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writes:hi i am having problems with my boyfriend. once before i found pornos and i broke em and threw em away.i take that very seriously and i find it disrespecful. i told him if i find them again me and him are done. i am pregnant with his child and it breaks my heart. do you think he still wants to be with me. he knew why i told him last time why would he do it. and he should understand its very uncomfortable for me to have sex because my belly is huge he doesnt need to get pornos.i am confused and undecided
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2007): Natural, what on earth is the above poster talking about????Does she really think degrading human beings is 'natural. she obviously doesnt know or doesnt care that most of the women in porn were victims of childhood sexual abuse or doesnt care about the latest research that has shown eb=ven mild exposue to porn makes a man find his partner less attractive...its not natural...if it were we would all be born with a porn mag in hand....how ridiculous...its as natural as a woman contuniing to date other men after shes married for extra romance...simply if a man still wants to look at other naked women he should not get married and if your with a man like that he's a player not a stayer
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (8 April 2007):
 A lot of women have a problem with their partners watching porn but I think it is a perfectly natural thing to do for a man or woman. Whether it's arousal, curiosity or just a laugh, we would all watch it if it came on and we weren't bothered who knew. You have a problem with it for whatever reason and you need to decide why. I can see why you think it's disrespectful. Are you insecure, about your body or performance? Could these be reasons you don't want him looking?
If it really hurts you that much that you would leave him, he needs to understand. I'm sure he will not stop using porn whatever you say, he'll just hide it or do it in private. At least it's only porn and not sex with other women!
I don't want to come across like I'm saying this is all your problem: if you have a problem with him watching it, he has to respect that and do something about it. But I feel you're being a bit hard on him: he's only human and guys will always love anything to do with sex!
Talk to him about this and don't let it turn into a row. Have a proper conversation about how it makes you feel and he can tell you: you both might learn somethings about yourselves too. Good luck.
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (8 April 2007):
 Hi
I understand that you don't like porn and that you find it disrespectful and that it hurts you because your partner watches it, this is very common in women but unfortunatley men do like porn this doesn't mean he doesn't love you, they learn new and many exciting things by watching these films...
Tell him that once you have had the baby you would like to spice up your own love life as its been a while now, tell him that he really doesn't need to watch these films as he has his own porno star thats you, I bet this will excite him... I don't know if he will ever stop watching them but he is with you and I am sure he loves you so much try to explain again that you really don't like him watching these films and is there anything you can do to help...
If he insists then its up to you if you either want to turn a blind eye or put a stop to it....
I wish you all the best but don't take it so personnel babes he does love you...
Donna
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2007): i know how you must be feeling right now as ive had children myself,but trust me your guy looking at porn is no reflection on you its just a man thing for most men,even my father looked at porn and he worshiped my mother,just talk to him and let him know how much it hurts,dont end it because of something that aint real,your relationship is real and if your both happy you can overcome this issue.
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