He Likes me or He likes me Not
Q. I recently met a man online. On our first date, we met for tea and kept it short as he had another business meeting to attend that day. He then arranged for a very romantic dinner on our second date and we talked for 3 hours. We kissed and hugged. ...
A. 18 September 2012: I know it is hard. I had to do the same thing with a boyfriend of 7 years. It was very difficult and I failed several times before actually sticking to the no contact. I kept hoping that he would change, but he never did. Hang in there...and ... (read in full...)
He Likes me or He likes me Not
Q. I recently met a man online. On our first date, we met for tea and kept it short as he had another business meeting to attend that day. He then arranged for a very romantic dinner on our second date and we talked for 3 hours. We kissed and hugged. ...
A. 17 September 2012: You're not seeing him, you're barely communicating with him, and when he does have free time, he isn't proactive about making plans with you. It sounds like he is stringing you along. I would end it.... (read in full...)
His wife only wants him back because she knows he was happy with me
Q. Please help i'm in a muddle! when i started my new job last year i met a lovely bloke in 1 of my calls. we always got on well and chatted. he told me he was married with children and i always asked after them its was strictly professional but i ad...
A. 7 September 2012: I think that is the key to your entire situation. He involved himself in a relationship before taking care of the other one first. One I first read your story, my initial reaction is that he should have taken time to work through the issues and ... (read in full...)
His wife only wants him back because she knows he was happy with me
Q. Please help i'm in a muddle! when i started my new job last year i met a lovely bloke in 1 of my calls. we always got on well and chatted. he told me he was married with children and i always asked after them its was strictly professional but i ad...
A. 7 September 2012: Don't feel like a fool. You had no way of knowing this would happen. I think you just had the misfortune of getting in the middle of a bad situation. It doesn't exactly sounds as if he wants to return to his wife. It sounds like he is doing it ... (read in full...)
Am I being used or Shes really busy?
Q. I recently knew Ms.XXX for 6months.I been asking Ms.XXX if she likes me; but I been getting "I don't know" as answer. Ms.XXX knows i love her and We been going out dining for the few months until Ms.XXX started working as a financial planner....
A. 7 September 2012: I would consider giving her an ultimatum. Either we start to spend more time together or I leave until we can get this worked out. It sounds like she is not a very personable person.... (read in full...)
Should I just ignore her?
Q. Hi guys.. I'm having this issue with my boyfriend right now.. I've been with him on-off for a year or so.. and he's got 3 girls on facebook that has a crush on him.. and he even admitted that.. And now, one of the girls added me and said th...
A. 7 September 2012: It just depends on how much of this drama you can take in your life. It does not sound like he is going to change his behavior and things will continue as normal. Right now, you may not be tired of dealing with all of it, but when you do grow ... (read in full...)
It hurts to feel this way about my teacher
Q. i am a 13 year old girl and i really like a teacher at school but i really do not want to feel this way because it really hurts i often dream about her i know nothing can ever happen but i do no no what to do because it is really awkward around her ...
A. 6 September 2012: Why does it hurt you to feel this way? Enjoy her company while you have her as a teacher. She doesn't know how you feel, so why feel awkward? Enjoy fantasizing about her...no one has to know about it but you!... (read in full...)
Worried about meeting the guy my friend tried to set me up with
Q. In February my friend wanted to 'set me up' with her friend from college which i was okay about at first but then i changed my mind as i wasn't ready for a relationship. We've been speaking since then but haven't met yet (were meeting on monday as i ...
A. 6 September 2012: Just relax and go for fun. You don't have to date the guy...just look at it like you're meeting a new person and want to enlarge your circle of friends. You're not under any pressure to go out with him again or even be his friend. That's the cool ... (read in full...)
His wife only wants him back because she knows he was happy with me
Q. Please help i'm in a muddle! when i started my new job last year i met a lovely bloke in 1 of my calls. we always got on well and chatted. he told me he was married with children and i always asked after them its was strictly professional but i ad...
A. 6 September 2012: All you really can do is step back and see what happens. The problem is, you really care about him and if you wait around on him, you could be waiting for quite some time. I agree with the others that it is hard for a man to walk away when kids ... (read in full...)
Am I being used or Shes really busy?
Q. I recently knew Ms.XXX for 6months.I been asking Ms.XXX if she likes me; but I been getting "I don't know" as answer. Ms.XXX knows i love her and We been going out dining for the few months until Ms.XXX started working as a financial planner....
