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I am a person of Philosophy: A science of non-contradictory vision. I wish to guide problem related to life, relationships, and sex, through this knowledge of philosophy and in addition, through the knowledge of Tantra Vision. Our modern Individualistic mode of life required such guidance. I will write series of articles on tantra, which anyone can read if feel guiding, and in addition, I will reply to the questioners with quoting relevant materials from articles.

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An Introduction to TANTRA. .As, power of light.

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3 February 2010: Article No 2...MEANING OF OBJECT. ... The object, so conceptualized by the word ‘tantra’ is sex organ in a state of erection. So, the object underlines the ideology of ‘eroticism. Here eroticism is principle, or philosophy, and not sexology...

An Introduction to TANTRA.

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26 January 2010: Tantra is a word belong to ancient Indian Sanskrit language. This word has been used by scholars in many ways, such as [1] It is used as a religious way with the ideas of god and goddess or deva and devis, temples, prayers, meditations, chanting ...

Think sex and Get pleasure..

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10 December 2009: What I am suppose to think? and What I am suppose to do? - in the realm of sex. This one is really hardest problem of life. Let me be the guide for those who want to think for themselves and want to be the original actor, and not a cheap imitator...

Sex existed before religion, and is the reason for relationships

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29 November 2009: Relationship is problem, perhaps most fatal problem. All destructive event like murder to suicide occur from bad terms of relations. It is also true that men cannot live without relating with something or with someone. So, it is quite necessary to ...

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How can I help her orgasm more often?

Q.   me and my fiance have sex on a regular basis and she orgasms every time but i kinda feel bad because she rarely orgasms more than once at a time and even rarer still has a really powerful orgasm, but i always end up orgasming at least twice ...

A.   11 March 2010: Sex on regular basis, and you expect more occasion of orgasm? It is difficult for her, and if you introspect the content of your own mind, you will be able to see the difference. Better you make foreplay regular, without intercourse regularly, and ... (read in full...)

We rarely have sex anymore....

Q.   I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and I love him immensely. When we started out, sex was great for the first 3 to 4 months - we had sex often and we were able to please one another. And then... it got less frequent. That's ok - he's got a ...

A.   11 March 2010: No or Less foreplay, means no romance, no love, and it is danger sign for serious relationship. Foreplay without sex is good, no trouble, but only sex without or less foreplay is sure sign that there is something wrong. Your feeling is feeling of ... (read in full...)

Why does he never cum any more... he used to??? Is it me???

Q.   hi. i have been with my partner for almost a year now, we still have a loving relationship, we cuddle and kiss all the time still and have a laugh together. the thing is when we have sex he never cums anymore, he hasnt for a while now, he use to a...

A.   11 March 2010: No...No...No Dear, Your this saying,"he dont find me attractive anymore? im not sure."... is only feeling of your insecurity. No truth in your feeling. There is nothing serious in his not ejaculating during love making. You yourself feel orgasm, ... (read in full...)

We are no longer talking because she feels guilty about cheating. How do I get over her?

Q.   I am married and have been having an affair with a married woman for 6 years. We are both in our late 50's with no kids at home. We both work for the same company but in different states. Our affair started after some playful flirting on one of ...

A.   11 March 2010: Yes...You are real capable to feel intense feeling of love. So, life is such. Love has message of life, and its absence has message of death. Greatest love story of the world has same one message. But you are unique, by deciding not to divorce your ... (read in full...)

What should a wife do when her husband is going to prostitutes?

Q.   What should a wife do when her husband is going to prostitutes?...

A.   11 March 2010: There is no easy answer that satisfy the mind, or offer on hand solution.The problem is basically related to marriage relationship. It is a matter of details only that husband cheat wife, by approaching prostitute or lover, or wife cheat husband ... (read in full...)

My vagina gets extremely wet when I'm doing anything sexual. Anyone else have this problem?

Q.   I am curious if anyone has a similar problem? My vagina gets extremely wet when I'm doing anything sexual. An ex said he's never seen anyone get that wet before and he used to have to pull out occasionally during intercourse to dry me off with a ...

A.   11 March 2010: This question is answered, and I think it is not question or trouble, but hold as trouble or question due to lack of knowledge. Just as it is good for male to have very hard, stone hard erection, which is the sign of physical and mental health, so ... (read in full...)

