Am I really unloveable?
Q. I’m 27 and have never had a girlfriend or any kind of relationship for that matter. I just can’t understand the why of it all. No woman has ever wanted me. My love just isn’t good enough for some reason. I’ve gone so far as to ask my friends f...
A. 13 September 2012: I apologize...you said it was not a fraternity party, it was a social event. I still stand by my statement that some girls would not even consider going to a fraternity social event. So, consider some other options and be active in getting to ... (read in full...)
Am I really unloveable?
Q. I’m 27 and have never had a girlfriend or any kind of relationship for that matter. I just can’t understand the why of it all. No woman has ever wanted me. My love just isn’t good enough for some reason. I’ve gone so far as to ask my friends f...
A. 13 September 2012: How could the girl you met be so flirty one night but so cold another? It's called "fraternity party". You need to get out of your zone and mix and mingle with all kinds of people. Not just people who attend fraternities and fraternity parties. ... (read in full...)
How do we deal with our different schedules?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in an LDR for almost two years. Over the past year, our visits have become significantly less frequent and shorter. His work schedule if completely opposite mine. I work 9-5 Monday through Friday, and he is 2-11 ...
A. 12 September 2012: I agree with Aunt Honesty. There really isn't a magical answer to this. You have to make your relationship a priority. That means taking personal time and vacation time to be together. If that isn't working and it is serious relationship, where ... (read in full...)
Does anyone relate to this? Being told by a friend that her desires extend past our boundaries?
Q. hi. very nervous. my dear friend of 12 years just started confessing that her desires extend past our very comfortable, very intimate boundaries. we're both dykes of a similar stripe: as per gender-performance, priorities in life, vulnerabilities, ...
A. 12 September 2012: Why are you nervous? There is not a right way or wrong way to be. If your relationship hasn't progressed past verbal closeness (and I am not sure if that means you are just good friends or if you talk about dreams, goals, etc) then there is a ... (read in full...)
What am I? Bi, straight, something else?
Q. I'm unsure about my sexuality. I'm an 18 year old guy, and have always been attracted to girls, I get turned on by girls, and date and have sex with girls. But here's the thing, having sex with another guy where I penetrate them, kiss them, or le...
A. 12 September 2012: If you don't turned on by men and you aren't attracted to them, what would be the purpose of having sex with them? Is this just a philosophical discussion to amuse you?
I agree with Stacy. Answer her questions and we can go from there.
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Am I really unloveable?
Q. I’m 27 and have never had a girlfriend or any kind of relationship for that matter. I just can’t understand the why of it all. No woman has ever wanted me. My love just isn’t good enough for some reason. I’ve gone so far as to ask my friends f...
A. 12 September 2012: For starters, if relationship come "easy" for everyone around you, you must be living in one perfect place. I have never known relationships to come easy for anyone.
My advice is that you might be a good-looking and nice guy, but if you aren't s... (read in full...)
I've never initiated a break-up before, but I think it's time ...
Q. I have never been the heart breaker but the heart breakee. I don't know how to iniate a break up. I am sure this is what I want but somewhat feel guilt because I feel all of my reasons are selfish ones. We have been together for so long have a child ...
A. 11 September 2012: I think if you are not happy, your daughter will sense this and wonder what is wrong with "mom". You don't want to live in a prison the rest of your life, so I would leave. Tell him that things are not going to work out between the two of you and ... (read in full...)
Why are women not interested in me?
Q. This question has been on my mind lately and it has to do with how girls choose their boyfriends. Here is my background. I'm relatively short for a man at 22 standing at 5'4. I use to have skinny figure until I started to get fit going from 100 to ...
A. 11 September 2012: My advice would be to go to places or events where you will meet all types of people...men/women, old/young and start making conversation. Even if it is only your local farm market...you need to get out and broaden your social circle, start to feel ... (read in full...)
Why are women not interested in me?
