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36-40,
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writes:I split up with my boyfriend last week, we had the stupidest argument he ignored me for a day and told me he didn't want to see me again. He rang me the next day and I ignored him, I set up my facebook account again because he asked me to delete it before, it just caused arguments when men spoke to me. I went out on the weekend but stupidly phoned saying I missed him. He told me I was winding him up as he could hear men in the background, it was a pub so what did he expect! Then called me a slag cos I was on facebook. He's phoned 20 odd times a day and then showed up at my work telling evryone I was a slag and I was harrassing him. He really scared my friend at work. He's going on saying I'm on facebook for men when I noticed on his account he's liking all these girls photos.this all sounds like silly kids arguing but he's 40 years old! He makes me feel bad about myself calling me lazy and degrades me by calling me a slut. I've never cheated and I don't speak to any men. I'm so stressed and he won't leave me alone. I try really hard not to rise to him but its hard. What can I say to him or tell him to get him to stop!
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (6 September 2012):
 SVC is right on. Every time you communicate him you fuel the fire. You cannot communicate with these guys. When you communicate, you give them confidence that they still have you wrapped around their littler finger. As SVC says, block him on everything and if you can't, delete anything he sends you and do not answer if he calls. If he visits your home, do not answer the door. You have to be more proactive with this because right now you are still treating him as if he matters. Shut the door on him and leave it there.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 September 2012):
 have you blocked him on facebook?
have you blocked his email and his phone numbers?
you don't say ANYTHING OR DO ANYTHING
you block and ignore
if he continues then you get an RO
you sound like a couple of teenagers to be honest...
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (5 September 2012):
 I'm shocked he is 40. I was thinking the whole time you were both in teens or early 20's. The first thing you do is block him from calling you and delete his number. Call your phone company or get an app to block the number. If nothing else, change your number. Next block him from seeing your Facebook. Don't look at his either, I think when he is blocked you can't anyway. You want him out of your life so get him out, don't worry who he likes on Facebook. Now if he shows up at your work harassing people you tell him to leave or you are calling the police. And actually do it, don't make empty threats. If the harassment continues or he begins stalking you, go to the police and report him. If you really want him gone you can. And you won't hear any of his mean comments or insults once he is blocked and ignored from your life. Then you move on.
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reader, ktmae +, writes (5 September 2012):
 this kind of aggresive behavior should include cops a restraining order. I had one like that who befor it was all over broke in my house while i was out put 300 $ worth of kids books in plastic tote and filled it with water then put all mine and my sons stuff outside in the rain and put tge water hose on it then peed in my bed all my tvs were thrown out the door and this was my house . He is dangerous and if you dont get it fixed now he could get worse the only way i got rid of him was the cops thank god for them but i waited till all my stuff was destroyed.
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