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Has my friend lost it?

Q.   My guy friend has been dating this girl ten years younger who's really immature. I think he's all caught up in his ego being that she's so much younger. I think he should be with someone grounded and more mature especially since he's got a kid. He's ...

A.   23 November 2011: boys will be boys! and its his mistake, let it go. you should tell him how you feel and what a jerk he's being tho ,just rember its his road not yours... (read in full...)

I need to find out if we're going anywhere or are we just friends.

Q.   On another note, my guy friend and me have been talking for almost a month now. During this almost month we've kissed, held hands, and hugged. When we started talking, it was a day after my break up with my 2 year long boyfriend and my friend told ...

A.   22 November 2011: how to ask him...be blunt, be truthful, say exactley what you want to know. just like you wrote here.thats the only way ..and i bet hell say ,,i have the same feeling for you too i just didnt know how to say them or tell you...guys are funny ..... (read in full...)

How can this happen?

Q.   I was dating the girl of my dreams for almost 4yrs and the wasn't a fairy tail ending as we had issues(losing a child) and then she got raped and that was the turning point......She started falling in love with her rapist and she had an affair with ...

A.   22 November 2011: wow,um run get out while you still can and uh change your number too drama,drama,drama.dangerous.shes not worth it and the reason for her acting like this is because she likes hanging on to two guys at once the bad boy and the good boy.when ... (read in full...)

Should I chase after this girl?

Q.   Hi everyone and I would like to take some advises from you today. Now I am in a new school and there is a girl who is in a year above me. We are both boarders which means we both live in the school 24/7. During school time, I do not have lesso...

A.   22 November 2011: would you be happy with yourself if you didnt take the time to see what was there,(hince.)would you regret.?... (read in full...)

He broke up with me but is he warming up to me again?

Q.   ok like my ex and his girlfriend just broke up..and like today in class my friend said she heard him say my name to his friend and they both looked at her and turned around and said not to be so loud..and like today no we didnt talk but my friend ...

A.   26 February 2011: yes guys are soooo confused they dont know what they like at your age . soo be an adult here and make the first move with him ..hell take you back... (read in full...)

If we start talking again will her feelings for me resurface?

Q.   Do girls feelings for a guy last a long time. So lets say if this girl i was really close with and almost went out with and I knew she really liked at the beging of high school. Then we kinda just stoped talking for no reason. Its not like anything ...

A.   26 February 2011: Yes, they will and already have. lol. Go after love, what is life without love?... (read in full...)

I still love my third cousin and I need help

Q.   last year i met my 3rd causin and we both decided to be together (i really love him) but i became kind of scared what to do(because every1 just told me its not good for me and him" i was really scared and didnt wanted to break up or hurt him but i ...

A.   26 February 2011: hey im with my first cousine after lieing for two years we came out and the familys ok with it we have a healthy little kid.you love someone go after it....... (read in full...)

What do you make of her behaviour... because I am really confused???

Q.   During last semester a girl of my class started giving me glaring looks which I noticed two or three times but I just turned my attention to some other work because initially I wasn't interested. Then I and my friend were talking about our group as...

A.   26 February 2011: Get over her and move on, really.... (read in full...)

I don't enjoy sex with him

Q.   I have been dating a guy of 37 for two years. We are very different in that I'm outgoing and sociable whereas he is shy and an introvert. For that reason I tend to socialize with family and friends alone. I find that lately I am getting bored in his ...

A.   26 February 2011: buy a porn and really come out with it say exactley what u want be honist and upfront .talk dirty.buy some red or black laundier...goood luck... (read in full...)

His mixed actions and signals make no sense to me!

Q.   A boy told me likes me, then a few weeks later we kissed..no contact from him at all. Then I seen him again a week ago and he told me again that he really likes me but its complicated cos he's kind of with another girl, but if he had to chose ...

A.   26 February 2011: Well make the first move. Guys really don't know how to do that. Do you want to lose your virginity to him? If so, tell him. Stand up and be an adult about this. Good luck.... (read in full...)

Sad breakup...slowly moving on

Q.   Hi, I need your perspective to get healed faster. A year ago, I fell in love with my close friend of 6 months whom I knew for quite few years. He proposed me,I had deep admiration and love for him,I said yes instantly. We were/are in diff...

