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| Latest articles: An Introduction to TANTRA. .As, power of light.
No replies yet... 3 February 2010: Article No 2...MEANING OF OBJECT. ... The object, so conceptualized by the word ‘tantra’ is sex organ in a state of erection. So, the object underlines the ideology of ‘eroticism. Here eroticism is principle, or philosophy, and not sexology...
An Introduction to TANTRA.
No replies yet... 26 January 2010: Tantra is a word belong to ancient Indian Sanskrit language. This word has been used by scholars in many ways, such as [1] It is used as a religious way with the ideas of god and goddess or deva and devis, temples, prayers, meditations, chanting ...
Think sex and Get pleasure..
No replies yet... 10 December 2009: What I am suppose to think? and What I am suppose to do? - in the realm of sex. This one is really hardest problem of life. Let me be the guide for those who want to think for themselves and want to be the original actor, and not a cheap imitator...
Sex existed before religion, and is the reason for relationships
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29 November 2009: Relationship is problem, perhaps most fatal problem. All destructive event like murder to suicide occur from bad terms of relations. It is also true that men cannot live without relating with something or with someone. So, it is quite necessary to ...
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Is semen good for the skin
Q. is semen swallowing beneficial for healthy skin? ...
A. 25 February 2010: To Miamine,
The point mentioned in this statement,'Respectfully disagree bharat mehta. Isn't most of sexual pleasure based in the mind? It is not only the mechanics of sex which give us pleasure, but also the sights, the sounds and the stories we t... (read in full...)
I was raped by my ex boyfriend
Q. bout a month to 2 months ago i was at my babys dads house who i am not with we have been split for a while now well we were having sex and he asked me if he could put it in my ass i said no he said comeon y not i said no sorry i cant do that so we ...
A. 23 February 2010: The advice of ' Angzw' seem more relevant here. Best way is to obtain legal opinion once. We are not specialist in law matter, so we are unable to say anything specific.
But, if you had not consented, means you have not used any 'lubrica... (read in full...)
Is semen good for the skin
Q. is semen swallowing beneficial for healthy skin? ...
A. 23 February 2010: I am sorry to say here: The ideas of swallowing 'semen' is worst influence of 'porno culture'.
SEMEN IS ROOT CAUSE OF 'EROTIC PLEASURE'
To grasp such truth, one is required to be introspective, it is self-evident truth. It can be observed quir... (read in full...)
Do girls my age masturbate?
Q. Okay, I'm 13, and I've been masturbating since I was 10. I'm a girl. and I'm just so confused on how many girls my age do it. I feel kind of weird cos all my girl friends except for one claims that they dont do it.. I feel very alone. and I just ...
A. 23 February 2010: All boys and girls, around your age do this, did and will do,- is part of nature that manage such doing in all being. But, at younger age, or even at mature age also, most people has not grasped the law of nature and feel some insecurity.
What ... (read in full...)
Can someone explain to me what LOVE is?
Q. Can someone explain to me what LOVE is? My Mother thinks it is remaining monogamous for 53 years. Till my Father died. I don't know I have had 3 Long lasting relationships in life the latter ending in Marriage. I still don't know what love is...
A. 23 February 2010: We should note difference between 'liking' and 'loving'. Although, both are in the same category. The word love when associate with 'eroticism', it refer 'romantic love'. The questioner mean this 'romantic love'. But, what D.H. Lowrance, the world ... (read in full...)
I met my perfect man about six weeks ago, but he only wants a platonic relationship
Q. Hi All! I will really appreciate any insight. I have a lot going on in my life right now, but feel like I have romantic needs. I've been looking for someone kind and mature for a long time. I met someone about a month and a half ago. He's ...
A. 21 February 2010: See, this term 'platonic' is confusing you. Platonic love is only 'LOVE' and love and love without SEX. It is like mother loving her children.
It is good to discuss with him, keeping this meaning in mind, and call for his agreement, whether ... (read in full...)
First time sex... I don't know whether I should do it or not.
Q. Hi, my question is on first time sex and its not going to be easy to answer, but basically I was wondering whether I should do it or not. I know this must sound a little odd, but I was watching a Family Guy episode last night (don't knock it, it a...