Q. This question has been on my mind lately and it has to do with how girls choose their boyfriends. Here is my background. I'm relatively short for a man at 22 standing at 5'4. I use to have skinny figure until I started to get fit going from 100 to ...
A. 11 September 2012: It has nothing to do with "experience" and everything to do with how self-assured, confident, and how friendly you are. Women, including myself, love a man who feels good in his own skin and is not afraid to make casual conversation with us. You ... (read in full...)
She says she needs time but what for?
Q. What does it mean when you start dating a girl and you suddenly ask her to be your girlfriend, and she replies that she needs time because she doesn't know you that well and that she is not ready for a relationship right now? She still continue...
A. 11 September 2012: It means exactly what she said it means. It's too early to be boyfriend and girlfriend and that you need to take your time getting to know one another instead of jumping into anything.
She might be guarded if she's had people lie or cheat on... (read in full...)
How do I flirt with a girl I've just met?
Q. I was just at the hospital picking up my cousin. While I was roaming around the gift shop, an extremely beautiful girl came in to buy something. We instantly locked eyes for like three seconds. She gave a friendly smile that seemed to say "I like ...
A. 11 September 2012: Say "hi" to her. I don't want to insult you, but this kind of thing is not that big of a mystery. Ask her if someone she knows is in the hospital. Tell her why you're there and who you're buying a present for. Girls like to be noticed and ... (read in full...)
I think being a 'nice girl' also made me a boring girl
Q. I am a 'good girl'. I don't cheat, I don't lie, I'm faithful and all that good stuff, so I sort of feel like I don't make much of an impact on my bfs. Ive had two long term relationships, and both times, I left them becuase I felt like I was not ...
A. 11 September 2012: And BTW, I am not sure what you mean by a nice girl being a boring girl. I don't do the things you mentioned here, so does that make me "boring"? I don't think so.... (read in full...)
I think being a 'nice girl' also made me a boring girl
Q. I am a 'good girl'. I don't cheat, I don't lie, I'm faithful and all that good stuff, so I sort of feel like I don't make much of an impact on my bfs. Ive had two long term relationships, and both times, I left them becuase I felt like I was not ...
A. 11 September 2012: No offense, but it sounds like you the "poor me" syndrome. Love isn't supposed to be non-stop excitement and 24/7 affection and attention. How do you know you have never created strong emotions in the guys you've been with? Did you ever ask? ... (read in full...)
He seemed very into me, so why did things change?
Q. A while ago i met a guy while out for a friends birthday. I started talking to this guy everyday (through text and over the phone cause we both work a lot and he lives about an hour away) he called me babe and always had nice things to ...
A. 10 September 2012: He sounds like a jerk. I have no other reason why he would treat you with such disrespect. Just accept it for what it is...he is a jerk and you will find someone better. Try not to dwell on it because a lot of these guys have no clue what they ... (read in full...)
I don't want a relationship so why is my FWB acting this way?
Q. Hey everyone, I have been friends with benefits with this guy for like 2 and half years now!!well here's the thing we met at a bar,hooked up and I thought I would be a one night stand BUT no we ended up doing it over and over again! Its been 2 yea...
A. 10 September 2012: I wouldn't let it go. Him saying "I have it under control" implies he currently has it under control, but at some point may not. The implication of his response says "I have stronger feelings for you, but I know you don't see me like that, so I ... (read in full...)
Is my wife losing interest in me what is going on?
Q. I'm married almost a year to my wife , I am 44 and she is 21 . For the past 3 to 4 weeks I am noticing a dramatic change in her and I'm wondering is there something wrong or is she losing interest in me or what.? For the past few weeks she has been ...
A. 9 September 2012: She could be pregnant or she could have another issue. I have thyroid issues and have to take medicine for it. Sleeping a lot, being generally lethargic, and peeing a lot can be symptoms of an overactive or underactive thyroid. Also, being dizzy ... (read in full...)
B/f on dating site saying he was single, we've been dating for 3 years!