Why does my husband still want sex from me if we have been separated for 3 years?

Q.   why does my husband want sex from me if we have been separated 3 years now and says he wants a divorce? we have 4 beautiful children together and he says he wants a divorce because i cheated on him. i take full responsability for what i've done. we ...

A.   10 March 2010: He has lost his personality, sort of indeterminate state. If you are sure of your wanting, then do not waste time on loss relationship. There is no point in having sex, with the person, who has no heart for feeling.... (read in full...)

Is it selfish for me to want him in my life?

Q.   I have been so troubled lately. My bf and I broke up just over a month ago. We were together for five years, and I am having trouble moving on. I initiated the break because I had not been happy for quite some time. My feelings for him ...

A.   10 March 2010: Dear, I valued 'love,' so I choose to advise you some positive point. What ever thought you both may posses, but you both are in deepest love, and quite childishly you both allow, very small 'cause' to create unpleasant event-se... (read in full...)

I want to please him but I'm shy

Q.   I am currently dating a 46 year old man we have been together for 4 years and I feel that i could do better in bed. I love him dearly and want to please him more what could i do to help this I do not know how to address him cause I get shy. But am ...

A.   10 March 2010: Shyness as a feeling, display block against development of consciousness, in pursing certain social goal. It is great block in love making. You feel so much, but unable to actualize and unable to give expression. Here your partner with whom you ... (read in full...)

Agreed to a three-some, am keen but nervous

Q.   my guy friend and I been having relations it's nothing seriouus just relations. He ask me to have a threesum with him and another women and I was surprised ! I always been curious about a women but never went there with a female. I told him yes I ...

A.   10 March 2010: Your agreement came from mere 'curiosity', and not from the heat of passion. In threesome with FFM, generally female play the role of stimulator and male as being stimulated. But, when desire came from mere curiosity, the chances are less for good ... (read in full...)

How do I tell my husband I made a mistake...?

Q.   Hey I have a problem right now with my marriage and would love to receive some advice on how to handle my situation and also if I am doing the right thing. To start off I have to tell you a little about my marriage and myself. My husband and I ha...

A.   9 March 2010: One point favor you, and it is about your bad habit of uncontrollable drinking. It is not consciously choice action, hence you are not responsible for act, which you yourself do not choose in conscious awareness. So, do not be too much emotive on ... (read in full...)

Self conscious about my vagina...

Q.   ok well... im very self concious of my vagina... my husband thinks it's great... but i've noticed that my 'vagina lips' are a little farther apart than normal to me... and my clitoris is a little big... so is there anything i could do to help ...

A.   9 March 2010: Please don't worry about physical appearance of sex organ, because sex pleasure is experienced by 'mind', and mind has no physical shape. And, see brain is not mind, but power house of mind, but mind has greater role in directing all human activity, ... (read in full...)

He's really into me and wants a threesome!!!

Q.   I have a boyfriend, we've only been together a month, but we're really into each other or at least I think he's really into me. I mean, he asked if I would participate in having a threesome. Not a normal threesome. He just wants to have 2 girls give ...

A.   9 March 2010: He is more than 'selfish', the more here is 'jealous', You have rightly test his 'jealous psychology', and simple advise for you here is: QUITE HIM RAPIDLY...AS FAST AS POSSIBLE. He is into vulgar exhibition of sex act only. But, think you have... (read in full...)

She says she wants a threesome. Fantasy or reality?

Q.   Well, I don't have any clue where to begin on this.. I've never really been in this situation before and I apologize ahead of time for typos and my bad sentence structure and for the long speech. My girlfriend and I have dated for just over 2 years ...

A.   9 March 2010: In response to "followup remarks," following is my analysis on the subject of 'threesome'. As you say,"I'm not fulfilling her needs so she'll never feel completely connected to me again"...No, the issue is not related to relationship at all. It ... (read in full...)

I'm having trouble accepting the way he treats women because of his culture, is it true all men from the middle east are like this?

Q.   Ok, my boyfriend is Kurdish. I love him so much but ive got the biggest problem with some of his attitudes, mainly about women but about other things as well. It's not just him, all his friends also have these attitudes, I'm told frequent...

A.   9 March 2010: In response to last followup remark, what I have to add here is this: Yes, love has power to change the bad culture, and bring new air of civilization. This power of love is very well recognized by religion and also by philosophy. This is the ... (read in full...)