A.   26 February 2011: Only time will heal you, and make you stronger too.... (read in full...)

I'm afraid to call my boyfriend!

Q.   Hi Recently i feel even scared to call my bf. He is often calling me names and ignoring me and even when i call him, after the call is over i always feel humiliated and even less secured in the relationship. He often says im needy and clingy, ...

A.   30 January 2011: just end it and move on . hes not that into you .sorry if the truth hurts .... (read in full...)

How do I win him back when he has a girlfriend?

Q.   okay well i have been on and off with this guy for the past couple of years and now. we have dated at least 4 times. but ever time we break up i always go to the begging him back thing. our last break up he just kinda ended it, i accepted it at ...

A.   30 January 2011: tell him how you feel, dont let what could be true love slip away.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend "forgot" to get me a birthday and Christmas present!

Q.   My BF forgot to buy me a bday gift and an Xmas gift...well he did not think it was necessary to buy me an Xmas gift (he bought gifts for his friends and family). I was SO hurt by this I did not talk to him for like 2 weeks, and then I told him how ...

A.   26 January 2011: i understand at least he could have made a card ..at the verry least write me a little i love you note on a freakin napkin.on how much you appricate me, expressing your feelings to me . comon.... it is the though not the gift . or do something ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend "forgot" to get me a birthday and Christmas present!

Q.   My BF forgot to buy me a bday gift and an Xmas gift...well he did not think it was necessary to buy me an Xmas gift (he bought gifts for his friends and family). I was SO hurt by this I did not talk to him for like 2 weeks, and then I told him how ...

A.   25 January 2011: oh you poor baby i havent gotten a present in 4 years . but i have the bills paid and food on the tabel a rooof over my head and the kids dressed .....thanks hun. i love my wonderful man .... (read in full...)

My boyfriend seems to be obsessed with women's bodies.

Q.   Hi I have just returned from a day out with my boyfriend of 18 months followed by yet another row. My boyfriend seems to be obsessed with women's bodies. I am slim and considered pretty and he always compliments me and what I wear. I used to have ...

A.   25 January 2011: let him look. so what, at least hes not cheeting.are you secure enuff in your relationship to let your man go out with a lady (friend)to the movies .maby you need to freshen up your sex life so he dosent have the urge to look.you cant get mad for ... (read in full...)

I want us to have a child!

Q.   hi my partner and i have been together for four years . Alot of bad times in past includin him shall we say strongly persuadin me to have a termination sayin it was not the right time. We were both so skint and as i have two kids already and him a ...

A.   21 January 2011: men are from mars , they are so controlling . and want everything this way.. bla bla bla...no if you love him you should not end it . if its ment to be it will be .its ok if you dont have a child 2gether. think about the future. when the kids are ... (read in full...)

Am I right to worry he's not over his ex?

Q.   Please help me, somebody! I don't know what to do! I am 21 and have been in a relationship with a lovely guy for nearly 3 months now. The relationship is going really well and he has virtually moved into my flat, and he and I really do get on great...

A.   21 January 2011: you better get use to this OMG i can believe he said that . you know what girl. forgette him, leave him. the two of them are falling back in love, and he chooses her. leave him be the adult and move on with your life you sound like a very mature ... (read in full...)

Thoughts of sex have left my husband's head!

Q.   My husband lost his sexual desire and developed mayor erectile dysfunction many years ago. It happened suddenly. Once he went soft in the middle of the intercourse, and since then he is unable to maintain an erection with me, and never have des...

A.   21 January 2011: so did you ask him . well hun i still have my sex drive what do you want me to do ? dose he not care about your needs?... get some toys , have a sex buddie , please ur self,go see a relationship sex therapist? well if sex is gone from his head and ... (read in full...)

Why did he marry me and not give up on his affair?

Q.   the man I fell in love with has been seeing a married woman for 6 years. i have been with him 4.5. we got married l year ago. he keeps calling her and telling her he loves her. he tells me to give him another chance he wont call her any more. ...

A.   21 January 2011: well i would divorce him, take all the money and go on vacation . age aint nothin but a numbe honey, and we only have so long. is this how u want to live the rest of ur life? its in ur hands best of luck AK... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to have a sex buddy all the time?

