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... Send *harat mehta a private message | | | *harat mehta's profile:I am a person of Philosophy: A science of non-contradictory vision. I wish to guide problem related to life, relationships, and sex, through this knowledge of philosophy and in addition, through the knowledge of Tantra Vision. Our modern Individualistic mode of life required such guidance. I will write series of articles on tantra, which anyone can read if feel guiding, and in addition, I will reply to the questioners with quoting relevant materials from articles.
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| Latest articles: An Introduction to TANTRA. .As, power of light.
No replies yet... 3 February 2010: Article No 2...MEANING OF OBJECT. ... The object, so conceptualized by the word ‘tantra’ is sex organ in a state of erection. So, the object underlines the ideology of ‘eroticism. Here eroticism is principle, or philosophy, and not sexology...
An Introduction to TANTRA.
No replies yet... 26 January 2010: Tantra is a word belong to ancient Indian Sanskrit language. This word has been used by scholars in many ways, such as [1] It is used as a religious way with the ideas of god and goddess or deva and devis, temples, prayers, meditations, chanting ...
Think sex and Get pleasure..
No replies yet... 10 December 2009: What I am suppose to think? and What I am suppose to do? - in the realm of sex. This one is really hardest problem of life. Let me be the guide for those who want to think for themselves and want to be the original actor, and not a cheap imitator...
Sex existed before religion, and is the reason for relationships
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29 November 2009: Relationship is problem, perhaps most fatal problem. All destructive event like murder to suicide occur from bad terms of relations. It is also true that men cannot live without relating with something or with someone. So, it is quite necessary to ...
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Sex between us isn't like it used to be, help!
Q. We used to have sex 3 or 4 times a day but within the past year things have gotten so stressful and there's been alot of fights between us. Now we have sex maybe once a week. How can I get us back to where we were?? Also when we do have sex I feel ...
A. 7 February 2010: What you present here as a complaint, is not complaint but a normal pattern in sex life of any couple on earth.
But, what make to answer your question is this..."How can I get us back to where we were?? Also when we do have sex I feel like its... (read in full...)
I feel like I am getting the blame for his past bad relationships. What do I do?
Q. Im in love with a man who is scared of getting hurt, when we are together we have lots of fun and do everything except have sex. He says he doesn’t trust women and doesn’t know if he ever will again. Iv been hurt too and as far as I know iv never ...
A. 7 February 2010: There is some positive argument in your and in his favor, that will help to rebuild positive attitude.
It is that LOVE IS GREAT, NO MATTER LOVER PROVE TO BE HURTING.
So, bad experience from past lover should not be allowed to lead your faith ... (read in full...)
He scares me with the things he says about sex!
Q. ok soo imm going to be 16 in 2 months. the guy im talking to will be 19 in 5 days. we have been talking on the phone and texting for about 2 months now. we`ve hung out 3 times. once in a group, once on our own, and then he came to watch me cheer one ...
A. 7 February 2010: You and every one of your age should know first thing about sex....Sexual activity in its true and real spirit is as delicate as flower. There is no space for force, pain, or any form of negativity...in action, in speech, or even in thought. Sex ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says my vagina is loose and that he does not feel a thing... what can I do? How do I fix it?
Q. I have not cheated why does my vagina feel loose... my boyfriend thinks that I've cheated... before he even mentioned it, I have been noticing a diffrence with our sex life... when we have sex my vagina has no tightness to it.. I try and ...
A. 7 February 2010: The question again came on the board. I have replied it with greater details. Again the same material in reply... re-read your statement, which itself contain reply,.."I notice that he has a lack of interests in having sex... and when we do, he ... (read in full...)
I want a sex with no strings attached relationship
Q. I am not at all ready for a new relationship. I think it could be years before I want to get into something serious again (long story). So I'm wondering lately (because I love sex) if it would be a good idea to find someone who wants a purely sexual ...
A. 5 February 2010: Such activity- sex without emotion or relationship is possible amongst animals, which is purely bio-chemical reaction of the body. Human intelligence cannot sustain it for long time. Sex is universal, but to experience it, one is bound to reduce it ... (read in full...)
I cheated with a younger man, now I feel awful. How do I get the spark back?
Q. i live with my partner of 4 years. 6 months ago we bought our own place but we had lived together for around 3 years before this. my feelings seemed to have changed, he is the most wonderful, caring and supportive man but i feel that there is no...
