I have a great g/f but I'm bored. Do I keep her or let her go?
Q. Here's the Story. I'v been With this girl for almost 2 years, And she treats me better then gold and It's hard to find a girl that good. but must have gotten bored and my gf isn't big but she has curves I like thin in shape girls. Her sister i...
A. 9 October 2012: Aside of that, there is no *insight* to be gained here. You either both want the same thing in life or you don't. The two of you do not, so be true to yourself, let her be true to herself, and leave. You know that is the proper thing to do, or ... (read in full...)
He treats me like a girlfriend despite insisting he didn't want a relationship
Q. Is it possible to be seeing a man who actually does not want to see you happy? I have been dating this man for awhile now who I believe is emotionally confused. We are not an "official" couple and he claims to not want to be one. However, he has a...
A. 9 October 2012: Yes, I think responsibility is the correct word. It is your responsibility to stop someone from treating you this way. If it means leaving, then that is what it means.... (read in full...)
I have a great g/f but I'm bored. Do I keep her or let her go?
Q. Here's the Story. I'v been With this girl for almost 2 years, And she treats me better then gold and It's hard to find a girl that good. but must have gotten bored and my gf isn't big but she has curves I like thin in shape girls. Her sister i...
A. 9 October 2012: Yes, he definitely needs help, but he also says that she is ready to settle down and he isn't. She also wants kids (and has one already) and he doesn't. He still wants to be out enjoying life. My comment still stands. Tell her it's over, so that ... (read in full...)
She's separated and available..do I act on it?
Q. A good friend of mine separated from her husband two months ago. They have been married two years, and together for about three years before that. There was nobody else involved in the breakup, it just didn't work out. It was essentially my friend's ...
A. 8 October 2012: And honestly, I wouldn't be so gentle about it. She's not a china cup...she's a woman. Just call her and ask her out. And you could even say...I'm calling to ask you out on a date...would you like to go to dinner with me?! You'll have an answer ... (read in full...)
She's separated and available..do I act on it?
Q. A good friend of mine separated from her husband two months ago. They have been married two years, and together for about three years before that. There was nobody else involved in the breakup, it just didn't work out. It was essentially my friend's ...
A. 8 October 2012: I think if the frequency of you asking her to do things increases, she will get the idea. We woman aren't that dumb about these things. The fact she discussed it with you says a lot. I wouldn't just discuss that type of information with any ... (read in full...)
I don't like her past and think she lies to spare my feelings
Q. help me, am a guy and am having a really hard time with my gf past she recently confessed she has been with 20 man from the time she was 20 to 26 and its really bothering me i feel so desperate and bothered by the fact has given herself to all these ...
A. 8 October 2012: Also, I do not believe you are feeling retroactive jealously with all due respect to one of my fellow uncles. I believe you probably have standards and morals, and it bothers you that a woman would have such an intimate experience with that many ... (read in full...)
I don't like her past and think she lies to spare my feelings
Q. help me, am a guy and am having a really hard time with my gf past she recently confessed she has been with 20 man from the time she was 20 to 26 and its really bothering me i feel so desperate and bothered by the fact has given herself to all these ...
A. 8 October 2012: I agree. If this is something that really bothers you, and you can't seem to get over it, I would leave. Life is too short to spend dwelling on something like this. I agree that some people can get over it, but it requires a lot of hard ... (read in full...)
He treats me like a girlfriend despite insisting he didn't want a relationship
Q. Is it possible to be seeing a man who actually does not want to see you happy? I have been dating this man for awhile now who I believe is emotionally confused. We are not an "official" couple and he claims to not want to be one. However, he has a...
A. 8 October 2012: Please leave him. I went through this with my ex. We were together 7 years and everything was wonderful. Then all of a sudden he tells me that he just wants to be friends. I tried that for awhile and decided I couldn't do it. I was still in ... (read in full...)
Have I ruined this relationship?
Q. My disclaimer now: you will think I'm immature, you will see discord, drama, mistrust, and more...so please, meet my question where it's at for who we are...thank you I'm 27 he's 28. We met a year ago and he swept me off my feet swearing we will...
A. 8 October 2012: And I am not leaving him completely off the hook. He should have known better by moving in with you after 2 months. Also, if he is no longer interested in you, he should tell you instead of calling other women...however, that is now the situation ... (read in full...)
Have I ruined this relationship?
Q. My disclaimer now: you will think I'm immature, you will see discord, drama, mistrust, and more...so please, meet my question where it's at for who we are...thank you I'm 27 he's 28. We met a year ago and he swept me off my feet swearing we will...