A. 21 February 2010: Your post is interesting. In reply, I am giving you some cultural ideas.
In all human history, in all nation, and in everybody's head, there exists ORTHODOX culture, that regard sex as something, that should be done in marriage relation only. Wh... (read in full...)
What does it feel like to receive oral sex?
Q. this is a bit of a rude question but im really curious to know what it feels like to recieve oral sex. can anybody describe it. does it feel weird? im worried i wont like it. im a lesbian and me and my girlfriend have done everything else and now ...
A. 21 February 2010: Every act related to sex; from oral, to cuddling, to hugging... need intimacy, familiarity, till then sex remain as curiosity of mind. With love, mind became mature and able to taste of life...not only sex.... (read in full...)
He forced himself on me, but I love him even more now! Should I dump him?
Q. sooo this is going to be a long. ahh i dont know where to startt.. alright im 15 and my boyfriends 21. we've only been dating for almost a month on the 24th. i made it clear that i was a virgin and he understood that. he told me that he used to do a ...
A. 21 February 2010: Do what other uncle and aunt say, but I am telling you about your saying, still you love...No it is not love you know. Or, you have no idea about love. You are feeling sex, is right but not love. He is not fit for and capable of love. I advise you ... (read in full...)
My breasts are heavily bruised from his hands, biting, and sucking. Any worries for the future?
Q. Dear Aunties-- Thanks so much in advance for reading. I care very much for my boyfriend of several months. I thought I should start off saying that to clarify that this isn't a casual situation. Whenever I let my boyfriend feel up my breasts, we g...
A. 21 February 2010: You and your boy friend are little ignorant about love making. Love making is an act of play with delicacy of flower.It should not be forceful act, that resulted in sore.If you want high voltage of sexual vibration,[should and must want, if not than ... (read in full...)
How can I be hot with small boobs?
Q. How can I be hot with small boobs? I have small boobs, wide hips and a small waist. I think it's a very feminine looking body. But guys still drool more over busty women! I don't get it, boobs are only fat. I've seen guys drooling over women with ...
A. 21 February 2010: Sexually hotness and coldness is a quality of mind and not of sex organ, like breast, nipple, penis or vagina. it is mind that lead sex drive, and if it reverse than one should be prepare for eventual coldness.... (read in full...)
Wife no longer interested in sex; is it OK to look elsewhere?
Q. Hi there everyone, Mike here, new to the site but isn't it good? I have a problem, we've been married over 35 years and we hav'nt had sex for the last 22 of them, we've not fallen out in fact we're far better together than when we had sex, but just...
A. 21 February 2010: What you are facing is problem, but quite normal problem. Many female above forty face fatigue of sex due to hormonal problem. you should be . Be friendly, and with little time, all will be good and normal. At fifty, [myself sixty], every one can ... (read in full...)
Is this what younger girls are like these days??
Q. Can some of you please explain the mind set of today's young women in their early 20's? I am in my mid-30's and have recently entered the dating scene. Although I am 35, I am in great physical condition and most people say I look 25. I married my...
A. 21 February 2010: What female reader,'Angzw' mentioned in a single statement,'That's why they are calling it the porno generation!' is true to large extent.
Of course, internet give good knowledge about sex also, all about esoteric tradition of ancient civiliza... (read in full...)
Is he just using me when he feels the urge?
Q. I had great, great sex with a guy I've met online, and we seem to get on well. After sex he doesnt just disappear but hangs around and chats, and we both feel at ease with each other. But then he disappears! I texted him after 2 days later and s...
A. 21 February 2010: Here you need true vision about sense of life. It is not your partner's nature that make you feel great. But it is nature of sex that make you feel great. You should make difference between love and sex. Sex with love is human, life giving, all good ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm using her a bit but my friends say just have fun...advice from the older aunt please..
Q. Hi. I don't really think that my situation is special, but I'm really just unsure of what to do. For starters, I'm 17 years old. I started seeing this girl around December of last year and she says she really likes me. We had an official ...
A. 21 February 2010: See, sex is not and should not be treated as cheap. Sex should be and must be with love. And, if you are sure that you are doing without love...then there should be closer... no matter how much other party want. It is personal alchemy.
It is speci... (read in full...)
How do I control getting wet too easily?