A. 4 February 2010: There is a rule of life. Mistakes are meant for correction. Do not allow mistake, that lead your life permanently, because it will invite more and more mistakes, and at the end you will see life full of mistakes. So, be firm and decide and go ahead.... (read in full...)
Blow job problem!
Q. Ok i started seeing this guy about late november and in december I tried to give him a blow job (doing what i've always done in previous relationships which never had any problems to say in the least!). However after about ten minutes of nothing ...
A. 4 February 2010: See, sex is action. And, it is action means it has most definite goal and most definite ideas also. Your boy friend will never give you any ideas, as how to perform it because he himself is in confusion about what he want? This is not pertain ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend buys porno mags and hides them but I don't understand!
Q. I was 17 when I fell for my brothers best friend. He was 25. He lived in Alabama and I lived in Michigan but he had come up to visit and that's when we got together. I moved to Alabama on my 18th birthday and I am now 21 years old and he is 28 ...
A. 4 February 2010: Please pay full attention here....There is a great difference between eroticism and sex. Even ancient civilization was not entirely clear on this point, when we talk about erotic sculpture of that time. It is all in India also. [That Khajuraho ... (read in full...)
I can't tell the difference between love and infactuation
Q. What is love? And how do you tell the difference between love and infatuation?...
A. 4 February 2010: Love is more wider concept than sex. It start from the concept of 'liking' and begin to develop in to admiration to loving to worshiping etc. But, basically it is feeling/emotion, so one can learn nothing from loving, save it give the idea that " I ... (read in full...)
Why are ex's usually hot and cold?
Q. Just wondering in general why do people say things like "im not in love with you anymore" or "i dont have feelings for you anymore" or "i know what im doing and i know what i want" only to later say they didnt mean any of it..or, there actions dont ...
A. 4 February 2010: Your saying { the first paragraph ] is so great, greater than your love story, it is this...'Just wondering in general why do people say things like "im not in love with you anymore" or "i don't have feelings for you anymore" or "i know what im ... (read in full...)
Confused and laughing - don't know if my boyfriend is gay.
Q. My boyfriend and I recently are taking a break so he can try and be in his child's life (long story). I just found out that he signed up for an adult friend finder site, and has his profile to looking for males and joined a couple groups about ...
A. 4 February 2010: There is nothing like mismatching in your relationship. You both are same sex lover, and it is not a serious problem. Yes, love is problem. You should confirm whether you both love each others personality? Your intellectual-spiritual-sexual drives ... (read in full...)
Should I be moved out by now? Should I feel like less of a man for looking after my mother?
Q. I'm 32 yrs old and still living at home with mom. I'm not completely a momma's boy... but I do love her a lot. Hey she'll always be my #1 girl. Well my parents have been divorced for along time and I've always been the man of the house. I'm not a...
A. 4 February 2010: You are so good...I have no right word to say, but saying this, that you have wisdom to value your mother's sacrifice. You must stay with her, because she valued you as son, and do everything, your life required.
To look after mother or even fat... (read in full...)
27 year old virgin - wondering if I need to get counselling
Q. Hi This is my first time posting a question but I figured what the hell. I am going to be 27 this year and I am still a virgin. It shouldn't be that big a deal but I feel like it is one. All my friends have had sex and some are even married wit...
A. 4 February 2010: As you say about your Dad, and really due to his behavior you mentioned, you remain in confusion about sex life. You are right in your saying this 'He was generally inappropriate with no concept of the notion of privacy, which is so important for a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends sex drive is much higher than mine
Q. My boyfriend and i love sex. But he wants it alot. He respects when i dont but when he cant get any from me he jacks off and he watches alot of porn. He says he is just like that and he cant help it. Why does he have such a high sex drive and is it ...
A. 4 February 2010: It is good, and even possible to live on same wave-length of sex drive. See, TANTRA, is science and art of love and sex, but more of its unity. Please learn this science and make your life as it could be with new learning. I myself is preparing ... (read in full...)
My huby thinks I should forgive and forget his 2 year affair!
Q. I found out my husband has been having an affair and texting this woman for 2 years i accidently found itemised bills and now he expects me just to forgive and forget and move on. how can i do this we have been married for 41years ...
