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I am a person of Philosophy: A science of non-contradictory vision. I wish to guide problem related to life, relationships, and sex, through this knowledge of philosophy and in addition, through the knowledge of Tantra Vision. Our modern Individualistic mode of life required such guidance. I will write series of articles on tantra, which anyone can read if feel guiding, and in addition, I will reply to the questioners with quoting relevant materials from articles.

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An Introduction to TANTRA. .As, power of light.

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3 February 2010: Article No 2...MEANING OF OBJECT. ... The object, so conceptualized by the word ‘tantra’ is sex organ in a state of erection. So, the object underlines the ideology of ‘eroticism. Here eroticism is principle, or philosophy, and not sexology...

An Introduction to TANTRA.

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26 January 2010: Tantra is a word belong to ancient Indian Sanskrit language. This word has been used by scholars in many ways, such as [1] It is used as a religious way with the ideas of god and goddess or deva and devis, temples, prayers, meditations, chanting ...

Think sex and Get pleasure..

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10 December 2009: What I am suppose to think? and What I am suppose to do? - in the realm of sex. This one is really hardest problem of life. Let me be the guide for those who want to think for themselves and want to be the original actor, and not a cheap imitator...

Sex existed before religion, and is the reason for relationships

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29 November 2009: Relationship is problem, perhaps most fatal problem. All destructive event like murder to suicide occur from bad terms of relations. It is also true that men cannot live without relating with something or with someone. So, it is quite necessary to ...

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After 10 years should I contact him and try to get closure?

Q.   Bare with me this a long one. I met this man (DB) when I was 15, I am now 29. He was my teacher my sophomore year in high school. There was a ton of chemistry between us but we never acted on it besides lots of flirting, occasional hugs, and ...

A.   31 December 2009: This is your knowing, is in your own words; 'I know he is a cheater, a coward, and a jerk, but I loved him since I was 15." Why? because you think it was good chemistry. Here reasoning is extremely poor. You do not seems to think about him in terms ... (read in full...)

I recently found out that my boyfriend is married with kids...and dating other women!

Q.   well i have a big prob i don't know what to do. I have been dating this guy for nearly year and a half now, About 8 months in the relationship i found out he is married and had kids. I was so upset. I asked him about it which he denies at first an...

A.   31 December 2009: He want nice and romantic occasion with any one, and not relationship you hope. If you can share such occasion of meeting and talking even then you will face lot of emotional hurt, clearly you are suffering. Make it a habit, let your feeling ... (read in full...)

B/f says he doesn't know why he does the things he does?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years and I love him a lot, but some things he do. leave me thinking is he the one for me. I know that he watch porn when im in school, cuz I go to school out of state. I don't have no problem with him watching ...

A.   30 December 2009: Here is some suggestion. 1. First you share porn film with him. First you yourself learn what particularly you feel, seeing porn with your personally chosen friend.? Work out some reason for liking and disliking also. And, then discuss with him... (read in full...)

Finger fun

Q.   want to make my girlfriend cum from touching/fingering her. is there any goog technigues positions to get her in. i can make her cum from oral but it would be nice to do it with fingers. I know it can happen because she told me she cums while ...

A.   30 December 2009: "Finger cum" In sexual play, what one understand by 'foreplay' is it is sensual play, Oral and Fingering is in essence belong to sense of touch, rather than 'intercourse'. The penetration through male sex organ and through finger has differen... (read in full...)

I'm a virgin at the age of 23...

Q.   Dear Cupid, I will be 23 in february and i am still a virgin. My best friend and the family members who know say its such a good thing and hold me up on some sort of pedestal. I know they are saying this because its the right thing to say and life...

A.   29 December 2009: Here is something about 'virginity' We cut our nail. It is normal. Why we cut nail? simply because it do hurt us and other also. Is cutting nail and even hair is a big matter? Not at all. Why? it is convenience. The pattern is same with 'virgini... (read in full...)

I'm worried my lack of knowledge in the bedroom will end the relationship!!!

Q.   help! ok iv been going out with this guy for a while and i really like him, we'v only ever kissed but i know things will soon be going further. he has slept with 2 other girls (both in long term relationships he isnt a get around) but i havent done ...

