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I am a person of Philosophy: A science of non-contradictory vision. I wish to guide problem related to life, relationships, and sex, through this knowledge of philosophy and in addition, through the knowledge of Tantra Vision. Our modern Individualistic mode of life required such guidance. I will write series of articles on tantra, which anyone can read if feel guiding, and in addition, I will reply to the questioners with quoting relevant materials from articles.

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An Introduction to TANTRA. .As, power of light.

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3 February 2010: Article No 2...MEANING OF OBJECT. ... The object, so conceptualized by the word ‘tantra’ is sex organ in a state of erection. So, the object underlines the ideology of ‘eroticism. Here eroticism is principle, or philosophy, and not sexology...

An Introduction to TANTRA.

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26 January 2010: Tantra is a word belong to ancient Indian Sanskrit language. This word has been used by scholars in many ways, such as [1] It is used as a religious way with the ideas of god and goddess or deva and devis, temples, prayers, meditations, chanting ...

Think sex and Get pleasure..

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10 December 2009: What I am suppose to think? and What I am suppose to do? - in the realm of sex. This one is really hardest problem of life. Let me be the guide for those who want to think for themselves and want to be the original actor, and not a cheap imitator...

Sex existed before religion, and is the reason for relationships

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29 November 2009: Relationship is problem, perhaps most fatal problem. All destructive event like murder to suicide occur from bad terms of relations. It is also true that men cannot live without relating with something or with someone. So, it is quite necessary to ...

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My wife is very dry when we have sex...why is this?

Q.   Dear sir/Madam when I had sexual intercourse with my wife the vagina of my wife it is become very Dry I can not move my penis in side the vagina so what you suggest me for my wife she has to go to doctor to check this thing please let me know ...

A.   11 January 2010:  'Aussie girl's answer is perfect. I am adding some definition and some scientific fact about 'foreplay' Foreplay exclude one thing: Pumping like movement to male sex organ which resulted in ejaculation. Male organ can be deal with above ... (read in full...)

Ignoring affairs...

Q.   I am married and I have to say quite happly, my life is wonderful apart from the fact my husband constantly cheats in me.. Sometimes the affairs last weeks some months but never years, he never stays away from home and I know that 80% of his ...

A.   9 January 2010: What you say is your own feeling for him. You say nothing about your sex life, whether it is creative? or just, 'put it into it and finished' If it is so, even then relationship can be great as you say,'I truly believe he will always cheat but ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is not ready to have sex. I feel so rejected!

Q.   My bf of two and a half years will not have sex with me. I have never had sex before and REALLY want to with him but everytime I try to initiate it, he turns me down. I have spoken to him about this three time over the past year but he has come ...

A.   9 January 2010: You have not say anything about 'foreplay'. Do you have fore play with him? if not, then you have to reconsider your relationship. ... (read in full...)

Why does husband need to masturbate when I'm home?

Q.   I have caught my husband masterbating and i'm wondering if there is something wrong with our sex life why do he feel he needs to do that when i'm in the house? I can see us doing it together or me watching but, he is doing it without me when i'm in ...

A.   9 January 2010: Good and great your this saying...'I can see us doing it together or me watching but, he is doing it without me when i'm in another room. is this normal or is it me?".. He is just unlucky on judgment. You can change his choice in your favor. T... (read in full...)

He knows about the fling and is very distant to me!

Q.   I have posted some very similar questions on here already but I am still trying to win my husband's love and trust back. He left me and while separated I had a fling and I really regret it. He knows about it and I am living with him again, but he is ...

A.   9 January 2010: Honest communication always make a thing better. Honest means, the words you give must be supported by other words and with your deed also. Just sit, and listen his liking about sexual matter, be free and honest and win his heart with lovable ... (read in full...)

I'm not sure that he will ever grow up to be the man that I need

Q.   I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. From 3 weeks into dating, he told me that he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. I love him with everything that I am, but am not sure he will ever grow up enough to be the ...

A.   9 January 2010: Here is your saying..." He is 23 and acts like a child, sometimes smoking marijuana 5-6 times a day, getting stupid-drunk when he goes out to parties, and is clearly unable to stay faithful to me, ...." what advice is possible? It is true that you... (read in full...)

Help with first time sex???

Q.   Ok your gunna think I'm really wierd. But me and my bf are planning on havin sex, I'm a virgin but he isn't. But the only thing I'm unsure of is myself down below. He prefers it shaved and that's ok. But i've done it and my skin is very prickely ...