A. 4 February 2010: See, I am not dogmatic, so I advice you to forgive and forget. The issues of trust is the issues of 'feeling'. Do not allow your feeling to decide your life problem, because feeling is not stable thing. Try to read the mind of your husband, know ... (read in full...)
I just wish she would try to understand ...
Q. hi. im 18 and im with a girl who i love very much, but have had some past and present issues that are just bothering me too the point of no return. im so jealous lately and here are the reasons why. first off..she left me and cheated on me the last ...
A. 4 February 2010: The problem related to trust is very delicate. I always feel difficulty in handling such problem, because I cannot make straight statement, which give me satisfaction that I have correctly guide the questioner.
Anyway, my understanding is this: At... (read in full...)
I keep comparing my husband to my ex, how can I stop doing this
Q. i was in a relationship for last one and half years. before that i was very practical about my life and family. but all gone vain when i met the guy. he had everything i dreamt of. for his family and my family i had to marry another person,two ...
A. 4 February 2010: Your problem is very complicated, because it is separation of love and sex, which will lead duality, a inner war. Say sex is universal, but to bring it to our experience, we have to bring it down to particular individual level, and begin to work ... (read in full...)
We arranged to meet Sat night and I have not heard from since.
Q. i am so confused. i was txting wat i thought was an honest decent man for th last six months. he would txt me ever spre moment he had every morning day and nite without fail. i felt something forhim and was re he felt it too. he coudnt wait to meet ...
A. 3 February 2010: He is not aware of his own doing, which means he is foolish. It is better to live alone, then to relate with such personality.... (read in full...)
I have had sex 7 times with 3 diff men and don't enjoy it.
Q. So Ive only had sex about 7 times but Ive been with 3 men. But everytime I have sex it doesnt feel good for me at all. Its more uncomfortable than anything. But I dont get that feel good sensation that people keep telling me about. I dont think that ...
A. 2 February 2010: You are right in saying this, "But I know so many girls who engage in meaningless sex and really enjoys it. I just assumed that something was wrong with me'
You need to learn erotic love making. I am publishing series of articles on ' An introduc... (read in full...)
Told my gf I watch porn, and she doesn't understand. What can I say to her?
Q. i have been watching porn. i have been with my gf for 4 years so i told her that i watched porn. she got mad and was telling me that i shouldn't be watching those things cause it is all fake so i told her that even if it is fake the sex seems real. ...
A. 2 February 2010: you both are leading Teen Age. This is right time to learn first, and live your learning. I am publishing series of articles on 'An introduction of Tantra'. This will help you to learn erotic pleasure.... (read in full...)
My wife's sexual fantasy excluded me! Should I feel badly about this?
Q. I have a question; my wife and I have been together for 15 years or so. We have talked about sexual fantasies in the past and my wife claimed she never had any, or the ones she did were like me and her having sex in the backyard etc. she said tha...
A. 31 January 2010: Mind do not go to search for any truth in fantasy. Fantasy is to have more spark, and if this purpose serve, then material has nothing to do with reality. ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with the frustrations of being an older virgin?
Q. I need some help here, as I am beginning to drive myself nuts with self doubt and insecurities. I am 26, and a virgin, and I feel so lonley, miserable, deprressed and frustrated, I cannot describe how horrible it feels. Everywhere I look, t...
A. 28 January 2010: The reply posted by ' CaringGuy ' is almost a perfect answer, or a perfect guidance.It is your chosen hobby that will give you chance to meet. If you are interested in art, say novel, poetry then you will find people of same interest. Or, in sport, ... (read in full...)
Mechanics of male orgasm/ejaculation. What is going on for you?
Q. Some possibly weird questions for the guys here that a couple of recent incidents have had me wondering about ... I have asked my own man all this stuff by the way, but he is one man, I am curious aboout consistencies and contrasts experi...
A. 26 January 2010: Many many thanks to 'Not my name', for noting my remarks. Yes, I have decided to publish articles, in long long series, which will give ideas about Tantra. Just today, I have published one also.
From ancient time to this day, tantra was and is p... (read in full...)
Mechanics of male orgasm/ejaculation. What is going on for you?
Q. Some possibly weird questions for the guys here that a couple of recent incidents have had me wondering about ... I have asked my own man all this stuff by the way, but he is one man, I am curious aboout consistencies and contrasts experi...
A. 24 January 2010: The question so conceived here by female is of greatest importance, from the sand point of human mind seeing sex pleasure as something enlightening life itself.