Q. I have a little bit of a problem. I notice that whenever something turns me on I get wet pretty easily. Is there anyway I can control this or make sure that it doesn't come as soon?...
A. 21 February 2010: Oh !!! What you present here as problem or trouble, is not problem or trouble at all.It is god gifted endowment. Not many female enjoy the thing, you naturally enjoying. There are many female who do not feel any wetness, no matter how much foreplay ... (read in full...)
I want a boyfriend but guys only want me for sex!
Q. everyone i meet say am really sweet, friendly and caring.. ive been single for 14 months and ive had 8 guys come my way and they ALL WANTED SEX:( and off course i didn't give in all these guys have disappeared..cos i want relationship +sex ...
A. 21 February 2010: Your idea is true, that you want sex with love, and not sex without love. I wish...if my wishing has some cultural meaning, that every one should have the same type of desire, you have.
You can have your soul mate with your condition. You should s... (read in full...)
Is 4 sexual partners a high number for a 21 year old?
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend and we only dated for 2 months and he was basically using me for sex, I posted a question about it a couple hours ago and recieved good respones. My question now is- I am 21 and have had sex with 4 people. Is that a ...
A. 19 February 2010: I think, it is not quantity that matter, but quality of your mind that attempt to make relationship, and begin to seek what is there for me? In free society, relationship is not imposed on individual by parents, as it is in Orthodox society. So, in ... (read in full...)
Is this really American culture? It hurts that he considers what I did in a picture 9 months ago as cheating
Q. Hi dearcupids! You always offer great advice, so here's a question for you. My boyfriend and I recently got into a fight about a picture that was taken of me. Now Im from a different country than him, he's American. In this picture I was at a party ...
A. 19 February 2010: Certainly, there is a cultural difference, between a free society and orthodox-puritanical society. Orthodox society do not respect Individual, choice of Individual, Individual right, right to happiness, and above all,...do not respect anything ... (read in full...)
Should you marry someone if the sex is terrible?
Q. Should you marry someone if the sex is not good and there is no possible way for it to get any better?...
A. 18 February 2010: Our earth is full of people who love asceticism. Who feel proud for being puritanical, and they became lover of 'war'. Trading 'terror' with humanity.And, individual who do not care for good sex life, will met the same result. If you are good ... (read in full...)
Do any other girls out there withold sex from their partners when they have done something wrong?
Q. Please Help .... I have a problem . When my boyfriend does something wrong , like out late with his mates , or comes home intoxicated , I without Sex for a period of time . I tell him the set penalty time and he signs a form ..eg : 1 week , 1 ...
A. 17 February 2010: Dear original post writer,
Here is my last and final words for you.
You do not choose to say me thanks. All right, you do not grasp the meaning, because you are totally negative with your material, and with your boy friend.
I take your mat... (read in full...)
My sex drive has really increased but it seems like we are having less sex than before!
Q. My boyfriend is always really swamped with work, and usually I am too. However, he's always had a huge sex drive, and I a medium one. I'd try really hard to get in the mood, even when I naturally wasn't, and he seemed to be supportive when I ...
A. 17 February 2010: Set your routine, which includes following steps, that can change your entire life, and make it full romantic.
[1] First- learning that: Sex is play with game point of losing and earning. So you both take sex as a game, and decide your game wit... (read in full...)
Fiance makes sex seem like a daily chore....
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for a year now. he recently just asked me to marry him...i was shocked, surprised and happy. but now im questioning it. for a year its been me begging for sex. i enjoy sex, its a stress relief and it feels good. ...
A. 16 February 2010: You will have almost daily sex from this boy friend, just follow following steps.
1.Ask him to do daily morning/joging for 45 minutes, without fail.
2.He may be suffering tiredness, due to lack of some vitamins, take a physical check up, and co... (read in full...)
Male Vs Female; A Debate On The Male Obsession With A Woman’s Past
Q. After recently seeing a large number of posts on this site from men asking how to deal with a woman’s sexual past, I wondered why men were so concerned with something that at the end of the day, cannot be changed. So I entered into a conversation ...
A. 15 February 2010: MALE Vs FEMALE,...Debate about male obsession with a woman's past...Such debate arises on our PERPETUAL VISION...which animal also possess.
To consider female's body as procreative mechanism,...and not female's sex organ as counter part of male'... (read in full...)