A.   9 January 2010: First time sex? means, first time intercourse !!! First time sex for female is real fear. So, it is advisable to have foreplay for many many time. It is easy to achieve orgasm after orgasm, or series of orgasm in foreplay. Allow your mind to enjoy... (read in full...)

My first blowjob???

Q.   I'm sixteen and a guy I know at school has offered to give me my first blowjob. What are the potential consequences of having a blowjob both emotional and physical? Is it really that big a deal?...

A.   7 January 2010: "Is it really that big a deal?" this quote of your is the heart of your question. Yes, blow job is big deal emotionally, but physically it is harmless job. If you are sure and certain, that you truly love him, means you know your feeling for sure... (read in full...)

Is it normal for a married man to masturbate to his wife's friends?

Q.   I want to know if it is normal for a married man to masturbate to his wifes friends. My husband is wonderful but we are having an issue because a few months ago after we had our second baby we were changing memory cards in our phones when i found a ...

A.   7 January 2010: Certainly it is wrong, to have the pic of your friend, without your knowledge, but it is advisable to discuss with husband quite friendly, and let him know about the immoral tone, and how it is hurting....may be he has no ideas that his work is ... (read in full...)

Does it look bad to have foreplay with someone you've been on a couple of dates with?

Q.   Does it look bad if you engage in foreplay with someone if you've only been on a couple of dates?. We've known each other for a couplre of months maybe 3 but have only been out twice, used to talk daily. I'm curious because I like this guy, we ...

A.   7 January 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/sex-on-a-first-date-today-he-is.html Above is the link, please follow, I have just write the principle of sex and date, which help you to decide your problem of relation.... (read in full...)

Sex on a first date, today he is quiet, will he show for our date tomorrow?!

Q.   I slept with a guy on our first date! Now he seems distant.. We have only really known each other a month but the instant we met online he lived near, attractive it was like we was made for each other.. he instantly give me his number and got on...

A.   7 January 2010: See, for you and for all who are on dating, I am presenting here some out line of principle, that will guide to decide when the time is up for sex. 1.The meaning of sex is pleasure. 2.Relationship is just to achieve the meaning of sex: Pleasur... (read in full...)

I only like much older men, guys my age just don't do it for me. Has anyone else felt this way?

Q.   Recently, I have realised that I only like much older men than me, I have dated guys my age but it just doesn't do it for me. I'm not talking a couple of years older either, I mean men in their 30s and 40s. Now I have never had a relationship with ...

A.   7 January 2010:  By old man, you really refer 'maturity'. And, as a old man I am saying here, 'maturity' has nothing to do with age, but with intelligence. You can see good maturity in teen age also, because there is no fixed rule. So, think about your choice q... (read in full...)

After our break up we slept together again, she told me she had sex with 2 of my friends. How do I get over this?

Q.   My girlfriend said we were broke up. She still told me she loved me and still had sex with me then she told me she had sex with 2 people that were supposed to be my friends. How am I supposed to get over that. She also got back with me before ...

A.   7 January 2010: I think, you both love each other, with highest degree of intimacy. It is her honesty in saying what she did. Please remember this meaning, sex is just for earning energy, but love relationship is for managing such energy by mutual agreement. So, ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants to me to date another man as well

Q.   Hello, I've got questions for those who have lived this certain way. My boyfriend and I are very turned on by the idea of me dating another guy LTR - long term relationship. We have a second bedroom that we would decorate and setup, the ...

A.   7 January 2010: It is not clear from your arrangement, as it is about threesome, or systematic dating with other, in agreement with first one? Anyway, if it is about three some at last, and you both are in agreement about having sex in threesome, then it can work, ... (read in full...)

Why is an attractive woman pushing men away by not having sex with them?

Q.   I am single again after 10 years of marriage (wife passed away 2008) I have meet a nice lady has a teen age son, divorced since 92, and I think very attractive. Problem is she has not had sex in 10 years and refuses to even talk about it. I love her ...

A.   7 January 2010: 'whole holding hands and a grandmotherly kiss at the end of the night...' this is of course sex less touch, but you can hope sex park can begin with such sexless touch. she like relationship, means she will like sex also. If you feel her company as ... (read in full...)

I feel like he took advantage of me. How do I fix things?