The heart of the question pointed in this statement, if I am not wrong in judging ... (read in full...)
Tantric sex...
Q. Tantric sex I'm interested in experimenting with it, what does it entail, can anyone give me any advice or point me to any websites that will help me? thanks...
A. 23 January 2010: Tantric sex is a subject of my mastery, and I am here on this site. Just in a couple of week, I am going to publish few articles on this site, that will give guidance in this matter.
Tantra is divided in two branch, known as left hand and right ha... (read in full...)
Near menopause... help!
Q. Hello ladies in menopause or pre-menopause. Could you please help me, if you have any good ideas for me. Well, I still get my period, but getting close to finishing soon I guess. But I have 2 very disturbing problems, and I wonder, if anybody here ...
A. 23 January 2010: You need advice from psychiatrist's for your problem no.1, and for problem no. 2
Not all, but few female have the same psychology, extreme and or violent anger towards husbands and sons etc. etc. ... (read in full...)
Is he over me now that he took my virginity?
Q. Ive been seeing a guy for about 8 months now, from the start he has been chasing me. he is 26 and i have just turned 20. We both have a lot in common and are comfortable around each other. we see each other as often as we can (3-4 times a week)and ...
A. 23 January 2010: He sound very sensible and reasonable. He is as he should be. So, there is no reason for you to worry about your relationship. Just be happy.... (read in full...)
Dry and unable to orgasm. How can I fix it?
Q. dear sir/madam i was just wondering why im so dry when me and my sex partner have sex and why is so hard for me to cum. can somebody please give a suggestion wat i can do bout my situation....
A. 23 January 2010: Reason for dryness is same, as in male for non-erection. Mostly reason lay in psychology, and not in body. Bad psychology lay in orthodox brought up, lack of privacy and private activity like masturbation, with fantasy. Normally all most all boy ... (read in full...)
How on earth can I get over him watching porn?
Q. Ok, so I have insecurity problems and feel embarassed and angry at myself because I feel I'm not "normal". I am one of those girls that feels really jealous, insecure, threatened, etc., about porn. I know it's my problem. But I just haven't been ...
A. 22 January 2010: 'HUSBAND WATCHING PORN'...is very big problem in wife's mind. I am writing here my personal feeling. Some 20 years before I heard first time that there is something 'blue-film' which display intercourse quite openly. I feel this hearing very ... (read in full...)
I'm having a struggle with sex in our marriage...
Q. Struggle I'm really in a struggle with sex in my marriage. I feel really pressured into having sex with my husband and I'm not even sure he loves and wants to be with me. We have both made our mistakes in this marriage and I don't about our ...
A. 21 January 2010: You both, as a couple are normal, and just need true knowledge about sex. Here is some tips related to knowledge, and not technique.
[1] Sex is not just intercourse, or just oral, or just fingering. If you do it as a method of ritual or as a met... (read in full...)
I want to see my wife have sex with other men
Q. I am obsessed with the thought of seeing my wife having sex with other men. I am from a very conservative background, and my wife was a virgin untill she met me. We are not into wild parties etc either. But I just can't shake off the thought of ...
A. 21 January 2010: No it is not dirty talk, or fantasy, as is termed by many advisers. As you admit that you both have orthodox back ground, and not in habit of wild party. Most emphatically, you both are not inspired childishly from porn films. You both have achieve ... (read in full...)
Any hope for our marriage?
Q. I love this man more then I can tell you. We have been together for almost 20 years. We have had are ups and downs but lately its just bad. He blames me for all the bad going on in our marriage. He recently told me that I was fat and dicussing and ...
A. 21 January 2010: You call for answer, and this statement of your is demanding,...'Is there any hope for a marriage that was once filled with love and now is just filled with resentment? Please help!
Your voice sound more wisdom in your above statement. I am here ... (read in full...)
Do I have to look like a model to keep the sex alive?
Q. My husband does not seem to be attracted to me anymore.He does not say it ,but he never touching me or looks at me sexy... Now he is very polite guy, and kind.He is not rude with me, but I just see our sex life dead. I did put on weight over the ...
A. 21 January 2010: I frankly and honestly wish to guide age old couple, as I myself is also age old person. Sex has bring you all intimacy, love, pleasure in marriage life, but sex also bring some responsibility like children responsibility, job's responsibility, and ... (read in full...)