Q. Hiya, I'm in a bit of a pickle. My boyfriend and I have started sharing his email account and he left his laptop here for me to use as mines broke. Basically I went to send a email and I found that he had dating matches so I had a look. It said ...
A. 9 September 2012: I would ask him about it. I would want to know whether spending more time and effort on the relationship with him is a worthwhile effort or if he is already trying to make plans to move on. I think you have a right to know considering you have a ... (read in full...)
How do I take my relationship further without sex?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are 15 and we have been going out for almost 10 months and we have done all the snogging and kissing lark. I'm wondering how to take our relationship further without sex. I don't touch his balls at all and he doesn't touch my ...
A. 9 September 2012: The depth of a relationship grows slowly after time. Usually by communicating your hopes, dreams, and the things yourself you may be too afraid to tell others, but you tell your boyfriend. If you trust him enough to tell him things, and let him ... (read in full...)
Should I confront my wife about her old pictures which I found?
Q. I was going through some photos with my wife, and came across a couple of her I didn't recognize. I know what year they were taken, and it's the year we broke up for a couple months. During that time she had a fling with an older man. I've been ...
A. 9 September 2012: And honestly, what makes the difference if she was taking off her ring and putting it back on to go home? It doesn't make one bit of difference NOW...unless...if you find out that was actually what she was doing you are going to file for divorce.... (read in full...)
Should I confront my wife about her old pictures which I found?
Q. I was going through some photos with my wife, and came across a couple of her I didn't recognize. I know what year they were taken, and it's the year we broke up for a couple months. During that time she had a fling with an older man. I've been ...
A. 9 September 2012: I understand what you are saying, but what difference is it going to make NOW if that is what she did in the past? Seriously. You would just have ammunition against her to what? Be bitter and treat her poorly? If she is giving you reason not to ... (read in full...)
Should I confront my wife about her old pictures which I found?
Q. I was going through some photos with my wife, and came across a couple of her I didn't recognize. I know what year they were taken, and it's the year we broke up for a couple months. During that time she had a fling with an older man. I've been ...
A. 9 September 2012: Should you confront her? No. Should you ask her to get rid of them? You can if you want, but she might think you are going overboard. What makes the difference if she had her ring off? That was then, this is now. ... (read in full...)
Should I confront my wife about her old pictures which I found?
Q. I was going through some photos with my wife, and came across a couple of her I didn't recognize. I know what year they were taken, and it's the year we broke up for a couple months. During that time she had a fling with an older man. I've been ...
A. 9 September 2012: Honestly, I think you should look at the pictures as part of the past, and as long as your wife has not had other indiscretions, you should forget about them. I have some pictures from college that literally mean nothing to me...and didn't at the ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was recently diagnosed with leukemia. Does anyone have any advice on how to be there for a cancer patient?
Q. My girlfriend was recently diagnosed with leukemia. We have been together for a year. I love her a lot and want to stay with her despite tough times ahead. Does anyone have any advice on how to be there for a cancer patient? I want her to feel...
A. 9 September 2012: I am really impressed with the perspective, maturity, and care you have put into your post here. There may be some cancer survivors out there who have advice for you specifically for those with cancer, but my advice would be to do things with ... (read in full...)
How far should we go without being in a proper relationship?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for about three weeks, however we have known each other this whole year. We have seen each other about 6 times in the past three weeks, including three times this past week. We have made out and the other day we went a bit ...
A. 9 September 2012: I agree...I think you should tell him that you are looking for an exclusive committed relationship and see what he says. I know sometimes we don't want to do that because we don't want to "scare men away" by getting "all serious" on them all of a ... (read in full...)
Should I feel threatened that she wants him back? Do I stay out of this, or do I mark my territory?
Q. A while ago I met a great guy after 3 years of being single. It took me along time to get over my marriage to my previous husband and spent my single time having fun and enjoying life and trying to repair any damaged caused from that marr...