Q.   So there's this guy I work with and we had been getting along really well. When we first started flirting I found out he had a girlfriend. So I backed down for a while. He kept at it so I figured what's the harm in flirting. It's not like it's ...

A.   7 January 2010: Here is some moral statements for guidance. See, most basically sex is for pleasure. But sex need relationships. And, reality is that...sex should not be used for earning anything...money, power or even relationship. If any one use sex to earn ... (read in full...)

Hubby not interested in sex anymore??

Q.   Ok I'll get straight to the point, Ive been with my hubby for 20 years, he's 42 and I'm 36, the first 15 years together he couldn't get enough of me, then I started to do shift work and he said he got "lonely" and met some girl at the supermarket ...

A.   7 January 2010: You say...'I'd be interested to here from a man's point of view especially on this,' You are leading very mature age and sound very well experienced. Then think out what do you mean by 'man's point of view and even-female's point of view...'... (read in full...)

The physical element of our relationship is lacking so does he have the right to be with another woman?

Q.   Hi everyone, I'm interested to hear from anyone whose been cheated on by their someone they love.. HAS cheated on someone they love.. or feels patient enough to read my story and give me their honest opinion... So I'm 27 and have been with m...

A.   6 January 2010: Sexless relationship has different meaning and different wisdom. Sex is chief element for relationship. So, your relationship fall under friendship. Sex make relationship a unique, and love make intimacy possible. Just as sex without intimacy is ... (read in full...)

Why after an orgasm do men leave women hanging?

Q.   Hi. Ok I have a question I no a lot of women would liked answered. Why is when a guy has a orgasm first its over they get up and go on with there day. They just leave the girl hangen they don't even try to finish what they started. Guys what if your ...

A.   6 January 2010: So much misunderstanding make me add more light on love play. Sex pleasure is confused due to duality created by religious philosophies. To be exact, sex play is not at all played between male and female, as it appeared on our perceptual vision. ... (read in full...)

Why can I only get turned on by my girlfriend? Porn does nothing for me and I'm starting to worry!

Q.   Ok this may not seem urgent or even useful but at the moment I am in a very strange predicament, not serious or bad in anyway I do not think but never the less it is quite how should I put, well bugger it it is pure strangeness for me. My girlfriend ...

A.   6 January 2010: You possess most healthy mind that I have to say. Porn movie do not inspire any erection in male or in female is normal. How ever people see it merely out of curiosity, and later it become habit. Real sex park came from the company of desirous ... (read in full...)

My husband has been watching real life couples having sex on a porn site whilst he is working away, is this normal?

Q.   been married just less than a year and found out that my husband who works away has been viewing real life couples having sex on a porn sight. i am shocked and wonder if anybody thinks that this is what men do when working away and is it normal?...

A.   6 January 2010: Something is abnormal with the subject of sex. It might be common for female and male to share sexual excitement commonly. As both have same one type of mind, body, and emotion. But, it seems both have contrasting vision about sex. If male feel ... (read in full...)

What's with the sudden anal sex craze?

Q.   I'm 45 and over the course of the last 4 years I have dated 3 guys and each one of them requested to have anal sex. My boyfriend of 7 years before never asked for this........what's up with the anal sex craze and why is it so much better than ...

A.   6 January 2010: Most standard statement on anal sex, I read from one female on this site. She declared she don't like anal sex because she cannot see, 'anal' as a organ at all sexy. It is shape of butt give the sexy look to our eye site is all true, but anus is ... (read in full...)

Why after an orgasm do men leave women hanging?

Q.   Hi. Ok I have a question I no a lot of women would liked answered. Why is when a guy has a orgasm first its over they get up and go on with there day. They just leave the girl hangen they don't even try to finish what they started. Guys what if your ...

A.   6 January 2010: The word 'orgasm' used in your question is not right wording for right thing. It should be: WHY AFTER AN EJACULATION DO MEN LEAVE WOMEN HANGING? Here is the answer: It is not men as such, but male as such [ this include male of animal species a... (read in full...)

Should I be upset about the mens magazines?

Q.   I recently talked to my boyfriend, last chrsitmas he brought home some "men's magazines" from home and had them in our bathroom. Technically I guess they weren't considered porn, but i think they were as they had naked girls EVERYWHERE. Anyway, s...

A.   6 January 2010: I read many objection from female side, that is about their husband seeing porn. Very few female seem in agreement and sharing with their husband. It means, sexuality appeared quite differently in female's mind than male's mind. Most important point ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend says my vagina is too loose!