Why Women Can’t Separate Sex from Love
Q. Lila here~. The truth is, most women genuinely cannot separate sex from love. Even in our post feminist, equal opportunity culture, women are still hard-wired to expect love and sex to be combined. Heck, I was talking to a stripper about b...
A. 21 January 2010: The question is about 'separation of sex from love' and not about male or female that do the work of separation. Let me define the meaning of such separation. Say, sex without love means sex has other thing than love. And, that other thing has ... (read in full...)
What does he mean when he says I'm in trouble?
Q. I made a silly mistake of having a one week affair with a man on my job. He was the cutest thing I had ever seen. I just wanted to sleep with him and nothing more-especially since he is married 33 yrs. I heard he was a play boy and run through ...
A. 20 January 2010: It is a type of mental harassment. He is black mailing you. Sure, he is coward, person without courage. He lived through the fear of others like you. Be bold, nothing will happen, but learn something from event. Best way is to ignore him. Don't say ... (read in full...)
Just a misunderstanding or worse?
Q. I've been together with my bf for about 2 years now. The last time I went to see him something happened that I can't stop thinking about. One night when we went to have sex I guess he decided he wanted to try anal. There was no talking about it ...
A. 20 January 2010: Frankly speaking I wonder about this statement of yours,'I never really thought he was a bad guy or anything but what the hell was all that'
In my opinion he is most insensitive person. He at all fail to judge that the thing is going to be worse... (read in full...)
Oh help, is this love?
Q. Now, to get real help - I must speak the utter truth. So here goes... This all started at a missionary homecoming party (you don't need to know what this is - it's just basically a non-drinking non-smoking etc party) And one of my friends had just...
A. 20 January 2010: It is your teen age. It is mixture of some childhood, and some youth. You laugh so easily for someone who caught your attention, and you in response wanted to be the center of his attention.
See, love is different thing, then liking. In first pl... (read in full...)
Why might blowjobs be considered degrading? Help me understand...
Q. Hi All, Blow Jobs being degrading is NOT a view I hold. But I hear it mentioned often enough on this site to know that it's a view that many women do have. Usually it mentioned by "male askers" complaining that their partners won't give them h...
A. 20 January 2010: The reason 1 to 7 you mention for blowjob's degradations are true, without any argument. Even there are religious reason that also condemn blow job do not come in to consideration. Out side religious reason, the reason you show are true.And, now the ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend keeps lying about her past and I cant handle it anymore!
Q. I dont know if I want to stay with my girlfrend and I really need some help here. I know it should be my own decision but I really dont know what to do anymore. She had told me everything about her past. Well I had though everything. She had tol...
A. 20 January 2010: What confusion you feel and express here in form of question is your 'jealousy' It is same, as you say about your friend in this statement,'I didnt believe her I just felt she was jealous that I wasn't hanging out with her anymore so I ignored ... (read in full...)
Am I a slut for letting other men cum on my face?
Q. I wrote about that my husband and me want to invite a couple of men join in and cum on my face. Am I a slut even if my husband agrees to this?...
A. 19 January 2010: First thing is that your desire to have cum in your face is not your truly conceived desire. There is no logic in such desire, but it is influenced from porn films.
The term 'slut' you used here, and wanted to know its true meaning, then it is or... (read in full...)
What is sex like? How do you know when you are ready?
Q. Im just curious.. What is sex like? Is your first time special or akward? How do you know when your ready?x...
A. 19 January 2010: Your curiosity is great, at 13 or so and perhaps will be greatest in future....I am replaying you great reply...
SEX IS GREAT, AS GREAT AS LIFE AT PRESENT, BUT IN FUTURE YOU WILL SEE IT YOURSELF, THAT IT IS GREATER THAN LIFE.
Is first ti... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says my vagina is loose and that he does not feel a thing... what can I do? How do I fix it?
Q. I have not cheated why does my vagina feel loose... my boyfriend thinks that I've cheated... before he even mentioned it, I have been noticing a diffrence with our sex life... when we have sex my vagina has no tightness to it.. I try and ...
A. 12 January 2010: please re- read these your own statements.
[1] "he feels nothing when he's inside me... I feel ashamed and embarrased can someone please tell me what's wrong with me and how can I fix this"
[2]"all he wants from me are blow jobs & anal... w... (read in full...)
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