Do any other girls out there withold sex from their partners when they have done something wrong?
Q. Please Help .... I have a problem . When my boyfriend does something wrong , like out late with his mates , or comes home intoxicated , I without Sex for a period of time . I tell him the set penalty time and he signs a form ..eg : 1 week , 1 ...
A. 15 February 2010: MY THIS COMMENT, MEANT EXCLUSIVELY FOR ORIGINAL POSTER, IN RELATION TO HER THIS SAYING,...'one time he had to go six weeks and I felt great during that time . Im still sure men could tell , my nipples were a little harder ..my body just felt really ... (read in full...)
Do any other girls out there withold sex from their partners when they have done something wrong?
Q. Please Help .... I have a problem . When my boyfriend does something wrong , like out late with his mates , or comes home intoxicated , I without Sex for a period of time . I tell him the set penalty time and he signs a form ..eg : 1 week , 1 ...
A. 15 February 2010: Here is some great saying from uncle and aunt of this site, including original poster...I am recording this here with my comment on it.
[1]This is from "MIAMINE","Dear Poster, I don't think it's good for you to use sex as a weapon and a punishme... (read in full...)
Do any other girls out there withold sex from their partners when they have done something wrong?
Q. Please Help .... I have a problem . When my boyfriend does something wrong , like out late with his mates , or comes home intoxicated , I without Sex for a period of time . I tell him the set penalty time and he signs a form ..eg : 1 week , 1 ...
A. 15 February 2010: Here I am again going to elaborate your saying...
[1]" I will admit that first sex session back is very intense
[2]"But I do enjoy the withholding period also , because I feel so naughty and horney myself , Im sure Males sense It"
I enjoy ... (read in full...)
Do any other girls out there withold sex from their partners when they have done something wrong?
Q. Please Help .... I have a problem . When my boyfriend does something wrong , like out late with his mates , or comes home intoxicated , I without Sex for a period of time . I tell him the set penalty time and he signs a form ..eg : 1 week , 1 ...
A. 14 February 2010: __WONDERFUL !!! All too interesting? All heaven!!!!--------
Your post caught all my attention, and now I choose your specific statement for elaboration.
[1]"his way I can judge by the semen when his penalty period is up"
[2]'My b/f gets r... (read in full...)
Do any other girls out there withold sex from their partners when they have done something wrong?
Q. Please Help .... I have a problem . When my boyfriend does something wrong , like out late with his mates , or comes home intoxicated , I without Sex for a period of time . I tell him the set penalty time and he signs a form ..eg : 1 week , 1 ...
A. 14 February 2010: __WONDERFUL !!! All too interesting? All heaven!!!!--------
Your post caught all my attention, and now I choose your specific statement for elaboration.
[1]"his way I can judge by the semen when his penalty period is up"
[2]'My b/f gets r... (read in full...)
I should want to be with my wife, but I really want to be with the woman I am having an affair with. What should I do?
Q. I am 41 years old married 15 years with 3 kids under 12. I met someone 9 months ago and have been having an affair since. I told her I was married when we met. I told my wife that I was in love with someone else and i did not love her. I filed ...
A. 14 February 2010: You allow your mind to separate love from sex, and the result is surround your total life in 'confusion and contradiction.'
For your realization, I am quoting the quote of great philosopher, Aristotle what he say about love?, just read,"Lo... (read in full...)
Can stress and anxiety manifest itself like this?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm really in need of some advice. I recently found out my boyfriend had been cheating on me for a long time while we were together and I ended things. Ever since, I've been through a million emotions and needless to say, very str...
A. 13 February 2010: Depression cause by broken heart. Do what is said by others...but I wish to heal your emotion.
Know something about 'emotion', not your emotion but 'emotion' as such.
I was in same situation as you are, the difference is only that my relation... (read in full...)
He called me lazy because I wasn't enjoying having sex with him and now he hasn't contacted me! Should I take it that it is over?
Q. i had sex with a guy am dating and he was pretty big and he took soo long to cum so i got soo tired am gave up..(i wasnt enjoying it) he wanted to go second round.. but i was soo weak that i was in the mood to go another round.. we got kissing ...