Q.   I've been sexually active with my boyfriend (I also lost my virginity to him) for about a year and a half now. A few days ago I played with my PC muscles when he was inside me and he said it feels wonderful, and then proceeded to tell me that it was ...

A.   6 January 2010: To experience the pleasure of sex, one is required 'AN EYE' to see the pleasure. In your case you keep open your body's eye, [sense of site] that note unimportant matter, about looseness or tightness of vagina or smallness or largeness of penis, is ... (read in full...)

My first time was not a good experience and now has me doubting that I might be gay!

Q.   im 20 yrs old and im wondering if am i gay??? because i just lost my virginity to a girl complete stranger i dont know i just met her and did it. i thought the sex was gonna be real good cause its my first time but it wasnt hers and it was good but ...

A.   5 January 2010: FIRST TIME SEX MUST BE BAD...BUT LAST TIME CAN ALSO BE WORST...READ... HOW? WHY? Greatness about sex is only "foreplay". Not sex - means intercourse. And, foreplay cannot perform with the person whom you do not love. The people, mostly m... (read in full...)

This woman will do things my wife will not do

Q.   I am currently married 10+ years. Was married nearly 10 previous. Have posted an ad for a descrete sexual relationship and found my potential match. She is willing to do things with me my wife will not. She wants me to do things that my wife would ...

A.   5 January 2010: HERE IS SOME GENERAL THOUGHT ON MORAL ASPECT OF SEX. Social aspect of sex, you can call it as social judge. You cannot hear anything positive. This is your statement, "She just wants me to "put it in"...no foreplay, no kissing, touching. I real... (read in full...)

We only have sex about 3 times a month, help!?

Q.   Hi all. This is my first question so bear with me. I'm in a relationship with my fiance and have been for 4 1/2 years. We have a 2 year old child together and a mortgage and share pretty much everything. I Love her and she loves me. I couldn't i...

A.   4 January 2010: I advice you to consult doctor for her physical check up. She may be feeling physical weakness due to lack of some vitamin. Doctors can help great in such a matter. Sex has great power, so great that it can give life to death. Sex is regarded as all ... (read in full...)

Am I wrong to take this opportunity?

Q.   To all the aunts and maybe some uncles, I would appreciate any input. I have an absolutely wonderful boyfriend whom I have been together with for almost 4 years. We have been through everything, and stand by each other through everything. I lo...

A.   4 January 2010: Here is your saying,and I wish to give my comment on this:"We have a good sex life, have sex every day, but I wonder about what it would be like to be with someone else..." Here is your second statement about sex, "hes totally not boyfriend ... (read in full...)

Do I get a divorce and go with this new woman or stay with my wife?

Q.   Here are the facts: Married 4 years, prior to that dated for about 6. I am 30, she is 30, we don't have any children. We have owned our own home for about 2 years. Sex is not a problem, we have great sex. Sometimes she nags, but no big d...

A.   4 January 2010: My advice is: STAY WITH YOUR WIFE. You both lack mutual trust. Your marriage life is not as great sexually as you say, but it can be by starting with new and fresh ideas. Your choice to go with new woman is not grantee that it will not be repetit... (read in full...)

Does he need other girls to satisfy him? I was hoping he wanted to be exclusive...

Q.   I'm 18 years old and about a month or two ago I started seeing this 21 year old guy whom I met through friends. Before we started liking each other, I knew of his habits of being a real bad girl chaser, always hitting on and adding hot girls...

A.   4 January 2010: You are doing well in discussing sex. You can be best, if you add following point in your thought. 1. Don't be upset when you discuss sex, even when you valued relationship as a matter of moral point. 2. Listen him thoroughly. Ask more and mor... (read in full...)

How do I relieve this sexual tension?

Q.   So, this is going to sound complicated and rather weird. Question #1: So last year, for about 8 months I had a boyfriend. We had sex nearly every day (Sometimes more than twice a day) we were very sexual. I loved him very very much. But we bro...

A.   4 January 2010: THE COMMENT IS ABOUT SEXUAL TENSION. This: Sexual tension is the thing remind us that life is worthy to live. You should not think about how to relieve? You should think, how to manage this? Sexual tension is mentally felt and physically expresse... (read in full...)

Did I do the right thing by stopping my daughter from masturbating?

Q.   My eleven year old girl has been masturbating lately. Last year for her birthday i bought her this toy dog that when you pull the tail it vibrates. Four days ago i peeked into her room and saw her repeatedly pulling the tail and she had it on her ...

