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| Latest articles: An Introduction to TANTRA. .As, power of light.
No replies yet... 3 February 2010: Article No 2...MEANING OF OBJECT. ... The object, so conceptualized by the word ‘tantra’ is sex organ in a state of erection. So, the object underlines the ideology of ‘eroticism. Here eroticism is principle, or philosophy, and not sexology...
An Introduction to TANTRA.
No replies yet... 26 January 2010: Tantra is a word belong to ancient Indian Sanskrit language. This word has been used by scholars in many ways, such as [1] It is used as a religious way with the ideas of god and goddess or deva and devis, temples, prayers, meditations, chanting ...
Think sex and Get pleasure..
No replies yet... 10 December 2009: What I am suppose to think? and What I am suppose to do? - in the realm of sex. This one is really hardest problem of life. Let me be the guide for those who want to think for themselves and want to be the original actor, and not a cheap imitator...
Sex existed before religion, and is the reason for relationships
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29 November 2009: Relationship is problem, perhaps most fatal problem. All destructive event like murder to suicide occur from bad terms of relations. It is also true that men cannot live without relating with something or with someone. So, it is quite necessary to ...
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Do girls care about circumcision?
Q. I m uncircumcised I don't know if it's going to be a problem ,i got pretty good size 9 inch and i can pull my forskin back pretty long way and it's not causing me any issues in bed ,and all women have a great pleasure during sex. Since now no women ...
A. 21 April 2010: Male or female care about having sex with greater love-respect-admiration and intimacy...is all, and all the rest is only minor details for which all sort of compromise is possible.... (read in full...)
Will any man love an ashamed ex-prostitute?
Q. I am from an abusive family and at the age of 16 I ran away from home. I am ashamed to admit this but I turned to prostitution. I did this for a few months. It is a dark depressing period in my life. I eventually moved in with a friend from ...
A. 21 April 2010: As long as you acknowledged yourself as 'female', and not trader of sex...you are lovable. The moment you acknowledged your self as 'female', seeking love-sex-affection...think your past is dead. Never bring it into memory. Create your own ... (read in full...)
Is it the right thing to do to warn a partner we might not look so great when naked?
Q. I think as we get older, we become a bit less selfish. But even though that is a good thing, it is a shame that we start to put on a bit of weight. Then when we strip naked before having sex, we have to warn the other person that we might not look ...
A. 21 April 2010: The first thing is our faith in 'sex', that its life giving nature is eternal, must not be allow to crack. Naturally, with the maturity, gained by age give us such strength in vision. Now physical shape is not as important as in early age. Now ... (read in full...)
What I consider so special he's done with so many other girls!
Q. I lost my virginity to my BF but he slept with 6 girls (that I know of) before me. I knew that he wasn't a virgin before we got intimate. This didn't bother me before but now it's bothering me. To me, sex is something special and something you on...
A. 19 April 2010: You are right in saying that sex is special, keep reserve for special person, like 'life-partner', but sex has universal element, so it can be share with any 'desirous' person, if not lovable. In orthodox society, where choice of 'relationship' ... (read in full...)
I feel used and cheap
Q. So my boyfriend and I had an argument. And I'm extremely pissed right now. We have been dating for 3 months. Off and on. We have not had sex since wednesday night, well we had sex on sunday (but that doesnt count he says). We got into an argument ...
A. 13 April 2010: You both are right in your own individual way. Anyway, the problem is not serious. Compromise is in between you, which you both should find out. Everyone need sex, but in relationship- why? Because, relationship is a mutual dependency. Your ... (read in full...)
Can you love 2 people at the same time?
Q. my ex left me for another girl 8 months ago yet we've still remained in touch. he says he still loves me and would like to think we'll get back together some day. he also admits that he loves her and doesnt know what to do. What's he playing at? You ...
A. 11 April 2010: To love some one means, to make some 'one' as uniquely ONE. Of course, one can have sex with more than one, but love is very rigid and orthodox in this sense. To have such love is positive values. Such love do not demand faith, but honesty, ... (read in full...)
Why do men turn to protitutes?
Q. this may sound like a random question, but why do alot of men visit prostitutes? most of them are dirty crack addicts who are really ugly and are tramps, and why would men want to do that if they have a pretty girl at home who is willing to do ...