A. 9 September 2012: As far as hurting or manipulating your man, you can only be manipulated if you allow it. He needs to block these people on his phones and stop "dealing" with them. The fact he continues to speak with them helps their cause because they understand ... (read in full...)
Should I feel threatened that she wants him back? Do I stay out of this, or do I mark my territory?
Q. A while ago I met a great guy after 3 years of being single. It took me along time to get over my marriage to my previous husband and spent my single time having fun and enjoying life and trying to repair any damaged caused from that marr...
A. 9 September 2012: I cannot believe he is even considering doing this without an attorney present. There is no reason he has to "prove he's a man" at this stage. Encourage him to tell this family that if he meets with them it will be with his attorney/legal officer. ... (read in full...)
Is my wifes best friend playing games?
Q. Over the last few months my wifes bestfriend has been going through a divorce. My wife and i have known this women for around ten years now and over those years have given her the support she needs during her rocky marriage, through texting, phone ...
A. 9 September 2012: Why are you texting one of your wife's girlfriends anyway? Let your wife be her girlfriend and you be your wife's husband. I understand being concerned about close family friends, but you need to be careful of crossing the line. My boyfriend ... (read in full...)
I don't want a relationship so why is my FWB acting this way?
Q. Hey everyone, I have been friends with benefits with this guy for like 2 and half years now!!well here's the thing we met at a bar,hooked up and I thought I would be a one night stand BUT no we ended up doing it over and over again! Its been 2 yea...
A. 9 September 2012: You're not wrong, but you entered into an intimate relationship with someone whether it was just "friends with benefits" or not. Many people think that FWB relationships should be easy, but it's not true. They come with an entire set of issues ... (read in full...)
Why did my friend go back with her boyfriend after he cheated on her?
Q. Hey Guys, It's ,e again. It's not about me this time, it's about one of my close friends,she was recently dating a guy, that cheated on her... He told her straight over the phone and for a few days was a total mess, crying over just his name. But ...
A. 9 September 2012: You just have a to be a friend and hope she makes good decisions. I know it is hard, particularly when you are probably the one she runs to when things go wrong. Some women will always go back to a cheater. Sometimes they think he won't cheat ... (read in full...)
Feel stuck in a rut, I'm very unhappy with my life at the moment. Any advice?
Q. I'm so confused with my life at the moment... On the outside everything seems perfect- I have a good job, a wonderful fiancé and a nice house but I feel so low... I hate my job, my house just seems like a burden and as for my fiancé.... Well som...
A. 8 September 2012: If you want to live then start making plans to do so. If you have anxiety, take small steps to get to the goal. You have not said *how* you want to live. What would make you happy?
If you are not crazy over your fiance, then I would consider... (read in full...)
What do I do about my FWB and how do I tell if he has feelings for me? Alternatively do I consider an LDR with the other guy?
Q. Hi hope you can help me with this it would be greatly appreciated I met a man who is in the army on a online dating site who is really keen and wanting a relationship with me but I am not sure how I feel about him. This is because I have h...
A. 8 September 2012: I agree with the other posts. If you can't ask your FWBs direct questions, then you need to stop having sex with him. This kind of agreement is a serious one, so asking serious questions is part of it. If he won't answer, I would leave.
I don... (read in full...)
Is my separation Anxiety ruining my relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for coming up to a year. We are in a long distance relationship. He lives in one part of the country and I live in a distant part of the country. We see each other every other weekend or so. He recently came ...
A. 8 September 2012: I also agree with Abella. I think the key to learning how to live with your situation is reaching out to others and making plans with your bf that you can look forward to. It took me a long time to learn that being with other people, even going to ... (read in full...)
Should I feel threatened that she wants him back? Do I stay out of this, or do I mark my territory?
Q. A while ago I met a great guy after 3 years of being single. It took me along time to get over my marriage to my previous husband and spent my single time having fun and enjoying life and trying to repair any damaged caused from that marr...
