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| Latest articles: An Introduction to TANTRA. .As, power of light.
No replies yet... 3 February 2010: Article No 2...MEANING OF OBJECT. ... The object, so conceptualized by the word ‘tantra’ is sex organ in a state of erection. So, the object underlines the ideology of ‘eroticism. Here eroticism is principle, or philosophy, and not sexology...
An Introduction to TANTRA.
No replies yet... 26 January 2010: Tantra is a word belong to ancient Indian Sanskrit language. This word has been used by scholars in many ways, such as [1] It is used as a religious way with the ideas of god and goddess or deva and devis, temples, prayers, meditations, chanting ...
Think sex and Get pleasure..
No replies yet... 10 December 2009: What I am suppose to think? and What I am suppose to do? - in the realm of sex. This one is really hardest problem of life. Let me be the guide for those who want to think for themselves and want to be the original actor, and not a cheap imitator...
Sex existed before religion, and is the reason for relationships
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29 November 2009: Relationship is problem, perhaps most fatal problem. All destructive event like murder to suicide occur from bad terms of relations. It is also true that men cannot live without relating with something or with someone. So, it is quite necessary to ...
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I get very worked up watching lesbian porn, does that mean I am a lesbian?
Q. Hello, I am quite young. Like in my early teens. And I just Started Watching Porn. I watched a man and women having sex and it didnt work me up. But I watched Lesbian Porn and I got Very excited with it. It made me wet and very horny. So now i wa...
A. 18 December 2009: See, teen age [of boy and girl also] is very active sexually, but immature intellectually and even bodily also. And, porn films are totally foolish, on all level. Aesthetically it is worst than any any possible evil or dirt. I have seen few, and ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's habit of taking care of "business' himself is creating problems in our sex life
Q. Good morning, I am having difficulties in my relationship with my boyfriend that I live with. One problem that seems to be getting bigger is our sex life. Lately, he has been masturbating before work in the shower and I know this is going on. ...
A. 18 December 2009: I would like to add some new dimension on meaning of sexual activity: Masturbation is totally private activity of an individual [be it male or female], It is non-vaginal form of penetration, and one is totally feel free about how much soft touch to ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's habit of taking care of "business' himself is creating problems in our sex life
Q. Good morning, I am having difficulties in my relationship with my boyfriend that I live with. One problem that seems to be getting bigger is our sex life. Lately, he has been masturbating before work in the shower and I know this is going on. ...
A. 17 December 2009: Your desire is more creative. You have no objection with masturbation but want to share. You want your relationship a good sharing and caring, is highest thing in life. What you need is 'communication' only. It will work, take his erection as ... (read in full...)
What's similar and different between anal and vaginal intercourse. What does giving a blow job feel like?
Q. Can anyone tell me what's similar and different between vaginal and anal sex? And what does giving a BJ fee llike? [Mod note: I think the age range given by the poster is likely to be inaccurate.]...
A. 17 December 2009: By definition, anus is not sex organ like vagina and penis. Vagina and anus in female is separated by very thin skin, but anus has no status of 'sex-organ'. The defining character of sex organ is 'pleasure'. Penis and vagina hold the status as sex ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend makes me so anxious its affecting my body
Q. I am 27 and my boyfriend is 31. I am very happy sexually, my boyfriend is not. He says he is then he says he isn't. We've been going through a rough patch (and I mean he's been very verbally abusive) and my mind and body have been thrown very...
A. 17 December 2009: 'so I said "well it's not sexy,' The above is your own statement, about anal sex. And, I take your statement as 'universal judgment'. Most certainly, anal is not 'sex-organ', so it cannot be sexy. And, if it is not sexy then why one should try o... (read in full...)
I want my girlfriend to try new things to spice things up!
Q. My wife doesn't like: anal sex (tried once too painful), deep throating, facials or cum swallowing (the last three only on rare occasions, very rare. I don't need her to compromise and do them all, all the time, but wouldn't it be fair for her ...
A. 17 December 2009: Actually anal is not for any one ! No matter how many do it and claim that they enjoy, but most certainly there is nothing in it like pleasing. Anal is not sex organ. It is ok. it feel good while touching, because it came near sex zone, but in ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy to be consumed by the idea of having a threesome with my husband and another man?
Q. My husband and I have been happily married for 20 yrs. Recently I have had fantasies about having a threesome with him and one of his friends. I mentioned this to him and he loved the idea and asked which friend? It doesn't matter to me as long as ...