A. 6 September 2012: Oh, never mind...I thought it was her insurance, but it was actually yours. In that case, what I said is not important on that aspect. But, I would tell her you are leaving if things don't improve...and if she doesn't improve them, I would stick ... (read in full...)
Am I being used or Shes really busy?
Q. I recently knew Ms.XXX for 6months.I been asking Ms.XXX if she likes me; but I been getting "I don't know" as answer. Ms.XXX knows i love her and We been going out dining for the few months until Ms.XXX started working as a financial planner....
A. 6 September 2012: I would break it off with her. There is a thing as being busy or having busy times in life or with a job, but a relationship should be your soft spot to land during such times...not something to put on the back burner or avoid. Texting does not ... (read in full...)
Should I get the gastric bypass surgery done?
Q. I'm 16 almost 17, I have always been overweight and at this time in my life I think I'm ready to move forward and start working to lose my weight. I'm in the 300s and I'd really love to lose this. I know people are going to say your young and w...
A. 6 September 2012: Also, I used to weigh 205, I now weigh 158. I still exercise when I can, only if it is just using my handweights here at home. You can do it...you just have to make up your mind that that is what you want. The thing that changed me the most was ... (read in full...)
Should I get the gastric bypass surgery done?
Q. I'm 16 almost 17, I have always been overweight and at this time in my life I think I'm ready to move forward and start working to lose my weight. I'm in the 300s and I'd really love to lose this. I know people are going to say your young and w...
A. 6 September 2012: My mom wanted to get this surgery and my response was that if you don't have the will power now, how is getting surgery going to help you? You are still not going to have the will power.
I was overweight all through high school. I weighed ... (read in full...)
I'm still in love but can't take the hurt anymore
Q. How do get over this guy I am still very much in love with? He says that he loves me too and I believe that he is be cuase we did grow up together and have been friends since birth. However we just recently got into a relationship six months ago ...
A. 6 September 2012: That is the hardest part, especially with all the ways to communicate these days. I worked with my ex and seeing him and having to communicate yet trying to move on was one of the most difficult things I had to do. ... (read in full...)
Am I being used or Shes really busy?
Q. I recently knew Ms.XXX for 6months.I been asking Ms.XXX if she likes me; but I been getting "I don't know" as answer. Ms.XXX knows i love her and We been going out dining for the few months until Ms.XXX started working as a financial planner....
A. 6 September 2012: I agree with the others and would let her go. If a girl likes you, she will go out of her way to be with you, be near you, and communicate with you. She does not seem interested.... (read in full...)
Is she telling the truth about miscarrying?
Q. A girl i was seeing told me she was pregnant with my child and after stating her reasons she decided to terminate it as she said he wasnt mature enough or financially ready to bring up a child and also since alot of stuff had gone on between us she ...
A. 6 September 2012: I am not sure, but I am not sure it matters. When women are in this situation, they will do what they feel is best for themselves at the time. No disrespect, but this is why people preach about using protection...because when these things happen ... (read in full...)
What can I say to get him to stop?
Q. I split up with my boyfriend last week, we had the stupidest argument he ignored me for a day and told me he didn't want to see me again. He rang me the next day and I ignored him, I set up my facebook account again because he asked me to delete it ...
A. 6 September 2012: SVC is right on. Every time you communicate him you fuel the fire. You cannot communicate with these guys. When you communicate, you give them confidence that they still have you wrapped around their littler finger. As SVC says, block him on ... (read in full...)
How do I get over anger from a troubled relationship?
Q. How can I get over this? Sorry for the ramble in advance. So it seems I'm at the end of a very troubled relationship. Me and my boyfriend have gone out for almost a year this month. He moved in with me in Dec. Since around January we've had...
A. 6 September 2012: I agree with HoneyPie. You have got to get rid of this guy once and for all. He is an emotional and physical vampire sucking out every last ounce of life and energy you have. Do you not see that? Why would you hold onto someone like this?
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Should I just ignore her?
Q. Hi guys.. I'm having this issue with my boyfriend right now.. I've been with him on-off for a year or so.. and he's got 3 girls on facebook that has a crush on him.. and he even admitted that.. And now, one of the girls added me and said th...
A. 5 September 2012: I wouldn't like it. It sounds as if he is spending a lot of time with or on other girls that he could be spending with/on you. I wouldn't dismiss this as just something he does for fun. You always have to gadge how much the relationship is adding ... (read in full...)
LDR break up because of my neediness
Q. It's a typical story. Of a needy girl. I shall begin with 2010. Back then I was with a guy for almost two years, we lived together and bought a new apartment which was not yet ready. I saw it as a very stable relationship so I basically let my...