A. 8 October 2012: You moved in together after dating for two months. Now you are getting to know him, and you don't like what you see. Being swept off your feet is sometimes like this. You get swept off your feet by Prince Charming and then reality hits at some ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he wants a break so he can date other girls
Q. Hello, I am in a rather interesting situation. My boyfriend well currently ex boyfriend lives with me. And hes confusing and hurting me emotionally. But lets go back to the beginning 4 1/2 years. We met while I was on a field trip when I was stil...
A. 8 October 2012: I am sorry to say that he is not in love with you. This is just something guys say to come across as "nice". He doesn't just want a break, he wants to break up.
If he is asking you if he can see other girls, I would simply break up with him... (read in full...)
I am a nice person so why is my company not preferred?
Q. I'm living in a house for college with a woman and her daughter. there is two more students here a boy and a girl but i feel that the daughter prefers the other female student's company than mine. I'm easy to talk to and genuinly nice and not a ...
A. 8 October 2012: I am not sure what your situation is as you really don't come right out and say it. I think we need some more information from you. Are you saying the daughter is causing issues among you and your house mates?... (read in full...)
I have a great g/f but I'm bored. Do I keep her or let her go?
Q. Here's the Story. I'v been With this girl for almost 2 years, And she treats me better then gold and It's hard to find a girl that good. but must have gotten bored and my gf isn't big but she has curves I like thin in shape girls. Her sister i...
A. 8 October 2012: If you are looking at other girls and wanting to be with other girls, then do your girlfriend a favor and break up with her. She deserves a man who wants her and only her.
Honestly, what guy asks for an open relationship and then does his girl... (read in full...)
Do you think I should try and salvage this friendship or just let it go?
Q. So I've had two really good friends for almost a year now. They seemed like really great people that I am somewhat compatible with. One of those friends got dismissed from the college so she wasn't able to join us this semester. She came to visit ...
A. 7 October 2012: You are at the time in your life where this type of thing starts happening more frequently than what we'd like. Friends sometimes grow apart, develop issues, or just realize they no longer have anything in common once everyone starts going to ... (read in full...)
I really love this guy, so how can I get him to trust me again?
Q. I met this guy online in April, we talked, enjoyed one another and start talking about sharing a life together, but one night I log back on the site and he confronted me about it the next day. I really hurt him, I apolgized and gave him some spa...
A. 7 October 2012: So..........you logged onto a dating site *twice*? Do you honestly think he should be reacting this way? I mean, seriously. If he is going to react this way because you logged onto a site, why in the world would you want to stay with him?
I cou... (read in full...)
She's separated and available..do I act on it?
Q. A good friend of mine separated from her husband two months ago. They have been married two years, and together for about three years before that. There was nobody else involved in the breakup, it just didn't work out. It was essentially my friend's ...
A. 7 October 2012: If you are friends...I would just ask her to do things with you. It can't hurt and all she can say is "no". Or, if you know she is particularly interested in something...sports, art, concerts, etc...you could always ask her to go to one of these ... (read in full...)
She's separated and available..do I act on it?
Q. A good friend of mine separated from her husband two months ago. They have been married two years, and together for about three years before that. There was nobody else involved in the breakup, it just didn't work out. It was essentially my friend's ...
A. 7 October 2012: Is this woman divorced? Was the separation amicable?
At this point in time, I would ask her out to coffee or possibly grab lunch somewhere on the weekend. Make it very low-key and non-intimidating. If she agrees, you can both go and enjoy on... (read in full...)
Platonic friendship with Ex, is it even possible?
Q. Hi everyone. So i was wondering if anyone has been in or knows of someone who has been in my situation for some advice. My ex and i have 2 wonderful sons, we drifted apart after 9 years together, we were childhood sweethearts and were together fr...
A. 7 October 2012: Here is the question you are asking. Is it possible to maintain a *friendship* with my ex when he is in love with me?
Do you know how ridiculous that sounds? I am not trying to be rude, I am just trying to get you to see the reality of your sit... (read in full...)
Fingering was not pleasant for me!
Q. So I let my boyfriend finger me for the first time, and it wasn't pleasurable at all. It was sore sort of and was like friction. I was wet. But I don't know whether it was his being dry or me being tight. Help! It's really putting me off doing it ...
A. 7 October 2012: Then he is being too rough with you and you need to teach him how to touch you. Also, use some KY gel or reduce the friction. Sounds like your boyfriend has either watched too much porn where women like it hard and rough or he is just ... (read in full...)
2 month LDR has lost its spark
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two months now. Is long distance but I still get to see him on the holidays and I completely trust him. The problem is that he's been really distant, like he texts me every other day and doesn't ...