A. 16 December 2009: I read your question with great care, and check answers so far given. No one has touched the core of your question...You asked the root or cause of this ideas... of threesome?
As you also have see the cause...to have wild experience, but your vis... (read in full...)
I get a sinking feeling when I realise it will never happen again
Q. My husband is circumsized, and lately I've found myself CRAVING sex with an uncircumcised man. I've been with both cut and uncut men before, and hands-down I've found sex with uncut men to be more pleasurable. My husband knows that I've been with ...
A. 16 December 2009: Here you have mistaken concept about 'sex-pleasure'
What is the root of pleasure, sex organ and its size or type? does it a determining factor? If anybody think so, then it is a gross mistake, and missing most important aspect of pleasure... (read in full...)
I love my husband but I TOTALLY love my best friend!
Q. I've been married for 11yrs.I love my husband,but I'm totally in love with my best friend. we've been together since 2nd grade.We r just made for each other. We see each other offten and talk everyday.I just don't know how 2 be without him.Do anyone ...
A. 16 December 2009: emotion and feeling are not stable, it is not even trust worthy. It is good to save 'husband-wife' relationship. You can share friendship or even sexual relationship without much feeling. Sex is first with which mind is usually related, but when we ... (read in full...)
Are all guys this selfish in bed?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about eleven months now, and I really can't help but notice he can really be a selfish guy when he feels like it. Namely, I'm talking about our sex life. When we met I was a virgin. Before we started having ...
A. 16 December 2009: What you need is true vision abut sex...moral and intellectual also. see it is here...
1.First thing is about selfishness. Sexual activity is most selfish activity amongst others. Sex cannot perform in a form of charity. It is always selfish.... (read in full...)
I am taking too long to finish and it's making my partner sad
Q. Hi every one.. i am a healthy man and i love sex my problem is the time i need to ejaculate.. i have always been slow and it took me from 20-40 min of intercourse to ejaculte .. but since 4 months, the time has encreased to 50-90 min wic...
A. 16 December 2009: If you correct your vision about sex, then all the best follow you automatically, as a gift!!! Now, read carefully 1.Sex-organ { of male and of female also] has only one character or attribute, TO PLEASE ONE'S MIND. Pleasure is the only thing l... (read in full...)
Should I agree to being a swinger, to stop him from cheating?
Q. I've been married for 13 years. We have a pretty honest relationship and we have sex about once a week. I know my husband looks at porn and has for years. It doesn't bother me. However there are times when he has problems keeping an erection ...
A. 16 December 2009: Your question deserve longest possible answer, because you display some positive attitude with your husband's desire. Here is my answer. 1.First thing must come first, following by second and third.The first thing is about sexual activity, second... (read in full...)
How to stop being nervous about sex and such!
Q. im fine with foreplay with my girlfriend and fingering her and stuff but when it comes to her giving me handjobs and blowjobs and sex im just nervous and it is ruining my erections. how do i stop being nervous cuz im nervous that im not big at all ...
A. 16 December 2009: In answer to this question, I have to suggest that some right pattern of thought is needed. it can be this: Sex is principle matter, other wise there would have no such a thing as 'relationship' And, sex-organ is nothing more and nothing less than a ... (read in full...)
Your average sized guy...
Q. How are us average sized guys meant to reconcile the fact that the average sized girl can take more than 50% volume of dick that we have? Our goal is to give maximum sexual pleasure, and in almost all cases, bigger is better (up to a point) (don...
A. 15 December 2009: Most important principle is always missed before minor details. Just as man's intelligence do not depend upon the height or weight of the body, even though it is gifted by nature. Such is the pattern in sexual life also, Size of sex organ is ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend won't have sex with me! Self-conscious? Something else?
Q. My boyfriend and I are usually very sexual but lately it seems like he doesn't want to have sex with me, we only get to see eachother once or twice a month because of college but it seems like every other time he either wants to have sex with me ...
A. 15 December 2009: The problem is not so serious, as it is presented. It is generally experienced in married routine life. When sex became routine 'vaginal penetration' only, it loss its all magic, is fact. The magic of sex is experienced 'sub-consciously... (read in full...)
My OBGYN tells me to dump abusive boyfriend, should I?
Q. Help! My boyfriend says that my vagina does not feel teh same as it did when we began having sex 9 months ago. He refers to it as being loose and accuses me of cheating on him. I have tried kegels (excessively and obsessively) and have been ...
