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| Latest articles: An Introduction to TANTRA. .As, power of light.
No replies yet... 3 February 2010: Article No 2...MEANING OF OBJECT. ... The object, so conceptualized by the word ‘tantra’ is sex organ in a state of erection. So, the object underlines the ideology of ‘eroticism. Here eroticism is principle, or philosophy, and not sexology...
An Introduction to TANTRA.
No replies yet... 26 January 2010: Tantra is a word belong to ancient Indian Sanskrit language. This word has been used by scholars in many ways, such as [1] It is used as a religious way with the ideas of god and goddess or deva and devis, temples, prayers, meditations, chanting ...
Think sex and Get pleasure..
No replies yet... 10 December 2009: What I am suppose to think? and What I am suppose to do? - in the realm of sex. This one is really hardest problem of life. Let me be the guide for those who want to think for themselves and want to be the original actor, and not a cheap imitator...
Sex existed before religion, and is the reason for relationships
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29 November 2009: Relationship is problem, perhaps most fatal problem. All destructive event like murder to suicide occur from bad terms of relations. It is also true that men cannot live without relating with something or with someone. So, it is quite necessary to ...
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My boyfriend says my vagina is loose and that he does not feel a thing... what can I do? How do I fix it?
Q. I have not cheated why does my vagina feel loose... my boyfriend thinks that I've cheated... before he even mentioned it, I have been noticing a diffrence with our sex life... when we have sex my vagina has no tightness to it.. I try and ...
A. 7 February 2010: The question again came on the board. I have replied it with greater details. Again the same material in reply... re-read your statement, which itself contain reply,.."I notice that he has a lack of interests in having sex... and when we do, he ... (read in full...)
What is sex like? How do you know when you are ready?
Q. Im just curious.. What is sex like? Is your first time special or akward? How do you know when your ready?x...
A. 19 January 2010: Your curiosity is great, at 13 or so and perhaps will be greatest in future....I am replaying you great reply...
SEX IS GREAT, AS GREAT AS LIFE AT PRESENT, BUT IN FUTURE YOU WILL SEE IT YOURSELF, THAT IT IS GREATER THAN LIFE.
Is first ti... (read in full...)
Sex isn't great with him, how to spice it up?
Q. Hi guys, ok so here's the thing me and my bf have been having sex for a while now and have done it a fair few times, though not millions!!! But it doesn't feel as good as I think it should for me. I mean yeh it feels ok but not as amazing as I ...
A. 17 January 2010: Yes-sex is great, but on certain condition only.
First, you recognized correctly that 'SEX IS PLAY, AND IT HAS MOST DEFINITE 'GAME POINT'
If you go straight toward intercourse, then such sex will not feel as great, and will not transform yo... (read in full...)
After 10 years I find I am not his one and only
Q. I have just had the shock of my life and I need your advice! Just a few weeks ago, my boyfriend and I decided it was time for us to take a break. He had been very distant over the past few months.. and confused about where to from here with h...
A. 17 January 2010: I note your honesty, so I am specific in saying this thing,' Don't loss your trust about 'love'.
Lover can be anything like, but love is great. Just as 'sport' is considered great, if not sportsman in certain case, because sport make greatnes... (read in full...)
After 10 years I find I am not his one and only
Q. I have just had the shock of my life and I need your advice! Just a few weeks ago, my boyfriend and I decided it was time for us to take a break. He had been very distant over the past few months.. and confused about where to from here with h...
A. 17 January 2010: Everything in your personality sound 'honesty'. I can feel the pain you felt. It is a pain an honest person feel. Sincerely, I have to words to say anything to you, that can reduce your pain, but because you are honest, so time will make you ... (read in full...)
Trying to understand why my gf started to hang out with a bad group of friends. Any insight?
Q. Hi, i recently broke up with my ex-girlfriend 3 months ago. And i REALLY need help with this situation. During our relationship we had our ups and downs but it was mainly because of this groups of "lesbian girls" That would start stuff and try to...
A. 17 January 2010: I can understand your pain, because once I was in your situation. Difference is only that I have loss my adopted son, I was loss person. They live in gang, busy in plotting, and hunting, somehow they get support for victim's family. It was her mom ... (read in full...)
Trying to understand why my gf started to hang out with a bad group of friends. Any insight?