A. 13 February 2010: At least for the sake of truth, you should have reason, why? What causes this thing unpleasant?
It is not big thing or long time penetration here is reason, but he has less water, means more flesh without water [semen], than how your mind read it ... (read in full...)
How can I let these boys know I only want them as friends...
Q. I have just started my first semester in college. I didn't know anyone coming into it, but within the first week i had made a fairly large group of friends. And it's great hanging out with all these new people, the only thing is every single one of ...
A. 13 February 2010: You should follow your 'heart', and not the urges of other people. One cannot please all and everyone around, and it is not duty of anyone to be that much social. All right, you need relationship of friendship, then ask your self how much? then ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend watches porn and visits gentleman clubs. I don't know what to think about all this, and what are the gentlemen really doing in their clubs??
Q. Questions, specially from all the guys out there. Do all men have to watch porn? Is it OK for a guy, who is in a relationship, to go to gentleman clubs. The thing is that I've been having problem with understanding why my bf watches porn or go to ...
A. 13 February 2010: Most dirty thing with sex, is to make it a public show in form of porn, or alive in clubs, The worst than dirt is to use sex to make money. There are still many category of misuse...just to use it for political goal etc...why? must be the question, ... (read in full...)
Why is he not physically intimate with me?
Q. I am in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 years. We still did not have sex yet. But we have fooled around a lot.. My problem is that we are doing well in our relationship. But.... when we met on Sunday we made out a lot and were physically ...
A. 12 February 2010: Check his relationship with other girl friend. You age demand intense physical intimacy. Or check his emotional level, whether he is in tension?... (read in full...)
Absolutely heartbroken...
Q. So I walked into my girlfriend's house yesterday to find another man there. I already knew she'd been involved with a different fella over the past couple of months, but then I find this new guy there. Looks like the first one dumped her and ...
A. 12 February 2010: Dear young one... Please count this as an eye opener event of your life, and not heart broking event. Heart is so important that it should not be allowed to break for cheap thing...keep it reserve for some worthy personality.
Sex is always t... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks I intentionally get erect when I see her naked! How can I stop myself?
Q. I always erect when I see my girl naked, I want to stop it. Pliz help! She thinks I do it intentionally....
A. 12 February 2010: Say her that it is god's gift, and do not count it as a question, seeking answer. There are many many wife, who complaint about her husband that loss interest in sex, they seek some idea about 'treatment'. Even male begin to feel it trouble, when ... (read in full...)
She has denied me sex until I pay for it!
Q. Have been in a relationship for four years now with a lady i do love soo much and ready to marry, she is 32 am 27, But she is so controlling, she doe's not like to be forced on doing things she has become miss independent, i lost my job recently and ...
A. 12 February 2010: Young men ! you are not in to romantic relationship but into business. Run fast from this relationship, if you really want to experience the romance of sex and of love. Be prepare to live alone, then with such relationship..which mistakenly you call ... (read in full...)
I have no idea how to french kiss. Help!
Q. im going to keep it short and simple my bf wants to french kiss what do i do can some one please help me i would appreciate it very much...
A. 12 February 2010: You can have your answer simply referring this term to Google dictionary search, even with pictures. It is lips to lips kiss, but Google search result will give you detailed ideas.... (read in full...)
I don't understand religion and why we should be forced to put up with it.
Q. hi, im 14 and an atheist but i respect religious people who are open to another persons point of view, but the other side of that coin is that ignorance and single mindedness makes me really really angry. i just dont understand religion, i mean no ...
A. 12 February 2010: You prove me true. I always think new generation, which you represent, is more intellectual, and more mature then us: I am around sixties. At your age, I am sure I was totally unable to think, the way you are thinking, and sure reading such serious ... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 12 February 2010: Gentlemen, you are facing emotional crisis. It is all in emotional crisis. You love your wife, but she do not wish to play the role of 'wife' with you, which will be more hurting to you then anything else. Only sex cannot please all the time, to ... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 10 February 2010: Gentlemen, I love and admire you for listening our well balanced opinion. I note your this statement, 'I will not judge my wife for what we did together , I won't hold that against her,. I just want to put it all behind us thats all."
Howev... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 9 February 2010: Be pleased to read this your statement,'We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often"
To use sex for enjoyment is one thing, and certainly to use sex to have a children is another ... (read in full...)
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