Q.   Hey everybody. I have a question; Is it so wrong to have a sex buddie? I mean I'm 19, I'm young I only had sex with 2 guys and the last time I had sex with my last sex buddie was almost 8 months ago. And yes I'm horny I never really like a guy befo...

A.   21 January 2011: yea girl get out there this is no time to settel down ... (read in full...)

Is he playing games or does he want me?

Q.   hey people, well me and my "ex boyfriend"...i say it like that because i don't i know if were together still. We've been friends for months already and when we were friends we kissed two times on different occasions. A little after he asked me out.. ...

A.   21 January 2011: girl get on with ur life move on forgette him you deserve better and there is better alot better out there . seriosuley break it off with him throw away his number and go out with some one else,you sound dramatic.and controlling.best of luck... (read in full...)

What are the boundaries between a friendship and an emotional affair?

Q.   most people do their jobs with male or female..definatly they became friends..what are the boundries? why most people have emotional affair with co.workers...although they say they are just friends but they have love feelings for each ...

A.   21 January 2011:  well did he tell this co-worker to contact him after work.(complicated situation) yes he is, and should be able to have girl -friends, just as you should have guy-friends. can you be secure enuff in your relationship to let your man go to the ... (read in full...)

How to get along with your boyfriend!

Q.   Iv been with my boyfriend for just over a year on christmas day! i love him more than anything but we always always argue. We argue over silly things but lately its been because his social life is taking over his life..i feel like iv been pushed ...

A.   21 January 2011: you love him quit nagging keep him and be the best damm woman he can find . do you have your own apt. ? invite them over for a movie have them bring thie date get along with his bestfriends girl . let him have his time give it 3 months he loves ... (read in full...)

I feel like I am just a spare lover!

Q.   I am dating my bf for 2 1/2 years. I have issue with my bf keep close contact with his ex. Him and his ex has been together for 20 years (divorced 8 years) but still keep close contact with each other almost everyday which he claimed is because of ...

A.   21 January 2011: so he said he loves u and want to be with u forever.aawww lol. ive heard that too many time what a crock of ********************** did he give you a ring, dose he make special time for u, nooooooooo. he dosent . he has his ex and his son right ... (read in full...)

He's calling me too much! How do I get him to stop?

Q.   So I met this guy through a friend and He showed some interest in me. Truthfully he's not my type of a person AT ALL. but I, for the heck of it, just casually flirted with him. I don't know, but I think he took it as a signal enough to hit on me. H...

A.   21 January 2011: tell him your not interested.quit building him up like he has a chance. thats mean. and you dont have to be rude about it . do get it over with and get on with your life............................................... (read in full...)

Stuck in the middle of a love triangle: Who do I pick?

Q.   I used to date Mr. S. We dated because we fell hard in love. Half way through the relationship he started to feel trapped and distanced himself from me. I went insane over time and couldn't handle it. I tried to talk to him about it two days before ...

A.   21 January 2011: WOW um i pick mr.d ..or go single its right there in your face. and have no contact with mr.s eww..well good luck. AK... (read in full...)

We have broken up so many times because of his cheating, I don't know what to do anymore!

Q.   Hi everyone! I am young and just want some advice from someone who won't think I'm crazy lol, I started liking this boy last year and we starting going out in March, we have been breaking up on and off becausee he cheats! ( I have the password to ...

A.   21 January 2011: uuuuggghhh your to young . you want my advice you break up with him .. do it befor he breaks up with you . i promis you wont regret . your a classy young lady that deserves better and much much more.ive been there befor girl .listen to me.do it . ... (read in full...)

I said sorry for everything that happened in the past but she is still acting different with me.....

Q.   I was in relationship with a girl since 4 years. I was kinda careless about the relationship and about her. But i loved her. So after 4 years our relationship came to an end and we broke up ! .. but after 3-4 months i started missing her and ...

A.   21 January 2011: well women never forget the past. and you did break up befor.people change , she will change more as she gets older, and so will u. its life . move forward . shes still has hard feelings for what you did. and time will only make it better .good luck... (read in full...)

It seems like she wants me to chase her, even though we are official!

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been talking for a year and some change now, and just in September we made it official. But its like she wants me to chase her, its like she doesn't like to call or respond to my texts unless I contact her. If i don't ...

A.   21 January 2011: DONT JUST GIVE UP. u love her, than chase her, and make it fun . we women need a lift off are feet go beyond chassing . to you is she worth chassing.? than your not wasting time! ... (read in full...)