Q. Hi, i recently broke up with my ex-girlfriend 3 months ago. And i REALLY need help with this situation. During our relationship we had our ups and downs but it was mainly because of this groups of "lesbian girls" That would start stuff and try to...
A. 16 January 2010: A) gay/dyke - i was the girl in the relationship she looks like a boy
B) has violence in the home/drugs
C) is doing drugs themselves or drinking
The observations you quote above is true and real. Your friend is loss case. It cannot recover.... (read in full...)
After 5 years what is a girl to do???
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. We now have 2 kids together. I am worried about our relationship...it seems to be fading away slowly. For the last year he has been taking 30 to 45 minute showers. This made me wonder so I looked ...
A. 16 January 2010: The problem you quote is the problem of all most all married people. In routine sexual activity, sex itself loss its spark light, it is the same spark you both have experienced in your dating period, and cause you to decide for life long ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't want sex, and I have run out of ideas
Q. If your husband does not want to have sex with you for more than a year, will you divorce him or ?or stay with him , for the rest of your life? I really don't know what to do...I tried almost everything medical ,no problems, sex therapy ,spice u...
A. 15 January 2010: You can try other sexy thing with him, with clear agreement that he will at least mentally co-operate. But What and How you will do other sexy thing? is the question, and I am suggesting this search term, which you will give to Google search ... (read in full...)
My ex calls me a slut, how do I deal with this?
Q. I hate my ex, I completely hate him and wish something really bad would happen to him! He has given me crap about my past for YEARS, despite my being completely faithful, not even flirting or checking out other guys, despite my giving up friends for ...
A. 15 January 2010: You are honest is sure, and nothing serious but it is jealousy that cause such pain. But, if you love him is great thing. Say him, amongst many many options, I choose you as my partner is matter. When you see some intimacy in you, then certainly he ... (read in full...)
Finally, I am going to meet my LDR but he is worried about his sexual inexperience
Q. I leave to visit my LDR for 3 months in Africa next Monday (yaay!!). I'll spare you all of the other details of our relationship except to say that we're both open to sex if the right time comes. ...but here's the thing--one moment he's exci...
A. 15 January 2010: ok. then. Personally I felt fatherly mood, so I feel safe in giving you alert, but your elaborate response sound perfect. Then go ahead, our good wishes is always with you... best luck.... (read in full...)
I know that boys "cum" sperm but do girls come? What is it? Confused!
Q. Hi i was wondering, do girls cum? I thought only boys came because well its sperm but what is girl cum ? Do they cum during sex? If they do where does it go because the guys penis is up there i dont get it. Or is it only some girls who come? or do ...
A. 14 January 2010: One thing I am saying is sure, a fact.
It is that female's cum or ejaculation is not the same as male.
Male face fatigue, switch off, his pleasure have height with ejaculation and fall with completion of ejaculation.Male's body and all connecte... (read in full...)
Finally, I am going to meet my LDR but he is worried about his sexual inexperience
Q. I leave to visit my LDR for 3 months in Africa next Monday (yaay!!). I'll spare you all of the other details of our relationship except to say that we're both open to sex if the right time comes. ...but here's the thing--one moment he's exci...
A. 14 January 2010: 'http://tinyurl.com/m6zfg2 " his reply has opened my eyes wide open. I am going to trust your words, decide to write all favorable, but...judge by your own mind, do not make love a blind. Love is good, but we should not be blind.
Now my words...... (read in full...)
Are my friends right or are they just all sluts?
Q. My friends all think a guy should last an hr in bed, but my bff and i dont. we were both virgins and lost it to one another, and we are still getting use to it so therefore he cums quickly. do you have any proof that this is a normal thing, and my ...
A. 14 January 2010: Your friends are boasting. They have no ideas about pleasure. But, sure you will learn it quickly, as you take trouble to know the real reality of sex play.
It is foreplay, you can lead for longer time, and even all night also, but not as a regula... (read in full...)
Mother in law from hell...please help!
Q. I have been married for nearly 6 years my mother in law has never accepted me. She always puts me down as a person and a mother even though she neglected her two kids as children as she mostly drunk and used to shut her kids away yet she sits in her ...
A. 14 January 2010: Oh my God...In Indian terms...O Bhagavan !!!
I thought the drama of MOTHER-IN-LOW AND SISTER-IN-LOW is only Indian culture, It is in joint family only... here it became news paper story materials all the time, but it is in western culture also??? ... (read in full...)
What are the unspoken rules regarding sex?