A. 10 April 2010: It is sex-and not female- really a free gift of nature. Sex pleasure is free, but nature of social system is such that make sex a payable property, by imposing unnatural morality. It is society that encourage 'jealousy' as a moral worth, and make ... (read in full...)
Which do women prefer?
Q. I have a question for sexually exspearinced woman...Do woman prefer an uncircumsized male or circumsized? To those woman who have encountered a foreskin, why do most woman pull it all the way down and pretend its not there, is it because you think ...
A. 10 April 2010: As a part of my observation I am saying, the foreskin in-it-self is highly sensitive, and very responsive to touch, specific for oral touch. Where as penis {head], has little or no sense of touch. It is possible to play for hrs to hrs, and feel ... (read in full...)
Are men just 'wired' to want to sleep around?
Q. Sandra Bullock. Elin Woods. Shania Twain. Jennifer Aniston. Sienna Miller (both the cheater and the cheatee). Today's news brings information on Gabrielle Beauvouis (can't spell her name) also being cheated upon for 5 years. Kate fucking Gosselin. ...
A. 9 April 2010: Here this question has true answer, but true answer has no guarantee that it will be acceptable. Let me reformulate the question again: Why celebrities cheat their life partner on sexual matter? If such is the question, then answer lay in the nature ... (read in full...)
Should I follow my heart or listen to my head?
Q. My boyrfriend and i have been off and on for the last year, we have had about 3 break ups. 4 months after we first got together he hit me at school and left a bruise on my face. my parents decided that i had to break up with him. so i did as my ...
A. 7 April 2010: See "head and heart" are very fatal dichotomy, popularized by enemy of philosophy. Generally feelings are attributed to heart, and intellect to head. But, reality is different. Feeling {heart} is function of mind, and knowing {intellect} is also ... (read in full...)
Threesome with husband & best friend gone wrong... I think??
Q. Hello, My husband and I had a threesome with my best friend the other evening. I wasn't exactly into it and I told him but he kept insisting and finally when we were all watching tv he made the move. I wasn't exactly expecting him too but I thought ...
A. 29 March 2010: Your is exact description of 'how threesome felt' to the mind of one participant.
Really threesome is rooted from different ideology. The idea is about 'erotic type love making', which should and must 'NON-EJACULATORY'. Three some in this system i... (read in full...)
He says he prefers me over the porn any day, but I still feel like I am competing with it.
Q. Okay, I know there are a lot of questions on this topic already, but I still need help. My fiance watches porn, a lot. I don't know how much, because he never wants to talk about it, but I know it's very frequently. He said as much to me at on...
A. 23 March 2010: Why we oppose PORN?
Because it is sexual? No, because porn is anti-sexual, so we are against porn.
PORN IS AN INSULT, DEMEANING, AND VULGAR REPRESENTATION OF SEX...is the reason. But, more profound reason for our hatred for porn is only, th... (read in full...)
I thought what we had was worth trying to save
Q. i have a serious relationship with my boyfriend for the last 1 and a half year. We work in the same place in managerial positions, due to his profession he stays in the workplace and 5 or 6 days a week I was also sharing his apartment, very happily ...
A. 21 March 2010: The thing you describe is shocking, and you felt very sharp shock, which was natural and it is also natural that you will come out from such shocking state, and now it is time to think, and not 'feel', because right thinking will solve problem, and ... (read in full...)
Pain upon insertion...who can help?
Q. jus replay if u can realy help me am am 28 yr male.having problem in sex with my girl only in the time of insertion i cant jus do it becoz she crays out of pain.we tried oil,my slightly large penis may be the problem,some body who have gone throu th...
A. 21 March 2010: Pain is the proof of mistaken ideas and action. Female's vagina is capable of passing a child which is larger in size than seize of any sex organ possess by male. You both are feeling tension, so time being you cannot help each other. The best ... (read in full...)
How do you know if you have a musical talent?
Q. I'm feeling conflicted and sad because I love music more than almost anything on earth. I have played the guitar for most of my life and I would like to do more than just play it as a hobby; I would like to do it on a professional level. My q...