Can all women cum?

Q.   Hey everyone me and my girlfriend have been together for a while now but i have some questions. For any women out there, can ALL women cum? and if so, is an orgasm more exhilirating or just as with or with out cumming... ...

A.   9 March 2010: In response to followup question, technically speaking women cannot withdrawn from sex, like male after ejaculation, but female has a kind of feeling, that it is now 'enough'. The stretch, female organ achieve has some last point, then after ... (read in full...)

She says she wants a threesome. Fantasy or reality?

Q.   Well, I don't have any clue where to begin on this.. I've never really been in this situation before and I apologize ahead of time for typos and my bad sentence structure and for the long speech. My girlfriend and I have dated for just over 2 years ...

A.   8 March 2010: Your writing is very serious: It is rooted from your heart. I am considering this your statement worth to give great importance;'Umm, like I said, we were doing great the first year but shortly after things kind of flat-lined in the sense we both ... (read in full...)

Can all women cum?

Q.   Hey everyone me and my girlfriend have been together for a while now but i have some questions. For any women out there, can ALL women cum? and if so, is an orgasm more exhilirating or just as with or with out cumming... ...

A.   8 March 2010: Most wisest answer I read from this poster,...'A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010), what she say about female's response is wisest statement. Human mind cannot face sexual experience with 'giggle' or ' laughter' or even 'smile'...if ... (read in full...)

I don't understand many things about sex yet.

Q.   im 13 and i dont understand many things about sex yet. i havent had the talk yet and i really dont wanna have it. i would rather ask on the internet so i am. 1st question is it normal for someone my age to masturbate? because i do all the tim...

A.   7 March 2010: Considering your age, I can say that it is not something that you cannot 'understand', but cannot even 'feel'. It is quite possible that you will do many sexual thing, but without feeling its real taste. Because, your doing is guided by 'instinct' ... (read in full...)

Vivid images of her past won't go away.

Q.   im aware how unoriginal this question is but it would b nice 2 reassure im not the only 1 out there and 2 hear any similar situations or opposite sex opinions (advice)as long as their not the usual "past is the past let it go" answer... i SO ...

A.   7 March 2010: In a free society, against orthodox society, where serious relationship like marriage relationship, is choose and considered by 'individual', then- under the circumstance, most important is 'choice', and not how much sexual activity were recorded in ... (read in full...)

Can all women cum?

Q.   Hey everyone me and my girlfriend have been together for a while now but i have some questions. For any women out there, can ALL women cum? and if so, is an orgasm more exhilirating or just as with or with out cumming... ...

A.   7 March 2010: The answer given here by 'A female reader, anonymous, (7 March 2010)" present good analysis. Her most important statement is this:It's generally more of a psychological that would prevent a women from being able to orgasm. And yes, of course sex ... (read in full...)

I worry my penis wont measure up

Q.   i just wanted 2 ask any girls out there that have had a guy or more in the past that had a gigantic dick, what happens in the future when u find someone u fall in love with that just has a 6 or 7 incher? does it mean that since u already had ...

A.   7 March 2010: 'Emilysanswers', is perfect, that represent absolute truth. Every details of the answer is absolute truth. Even it is said by many many sexologist, and many wise female also. The thing wonder me is only, why human mind became so cripple? The size, ... (read in full...)

Is non intercourse swinging a norm?

Q.   My girl friend age 33 says lots of people our age 33-40 engage in same room sexual fun where friends get together and party and swap with each other for foreplay and fun with toys but not sexual intercourse. Is this happening as she says ...everyone ...

A.   6 March 2010: Let me tell you what exactly is bad in swinging? It smell as dirt- moral dirt, it came close to trading sex. Sex do not get its respectable status, once, in ancient time, it was in a form of religion. In form of expression of god and goddess. ... (read in full...)

I'm having trouble accepting the way he treats women because of his culture, is it true all men from the middle east are like this?

Q.   Ok, my boyfriend is Kurdish. I love him so much but ive got the biggest problem with some of his attitudes, mainly about women but about other things as well. It's not just him, all his friends also have these attitudes, I'm told frequent...