Q. When you have sex, when do you normally finish? once the man has an orgasm or both? thanks...
A. 14 January 2010: My advice is quite unusual and unique.
Choose from these three stage....
1.Sensual stage...it is start with sense of touch where you both feel smoothness and softness and warmness of each others body. It is pleasing and you carry it as long... (read in full...)
I have never felt so lonely and lost before
Q. My heart is so empty. I am 54. My Mum, Dad and brother all died within three months of each other six years ago. My best friend died a couple of months before that. My Mum and Dad lived with me and we were very close. I loved them all so much and ...
A. 14 January 2010: Absolutely perfect suggestion from ' Angzw Zimbabwe '
I have nothing more to add, but to thanks Angzw for such a brilliant and creative answers, even I learn many many new things...again thanks to Angw !!!... (read in full...)
My husband got laid off and has turned into a couch potato!
Q. Ok please help me understand. My husband has been laid off for 3 or 4 month now and he has be come a couch potato. He is so lazy even our daughter sees it. She will say daddy you are a lazy butt. He sleeps till 11:00 or 12:00 every day and then ...
A. 14 January 2010: Yes depression is sure, but it is not psychological as per your description. You say he is in good mood when awake. He must be feeling some physical weakness, lack of vitamins etc. You should consult doctors. Go for total check up, anyway it is ... (read in full...)
Despite our 14 year age difference she wants to take it to the next level
Q. I guys I was trying to ask google for a answer to my heavy heart when I found this community. I met this girl on-line a while back. We became very good friends. And with time we got very close. When we met she was going through a crisis or ...
A. 14 January 2010: You sound really true lover. As a true lover feel certain confusion, when there are problem related to good and bad. But, if it is true love, then I think you should talk with her, as you say she has now achieve maturity. Our opinion can do no ... (read in full...)
Is anal sex painful?
Q. hello all! i was just in a curious mood about anal sex. i have not tried it , but i want to. any tips? how much will it hurt?? (i can handle pain in general) will i need a lube? what does the guy feel during anal? is it like a vagina wet and ...
A. 14 January 2010: 'married lady ' has rightly judge the thing. It is only pornography that has influenced such choice, other wise really there is no logic for this thing. It is not naturally self-lubricated. It is not sex organ. And, after all, why we do sex? ... (read in full...)
Do women enjoy their clitoris being "tapped" on
Q. Do women enjoy men "tapping" or hitting their penis against the vagina, especially near the clitoris area. A couple of my mates said their girlfriends enjoyed doing so because it stimulates the clitoris. I would simply like to know your p...
A. 13 January 2010: Do women enjoy their clitoris being "tapped" on"??? Why not?
Clitoris is female sex organ, it has clearly definable meaning and function. It has more meaningful function then male's organ. Male's sex organs has two function: say, urination and ejac... (read in full...)
Do women enjoy a bigger "load"?
Q. Do women enjoy seeing a bigger semen load from their man? Is it pleasing to you? Especially when he is inside you, do you think it feels good? thanks...
A. 13 January 2010: We should check the logic of a thing and of a being. Most orthodox female mind do not bother even to check the male's sex organ, from the stand point of its aliveness.
Male's sex organ with less semen has less aliveness, and full semen has more... (read in full...)
If virginity is so important, why is it that you are supposed to get over someone's past?
Q. Dear cupid, Why should I not expect a virgin as I save my virginity for the right person ? and Why should I get over her past when the girl is not a virgin ? I see there's double-standard on this, People say it's good to keep virginity beca...
A. 13 January 2010: It is this question on virginity, I was seeking someone who put on record. And, now here it is,... and I am taking chance to say something fundamental on this issue.
I am taking this statement to answer,'"Is the virginity important or not as peopl... (read in full...)
Handjobs and blowjobs?
Q. Ok, I'm almost 17 and i've never given a handjob or blowjob! Although my boyfriend has now suggested it, we've been going out for months now and I'm happy to do it. But I don't know where to start! I don't know what to do, I'm not thock lol, I just ...
A. 12 January 2010: Knowledge nowadays is very easy. well, all activity: hand/blow job, kissing, hugging, touching, rubbing, fall under single category: foreplay.
Use this word as search terms for Google search engine, You will be knowable within a hour of reading.... (read in full...)