A.   29 December 2009: any advice on how to do those things? or any other advice in general!? please help me out, im so nervous and "i dont want it to effect our relationship!".... here is general advice.., Sex is heaven, beyond anybody's opinion. it has single nature t... (read in full...)

What do guys like in oral sex?

Q.   wat do guys really want in a blow job..therre are sites that tell you what to do but i really want to please him so i need to kno if im doin the right things frm a guys point of view.....

A.   28 December 2009: The language in which we think about sex is quite illusion, as it do not give us the real vision about sex and about sex experience. We think sex in terms of 'giving and receiving'. It is trader's language. The problem arise such as: How can I be... (read in full...)

How long goes it take?

Q.   What's the avarage time that it takes for a woman to reach orgasm?...

A.   28 December 2009: You feel confusion because you separate orgasm and pleasure, which are inseparably one. Orgasm is only height of pleasure one reach during foreplay or intercourse, but still it is pleasure. I have said that pleasure or orgasm, is the same thing, a... (read in full...)

How long goes it take?

Q.   What's the avarage time that it takes for a woman to reach orgasm?...

A.   27 December 2009: Very complicated question, when measurement involve. First, what do you mean by 'orgasm?' It is entirely subjective terms. It cannot be measure by any means. Orgasm is defined as height or climax of pleasure one experienced, and in foreplay any one ... (read in full...)

Porn - how is it fair to the mother of your children

Q.   So often I seem to see questions posted by women hurt by their partners use if porn. So many men seem to feel justified in using it even when in committed relationshis. The question I have is how it can possibly be fair to women? So often a couple ...

A.   27 December 2009: I am not in favor of porn for aesthetic reason, but sex is something to be shared by partners. Lack of sharing do harm. Male feel loneliness, and even female also have the same feeling in absence of sharing and caring. Anyway, sex is universa... (read in full...)

I said sure... but I don't know how?

Q.   I am 15 years old and I have been dateing my boyfriend for a few months now. That might not seem long but it is to me. He asked me lastnight if I would be willing to give him a handjob. I said sure because I like him so so much but I don't know how ...

A.   27 December 2009: I am not giving you details of hand job, which you seems to need. I am telling you about sex. Your dating meant for it. You know it. but your knowledge lay in your sub-conscious awareness, and waiting to be consciously grasp. Better you learn wi... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants sex. I am only 13 and I don't know what to do. Help please!!

Q.   me and my boyfriend have been dating for around 3 weeks and we have done all the basic oral. i am only 13 but he keeps talking about having sex with me and i dont know what do do help please!...

A.   27 December 2009: I am very old and mature person to advice a teen. I am not going to say that you are under age, and state law is such and such. Here is my clear advice. 1.First thing you make your determination: You love sex, means you love your lover also, bu... (read in full...)

First time horror sex story--help!

Q.   Hi all, Lets get right into it. So I've been playing around with a girl I'm dating for a few months. It comes down to us having sex and, a long story short, I couldn't maintain an erection (yes its all right to gasp, even smile a little. I did af...

A.   27 December 2009: Losing hardness of erection in certain degree and losing total hardness are thing, it just happened. It is normal for male and even for female. Male's erection is seemingly visible, where as female's erection not. The reason lay in psychology of the ... (read in full...)

I'm a gay man, married to a woman... am I doing the right thing, pretending to be straight?

Q.   I need help!! I am a gay guy age 29, trying to have a straight life and relationship. I love my wife more than anything. now i have two questions: 1: Am i doing the right thing by trying to be straight? 2: Are there ways I can spice up our...

A.   26 December 2009: seriously speaking, I cannot feel these terminology, as straight, gay, bisexual etc. etc. I feel these classification is unreal. Such classification is classification of 'relationships' without referring to any entity. To me relationship is not p... (read in full...)

My husband says he watches porn because I don't look the same after having kids. Should I leave?

Q.   I am thinking of leaving my husband, is this too extreme? When we met I made it very clear to him that I'm not intereted in being with someone who uses porn. I find it insulting and disrespectful. At the time he said this is fine as he is not inte...