A. 5 September 2012: Were you like that before he moved away? Or was this a consequence of the distance? I think that this can be a good opportunity for you to consider why you act this way and what you can do to change. No man wants that much attention and control ... (read in full...)
I'm still in love but can't take the hurt anymore
Q. How do get over this guy I am still very much in love with? He says that he loves me too and I believe that he is be cuase we did grow up together and have been friends since birth. However we just recently got into a relationship six months ago ...
A. 5 September 2012: He is doing it to get a response from you and it is working. If he gets a response from you, then he understands that you are still willing to communicate with him and that indirectly, he can control you, your thoughts, and your feelings.
The t... (read in full...)
LDR break up because of my neediness
Q. It's a typical story. Of a needy girl. I shall begin with 2010. Back then I was with a guy for almost two years, we lived together and bought a new apartment which was not yet ready. I saw it as a very stable relationship so I basically let my...
A. 5 September 2012: Also, when you're in a highly emotional situation as this, women are always, or usually, more visibly upset about it than men. Yes, you could have been clingy, but women are always labeled that way when they just want their man and they want him to ... (read in full...)
LDR break up because of my neediness
Q. It's a typical story. Of a needy girl. I shall begin with 2010. Back then I was with a guy for almost two years, we lived together and bought a new apartment which was not yet ready. I saw it as a very stable relationship so I basically let my...
A. 5 September 2012: I am wondering if you were really as needy as you say you are. Living apart is very hard work, and what you think might be neediness, might just be normal feelings that come up when two people who care about one another live apart. Emotions can ... (read in full...)
How do I stop teacher from having a crush on me?
Q. hey all i need this site very important like me z story goes like this... Hellu is my teacher she is a little older zan me.she has a husband and a child despite z fact that she has a crash on me and has been calling and texting me till today. Even ...
A. 5 September 2012: Why does your teacher have your phone/text number? Where I come from, sharing such numbers with a teacher is not a good idea. The only time it would be acceptable is if you are in a class at university that requires it because you need to ... (read in full...)
B/f said we'd move in together but now he wants a car. I'm ending things because of this!
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for two years were both 27yrs old , weve got a great relationship and was going to move in together last year , until i found out he had some debt with his ex , so ive waited a year for all that to clear , we then said we ...
A. 5 September 2012: I am not sure. If he doesn't have much money, and he is getting a car in order to travel to and from a job, then I would say it is in your best interest for him to get a car. Personally, I would not want to move in with anyone who didn't have a ... (read in full...)
B/f cheated, got her pregnant but says he loves me more. What do I do?
Q. my boyfriend of 3years cheated on me for 3monthes with a girl much younger than me and even got her pregnant. i found out recently from the girl her self. i asked him but at first he was denying later on he told me the truth but he says he loves me ...
A. 5 September 2012: If he loved you he wouldn't have slept with another girl. He would have thought of you when the temptation arose and told the other girl, "I am sorry, but I have a girlfriend I love very much".
I would takes Karlos' advice and leave him. Re... (read in full...)
What does a guy mean when you tell him you like him and he say's "cool"?
Q. OK so I like this guy and he is one of my friends , I have heard rumours that he might like me, I have tried testing it. I was walking with him and another guy and asked if they thought I was pretty, the guy I liked said yes straight away, the othe...
A. 5 September 2012: I would also like to add that almost always when a guy tells you something is "cool" that is what he means. Most guys I know say what they mean. You don't have to infer or guess at what they mean.... (read in full...)
This internet conflict went too far, and I don't know what to do.
Q. I'm 15, and i frequently use the website tumblr. i am a sophomore. i made a post with advice for freshman, and at the end i said (jokingly) "if you scream when you see your friends, i'll hit you". this girl messaged me anonymously saying things like ...
A. 5 September 2012: You are spending too much time online living in the virtual world. Would you say this to the girl in real life? If you wouldn't, then don't say it online.
I also agree with the "trolls" statement. Don't respond to stupid stuff...even when it'... (read in full...)
If someone is ready to be pleasured how can they not be ready to give pleasure?
Q. Is something wrong with me? My boyfriend and I (I am a gay man) have been together almost 3 years, we are getting married in November. We live together and have a very open and public relationship. The problem I am having is in the bedroom. Our...
A. 5 September 2012: I would definitely question this and would hold off on getting married. People who want to be together, want to touch one another. I would stop trying and would be issuing some ultimatums...then I would stick to them. ... (read in full...)
