caught him yanking off in bed next to me!
Q. I have been in a relationship with a man who was married for over 20 years. The last 7 years it was a sexless marriage. We happen to have sex very often but there are times where I find porn on his phone and have caught him a few times masturbati...
A. 27 February 2013: I am sorry but this scenario is in the millions and counting. How should you really feel; I do not know… But more succinct would be; ‘how do you feel’? If it were I waking up next to my man like this, without the porn on his phone; I’d feel ... (read in full...)
My girl friend prefers to sit on the couch and eat. Will not clean unless I am beside her cleaning too. She's lazy and not a team player. What can I do?
Q. Hi, so I am 21 years old. I've been with my girlfriend for about a year now. Let me first say that she is a great girl. She sweet, funny, loyal, worships the ground I walk on and would follow me anywhere. And so would I. But the problem I'm ha...
A. 25 February 2013: Here you have described the traits of a lazy person in the making and a sloth to date. Although given her age and inexperience in this domestic area I’ll submit to a little flexibility. My question is; what was the example set by her parents? It’... (read in full...)
For how long am I expected to work at making this work?
Q. Hi. I have some relationship probelms, including my bf's financial probelms, having to bail him out, the nagging ex wife and massive fights he has with her and so on. She even sent me thretening messages. We don't live together so althogh I get ...
A. 25 February 2013: Because you don’t live together this could go on for another 20 years! It’s something that happens inside us when we see them, our world comes together for peace sake, and when a part we get angry because nothing’s resolved. Distance is what’s ... (read in full...)
Guys, do you compare gfs with porn actresses and think about them in sex?
Q. guys, be honest, do you compare your gf's body to those of the women you see in porn? and do you have mental images of the women you watch in porn when you're making love with your gf? thanks for any answers :)...
A. 25 February 2013: Excellent Question Anonymous! It’s succinct and concise.
It’s something that plagues a woman’s mind about her male or a males thinking…
It simply requires a YES and or NO to answer :)
Good Luck with getting short answers
Cheers CAA
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Could I have a little "Green" in my eyes?
Q. Im currently in a long distance lesbian relationship. Nancy (girlfriend) is wonderful to me. I feel insecure about my weight. Im a big girl. I keep getting this sick feeling in my chest that Nancy may be losing interest in me. When I visit her we ...
A. 24 February 2013: What I understand is; Celia has a boyfriend, which suggests to me she is heterosexual – straight; and you are the romantic between you and Nancy?
Even though this DVD holds sentimental value to you (or both); it still is a ‘chick movie’ where pe... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to go away travelling. Will our relationship survive?
Q. Hi there I am really in need of some advice and possibly just pointing me in the right direction! I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 months and it's going really well. He was recently made redundant but has quite a bit of money and wants to ...
A. 24 February 2013: It’s understandable that you’d miss him… and feel a bit insecure about your relationship. However this is just one of those things that happen in life where timing is out of sync for both of you to travel.
Although if there is nothing stopping... (read in full...)
Should I leave my boyfriend because of his addiction to cyber sex?
Q. Hello Dear Cupids I discovered my boyfriend had been emailing female contacts he has on yahoo and also paltalk, to talk about sex. I discovered after I checked his computer after he had repeatedly clicked off the screen quickly when I came in t...
A. 23 February 2013: This case scenario is in the millions and counting You can be as open-minded, incredibly adventurous in bed, talk often and fantasise together as such as you like; yet there’s always going to be a ‘BUT clause’ in this relationship whilst he turns ... (read in full...)
A no contact story
Q. This is an interesting little story that happened to me which shows when you just stop things change! Two years ago my husband and I had a massive row. It tore us apart as he sided with his family against me and I could never forgive him for this...
A. 23 February 2013: I certainly can relate to your story from experience. This reminded me of a nursery rhyme; …leave them alone and they’ll come home, wagging their tails behind them… :) Thank you Anonymous Cheers CAA ... (read in full...)
Should my ex-sister in law and I start a real relationship?
Q. My wife and I split up a few years ago. We are still friends, there is no relationship. Recently after her mom passed away, I went to her mom's house to help ready the house for sale. Her brother and his wife showed up to help. The brother'...
A. 23 February 2013: Unless I missed something – I apologise; you omitted to mention any children… One can only surmise a person’s underlying character in this situation; one that dis/regards what their children will suffer from this sordid affair!? Which one are you? ... (read in full...)
Would you pay? It was a change she required prior to the holiday. But then she expected to pay for part of her additional cost.
Q. Would you pay? I went on a trip with someone who I knew from work for quite a bit, but can't call her a friend. We bought air fare separately but hotel she booked. We had different flights and I arrived later to find out that hotel now costs twic...
A. 22 February 2013: There are those that think an additional 20% is not a big deal; others may think it’s a matter for her to take responsibility for her mistake – error, and or a matter of etiquette!? Given that you are not blaming her entirely; as you forked out t... (read in full...)
My husband won't help with the housework and verbally abuses me
Q. my husband and i have been together for 12 years although we have only been married 1 year i raised his daughter and now i am rasing his three grandchildren whom i love dearly problem being he dont help me with housework he thinks he dont do ...
A. 28 January 2013: When a person is on any form of substance abuse, you are not dealing with the true individual period! Their ability to see reason is void! That is, your requests will fall on deaf ears! Once his addiction is addressed, only then will you stand a ... (read in full...)
I've been married 18 years and have attracted a new butterfly. What do I do about my wife and son?
Q. hi,i'm 48 yr old man, been married 18 yrs, one child, 3 months ago i meant a woman, 45 yrs old, it started out with a casual flirt which later ended up with lunch dates everyday for a month, during our lunch encounters we learned we basically are ...
A. 28 January 2013: So you (temporarily) found a butterfly aged 45; with the same high libido as yourself? Give it another two years when her menopause – Nature kicks in, and we’ll see what you write then!? I agree with CMMP; “you'll find thousands of stories just ... (read in full...)
We are married but separated and husband has signed up for dating site. What steps do I take now?
Q. Hello I've had problems since I married and moved in together (been married 2 years. We have taken a 'break' where he has moved out. I find im a happier on my own, no stress of arguing about how much he drinks each evening, him not going to bed...
A. 23 January 2013: He simply isn’t making any effort because he is distracted elsewhere by being signed up to a local dating site! Actions speak louder than words! Yet in the course of your 2 year marriage and within those three weeks; he has spoken volumes of his ... (read in full...)
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