We tried to make a go of it, but he hits me when I want answers about his affair
Q. I need some advice so please take the time and read my post. I have been with my h/b for 29yrs married for 21yrs,two years ago i found out he was having an affair with a 28 year old co worker i belive he was thinking of leaving me to be with her she ...
A. 12 January 2010: He is after 'excitement'. It is a type of 'dreaming'. You can live with such person after leaving your all expectation. It can be life of a ascetic. I cannot suggest any concrete suggestion, because he is doing rubbish thing in his mature age, and ... (read in full...)
What does a orgasm feel like?
Q. Hi this is a question for girls only cuz i don't think guys can answer this question. Anyways i'm 13 and i have a boyfriend who's 15. And yesterday he was finger banging me but it wasn't the first time. But yesterday was different he got me ...
A. 12 January 2010: It is your right age you should have right concept about 'orgasm'
First you know the meaning of word, and then check with your "experienced meaning."
See, the first word is 'sex'. meaning of sex is 'pleasure' Then orgasm is second word, it ... (read in full...)
He loves me but hes not going to leave the other girl
Q. I found out that my man is seeing someone. When i asked he said he love me although he is not going to live his gal friend. What should i do....
A. 12 January 2010: Let your own mind to speak. Let your own ear to hear. How? Don't worry ! I am showing you the way.
Well. First thing, you think him as your men? then first trust your own word, and say him "you are my men."
Now say with real confidence,'plea... (read in full...)
Why are Teenage Girls so Self Conscious?
Q. I use to be so care free, happy and have virtually nothing on my mind. High school has bought me nothing but depression. I constantly worry about how I look, I get so Parinoid it makes me want to cry, when I think I have to go to school I usually ...
A. 12 January 2010: No, you teen age girls or boys are not self conscious but you are conscious about your 'self', wanted to know the true nature of 'self'. It will take time. It is step by step realization. Till that time be watch full. Read more, think more, and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says my vagina is loose and that he does not feel a thing... what can I do? How do I fix it?
Q. I have not cheated why does my vagina feel loose... my boyfriend thinks that I've cheated... before he even mentioned it, I have been noticing a diffrence with our sex life... when we have sex my vagina has no tightness to it.. I try and ...
A. 12 January 2010: please re- read these your own statements.
[1] "he feels nothing when he's inside me... I feel ashamed and embarrased can someone please tell me what's wrong with me and how can I fix this"
[2]"all he wants from me are blow jobs & anal... w... (read in full...)
I try to maintain the "I'm fine as I am" stance, but most guys seem to go for the trophy girl sort
Q. I have always thought that it was best to be myself- people always say "just be yourself" but then you have the Hollywood idea where looks are everything. Perfect hair, tight clothes, no brains. (Apparently it isn't "cool" to be smart or ...
A. 12 January 2010: This will inspire right choice. Read.
Mind is more important than matter. Matter has to follow mind. So be serious about creating very very healthy, rational, and intellectual mind. How? by knowing and learning right method of thought. It is a lon... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm missing out!
Q. Here goes, im 36 years old, have a daughter who is ten and me and her dad split up when she was six monthes. It took a long time to get over him, stopped crying every night for four years and since then i have dated every once in a while, slept with ...
A. 12 January 2010: Let me tell you," LIFE IS NOT CHANCE BUT CHOICE'
Your saying is,'i have not had sex in about four years "
True, you missed most essential experience of life,but it is never too late. You can begin with your wake up.
Make firm determinati... (read in full...)
Really attracted to him but don't want to take it far unless we are in relationship
Q. Im 19 years old and Im scared to have sex....this guy I use to work, we had really good chemistry but things wasnt so good for me then so I quit my job and we lost contact....Recently Ive gotten back in touch with him and I would really would like ...
A. 12 January 2010: Here is moral statement for your guidance.
Sex in-it-self is pleasurable. So, it cannot be used to gain anything, even relationship also. You can win good relationship through attractive personality- highly intellectual, spiritual, and with ve... (read in full...)
I married him not realizing what a deal breaker his kids would be!
Q. I have recently got married for the second time. I have known my husband for 14 years and we were always really great friends. He has 3 children by different women and sees them all regularly. One is now grown up but the other two are 8 and 14. He ...
A. 12 January 2010: yes...the point. I like your presentation. After all you love his personality, but trouble for other point. If he feel disappointment, but you can recoup him by showing more tender love and language. Nicely done!!!... (read in full...)
