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writes: My husband lost his desire ,and erection. He thinks it is a medical problem,but the doctor says he is OK. No heart ,d, or any problems, not even with hormones. So, this is tremendous impact on our marriage. I don't know how to accept this...What should I say to myself ,and how should I go on? If I would know, it is from his health, I would have no problems, but this way,I pain, as I can't be sure it is not me. I would love to hear some opinions. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2010): I would love to know - why this is. My husband is the same way and I just feel that he is cheating on me. I hope you are not having the same thoughts about yours. Or I also ask myself if its the 10 pounds I put on. He makes me feel worthless.
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (20 March 2010):
 Most excellence and convincing reply I read here is from ' Gasolina', Her answer to this question is 'real realization' about 'way of life'. It indicate 'eroticism' against 'ejaculatory' method. Those who follow second method will loss 'freshness' and loss of interest. However, the reason is not in body and also not in psychology but in method or way. However, the damage done is not permanent. One can correct mistake by adopting right way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): Dear 2old4this !!!!
I would love to hear more about your friend. As I have that problem, that I dont know about this problem from anywhere else. My husband totally gone of sex. He never thinks about it. Did the same happened to your friend? The doctors only know about the incident ,when it has medical cause. Every info would help.Thanks
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reader, Gasolina  +, writes (19 March 2010):
 Most men experience some problems like this at some point in their lives. Relax. Might I suggest some relaxing massage, bubble baths together, lots of cuddling? Sometimes we put way too much emphasis on penetration and intercourse and forget about sensuality, eroticism, and intimacy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2010): I been in similar situation. For me it wasnt that i didnt want or fancy my girlfriend, cause i did. It was the way we had sex! It was the same everytime! i liked sex with her but I think it just felt boring being the same. Then it happened, I couldnt get an errection. I thought alsorts and so did she.
Once we elimated all the other things, all that was left was the way we had sex. So we googled and found it is quite common. And the solution was simple. Change your sex life. We introduced role play and I its never happened again cause each time is new and different.
It may be the same for you. And role play could be something just as simple as wearing more sexy or revealing underwear.
Hope this helps
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reader, 2old4this  +, writes (19 March 2010):
 This sometimes happens to guys for alot of different reasons. I had a friend that just had added stress in his life and he was "off" for close to 6 months. This was a 30 year old guy too. The desire to have relations may come from an inner depression. Ask him if he would like to talk to a proffesional about it. But don't be alarmed if he doesnt want to talk about it because most guys wouldnt. Stress and depression are just two reasons I know of but there may be many other reasons. Also even if he doesnt show it, he still could be depressed or worried or something. Good luck.
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