A. 7 October 2012: Also, you can trust one another and also talk all the time, but for someone who needs to look in your eyes and touch you, it may not be enough. My boyfriend could have called me everyday, sent 100 care packages, emails, and whatever, but what I ... (read in full...)
2 month LDR has lost its spark
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two months now. Is long distance but I still get to see him on the holidays and I completely trust him. The problem is that he's been really distant, like he texts me every other day and doesn't ...
A. 7 October 2012: I agree that long-distance relationships are hard, and some people simply are not made to endure them. I would talk to your boyfriend and tell him what you're said here. It may be that he misses you more than he thought he would and rather than ... (read in full...)
I really love this guy, so how can I get him to trust me again?
Q. I met this guy online in April, we talked, enjoyed one another and start talking about sharing a life together, but one night I log back on the site and he confronted me about it the next day. I really hurt him, I apolgized and gave him some spa...
A. 7 October 2012: The only thing you did was log on a site? This guy must be really insecure and controlling. I do not think logging onto a site one time warrants this type of reaction unless you have done something major in the past that you are not telling us ... (read in full...)
She is very down and I worry about her, should I tell her?
Q. Hi. I have a female friend who has recently separated from her husband. I have made it clear that I am here for her if she needs me to be but have tried not to smother her. She has other close friends. The problem is that she will send me a message ...
A. 7 October 2012: I think one thing that is difficult to grasp from your post is whether you are romantically interested in this woman. If you are, I would suggest keeping your distance. She has a lot of mental/emotional work to do within herself before she will be ... (read in full...)
He will not stop telling lies. He says he did it so as not to hurt me. What am I supposed to do in this situation?
Q. I was in a relationship with a guy, we brokeup but gave it another shot and saw some changes in him, don't know if he was pretending or really changed his ways but I was happy and had hopes. His biggest issue was lying. I chased him to stop lyin...
A. 7 October 2012: You are always going to question whether he is telling you the truth, and from my experience, these men who lie never change. I would stop seeing him and find someone you can trust.... (read in full...)
I love my husband AND my lover!
Q. I have a situation here, need your help please. To cut the long story short, am married for 9 years. My husband is a good man, but there’s no passion, no sex, no children in our marriage. I met someone at my work place, we started off as friends, ...
A. 7 October 2012: The guy basically told you he didn't have emotions for you and he was using you for sex, but yet you continue to try to analyze why he is doing what he is doing.
Let me fill you in. He doesn't care about you. He told you he doesn't care abo... (read in full...)
Husband wasn't happy when I was heavier and now that I'm think he's STILL not happy!
Q. I'm at my wits end right now. A few years ago, my husband teased me relentlessly about my weight. At first it was funny and cute and I thought that as long as he still wanted me ,there really wasn't a problem. Then his comments regarding my wai...
A. 5 October 2012: Now you look even foxier and he is noticing that everyone else is noticing how hot you are. I'd tell him too bad. Just for the record, he's being a jerk, so he's getting exactly what he deserves. He's also being emotionally abusive to you. ... (read in full...)
What can I do to re-Ignite her passion and show her she is still sexy and hot?
Q. If wife is going through menapause and is affecting our sex life what do I do? I have been pro-active and suggested many things we can do, but she says sex is not that important to her anymore and that sucks. I love my wife, but when she had our...
A. 5 October 2012: I like sexy emails and texts. Just be sure the sexy email isn't over work email. I also like little things like touching on an intimate part of my body...like the small of my back. I think there are very subtle yet smoking hot comments you can ... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped "liking" and commenting on my FB? Does he like me a bit? or am I reading too much into it now?
Q. So last semester "X" knew me through my friend but we never hang out. Over the summer he would "like" and comment on my Face Book a lot AND I would comment back. It must have been quite frequent because my friend and my Ex bf noticed him. My Ex ...
A. 5 October 2012: No offense, but this sounds like a bunch of teenagers hanging out. Honestly, it sounds like he was out for a good time and you fell for all the "play fighting" and "drinking" as something serious. I am not sure how he could be serious about you ... (read in full...)
My parents seemed cold towards meeting my black girlfriend, then later mom called and said she wanted bi-racial babies. What do I say?
Q. I'm a senior in college and over the summer I brought my gf home to meet my folks. We had been dating for a year and wanted to wait before meeting each other's families. So the first half of the holiday we went to her parents' in another state---it ...
A. 4 October 2012: Your mom is being rude, obnoxious, and immature. I would not tell your girlfriend, and I would tell your mom that you don't appreciate the way she has talked to you. I would also tell her that if she continues making such comments, that you won't ... (read in full...)