A.   25 December 2009: I think, you should focus on your disliking about porn.Do you really oppose porn for right reason? I love sex, and dislike porn for certain reason. My reason for disliking porn is aesthetic, I feel sure, that pornographer are not showing sex as it ... (read in full...)

Fitting the mold...

Q.   I am so sick of women falling into the trap of thinking that they are just a piece of meat for men to goggle at. Women are required to wear highheels and make up and such or they are not considered attractive...if they are not skinny and slutty ...

A.   25 December 2009: The issue of 'feminism' against male is really un-philosophic issue. Feminism is popularized by anti-philosophers, the socialist, the politician, the theologists.. In reality, male and female are not two different race. Or even two differen... (read in full...)

Why we shouldn't cheat

Q.   Since Tiger Woods has now admitted to cheating it seems like everybody is doing it. So why not cheat? There are a lot of other respectable politicians and entertainment personalities who have done it and some even get caught doing it as well. So ...

A.   25 December 2009: It is said that 'everything is fair and good in love and war' War is a question of life and death, so cheating is for life, and is fair and good. But, sex is for life and not for death, so cheating in love or sex is thinkable. Sex give life... (read in full...)

Do you think my wife will cheat again?

Q.   My wife has been cheating on me for so many times and i still forgive her.I know its stupid of me but i don't want our family to be torn apart.shes a good liar and a really selfish bitch.One time,she said shes going to throw the trash and i was ...

A.   25 December 2009: I am advising you something different...First thing you need her for the sake of your children, and sure you do not respecting her for what she is...read what is different. Then calm down your emotion. Emotion is appreciation of some value. N... (read in full...)

How can I stop being clingy and possessive?

Q.   i have been with this girl since 2 years...she has always been very excited and caring to me since the beginning....we dated for 6 months and broke off and again dated and broke off for some reason ...even though we are(perhaps were) the bestest ...

A.   25 December 2009: What you describe in your question is your own 'emotion orientation' This is so with all most all person, but when it make us sick, then required us to identify its root and work to correct our own sickness. I have such emotional sickness before I ... (read in full...)

How do I improve our intimacy?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years and for most of the time we had a good sex life as well as intimacy. Ever since I was recovering from Breast Cancer our love making as well as any form of intimacy has become non existent...

A.   25 December 2009: Your boy friend lack good moral. You should note this first thing, and now search for further proof, if it support, then you should not feel weakness. As you have fight your toughest time with cancer and bring back life, so it is with relation also. ... (read in full...)

Are these synonyms?

Q.   is there a difference between cuming and an orgasm or are they the same thing? do they happen at the same time?...

A.   25 December 2009: The question could be re-composed as under: Do Ejaculation and orgasm the same thing? Certainly different thing, and most urgently one should learn its difference, because such learning meant much in achievement of best life. Ejaculation is ... (read in full...)

Can anyone make me feel better about this? I think porn has changed the way people perceive women.

Q.   Hi. I had a boyfriend a few years back and we'd both never done anything with anyone. when i trusted him, i took my clothes of for the first time in front of him and the first thing he said was "Urgh, youre not like the girls off porn" I was very ...

A.   24 December 2009: "Is there anything anyone can say to make me feel better about this? " About Porrn???[!!!], Really I was waiting for some one, and wanted to think that there is 'one', whose opposition against porn is rock-hard with solid reason. I have reason... (read in full...)

I'm dating a 50 year old man and my parents don't understand.

Q.   need your advice. my parents have recently found out that i'm going out with a 50 yr old (and have been for a year). i love him dearly and can't imagine life without him by my side. my parents are devastated, the last thing i want to do was hurt ...

A.   24 December 2009: Your parents are right and you are wrong. You are in love and not able to see future, I think, love should not be that blind. After all your life need 'life partner' matched with most of your life details, including age, and many many other fa... (read in full...)

During kissing/cuddling/etc I suddenly orgasm without stimulation! Is this normal?

Q.   Me and my fiance are both virgins, we are saving our selves tell we got married, but we do have kisses and cuddling....etc The problem is some of the times when we are kissing i suddenly orgasm !!!!! It been concerning me, should i seek for medical ...