A. 21 March 2010: 'No one born with inbuilt talent,' as it is said by Ms Ayn Rand, world's most famous female philosopher. She continued in saying,' man is just able to do what he love to do.' I learn philosophy by my own effort, by reading philosopher's book, by ... (read in full...)
How do you make a male orgasm feel better?
Q. what does a male orgasm feel like, and how do i make it better?...
A. 20 March 2010: Orgasm is felt during the erection and before ejaculation as a wave of impulses felt in sex organ, and spread other part of the body, like lips, hands, nose, ear etc. In couple sex, make it a point to make erection as hard as possible, as long time ... (read in full...)
25 married and pregnant with sexually obsessed cyber sex addicted husband!
Q. I have been with my husband for 6 years. Married for 3. We have a 5 year old daughter and i am now 5 months pregnant. I am 25 years old. our relationship seemed to be great until we got married. Since then i have found out various things about him. ...
A. 20 March 2010: You feel pain, which is natural, because thing is painful. But, check out for some option, like I am suggesting one for you, which I hope will work.
It is also natural, that sex after marriage do not seems as magnetic as before marriage it felt... (read in full...)
I've never been attracted to a woman before, but I fantasize about my husband's ex wife!
Q. What do I do,I am sexually attracted to my husband's ex-wife I have never been attracted to another woman before. We talk to each other all the time we are good friends. But I can't stop thinking about her, I think about her when I am having sex ...
A. 20 March 2010: So you are not jealous, and sex to you is great. You feel intimacy with your husband's ex-wife on the wave length of sexual vibration.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's past
Q. Girlfriends past. I have seen this topic discussed elsewhere with similar situations of mine but have yet to see consistent helpful replies, I know its not anyone’s job to help me out but I was just hoping that someone could shed some light on wh...
A. 20 March 2010: We all are capable of making mistake and also have ability to correct our mistake. But, mistake are not crime. Volitional Sexual activity should not be treated as 'crime', but there are chances of making bad choice. One is always free to correct ... (read in full...)
My husband has lost his sexual desire - is it me?
Q. My husband lost his desire ,and erection. He thinks it is a medical problem,but the doctor says he is OK. No heart ,d, or any problems, not even with hormones. So, this is tremendous impact on our marriage. I don't know how to accept this...What ...
A. 20 March 2010: Most excellence and convincing reply I read here is from ' Gasolina', Her answer to this question is 'real realization' about 'way of life'. It indicate 'eroticism' against 'ejaculatory' method. Those who follow second method will loss 'freshness' ... (read in full...)
Loose? Or control issues?
Q. Ok...I have visited this site on several occassions with the same dilemma...my boyfriend complains about sex with me. He says that my vagina and anus are loose and I do not feel the same way I did when he met me one year ago. The anus I can ...
A. 19 March 2010: The nature of complaint, is the proof of ignorance about sex pleasure. It is male who usually want tight grip around their sex organ. Such male are conditioned with their masturbation. And, tragically most sex expert favored masturbation, and not ... (read in full...)
Will allowing my wife to sleep with other men get her through her mid life crisis?
Q. My wife has came to me with the idea that she wants to sleep with other men. She is madly in love with me and our sex life is incredible. She has been chatting online with other men and has lined up her first "dude" for this Friday night. She is ...
A. 19 March 2010: There are things, earn good wealth if traded. And, there is this thing, "SEX" causes loss if traded. Your dealing is 'trading', to save marriage, or to have something new in sex...Sex in couple is magical, You both miss to check the real magic of ... (read in full...)
Do any men like giving oral?
Q. I have only ever been with the one man in my life and he does not enjoy performing oral sex on a woman. He claims that men just DON'T like it at all. This may be a stupid and very obvious question I should know the answer to, but because I have o...
A. 19 March 2010: All erotic sexual activity rest on 'ORAL', Why? because it really create what is called 'orgasm'. There is a very special school of thought in the department of Tantric sex, that recommend oral sex. Oral is always mutual, and there is one sex ... (read in full...)
Why can I not get my boyfriend to orgasm?
Q. Why doesnt my boyfriend orgasm when i give him a handjob, i try but he has to finish it himself, please answer i need help!...
A. 18 March 2010: The first thing about your problem is that, you are talking about 'ejaculation'. You wanted to see ejaculation as a result of your hand job. Such ejaculation is not 'orgasm'. Orgasm is a climax of sex pleasure, which has more up and down in one sex ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my mother in-law? I cant keep living like this!