My younger brother seems to be cyber stalking girls, what do I do?
Q. Hello i dont know what to do with this. i was on my phone yesterday and my brother had used it earlier and gone on his facebook when i got it back it was still logged in and i know that he can be very immature with his friends so i looked at his ...
A. 4 October 2012: I would not let him use my phone and I would mind my own business in this situation. Boys are more immature than girls at this age, so he is going to do things you consider to be odd. Let him find out from the girls themselves, or from their ... (read in full...)
Should we wait until we have sex for the first time to try anything or should we find out our likes/dislikes now?
Q. I'm 17 and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. Our school did a sex ed talk with our form yesterday and we answered loads of questions and talked about stuff as a class. I found it really interesting. I discovered lots of things about my ...
A. 4 October 2012: I think you should only have sex when you're both ready, not because you've had a talk at school and decide to experiment because of it. Just because others have sex at your age, does not mean that you have to. Don't go any further than what you ... (read in full...)
My cousin has a Gf. And he and I flirt a lot. I am still a virgin. Should I agree to sex with him?
Q. Hi guys! Hope you can help me. I am a shy type of girl but i do flirted with my first cousin. Its my 3rd time to meet him last january. He's from jersey,he lives there, he's d same guy i wrote here last 2010 http://www.dearcup...
A. 3 October 2012: You are 28 and you are asking this question? Do you really think you are going to get answers in the affirmative from the aunts and uncles here?
I think you have received two very good answers so far. I know you may like this cousing, but it i... (read in full...)
Will I be taken seriously in a business professional environment or in interviews because of my less-than ultra-femme appearance?
Q. okay, this isn't actually a specific relationship question, so much as it's just a general question i really need advice about. it's something that is really stressing me a great deal. i am a 28-year-old college grad with great interpersonal re...
A. 3 October 2012: If you qualify for the job and you dress the part, then you should be taken seriously. The problem comes in when people don't look, act, and/or dress professionally. Focus on the job, not your sexuality. I don't normally wear dresses to ... (read in full...)
Attracted to my fiancee's older brother.
Q. My fiancee and I have been together for almost three years now, and we have a 1 1/2 year old daughter together. I'm about to be 20, and he just turned 19 in August. We're going to get married here in the next month or so. Now, my problem is, I've...
A. 2 October 2012: SageOldGuy is right on. ... (read in full...)
Because of an open relationship I may lose my gf
Q. a year ago, i asked my gf for an open relationship. i really wanted to experience more sexually from different types of women. We had been together for three years before i asked her, and after five months she told me she would give a try, though s...
A. 2 October 2012: I just think that if you are bringing other people into a relationship that you don't really want a relationship...you want to play around. Play around and don't involve the hearts/minds of others.
I agree with SageOldGuy and could not have sai... (read in full...)
Afraid of commitment and really unsure of just about everything in my life right now
Q. This is a long post but I really want to ask a lot of deep questions from the very wise agony aunts. For those that haven't followed my previous posts, I'll give a very quick intro to my situation. I met my wife three years ago. I had just finishe...
A. 2 October 2012: Buying a house is a very big commitment. If you are unsure...don't do it.
I think you have much bigger decisions than the ones you have posted.
Although you have some good things to say about your wife, she sounds like a tyrant to me. S... (read in full...)
Since he was diagnosed with bipolar he's started flirting with other women online. How should I react to this?
Q. I'm a 23 year-old woman in a steady relationship with my boyfriend of two years. I'd recently been in a vacation in the month of May and post the vacation am really petrified to observe certain discreet behavioural changes in him. He was diagnose...
A. 2 October 2012: Please do not allow him to use being bi-polar as an excuse for his poor choices. Bi-polar people can have high-highs and low-lows, but they still know the difference between right and wrong.
However, you have already said it would be impossib... (read in full...)
They say I am being selfish. I love my brother but giving everything up to care for him for the rest of his life seems too much.
Q. Little bit about myself first. I am 46 years old and the youngest of 4 siblings also i am gay. The only one in my family and my family history. Unlike my brothers i was quick to get out of school and left at 16. Unlike my brothers i have never ...
A. 2 October 2012: You are not obligated to care for your brother unless you are named his legal guardian when your parents pass away. You are not even obligated to find care for him unless you are named his legal guardian.
That said, you may find it more dif... (read in full...)
Need to tell him I've got feelings for some-one else, but how? What should I say? I feel terrible.
Q. How the hell do you tell a guy you've been on a few dates with that you have feelings for someone else? I've been out with this guy a few times and I do like him so much, but the problem is that this guy who I met much before the one i'm seeing now, ...