A.   24 December 2009: He Boy, Some point I have to say you. 1. You are the only person in this site, who is right in love making. 2. Don't worry about ejaculation during your lovemaking.But, do not go for masturbation for ejaculation. 3, 'Virginity', keep it... (read in full...)

He's married but we love each other, what should I do?

Q.   Ive just recently started a new job. Me and the manager being very close he knows everything about me and my history of abuse and current abusive situation with my family. It was agreed during holidays i would come work for him to get some extra ...

A.   24 December 2009: Hi...SEX will not bless you with pleasure, but you will feel some other unknown excitement, mistake it to be 'sex pleasure', this story will end with 'tragedy'. I suggest you to correct mistake, there are many female and male who do the same mis... (read in full...)

I'm jealous of my boyfriend's anatomy!

Q.   So recently I realized that I'm constantly feeling envious of my boyfriend's sex organs. I don't know what to do, it is a constant obsession that actually interferes with my life. I'm incredibly satisfied in bed, always, and have an orgasm every ...

A.   23 December 2009: Well female will satisfy with my answer... Female is female only with procreative function and child birth...But, as far as 'sex pleasure' is concerned, male and female is ONE. Both possess 'sex organ', which has single one attribute:PLEASUR... (read in full...)

My partner has problems keeping it up once as soon as he enters....

Q.   my partner, gets a ecrection fine... its stays up fine.. but as soon as he places its in...it wont last even two mintues...he releases too quick. he has tried masturbating before make love.. till nothing seems to work. as soon as his inside me... he ...

A.   22 December 2009: It is not serious problem, or problem at all. Presently you do with 'foreplay' and do not rush for intercourse. ... (read in full...)

I found pictures of nude women on my b/f's computer!

Q.   I found a bunch of pictures of naked women on my boyfriend's cd and a small sex video. Is there something I should be worried about? I feel that he has a problem? Or also feeling that he's not getting enough sex in our relationship which leads me to ...

A.   21 December 2009: Most men see porn, is true. The issue is how sex is interpreted. If sex reach up to psychology and not up to vision, then certainly meaning of sex is in the wrong place. I think, female as a character is wise in their expectation, then male. Most ... (read in full...)

Vaginal muscles hurt during orgasm

Q.   I am a female and everytime I cum my muscles in my vagina tighen up and it hurts when he sticks his penis inside of me.it feels like my vagina is pushing him out. but he does not feel that my vagina is tightening up while he's is inside me.. do ...

A.   21 December 2009: Your question belong more to psychology and less to anatomy. The pain you sense is perhaps because you both have little or no foreplay. Real pleasure pleasure of sex lay in 'foreplay', where as 'vaginal penetration' is something you decide to finish ... (read in full...)

How does sex feel?

Q.   How does sex feel for a guy, when i decide to have it with my girlfriend, it will be my first time. Like what does it feel like in the inside and in your mind...

A.   21 December 2009: Hi Boy !!! Most interesting question about sex I have never read, heard and even thought. The beauty of question is your curiosity to know, how it feel like in side and in mind !!! ??? My answer run like this... How it like 'insdie ?... (read in full...)

My husband wants to watch me with another man

Q.   I have been married to my husband for 13 years and during this time he has hinted off and on that it would be a turn on for him to see me have sex with another man. I remember at first feeling repulsed by even the thought of being with someone else ...

A.   20 December 2009: "Your husband wants to watch you with another man" It is certainly the influence of porn film, that display such situation, which your husband want to actualized. Let me say, it is childish desire. Just, children want to do all thing he happen to ... (read in full...)

Orgasm only during foreplay not sex

Q.   hi, im not sure if this is too open for this but i will give it a shot anyways. So every time i have sex i can't seem to have an orgasm. I can only during foreplay. Is something wrong with me?...

A.   19 December 2009: In my 59 years long life I met one female who had said me truth about her disliking intercourse: I dislike that sticky materials eject in my vagina, it is bad job to wash that stickiness !!! Intercourse necessary for procreative purpose only, an... (read in full...)

Any ideas? How can I last longer in bed?

Q.   Hey guys and dolls, just discovered this site as I'm getting fed up with my sex life. I'm going out with this gorgeous blonde girl for 3 years now and when it comes to sex its over like that a few mins 5 at the very very most, even with foreplay or ...