A. 8 September 2012: Also, once he does respectfully tell her he does not want to communicate with or see her, he should stop addressing the phone calls, texts, etc and should ignore her. His first mistake was answering her call or text and continuing to do so. No ... (read in full...)
Should I feel threatened that she wants him back? Do I stay out of this, or do I mark my territory?
Q. A while ago I met a great guy after 3 years of being single. It took me along time to get over my marriage to my previous husband and spent my single time having fun and enjoying life and trying to repair any damaged caused from that marr...
A. 8 September 2012: Well, he doesn't really need to tell her "f-off", he just needs to stop answering her calls. She is "the Ex" for a reason and should not be contacting him unless children are involved. Her contacting him then saying she can only discuss the matter ... (read in full...)
What's going on with my FWB?
Q. Hi everyone I am in a really confusing situation at the moment I have been fwb with a man for over 2 year now I liked him in the beginning but the way he treated me my feelings for him went now I have been away abroad for two weeks and I came back ...
A. 8 September 2012: I agree with the others. Did he say he wants to have a go with you? Possibly referring to trying to have a real relationship instead of just a FWB relationship?... (read in full...)
He wants long term I dont
Q. Hi Everyone, I just want to know what other people would do in this situation. I got out of a 2 1/2 year relationship 7 months ago and it ended badly i was heart broken. I got really really hurt but there's a guy who i went to high school wi...
A. 7 September 2012: I think you should tell him as soon as possible. You have already lead him on. "Going out" with someone implies you are going out on a date, and dating implies (usually) that someone is looking for a relationship. If you didn't want a serious ... (read in full...)
His wife only wants him back because she knows he was happy with me
Q. Please help i'm in a muddle! when i started my new job last year i met a lovely bloke in 1 of my calls. we always got on well and chatted. he told me he was married with children and i always asked after them its was strictly professional but i ad...
A. 7 September 2012: I think that is the key to your entire situation. He involved himself in a relationship before taking care of the other one first. One I first read your story, my initial reaction is that he should have taken time to work through the issues and ... (read in full...)
His wife only wants him back because she knows he was happy with me
Q. Please help i'm in a muddle! when i started my new job last year i met a lovely bloke in 1 of my calls. we always got on well and chatted. he told me he was married with children and i always asked after them its was strictly professional but i ad...
A. 7 September 2012: Don't feel like a fool. You had no way of knowing this would happen. I think you just had the misfortune of getting in the middle of a bad situation. It doesn't exactly sounds as if he wants to return to his wife. It sounds like he is doing it ... (read in full...)
Am I being used or Shes really busy?
Q. I recently knew Ms.XXX for 6months.I been asking Ms.XXX if she likes me; but I been getting "I don't know" as answer. Ms.XXX knows i love her and We been going out dining for the few months until Ms.XXX started working as a financial planner....
A. 7 September 2012: I would consider giving her an ultimatum. Either we start to spend more time together or I leave until we can get this worked out. It sounds like she is not a very personable person.... (read in full...)
Should I just ignore her?
Q. Hi guys.. I'm having this issue with my boyfriend right now.. I've been with him on-off for a year or so.. and he's got 3 girls on facebook that has a crush on him.. and he even admitted that.. And now, one of the girls added me and said th...
A. 7 September 2012: It just depends on how much of this drama you can take in your life. It does not sound like he is going to change his behavior and things will continue as normal. Right now, you may not be tired of dealing with all of it, but when you do grow ... (read in full...)
She used to like me. How long do I wait to text to find out if she still cares?
Q. I'm 20 years old in college. Met this girl around 1 year ago. Last semester (January 2012), I had a class with her. She sat by me and we talked all the time. Long Story short, I took her to lunch one day and afterwards I was 100% sure she was into...