Sisters have cut me out, why do people do this to each other?
Q. I need some help and advice as my heart is breaking. I have a sister who has some sort of mental issue. She's a compulsive liar, a master manipulator, a character assassin and will twist your words around until you don't recognize them. From her ...
A. 5 September 2012: I agree with PinkTopaz. I also have a sister and we have been in some doozy fights, but nothing we couldn't resolve. I would also wonder if Sane Sister is really sane. Most people have minds of their own and can call bullshit when they see it. I ... (read in full...)
What's the right way to break up with him?
Q. last year I met someone and I liked him and I thought I loved him but now I know many things he knew about me and kept away from me, he was always talking to people behind my back about some stuff of my past and it was very hard for me to know all ...
A. 4 September 2012: Option 1: You break up like everyone else does. You explain the situation in a mature way and tell him why you are not willing to compromise. You tell him that you feel he isn't telling you the truth and that you cannot trust him.
Optio... (read in full...)
Should I just ignore her?
Q. Hi guys.. I'm having this issue with my boyfriend right now.. I've been with him on-off for a year or so.. and he's got 3 girls on facebook that has a crush on him.. and he even admitted that.. And now, one of the girls added me and said th...
A. 4 September 2012: Facebook can be pretty damaging to a person for many reasons. You are experiencing one of the downsides of it right now. While it helps you to see who is doing what and what is going on, sometimes you really do not want to see what is going on and ... (read in full...)
I need advice on how to get over him.
Q. Ahhh, Where do I start. My boyfriend of a year and a half, and I just recently broke up. I called it quits after I found out that he has been lying about smoking weed. He would smoke after I left his house. And ever since I broke up with him, shits ...
A. 4 September 2012: I agree with the other posts. I know it is cliche to say "get out and meet other people and do more things", but that is precisely what you need to do. If nothing else, it helps trick your mind into "forgetting", if not temporarily, about the ... (read in full...)
I feel the need to say something to her, but what? I like her but neither of us wants an LDR.
Q. Hello there. I posted this (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-think-i-like-someone-ive-met-online.html) over a year ago now, which is quite shocking thinking about it. A quick update; we never really recovered, and she moved permane...
A. 3 September 2012: Is this really so hard? Tell her that you would like to keep in contact with her when she leaves. Does she not have a cell phone? Does she not have texting? Does she not probably have email?
You are stressing over nothing.
Take her out ... (read in full...)
I'm still in love but can't take the hurt anymore
Q. How do get over this guy I am still very much in love with? He says that he loves me too and I believe that he is be cuase we did grow up together and have been friends since birth. However we just recently got into a relationship six months ago ...
A. 3 September 2012: I will tell you what happened to me. My boyfriend of 7 years one day told me he just wanted to be friends. I tried and couldn't because I was in love with him. When you're in love with someone, you can't be friends with him as hard as you might ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's lack of attraction to other women makes me feel insecure? Why?
Q. I know this may sound dumb. I think it does, but I just can't figure it out myself. I have been having low self esteem issues ever since my boyfriend and I started dating. We have known each other for a year and have been dating for 8 months. The ...
A. 3 September 2012: Checking out members of the opposite sex is natural know matter who you are, but I know how it feels to never have a man compliment. I wish men would understand this simple fact about women. We can be the most beautiful and confident women on the ... (read in full...)
I'm still in love but can't take the hurt anymore
Q. How do get over this guy I am still very much in love with? He says that he loves me too and I believe that he is be cuase we did grow up together and have been friends since birth. However we just recently got into a relationship six months ago ...
A. 3 September 2012: Stick with what you are doing. Do not go back with him as he has broken your faith in him and your trust. He may say he loves you, but love is an action, not a word. If he loved you, he would keep his pants on when it came to other women.
You a... (read in full...)
Is it ok that I tell this guy I'm dating (I'm not) just so he won't try to ask me out?
Q. Hi! I just started my freshman year of college a week ago. It has been a pretty difficult adjustment for me and I'm just trying to hang in there and hope it sorts itself out. Well, one of the problems I had during my first week was this guy in my Fr...
A. 3 September 2012: I think it is ok to lie, but some might disagree. Even when I told guys the truth, they continued to hound me. Plus, you can tell him you don't know him that well and feel uncomfortable giving out your number, but then he can spend the rest of the ... (read in full...)
LDR newbie needs advice!
Q. Hi everyone! I'm entering my first long distance relationship. I have absolutely no doubt in my mind that we'll get through this :) Here's some background info. My boyfriend is going to the East Coast for his last 2 years of college. He's studying...