A. 2 October 2012: It IS wrong to carry-on with one guy when you don't like him. Regardless of whether you like someone else or not...it's wrong.
How do you tell him? You go to him and say you do not think your dating relationship is going to work out. That is ... (read in full...)
Attracted to my fiancee's older brother.
Q. My fiancee and I have been together for almost three years now, and we have a 1 1/2 year old daughter together. I'm about to be 20, and he just turned 19 in August. We're going to get married here in the next month or so. Now, my problem is, I've...
A. 2 October 2012: Honestly, I would call off your marriage and wait until you have figured out exactly what you want in life. It's one thing to have sexual dreams, it's another to think you might be attracted to someone else...be it a family member of your fiance or ... (read in full...)
Long-term, recently long-distance relationship, but I have a bisexual crush with my teacher!
Q. I'm a girl, I am having a long-term relationship with this awesome guy, and after some years of being together he's recently moved to another country and we're having a long-distance relationship now. I'm not ready to break things off with him, but ...
A. 2 October 2012: You are playing with fire. I am a teacher and can speak from experience. Do you honestly think that a professional like your teacher is sexually/romantically interested in you? Your teacher's job is to teach you, not have a romantic interest in ... (read in full...)
I feel I'm losing my Best Friend, by breaking up. But how do I move on after being battered beaten and destroyed - not physically, but emotionally?
Q. I'm battered beaten and destroyed - not physically but emotionally. How does one break up with someone they call their best friend of 16 years? We have a child together. How does one move on with ones life?...
A. 2 October 2012: Very slowly. I did not have a child with my ex, but we were together for 7 years. He was my best friend, and when we separated I was devastated.
I think the best thing you can do is allow yourself to grieve. Cry when you need to and be easy on ... (read in full...)
I found a lot of disturbing things on his pc and I'm worried about my children
Q. Hello i really need help with this its killing me. Ive just moved my boyfriend in and he bought his pc wellni looked at it and found loads of lolicon on it. It was horrible and my head is so messed up, we have been friend years then i started dating ...
A. 1 October 2012: I think you are a bit confused yourself. You posted a question about your boyfriend's disturbing photos, now you have convinced yourself that those photos are "ok" because he "didn't see them as wrong".
Didn't see them as wrong? And now you ... (read in full...)
I found a lot of disturbing things on his pc and I'm worried about my children
Q. Hello i really need help with this its killing me. Ive just moved my boyfriend in and he bought his pc wellni looked at it and found loads of lolicon on it. It was horrible and my head is so messed up, we have been friend years then i started dating ...
A. 1 October 2012: Why are you making excuses for him? There is no way to help you or your children if you are going to make excuses. Why would it matter if he was a teenager when he put them on there. That would make it even more disturbing to me...that he has ... (read in full...)
He isn't ready for a relationship, but I really like him!
Q. I need help or advice .There's this guy in my English class that i really like .he already knows that i like him and he told me that he just wasn't ready for a relationship just yet due to past ones ,and that he just wanted to be friends. we are ...
A. 30 September 2012: If he told you he is not ready for a relationship, there isn't much you can do until he changes his mind. He will change his mind when he is ready, so don't try to pressure him into it. It will just cause trouble between the two of you.
I wou... (read in full...)
I found a lot of disturbing things on his pc and I'm worried about my children
Q. Hello i really need help with this its killing me. Ive just moved my boyfriend in and he bought his pc wellni looked at it and found loads of lolicon on it. It was horrible and my head is so messed up, we have been friend years then i started dating ...
A. 30 September 2012: Actually, since it is your home, I would move him back out with the help of your ex and/or dad, brothers, and/or any male friends you have. You need a support network. You can also turn him and his computer into law enforcement officials.... (read in full...)
I found a lot of disturbing things on his pc and I'm worried about my children
Q. Hello i really need help with this its killing me. Ive just moved my boyfriend in and he bought his pc wellni looked at it and found loads of lolicon on it. It was horrible and my head is so messed up, we have been friend years then i started dating ...
A. 30 September 2012: You need to leave this home immediately for the safety of your children. Stay with a friend or family member until you can gather your things and leave permanently. Your children are at risk, and there is no way I would trust someone with that ... (read in full...)
She is very down and I worry about her, should I tell her?
Q. Hi. I have a female friend who has recently separated from her husband. I have made it clear that I am here for her if she needs me to be but have tried not to smother her. She has other close friends. The problem is that she will send me a message ...
A. 30 September 2012: I would tell her. In fact, I would tell her how you feel if you really care about her. I would tell her that you know she is going through a hard time, but you are upset by the fact that she makes plans with you and they always fall through. ... (read in full...)
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