A. 15 December 2009: I have second thought on the question. Your boy friend may not sound as ill as describe by many,[includes me], but sure he is very poor observer, very poor sensually, unable to think logically. What is needed in sex is not automatically clear to ... (read in full...)
What does sperm taste like?
Q. I'm thinking of giving a blowjob to my boyfriend and since it'l be my first time then ofcourse I'm abit fridged about it. I've read nearly all the answers on tecniques but I'd like to know: What does sperm taste of and whats it feel like? Li...
A. 15 December 2009: Being young, your knowledge of sex is as good as nothing. you should begin with by reading good writer. Of course, there are many of your age, and still many of mature age has not properly formed concept of sex. Well your question about sperm, and ... (read in full...)
He cant cum when I give him a blowjob because of the big "mental' component to it! What am I doing wrong?
Q. Hi Guys, I've been going out with a friend of mine for about a month now, and although we're both VERY different we get along great. However, the other night I decided to give him a blowjob, which he thoroughly appreciated (OK, who wouldn't), but a...
A. 15 December 2009: See, it is nature. ejaculation is not end of sexual activity. Nobody have sex for procreative purpose. It is for pleasure. Specifically for very subtle form of pleasure, 'spiritual pleasure' Spiritual element will not come in to vision at once, but ... (read in full...)
Getting a blow job?
Q. Hey guys what does it feel like to get a Blow Job? -Thanks...
A. 15 December 2009: The experience of 'blow-job' is experience of power, one have never before think or imagine.... (read in full...)
Angry about the double standards of sex
Q. Ok, I don't want to be polemic here, but I'm really shocked and angry with the double standard. You see, my boyfriend suffers with retroactive jealousy, even though I wasn't a slut (I was a virgin when we met, granted, I was just 17 so it was normal ...
A. 15 December 2009: let me write some final and real thing...
As a mankind, we are not perfect is true but we are on the way of perfection.
Our emotion and feeling are not fundamental primary.It is changeable with growth of knowledge and maturity. Yet, the vision ... (read in full...)
Why am I getting weird same sex dreams and hard sex drive?
Q. Hi All, Thank you for taking time to read my question :) I am 22 male and currently facing a big trouble regarding sexuality. Before I let you know my main concern, I'd like to brief you about myself. I am stuyding and also working, earning ve...
A. 14 December 2009: In my honest opinion, you are perfectly normal in your thought and deed. Your love for male's organ is also normal, means it is enjoyed by all most all male, but all do not go for same sex relations. is it right?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't achieve orgasm through penetration
Q. From the 1st time my partner met we hit it off and from the 1st time we had sex we just knew we were made for each other but the 1st few times I spotted that he can't come from penetration and I'd have to wank him off or give him a blow job for him ...
A. 14 December 2009: You both are lucky, a good and ideal couple. Anyway, you should enjoy '69' position. It is mutual oral sex play,both are working with each others sex-organ. It is the highest form of excitement, quite enjoyable. You can do it for hrs to hrs...and ... (read in full...)
What happens during an orgasm?
Q. [Moderator note: Age posted in incorrect.] my sister asked me what happens when you have an orgasm. and i have no idea because i havent. *sarah said that her boyfriend *chris have done alot of foreplay. he asked her if she was getting ready to...
A. 14 December 2009: This, orgasm is totally 'subjective'. It cannot be measure. Emotional expression vary from person to person, but 'expression' is not measurement. But, I can say some character of good and satisfactory sexual activity, which is observable and ... (read in full...)
Should we take this dating relationship to the next level?
Q. I`m in a relationship about two months and I`m really happy with my boyfriend. He is the first guy I ever let him to touch me or something like that. It`s not that I didn`t have anyone before him, but I think he is much special then my other dates. ...
A. 14 December 2009: Please note...h/b-job is real magic thing in sexual activity. It will certainly bring 'divinity' within you. But, to recognize this divine aspect, required intellectual maturity,as this divinity is very 'subtle' Please do not think it as second ... (read in full...)
Does cheating empower women?
Q. Is infidelity in the male/female relationship immoral or empowering for the women? Religion can be a factor in the answer if needed....
A. 14 December 2009: Infidelity in sex relations is held as immoral, even punishable crime, to some extent is religious vision. In most advanced and western culture the thing became soft. Religion hold sex is inherently evil, but it can be moral only in marriage ... (read in full...)