A. 2 September 2012: If you feel it is good enough at the time, then it is good enough. You won't know until you've been without one another for awhile. Just my thought. I would try to see one another any chance you get.... (read in full...)
LDR newbie needs advice!
Q. Hi everyone! I'm entering my first long distance relationship. I have absolutely no doubt in my mind that we'll get through this :) Here's some background info. My boyfriend is going to the East Coast for his last 2 years of college. He's studying...
A. 2 September 2012: If you feel it is good enough at the time, then it is good enough. You won't know until you've been without one another for awhile. Just my thought. I would try to see one another any chance you get.... (read in full...)
LDR newbie needs advice!
Q. Hi everyone! I'm entering my first long distance relationship. I have absolutely no doubt in my mind that we'll get through this :) Here's some background info. My boyfriend is going to the East Coast for his last 2 years of college. He's studying...
A. 2 September 2012: I agree with what the others have said. Keep in mind that with a major in jazz composition, at some point, you are going to have to move (unless you live in a city where there are a lot of jobs either teaching or playing jazz) to be with him, ... (read in full...)
He offered me sex instead of a relationship!
Q. Should I be insulted that a guy Ive liked for a while has asked me to be his FWB or 'fuck buddy'? He says he doesnt want a relationship but wants to be more than friends. Im shocked and dont know what to say! Im 29 and hes 28, Im looking for a ...
A. 2 September 2012: I wouldn't be insulted or flattered. I would just tell him that you are looking for a serious relationship, so a FWBs relationship will not work for you.... (read in full...)
This guy I met a week ago won't leave me alone!
Q. I met a guy a week ago, yes that's just a week ago, we talked and generally got on. I told him from the offset that I wasn't looking for anything more than friendship and he seemed cool with that, but now he won't stop calling me. Apparently we are ...
A. 2 September 2012: If you have told him what you are looking for, and he continues, then you need to stop communicating with him completely. Do not answer calls, texts, emails, etc. Like SVC said, he will stop eventually, but it may take awhile. ... (read in full...)
I hurt my FWB's feelings by talking to another girl. Did I cross boundaries?
Q. My friend with benefits is not happy with me after she found out that I was speaking to a mutual female acquaintance. I am not interested romantically in this other woman at all. The conversation was about music related activities that we both have ...
A. 2 September 2012: Don't think too deeply on this. When people have sex, they often have strong feelings for one another. You have a relationship with her and even call her your girlfriend/FWB. Either she's your girlfriend or she isn't...and you might want to ... (read in full...)
Wife talking to a FWB from 15 years ago. Should I worry?
Q. Should I be worried about my wife talking with here friend with benifit from about 15 years ago? My wife and I have been married 13 years and have two girls. About four month ago i notice my wife was becoming very secretive with her iPhone. ...
A. 2 September 2012: With that said, I think it is disrespectful to you for her to communicate on a consistent basis with any man. Unless this man is a colleague, a neighbor, the mailman, or someone with whom she has a neutral relationship. It takes time away from you ... (read in full...)
Wife talking to a FWB from 15 years ago. Should I worry?
Q. Should I be worried about my wife talking with here friend with benifit from about 15 years ago? My wife and I have been married 13 years and have two girls. About four month ago i notice my wife was becoming very secretive with her iPhone. ...
A. 2 September 2012: I am not sure. There are two, if not three, trains of thought when thinking about things like this.
First train of thought: No, you should not worry. That was in the past and if she is with you, then she clearly wants you, not him. Men and ... (read in full...)
He Likes me or He likes me Not
Q. I recently met a man online. On our first date, we met for tea and kept it short as he had another business meeting to attend that day. He then arranged for a very romantic dinner on our second date and we talked for 3 hours. We kissed and hugged. ...
A. 2 September 2012: Is he still texting/communicating with you? Honestly, it is hard to tell. I would let him know you would like to go out again and ask him when would he like to go. I know the old saying is that men are supposed to pursue the women, but it has ... (read in full...)
I hurt my FWB's feelings by talking to another girl. Did I cross boundaries?
Q. My friend with benefits is not happy with me after she found out that I was speaking to a mutual female acquaintance. I am not interested romantically in this other woman at all. The conversation was about music related activities that we both have ...
A. 2 September 2012: FWB may seem like a good idea in theory, but frequently falters in practice. Friends with benefits arrangements aren’t as gratifying and easy as they seem to be. And while some people can maintain casual sexual relationships, just as many can not. ... (read in full...)
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