A.   5 March 2010: When person like me [ me being philosophically cultured ] say, 'religious' it meant this...your statement is exact description of the thing...read,'Is this a culture thing? Or am I just unlucky. He's a very insecure, possessive, childlike and ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't appreciate the lifestyle I have given him

Q.   My (51 year old) Virgo boyfriend of 3 years with an IQ and EQ below par came out and said; he'd prefer his next partner to have a job! I felt this was a criticism of my contribution and worth as we are set to going our separate ways. I know it was ...

A.   5 March 2010: Congratulation !!! For making creative difference between HOME and HOUSE. You represent an IDEAL way of life. Men earning and female managing all energy in creative way. Just as in politics separation of church and state is considered as id... (read in full...)

Is my penis too small to have sex?

Q.   hey me and my girlfriend have planned to have sex next weekend but my penis is only 5.5 inches long what should i do ...

A.   5 March 2010: What make sense is 'MIND' and not the size and type of MATTER. By mind, I mean proper ideas. If you do with improper ideas, than nothing will serve good, no matter how heroic body structure one may possess, will not help. Just survey the question... (read in full...)

Why are parents happy when a son loses his virginity, but not the daughter?

Q.   why when a son lose his virginity, the parents are so happy and proud? But when a daughter lose her virginity, the parents are so upset and mad?...

A.   5 March 2010: Let me write here some historical reason here. But, Double standard,is partial truth and not full truth. The reason for such difference is due to cultural ignorance. Once upon a time, in historical past, in some community there have been a cultur... (read in full...)

I have been faking orgams for my entire marriage.

Q.   I have been pretending orgasm and climax for all of my marriage. I have tried to bring myself to orgasm but when the feeling builds up inside me like something I just dont have the words to describe I find I cannot bring it to a conclusion I have ...

A.   3 March 2010: In simplest statement, what you mean is this, that you do not feel sex as great as you considered. Actually, the term orgasm and or climax are subjective, and its consideration is also subjective, but the way of having sex and making love is ... (read in full...)

What do girls really mean when they say "size doesn't matter"?

Q.   For just about the majority of my life, I've heard all about that "bigger is better" stuff. Well I'm pretty much 18 now and I'm convinced that I won't be growing down there anymore since it's been that way since I was 12. Mine is 4.5 inches lon...

A.   2 March 2010: Just as in intellectual field, there is no mathematical relationship as more height means more intelligent, So is with sexual performance. It is childish desire to see it as 'big', but 'bigger is better' is not a exact formula that say something as ... (read in full...)

How do I contribute as a wife and step mum and still throw myself into my career as I want?

Q.   Hi there, I'm 23 years old and I need some advice. I meet my UK partner about three years ago. I am from NZ. We fell in love and after six months got engaged and were married by the end of the year. After we were engaged I moved to the UK and ha...

A.   2 March 2010: You can be good writer, and writing business can give you good name, fame, and money also. You can manage family life with this writing business. If you wanted to be very influential writer? Certainly why not? then I suggest you to read all Ayn ... (read in full...)

I'm fed up of waiting and believing his promises, so much so that I slept with another man

Q.   I have a live-in partner for almost 3yrs. he is a married man but they are separated. he has 1 son on his wife and 1 son on me. since of our being together i always helped him to support his child on his wife, i gave him money for the needs of their ...

A.   28 February 2010: The answer of ' followtheblackrabbi' is so perfect, I have nothing to add, and say simply- consider this answer.... (read in full...)

My vagina gets extremely wet when I'm doing anything sexual. Anyone else have this problem?

Q.   I am curious if anyone has a similar problem? My vagina gets extremely wet when I'm doing anything sexual. An ex said he's never seen anyone get that wet before and he used to have to pull out occasionally during intercourse to dry me off with a ...

A.   28 February 2010: LOL...this post is real heaven. I feel pleasure to read all answers, which are supporting. wet, or extremely wet...is god's gift. It is divine gift. Say, thanks to god, for granting you such special status. This is sure materials for 'erotici... (read in full...)

I feel like the only reason he stays with me is because he feels he owes me

Q.   My boyfriend and i have been together 2 and a half years. we always been one of the closest couples you can meet. the last few months he doesn't seem to talk to me as much or want to be around me, almost as if he's fallen out of love with me. o...

A.   28 February 2010: What is problem in your post? Say, nothing. Everything sound as it is expected. Nothing beyond expectation...and is real problem. Or, no expectation is biggest problem you are facing in your relationship. And, I have point to say you, as advise. ... (read in full...)

