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This guy I met a week ago won't leave me alone!

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Question - (2 September 2012) 8 Answers - (Newest, 2 September 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I met a guy a week ago, yes that's just a week ago, we talked and generally got on. I told him from the offset that I wasn't looking for anything more than friendship and he seemed cool with that, but now he won't stop calling me. Apparently we are like soul mates!!!! I have a lot of personal issues going on at the moment which I need to address. I have told him this but he said he wants to be there for me. He has referred to me as his girl, to which I replied I really don't think so at all. I like my own space and could do without anyone having expectations of me. Thing is he's a bit of a bad lad and im kinda scared to tell him to do one completely. How do I get out of this one. I now have my phone diverted to voicemail and have ignored his attempts to contact me but he is still trying. This is really stressing me out and I could really do without it. Does anyone have suggestions??? He knows where my mum lives, but not where I live, and I could do without any crazy business.

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A male reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (2 September 2012):

olderthandirt agony auntTell him you are interested in girls only

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A female reader, oldbag United Kingdom +, writes (2 September 2012):

oldbag agony auntHi

He doesn't sound like a "bad lad", if he was he would have women lined up in reserve and not give you a 2nd thought.

This bloke is STILL harrassing you a week after you've told him no thanks.Thats a desperate man.A bit of a weirdo.

Continue to ignore him and he should eventually get bored.If he persists or your genuinely concerned - then go to the Police,explain and show them the calls etc this man has made.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (2 September 2012):

chigirl agony auntTell him you met someone else.

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (2 September 2012):

DoubleM agony auntI agree, don;t take the calls and ignore him. If needed, change your phone number.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2012):

You've stopped him from communicating with you, just leave it at that and see if anything else happens, like he finds out where you live and harasses you there. Then if he does, phone the police... You can get a harassment order against him and If he breaks it he could be arrested and took to court.

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A female reader, BondGirl72 United States +, writes (2 September 2012):

BondGirl72 agony auntIf you have told him what you are looking for, and he continues, then you need to stop communicating with him completely. Do not answer calls, texts, emails, etc. Like SVC said, he will stop eventually, but it may take awhile.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (2 September 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntyou have told him.

you are not talking to him

he will stop

just ignore him.

if he continues you may have to call the police and report him as a stalker.

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A female reader, fishdish United States +, writes (2 September 2012):

fishdish agony aunttell him it's not working for you, you're not interested, and if he calls again you'll block him. and then block him. if you're really worried maybe ask the police what they can do (I think here you need physical harm before you can actually get a restraining order or help, something terrible like that).

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