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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I could really use some help. Im in a relationship where there have been trust issues. My bf has and is doing all he can to rectify the situation, he told me and showed me everything it was very difficult for me. I have gone back and forth debating on whether i can be with him. I want to and i love him, however i find im having trouble moving past it. I go through his email accounts and his phone, he lets me, but i dont want to do that. Its become a paranoid habit. I dont want to feel like i have to keep tabs on him. Hes faithful to me now, and i will leave if anything happens again. How do i move on from this? I should specify that he never slept with anyone else but joined many dating sites, chated w women online, messeged women on cl. I can barely mention it with out feeling angry and hurt. Im putting my best foot forward, but im stuck... How does one move on from this? Anything i can do on a day to day basis? Thanks in advance.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (4 August 2012):
 It depends on if you feel that moving forward is worth it, or if there is anything he will be able to do to make it up to you and build your trust back. Sometimes when cheating takes place (and this was cheating even though he didn't sleep with anyone), the other person can't move passed it as hard as she may try. Trust is everything, and checking his phone and email accounts is no way to have a relationship.
It would be hard for me to accept that he spent so much time and energy on those sites, knowing full well it wasn't respectful to you, and at that point in time, was hunting for other women? So, has that changed just because he isn't on all these sites?
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