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writes:Ok, so my bf went to a party with his friends the other night, while I was out with my friends. When I was on my way home, my bus broke down and I had to wait for another bus in a sketchy neighbourhood, alone, in the dark. I called my bf to keep me company on the phone while I waited for the next bus. He said he was about to eat dinner with his friends so he couldn't talk. While I understand that he was busy, is it wrong for me to feel that my safety should have been more important to him? My bf is a good guy, but I often feel that when it comes to things like this, he doesn't take it seriously enough. Once when we went to a concert he got his friend to give him a ride back to his place on the other side of the city, while I had to take the subway by myself again in the night and alone, and I had some creepy encounters with some guys that night. Am I right for feeling like he should be more concerned about this kind of stuff, or am I just overreacting? It doesn't help that I'm also only 5'1!
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reader, boo22  +, writes (26 July 2009):
 Hi there, I'm sorry to say but i would've dumped him for both or either of those scenarios. I wouldn't let my female friend go home on her own like you describe and i'm a woman. If he's like this now what will he be like a few years on? He sounds like a waste of space.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): Yes it is not good for any person, male or female to be in a bad neighborhood alone at night. But
Your bf probably felt like being on the phone with him wasn't going to make you any safer. Did you remind him that that way, if anything happens, he could be there to hear it and do something about it?
I'm guessing he's lived a shelterd life? Doesn't watch the news? Doesn't have any troubled friends? Sounds like he doesn't believe that bad thigns really do happen if you're not careful. Surely there is some way you can shine a light on him and make him realize? It's likely that he just doesn't understand where you're coming frm, so try not to be mad at him so much, as to try and help him see the truth.
And tell him honestly how you feel, if you have not already. And let him know that even if it's nothign that's important to him, and nothing that he can understand, to please consider that it's important to YOU. And in relationships, each person should take eachother's priorities into consideration, even if we don't completely understand,
~Sy.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (25 July 2009):
 you need to speak to your boyfriend about his lack of his care towards your safety, maybe he doesnt realise how much this effects you.
your not overreacting, next time you have some moments ask him to call you to see if you have reached safetly home.
if he loves you he would do it.
good luck!
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