I want to experiment more buy my g/f says its too weird
Q. Ok, i have been wanting to ask fro some advice. My girlfriend of about 10 months barely gave me my and her first hand job about a week ago, and it was also the first time i rubbed/fingered a girl and it was her first time too. She ended up liking ...
A. 14 December 2009: You both are too young to recognize the magic of oral and hand job. It is extremely divine and pleasing, but at the same time it demand some maturity. You both have to wait for but it is good that you both has started communication.... (read in full...)
Your average sized guy...
Q. How are us average sized guys meant to reconcile the fact that the average sized girl can take more than 50% volume of dick that we have? Our goal is to give maximum sexual pleasure, and in almost all cases, bigger is better (up to a point) (don...
A. 13 December 2009: Sex discussion around certain points like 1. Dick size, 2. G-spot stimulation, 3. Clitoral massage..is in a sense more materialistic, or in scientific terms more advanced which can be the proper subject of doctors and not of lovers.
2. sex talk... (read in full...)
Why are some guys only interested in sex, I am losing faith in love
Q. why do some guys.. make you think HE REALLY LIKES YOU..but he just wants sex... when you DO GIVE in he never calls you again.. and if u DON'T GIVE in he doesn't call and changes his number?? why are all they looking for one night stands?? ...
A. 12 December 2009: You are absolutely 'right' in your observation. You are right, that most of 'male' are such...care for their 'size of dick' and ' taker of one night stand only'. I am studying this question, and also met some same sex lover of male category,[gay] ... (read in full...)
I've lost all trust in him. What do I do?
Q. I am 26 and have just married the love of my life in May. It has not been a happy marraige. I've lost all trust in him. Just before we got married, I took a loan to buy a car, a month later I find out, that he took the money from my account....
A. 12 December 2009: I think you possess quite a religious nature, who expect and desires less, and live for other with sacrificial attitude. You should learn that, love is highest values you see in the person of others. If there is nothing to values then it is ... (read in full...)
After I orgasm, my sex drive goes down!
Q. Whenever I have sex I want my orgasams to last long any ideas? Also after having sex I don't want to continue anymore but I want too! My sex drive goes way down! Help!...
A. 12 December 2009: 'orgasms' is defined as 'height' of pleasure, of course this is a subjective feeling, which has no objective method for measurement. Sex organ is root of pleasure, certainly only one root. Yes, male ejaculation is associated with climax or ... (read in full...)
Sex advice needed please!
Q. Well im 15:) I have a bf of barely 2 weeks he is 15 too we have known each other for a long time.. We have liked each other since we met. We went out once it didn't work out but we still like each other we have had foreplay like fingering sucking ...
A. 12 December 2009: ...First, let me say you congratulation ! because, you know what you want. You want advice on sex. So far physical age is concern, you are categorized as 'immature', but so far intellectual wave length is concerned, you possess 'wisdom', desire to ... (read in full...)
He left his wife for me, but now he treats me badly
Q. Hello, I have been on here several times and I wanted to update my stories. I was seeing a married man for six years. His wife finally left him, and we moved in together. I thought things was really going to be okay, and that I was finally goin...
A. 11 December 2009: Your is very shocking experience, really. there is no fault of yours, that you choose married men. It is ok. Every men has right to correct his mistaken choice. But, your men do not mean it for right relations. He want sex without relations. For ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend watches porn and masturbates, why am I not enough for him?
Q. Since my last writing, I was a bad girl and figured out how to hack onto my boyfriends computer. Looking at the history on his computer it said he was looking at gay porn,BIG women porn, and old woman porn. He said that that is just what comes up ...
A. 10 December 2009: I am male, and I wish to say something not as a representative of 'male' but as a thinker.
To-day, I do not see porn picture, because I know the reason what is 'unattractive' in it. But, once I had seen, not as a admirer but as a curious person w... (read in full...)
I want to seduce my 16 yo son's friend
Q. I am a 45 year old with 2 kids a 16 year old boy and a 12 year old girl. My son has a friend who is always at our house. He's very cute. Whenever my son isn't around we flirt with each other. Yesterday I bent down to put a pan in the cabinet and my ...
A. 9 December 2009: I would like to make my earlier answer most clear.
1.I am not saying anything in the context of law and social/religious morality, about having sex with teen age by elders.
2. The question is about how far such sexual act give pleasure? And, m... (read in full...)
Boredom? Midlife crisis or just plain immature?