A.   4 January 2010: My answer is different. Modern sexologists are agreed on moral point that masturbation is normal. It is not harmful. And, to certain extent they are not wrong. Children do such thing merely out of curiosity. And, not that they feel pleasure... (read in full...)

Sex with my husband is almost zero! Help!

Q.   Hi, I don't understand what's happening with me and my husband. We been married for only 2 years, his 20 years old and i'm 23. I feel as if he's changed, when we were boyfriend and girlfriend before, we were so active with making love. But now that ...

A.   3 January 2010: The taste of sexual activity before marriage, and after marriage is notable point. There are more than we count, who has the same feeling, that sex after marriage feel less attractive. The reason is lack of communication. After marriage couple do ... (read in full...)

How do I relieve this sexual tension?

Q.   So, this is going to sound complicated and rather weird. Question #1: So last year, for about 8 months I had a boyfriend. We had sex nearly every day (Sometimes more than twice a day) we were very sexual. I loved him very very much. But we bro...

A.   3 January 2010: 1'I sort of want a friend just to have sex with. Is that wrong?' 2..... Your second question is not really clear, or it is not even question. It is expression of your desire, that it is intense. About first question. You want just some one t... (read in full...)

Is bisexuality wrong?

Q.   Hello! I just needed to ask this one question. One of my friends told me that she was bisexual, and well, she also told me that one of my other friends, one of my best friends, was bi too. I had always thought that my best friend was bisexual, but I ...

A.   1 January 2010: ...."and if its against gods intentions. the thing is, I don't believe in god. So far my life has been a total hell hole. I'm happy and there's nothing anyone can do about it. I'm bisexual and I'm only fricken 13." , AxelVIII Canada...is most sui... (read in full...)

Straight to sex and its just too painful!

Q.   Every time my bf and I try to have sex it is painful to the point where intercourse really dont take place. I like foreplay but it doesnt last long enough to get me very excited then we go straight to sex, but its painful. Is it that hes to big for ...

A.   1 January 2010: You both need some general knowledge about foreplay. It is here. 1 In general people think that foreplay means it is only warm up work, where as intercourse is real and big work. Foreplay is useful to achieve hard erection for male and vaginal ... (read in full...)

Mom's short skirts are causing me to have troubled sexual thoughts

Q.   Hi, Hope i can get some advise here. I am 22 now originally India only a son for my parents. I got a small traditional family back in my Country. My mother she is 37(5'4" tall, medium built, dark complexion) and my dad is 56(yes nearly 20 years ...

A.   1 January 2010: "she replied me with smily says its freedom here i will be ok" Most wisest statement, I am reading as a Indian, which came from the Indian head, and that too from Indian female,notably addressed to young son. Its freedom!!! Of what? Certainly ... (read in full...)

My husband went to sex therpist promised to be with me,and lied!

Q.   WellI caught my husband masterbating after he promised he would come to me after we went to a sex therpist, he is addicted for sure, please only decent replys, any proverbed replies will be reported. sure everyone masterbates, but a husband doesn't ...

A.   31 December 2009: Creative sex is as delicate as flower, or more than flower. This is truth. And, such truth will not work under any sort of pressure, threat, or code of law - how great it may be for justice. In ideal condition it is expected that husband and wife... (read in full...)

I can't have without it hurting so much!

Q.   I am 21 years old and my bf and I of 9 months have just started to have sex for the first time in our relationship. The problem is everytime we try I just clamp up and therefore when he tries to enter me, it hurts like hell! The pain is so bad. ...

A.   31 December 2009: Oh! So sad. You will enjoy sex if you follow, following advice. 1.Remember your first experience was so bad, I do not feel hesitate to termed it as 'rape' It is not easy for you to recover from your past, because your body {brain] had rece... (read in full...)

After 10 years should I contact him and try to get closure?

Q.   Bare with me this a long one. I met this man (DB) when I was 15, I am now 29. He was my teacher my sophomore year in high school. There was a ton of chemistry between us but we never acted on it besides lots of flirting, occasional hugs, and ...

A.   31 December 2009: This is your knowing, is in your own words; 'I know he is a cheater, a coward, and a jerk, but I loved him since I was 15." Why? because you think it was good chemistry. Here reasoning is extremely poor. You do not seems to think about him in terms ... (read in full...)

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