A. 7 September 2012: You are the man, you need to ask her out. She gave you the opportunity to ask when she told you you should definitely hang out. I am not sure why you are over-analyzing or why you have waited so long to ask her. Just call or text her and ask her ... (read in full...)
I gave him a warning. Is this time to walk away?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years now but he's always been abusive to me. He is bipolar has anxiety attacks, clinical depression, and just a whole book full of problems that I dealt with because in the end he's always there for me and ...
A. 7 September 2012: You either want to be with someone who is bi-polar and clearly has episodes with controlling himself or you don't. Really, it is that simple. If you want to deal with this issue for the remainder of your life, then you want to be with him. If you ... (read in full...)
It hurts to feel this way about my teacher
Q. i am a 13 year old girl and i really like a teacher at school but i really do not want to feel this way because it really hurts i often dream about her i know nothing can ever happen but i do no no what to do because it is really awkward around her ...
A. 6 September 2012: Why does it hurt you to feel this way? Enjoy her company while you have her as a teacher. She doesn't know how you feel, so why feel awkward? Enjoy fantasizing about her...no one has to know about it but you!... (read in full...)
His wife only wants him back because she knows he was happy with me
Q. Please help i'm in a muddle! when i started my new job last year i met a lovely bloke in 1 of my calls. we always got on well and chatted. he told me he was married with children and i always asked after them its was strictly professional but i ad...
A. 6 September 2012: All you really can do is step back and see what happens. The problem is, you really care about him and if you wait around on him, you could be waiting for quite some time. I agree with the others that it is hard for a man to walk away when kids ... (read in full...)
Am I being used or Shes really busy?
Q. I recently knew Ms.XXX for 6months.I been asking Ms.XXX if she likes me; but I been getting "I don't know" as answer. Ms.XXX knows i love her and We been going out dining for the few months until Ms.XXX started working as a financial planner....
A. 6 September 2012: Oh, never mind...I thought it was her insurance, but it was actually yours. In that case, what I said is not important on that aspect. But, I would tell her you are leaving if things don't improve...and if she doesn't improve them, I would stick ... (read in full...)
Am I being used or Shes really busy?
Q. I recently knew Ms.XXX for 6months.I been asking Ms.XXX if she likes me; but I been getting "I don't know" as answer. Ms.XXX knows i love her and We been going out dining for the few months until Ms.XXX started working as a financial planner....
A. 6 September 2012: I would break it off with her. There is a thing as being busy or having busy times in life or with a job, but a relationship should be your soft spot to land during such times...not something to put on the back burner or avoid. Texting does not ... (read in full...)
Am I being used or Shes really busy?
Q. I recently knew Ms.XXX for 6months.I been asking Ms.XXX if she likes me; but I been getting "I don't know" as answer. Ms.XXX knows i love her and We been going out dining for the few months until Ms.XXX started working as a financial planner....
A. 6 September 2012: I agree with the others and would let her go. If a girl likes you, she will go out of her way to be with you, be near you, and communicate with you. She does not seem interested.... (read in full...)
Should I just ignore her?
Q. Hi guys.. I'm having this issue with my boyfriend right now.. I've been with him on-off for a year or so.. and he's got 3 girls on facebook that has a crush on him.. and he even admitted that.. And now, one of the girls added me and said th...
A. 5 September 2012: I wouldn't like it. It sounds as if he is spending a lot of time with or on other girls that he could be spending with/on you. I wouldn't dismiss this as just something he does for fun. You always have to gadge how much the relationship is adding ... (read in full...)
Should I just ignore her?
Q. Hi guys.. I'm having this issue with my boyfriend right now.. I've been with him on-off for a year or so.. and he's got 3 girls on facebook that has a crush on him.. and he even admitted that.. And now, one of the girls added me and said th...
A. 4 September 2012: Facebook can be pretty damaging to a person for many reasons. You are experiencing one of the downsides of it right now. While it helps you to see who is doing what and what is going on, sometimes you really do not want to see what is going on and ... (read in full...)
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