Q. Hello, I have been in this relationship for almost 6 year. We live together and get along perfectly fine. Until last week when he announced he wants to break up because he feels "tied down". He says he stills loves me but he misses the "...
A. 8 December 2009: 'What one supposed to think and what one suppose to do?' when sexual activity loss its spark? I am presenting here some raw materials for you, which will help you to think, because you are the right person, to think for your life. Other can ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is put off by my orgasm
Q. Some time ago my girlfriend (of a couple years) and I were making out on the couch. For the first time she put her hands down my pants and started giving me a hand job. I must say that it felt really good. In fact, perhaps too good because I ...
A. 7 December 2009: Your love making is great, or it is as it should be. An ideal.I have few suggestion to make your love making still greater, with the hope that by following my tips you will achieve 'greatest!' 1. If you both like hand job...I am not saying that ... (read in full...)
Oral sex--tips to do, not to do
Q. hey guys and gals, oral..... girls hints and tips on what you love when a guy goes down on you........ guys hints and tips on what your partner loves you to do. my wifes clit is so touchy that i can only give her oral for a couple of minutes befo...
A. 7 December 2009: on primarily level sex is sensual. Mainly it is related to sense of touch. Other senses have its contribution but touch is principle. Touch expand its act from rubbing to penetration...but notable point is this, that these sensuality is only tools, ... (read in full...)
I really dislike porn! How can I get over this?
Q. I know this may sound really bad etc But I really dislike porn. I don't know why etc but I just do. Thing is, i've asked my boyfriend not to watch it, because it upsets me and I get jealous. In case he finds the girls in it more attractive than me,...
A. 7 December 2009: Yes, certainly pornography is evil in human culture, because it misguide human mind in sexual matter. The same way, system of prostitution is also evil. Both these system deal with human sexuality but their goal is not to appreciate human sexuality ... (read in full...)
I know guys do, but do girls cum too?
Q. Why and how do girls cum? I know us guys can but gals?...
A. 7 December 2009: I have second thought on this question: Do women cum? woman do not ejaculate the way male do. This one is fact, and not opinion. There is no such thing as ejaculation and switch off in female, as is in male. Women is quite able to enjoy s... (read in full...)
Why do things always turn sour once you are married?
Q. why is it always like this? when a women and a man is on the relationship, no matter how long the relationship goes even its 5 or 10 years long or more they are most of the time always in good term. the sweetness, the cares, the dream, the love, ...
A. 6 December 2009: Because, Relationship is easy to deal. Most people are good in managing relationship, but marriage is something more than simple relationship. It is not just for company, fun, sex,...it has not a single purpose to deal or single goal to achieve. It ... (read in full...)
I have a very silly question .......
Q. This is probably a really silly question, but I guess if I'm going to ask anyone a stupid sex related question I would really rather ask the people on this site than anyone else! Guys, girls, how exactly can you tell if a girl is loose? It's not...
A. 6 December 2009: The question of loose vagina, implies question of sex pleasure, mind expect to experience in form of sexual tension.
When sex became more penetrative, also means it became almost mechanical. More penetration do not means more pleasure. Because, plea... (read in full...)
I want to seduce my 16 yo son's friend
Q. I am a 45 year old with 2 kids a 16 year old boy and a 12 year old girl. My son has a friend who is always at our house. He's very cute. Whenever my son isn't around we flirt with each other. Yesterday I bent down to put a pan in the cabinet and my ...
A. 6 December 2009: apart from law and social morality, your question deserve some thought. I remember, in my teen I have the same feeling of sex for elders at that time around me, I felt sexual attraction for them who lead my mother's age....even without knowledg... (read in full...)
My OBGYN tells me to dump abusive boyfriend, should I?
Q. Help! My boyfriend says that my vagina does not feel teh same as it did when we began having sex 9 months ago. He refers to it as being loose and accuses me of cheating on him. I have tried kegels (excessively and obsessively) and have been ...
A. 3 December 2009: I have my personal observation about such mentality, is all negative; they do not want and respect sex and even love...be careful for such mentality who ever may possess. Such mentality is killing personality, will never give life or pleasure of ... (read in full...)
I know guys do, but do girls cum too?
Q. Why and how do girls cum? I know us guys can but gals?...
A. 28 November 2009: sex is expressed through 'sex-organ'...it is termed in India as 'linga'...in English it is termed as dick, cock, etc..ling is form [ matter ] that expressed human desire of and for pleasure... Pleasure is the only one attribute of this sex ... (read in full...)
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