Q. I don't know from where I start ,I am tired of the situation I am living in.and I do not know what I should do ,I need help,I want to make a mature and a right decision. Before I get married,I was in different country ,and my husband was living w...
A. 18 March 2010: The problem you quote is real real problem, here it is husband torn between two female, mother and wife. Both side involve very serious and delicate emotional situation. Husband always in a critical situation. He is receiving sharp blow from wife ... (read in full...)
I feel humilated coz my ex is telling everyone we had sex in a park!
Q. I was dating a guy, and I broke up with him on account of the fact that he cheated on me with one of my friends. When I broke up with him , I stopped talking to him for a while but we became friends again after some time. So later we met up at a ...
A. 16 March 2010: If you think clearly, than as a result you will 'feel' wisely. You are in your twenties, and need clear thinking. It is about sex, your ideas should be as clear as sunlight... just sun light make everything visible, like this you should have clear ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I'm ugly or not...you tell me
Q. I'm 13 and guys and everyone else calls me fat and ugly but most of the time the call me a cow and moo at me down the hallway I would punch them but don't need an 8 write up. These kind of ppl make me so angry they make me crazy and my mother has ...
A. 14 March 2010: Without see you in pic, I cannot say anything about beauty or ugliness in you, but with most certainty, I have reason to say that intellectually you possess maturity of 30 at the age of 13...here is your statement, that make me to think like ... (read in full...)
Help!!! Is there anything that I can do to be more attractive or just accept that I'm ugly?
Q. I've just been feeling like a frumpy old bag lately... just unsexy and plain. I can't imagine anyone ever being attracted to me. Is there anything that I can do to be more attractive or just accept that I'm ugly? Am I just too old to be s...
A. 13 March 2010: Spiritual beauty is something, which can make sex more alive and vital, if learned and cultivated properly. Spirit is more powerful than body, is scientifically and philosophically proved truth.... (read in full...)
I want to see a virginal vagina!
Q. Of all the porn that is there on the net, and in hard copy, i have seldom come across a photograph of a real virgin girl with her hymen intact. I am a male and from a conservative society, and am going to marry soon. The marriage is an arranged ...
A. 13 March 2010: This question remind me of Russel's statement {Who is noble prize winner philosopher of England], Who has studied Greek Civilization, influenced by Pagan culture...and then the influence of Christianity, which is as if evolved from and revolved ... (read in full...)
16 years of deceit and manipulation...
Q. I lied about my past to my boyfriend of 8 years, now husband of 6 years about my sexual past. He left for college 18 mths after we met with the promise that he will return, in fact he made regular visits back home and each time i would let him feel ...
A. 13 March 2010: Your voice in your writing sound very honest, so I feel sympathy for you. I always think, that honesty is better than faithfulness. Tell your husband, that past sex affairs are not much important event than PRESENT RELATIONSHIP... Honesty is highest ... (read in full...)
I want more but I can't have everything I want so what do I do???
Q. DEAR CUPID I have been messing around with this guy at work for a month now, when we first started out he told he was not looking for a relationship and also he said that I was going to catch feelings for him in a joking way but he was right, now I ...
A. 13 March 2010: You are very young, and female so, totally driven by emotional feeling, where as this man feel satisfied with 'sensual feeling'...just smooth, wet, warm touch only...He has made his attitude clear. And, it is your turn to learn the difference ... (read in full...)
He says he prefers me over the porn any day, but I still feel like I am competing with it.
Q. Okay, I know there are a lot of questions on this topic already, but I still need help. My fiance watches porn, a lot. I don't know how much, because he never wants to talk about it, but I know it's very frequently. He said as much to me at on...
A. 12 March 2010: PM's answer/analysis. through totally new light on the issue. Personally I am not in favor of porn, but the way the analysis is presented is at least thinkable. Why so many male and not female feel interest in porn? It may be true that female think ... (read in full...)
Do you think things will gradually get back to the way it used to be?
Q. I'm 16 years old and been on and off with my boyfriend for the past 2 years. we both love each other and thats why we always end up back together no matter what happens. In the past my boyfriend was always the one who wanted to talk to me every ...