Her words have become meaningless
Q. I'm a 31 yo guy who is getting married to a beautiful 28 year old girl who i love very very much. However i have some issues, and i know they are my issues but i need to know how to get over them. Firstly, the small town where i grew up is the s...
A. 11 January 2010: Actually you both share the same wave length of emotion, but emotionally you both were confused. Your vision about sex is not healthy, but sick.
You should think in logical manner. You both love sex. So, you both have had partner for particip... (read in full...)
I married him not realizing what a deal breaker his kids would be!
Q. I have recently got married for the second time. I have known my husband for 14 years and we were always really great friends. He has 3 children by different women and sees them all regularly. One is now grown up but the other two are 8 and 14. He ...
A. 11 January 2010: your is very complicated problem. It is not sexual problem, or problem related to anything, we call human nature. But, it is a social or more cultural problem.
Your presentation sound very intelligent, and make me to think, you are very cultured... (read in full...)
She says after 2 kids I'm still too big and hurt her
Q. ok me and my gf have been togther for 4 years and our sex life is pretty much nonexsitent because she says my penis is to big and it hurts her everytime we have sex. Now im only 21 and shes 20 shouldnt she have some sort of tollerance after all ...
A. 11 January 2010: What you say? "She has had two of my kids but stil cant take a ten inch penis i dont get it. "...yes, it can fearful. Nature has not favor you by giving too much long sex organ, is first thing, you should consider first.
But, as we all belong t... (read in full...)
Brother and sister playing footsie..too close?
Q. I had a concern and maybe it is not. We were watching a movie yesterday and my fiance was sitting with his sister on the coach. It just was alittle wierd for me they were all bunched up together and were playing footsies but it looked weird and I ...
A. 11 January 2010: Yes, your reaction is too much. You can correct your mood. Anyway nothing is serious, so take it lightly, and better you forget.... (read in full...)
I want to leave my husband but have nowhere to go. I'm falling deeper into depression and is gaining more and more weight, how can I deal with this all?
Q. My husband and I have been together for almost 14 years now (married for almost 13) and have 3 beautiful children (ages 12, 4 and 2). My problem is that I'm not sure that I'm in love with him anymore. When we were dating and when we lived together ...
A. 11 January 2010: Most of the circumstances you describes, delivery problem, children problem, losing job, etc are accidental and hence bad luck. You mother is right in saying, god will help you. It look orthodox way of saying, but it is true...without any fault you ... (read in full...)
Do other couples who've been together for awhile find it hard to stay sexually excited about each other?
Q. Concerned about a lagging sexual desire. Been with b/f 5 years, he's funny, interesting and incredibly sexy to me but lately neither of us have been in the mood for sex. He's on blood pressure pills, so I understand where his problem is coming from; ...
A. 11 January 2010: Well...very interesting question from female above 40 or near 50.
I take this statement of yours for worthy to answer..."We love each other and are affectionate and cuddly, but I don't want to lose sight of our sexual energy. Don't know what to ... (read in full...)
Scared of Anal sex?
Q. I'm 19. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year, and I've built up this barrier in our sex life. I'm afraid to have anal sex, so much so that I've made him believe I can't have it or I'll freak out. I know he had anal sex in his previous ...
A. 11 January 2010: There is no point in feeling bad, if you do not wish or cannot give anal sex to your partner. The truth about anus is that it is not sex organ. Everything about the so called G-spot in male is not true. It is subjective assertion, So far male sex is ... (read in full...)
Do I throw away 4 and half years of hard work for this friend?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 n half years now n everything was good to begin with. We have been through a lot as well and still stuck ny each other. Now, it feels like I'm.just a cook,cleaner and dog walker. I do everything in the house an...
A. 11 January 2010: Your is a story of a young. But, it is not exclusively you, who suffer such evasion. Indifferent. Dullness. Your statement can be the statement of any any married couple, around the world. Please read your own statement, ...'.
."When we are in t... (read in full...)
My wife is very dry when we have sex...why is this?
Q. Dear sir/Madam when I had sexual intercourse with my wife the vagina of my wife it is become very Dry I can not move my penis in side the vagina so what you suggest me for my wife she has to go to doctor to check this thing please let me know ...
A. 11 January 2010: 'Aussie girl's answer is perfect. I am adding some definition and some scientific fact about 'foreplay'
Foreplay exclude one thing: Pumping like movement to male sex organ which resulted in ejaculation.
Male organ can be deal with above ... (read in full...)
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