Sex before marriage Part II

Q.   I recently asked a question about being intimate with my boyfriend, but keeping my virginity at the same time (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-want-to-keep-my-virginity-until-i.html)and got a lot of really insightful responses. (Thanks 2 all who ...

A.   27 February 2010: Most people feel confusion, the confusion is about sex-pleasure and love. Let us check the metaphysical status of each one. 1.Sex is metaphysical fact. It is nature. Pleasure is an attribute of sex. So, there is no question of separation. When, th... (read in full...)

Why is it only the mans biology that's considered when discussing porn in relationships?

Q.   Okay, so there's lots of questions here about men and porn, and relationships being destroyed over it. But what i'd really like to know here, is why it's only mens feelings and biology considered? So men are more sexually driven than women, they are ...

A.   27 February 2010: The way, the question is conceived, has no satisfying answer. If porn is the real problem, then I have definite answer, and lot of quotations of other scholars, that support my answer. I am quoting here D.H. Lowrance, and is authoritative quote on ... (read in full...)

No pleasure having sex...

Q.   Hi, im a 19 year old male, and ive just started having sex, yet all of the times ive done it i havent felt anything, its warm and all but no real sexual pleasure like when i masturbate, ive considered the fact i may be gay but that doesnt appeal to ...

A.   27 February 2010: Dear Young one,...your observation about your own experience is most intelligent. But, I am not sure whether you would understand my answer? Anyway I like to put on the record, the cause of your complaint. If not today, then some day at your ... (read in full...)

I want to keep my virginity until I am married, but my current boyfriend wants to get intimate. How do I deal with this?

Q.   I recently started getting "serious" with a guy I like and we are pretty happy, except I'm really nervous about one thing: sex. I'm still a virgin and no, this is not my 1st relationship-the problem is that my last one ended because the guy was ...

A.   26 February 2010: There is one option for you, which is more exciting, and more intimate form of making love. By sex, usually we mean to have vaginal penetration, that cause female to losing virginity. Most male, and even female also think, that sex means to have ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend says no porn, yet I catch him watching it.

Q.   Dear Cupid, I'm so devistated right now. I have begged my fiancee to watch porn with me but his excuse is that he has me so he doesn't need to watch it. But just last night I caught him in the bathroom watching porn and relieving himself. That re...

A.   26 February 2010: Your complaint is not the same, most wives made about her husband watching porn. Your point is this:I have begged my fiancee to watch porn with me"...means you want to share, you want to make communication more alive and intimate. It is very good, ... (read in full...)

Why do people have such big regrets about losing their virginity?

Q.   I'm an almost 18 year old virgin, and I've heard other women say that they've regreted their first time and wish they had waited. I don't understand. Why did they regret it and what did they wish they had waited for? I've been a bit upset about wh...

A.   25 February 2010: Most male lost their 'virginity' during masturbation, which is also part of sexual activity. Virginity was hold as purity, and serious moral problem in the context of 'procreative sex'. Generally no male wish to be the father of another person, and ... (read in full...)

Why do guys only want me for sex?

Q.   everyone i meet says am really friendly and really sweet. they all say i have a great personality. guys thinks am cute and sexy..but they just want me for sex and off course i don't give in cos am not the type to sleep around.. i want ...

A.   25 February 2010: Without any elaboration your this statement,'i want relationship+sex not just sex.'....express most civilized desire. However, there are people, as you say around, 'clubs and bar'...are people who separate sex from love, means they left sex, without ... (read in full...)

Is semen good for the skin

Q.   is semen swallowing beneficial for healthy skin? ...

A.   25 February 2010: To Miamine, The point mentioned in this statement,'Respectfully disagree bharat mehta. Isn't most of sexual pleasure based in the mind? It is not only the mechanics of sex which give us pleasure, but also the sights, the sounds and the stories we t... (read in full...)

Is semen good for the skin

Q.   is semen swallowing beneficial for healthy skin? ...

A.   23 February 2010: I am sorry to say here: The ideas of swallowing 'semen' is worst influence of 'porno culture'. SEMEN IS ROOT CAUSE OF 'EROTIC PLEASURE' To grasp such truth, one is required to be introspective, it is self-evident truth. It can be observed quir... (read in full...)

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