A.   19 December 2009: I just like to suggest you, to check following points. 1. You see ejaculation as early, and do not feel good, and want it to as late as possible. As a remedy, many male prefer masturbation before one or two hrs of their intercourse. So,it is commo... (read in full...)

I'm a virgin getting married with questions! Like, why do people call sex "lovemaking"?

Q.   Hi, I just had a few questions about sex. I'm getting married in a couple weeks... and I kinda feel embarrassed admitting this but... I'm a virgin. :/ I would just like some tips and stuff.. I wouldn't dare ask my mom these questions because ...

A.   19 December 2009: " (have seen pornos) why do people call sex "lovemaking"..? It doesn't really look beautiful to me at all." Most important statement of questioner I have quoted above. This is the example of duality: a war against 'unity' of nature. In nature se... (read in full...)

How do I make foreplay more intense?

Q.   Ok so i think foreplay is very important to make things more exciting i enjoy foreplay very much.im very experienced but things get old after awhile.does anyone have any ideas i can learn from?id love to hear them!...

A.   19 December 2009: You feel foreplay satisfactory, and feel it as old after a while, so want some new tips? It is matter of creative imagination...create nice dialogue, dressing, good food, drinks, and more...maintained energy level, do not waste it by ejaculat... (read in full...)

Is complete hardness a very important factor?

Q.   Hello. Question for the ladies. I have a 7 3/4" penis with a 5 3/4" girth. My wife says it is by far the biggest she has been with. The question is: sometimes if we have sex too long or a lot of foreplay, it loses some of its erectness. It is st...

A.   19 December 2009: Problem related to hardness? Everything in sex is related to definition. People define sex according to time; how long penetration long? Or How much orgasm one feel in one sexual activity? But objective definition do not make point on minor de... (read in full...)

Can anyone help me, or give me any advice on changing the way I perceive sex?

Q.   I have always had a problem with sex, it was something I'd quite happily let guys do, but it was something I let happen to me (hoping there was a hug and the end), rather than something I felt part of. I got together with a guy 8 years ago. We'd bee...

A.   19 December 2009: You need true vision, is all you need. In your mind you have separated love and sex. Such separation is illusion. Love without sex means mind without body, in reality it is ghostly entity. There is no such thing as mind without body. A story wr... (read in full...)

I have a question for the guys???

Q.   Ok im trying to keep my virginity so is there anything that i could do sexually that guys like to do without having intercoarse?...

A.   19 December 2009: Your question has very simple answer:Foreplay. and is all,nothing save to add. But, what bother me is why virginity a sensitive issue? It is low cultured people who give moral value to virginity.Thy make sex a materialist against spiritua... (read in full...)

I have a question for the guys???

Q.   Ok im trying to keep my virginity so is there anything that i could do sexually that guys like to do without having intercoarse?...

A.   18 December 2009: Your question has very simple answer:Foreplay. and is all,nothing save to add. But, what bother me is why virginity a sensitive issue? It is low cultured people who give moral value to virginity.Thy make sex a materialist against spiritualistic v... (read in full...)

My girfriend cheated on me and I have feelings of hatred, but still love her!

Q.   my gf had oral sex with her friend in a cinema theatre and gave him a *******....she said it happened because she was too desperate and was out of her mind at that time...she feels terribly guilty now and regrets it and has cut all communication ...

A.   18 December 2009: Your question is confusing. You know about her sex affair with another, by listening her confession. So, I got the impression that she is honest with you in saying everything she did behind you. Even she describe her affair with great details, which ... (read in full...)

I get very worked up watching lesbian porn, does that mean I am a lesbian?

Q.   Hello, I am quite young. Like in my early teens. And I just Started Watching Porn. I watched a man and women having sex and it didnt work me up. But I watched Lesbian Porn and I got Very excited with it. It made me wet and very horny. So now i wa...

A.   18 December 2009: See, teen age [of boy and girl also] is very active sexually, but immature intellectually and even bodily also. And, porn films are totally foolish, on all level. Aesthetically it is worst than any any possible evil or dirt. I have seen few, and ... (read in full...)

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