A. 12 March 2010: The thing will not come back normally, but you have to be active and demanding. Start fighting [ Not quarreling } for his bad habit of smoking, and habit of remain far with other friends. Bad and Good things will not occur automatically, so one has ... (read in full...)
Is my erection normal even although we're just holding hands???
Q. Okay, i have dated a few girls now in my life and every time we go out and we hold hands or just cuddle or just kiss i get an erection that will last the whole date if we continue on at least holding hands. is this normal? and after the date is over ...
A. 12 March 2010: It is healthy as per your description. Your mental attitude should be positive, and not attacking sexually. Such state of erection will make your touch more energetic, make your partner more intimate. Yes --for testicle hurting you should consult ... (read in full...)
He is letting his mother control his life, and I don't know what to do. can anyone offer any advice?
Q. My bf and I have issues going on. we are together for 3 yrs now. the problem i have with him is he cannot sleep by me at all. He owns a Vehicle so his excuse is he has to take his brother (age 17) to school. but when school give holidays he don't ...
A. 12 March 2010: "Three years of relationship ???" Then love is certainly born and must have its voice. No...I cannot advise you to leave him, but encourage you to fight for cause.
It is not orthodoxy of his mother, but bad psychology, ...of ruler's psycholo... (read in full...)
We talk all the time but she makes excuses not to see me.
Q. I started a relationship with a girl going through divorce back in November. Things were going great, she was coming over every night, we had sex for a week straight, she said I turned her on. After 3 months she suddenly stopped coming over, still ...
A. 12 March 2010: It is mind torturing process of making choice, amongst many possible option. It sound like this in your case. It will not be useful to make straight discussion, but better to wait for right time, where result will come automatically. She make call ... (read in full...)
Sexually addicted??
Q. Dear Cupid: My fiance has cut back on viewing porn (well, as far as I know). Now every night, all he wants is me to tell him of my past sexual experiences. He says he'd rather jack off to that instead of viewing porn. Does this sound like somebody...
A. 12 March 2010: Addictions {habits] are good if positive, like physical exercise, but bad if negative, like alcoholism, gambling, and repetition of some doing [in this case sexual}.... such doing cause boredom.
Sexual additions are cause by cultural influenc... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong here or is this due to his insecurities?
Q. My boyfriend is very insecure.. we are fighting at the moment because i went to my brothers place for dinner and he said to me "you were probably out with some guy having a quicky" i thought this was disrespectful and said to him i dont want to a...
A. 11 March 2010: How? How a love affair can be piece of scientific affair? After all life is not science laboratory. Little jealousy, little insecurity, little irrational fight...are the poetry of life. Some jealousy [ not much ]is the taste of true love.
He wa... (read in full...)
He wont forgive me after our fight, how can I get over this?
Q. I had 2 arguments with my boyfriend in a row and on a very simple reason. It was his fault that he couldnt return my phone calls since he was with his friends and I scolded him the following day. He kept silent saying nothing and that means he is ...
A. 11 March 2010: Nothing serious, dear. It happens in love relation, and there is nothing serious to worry. It is time for you to show more and more affection, show more romance, write a good lover letter saying sorry. In turn he will enjoy your struggle silently, ... (read in full...)
Why should I have to choose between my girlfriend and my mum?
Q. Please help. My girlfriend and i have a young baby, my girlfriend thinks my mum hasn't made enough effort in coming to see us and the baby (which maybe she hasn't but my gf hasn't made her feel welcome lately). Also my mum is depressed at the ...
A. 11 March 2010: Such thing happen, particularly in 'husband's life. Both female, the wife and the mother, see each other as rival. I had the impression that such thing happen in India only, but after reading many posts of similar type in this site, I conclude that ... (read in full...)
How can I help her orgasm more often?
Q. me and my fiance have sex on a regular basis and she orgasms every time but i kinda feel bad because she rarely orgasms more than once at a time and even rarer still has a really powerful orgasm, but i always end up orgasming at least twice ...
A. 11 March 2010: Sex on regular basis, and you expect more occasion of orgasm? It is difficult for her, and if you introspect the content of your own mind, you will be able to see the difference. Better you make foreplay regular, without intercourse regularly, and ... (read in full...)
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