I do not wish to attend my mother in law's funeral if husband's "Friend" will be there

Q.   Very long and involved post so thank you very much in advance for reading. I have been married for a year but for various reasons my husband and I do not live together. This is mainly because I have a house from my previous marriage that my...

A.   21 January 2011: be the more mature woman, and go ..and have enuff class to not say anything . if she wants to be snottie let her, hold your toung (we teach this to kids all the time )if u cant say nothing nice dont say anything at all. ugh he needs to change ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend continues to talk to her ex!

Q.   My girlfriend continues to talk to her ex. They haven't seen each other for over a year and she says he was verbally abusive to her. She and I have been dating for 8 months now and are very happy and in love. Yet....she still talks to her ex....

A.   21 January 2011: well you not the boss of her and your not married eathier shes free to tex and talk to whom ever...get over it your being controling.if its ment to be with you it will.im still in toutch with my ex even after he married some one .... (read in full...)

My boy friend's asking for closure

Q.   My boyfriend just broke up with me two days ago and now he wants to meet to "answer any questions we have about us or any clarification." why? What does this mean??...

A.   22 December 2010: dont meet its pointles get on with your life its going to be great and it dosent include him... (read in full...)

Why do the nice guys always end up hurt?

Q.   quick question to everyone of all ages i want to know why all the mr nice/good guys always get stuffed up by the girl in the relationship? ive been reading a lot on this site theres quite a lot and from my own experience . i know im not perfect ...

A.   8 June 2010: well give her the space she needs, let her have some other expierences , if its ment to be then by golley it will be. patiences. be your self. be perfect. be in love. be you. you guys are so young. just waite shell come back, and if not, there ... (read in full...)

My heart is bleeding... he wants to be with someone else...

Q.   my heart is broken . i love this man. we have a son . he has two girls with this trampy slutty drug usin woman and i dont know why he chooses her over someone like me, im totaley the oppisit of her but she may be dieing from a tumor we found out ...

A.   5 June 2010: well his dad is my moms brother they have the same mom but diffrent dads so like half brothers & sister my son is fine . and im 27 hes 33 right now 6 year gap altho he broke my heart then smothered it with salt i ask my self why i still care ... (read in full...)

My heart is bleeding... he wants to be with someone else...

Q.   my heart is broken . i love this man. we have a son . he has two girls with this trampy slutty drug usin woman and i dont know why he chooses her over someone like me, im totaley the oppisit of her but she may be dieing from a tumor we found out ...

A.   5 June 2010: thank you so much i know your right thanks for your answers... (read in full...)

My heart is bleeding... he wants to be with someone else...

Q.   my heart is broken . i love this man. we have a son . he has two girls with this trampy slutty drug usin woman and i dont know why he chooses her over someone like me, im totaley the oppisit of her but she may be dieing from a tumor we found out ...

A.   5 June 2010: he went to jail and did time cause we got caute having sex when i was 14 he was 19 wer cousins wev just came out and told everybody are 3 year lie my familys not talkin to me i dont have any friends he told me to waite he still never broke up ... (read in full...)

Am I just afraid... and is my fear justified?

Q.   Guys, I really need some independent advice. I broke up with my only long-term boyfriend two years ago. Since then, we had a lot of back together - breaking up (with me doing the breaking), then a year ago I went to travel the world. While ...

A.   5 June 2010: move on leave him ... (read in full...)

How will I bond with the new baby seen as we are in the process of a separation?

Q.   How will I be able to bond with our new baby? Hi, We have been married for two years and our marriage has been turbulent for all of that time. The relationship has been abusive - emotional, verbal and at time physical. At regular intervals throug...

A.   3 May 2010: sounds like shes depressed she not happy and taken it all out on you sorry to say ive been here and treated my man like that and i regret it but 3 years later we have a good relationship and things worked out with the kids.wer not together any ... (read in full...)

B/f says that a break will help our relationship

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for over 4 months. Our relationship is strong and we never fight. We're definitely in love with each other. But just today, he asked to go on a break. He said he wants time to spend with his friends and not ...

A.   3 May 2010: give him what he wants, your young. there plenty of other fish in the ocean,have fun and good luck . ... (read in full...)

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