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writes:I don't know what I should do as I'm in an awkward postion here.. I am actually in love wih my best friend's father, and I know he feels the exact same way. We always talk to each other about our feelings but how we can't do much being around my best friend.We have got so close to one another now. We have kissed before, the first time was just an incredible moment between the two of us. We have also "fooled" around quite a bit also.My friend has seeen us both hug goodbye to each other when leaving her house etc and she doesn't seem to care. Me and her dad spend a lot of time together and when we're drinking my friend doesn't really take notice of how much flirting me and him do.He was married.. well still is but himself and my friend both actually despise her. They wanna move away from her as she treats them both like shit!Do you think it's worth us going into a deeper and proper relationship together? or is it too risky even if we kept it a total secret? Would like any advice/comments and it's very much appreciated thank you xxx
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reader, babomi  +, writes (18 October 2008):
 compare him to somebody his age you have consideration for : your parents, a teacher, some adult in your family, ...
you would learn this person is "in love" with a 15y old teenager like you, but not you, how would you feel? would you judge it as normal, natural, would you think it s proper and understandable?
i guess that no, you would feel it s weird and wrong
it s wrong in your situation too
another comparison : you must be 14-16y, would you hang out with 9-10y olds at the playgrond?
probably no i bet, u re older, u ve been there already and you ve moved up by growing, your interests are very different, why would you go back there?
why is he doing that with you then?
people tend to find partners within their own age bracket, to find the same level of experience and maturity
so, why doesn t he do that? my guess: he s not very mature and responsible, and somebody his age would find it out, that s why he s going for a younger girl like you
this guy is no good, he d be a real adult, he wouldn t be attracted to you in the first place, and even if, he wouldn t flirt with you to take advantage of your innocence
see him like an old guy who wants to pretend he s young because he feels somewhere he s not a adult
take care
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reader, baddogbj +, writes (18 October 2008):
 If you really care about this man then unfortunately you have to be a big girl and back off for a while at least. I'm sure that you are very attractive and it sounds as if he is in a difficult situation and not thinking straight. You need to think for both of you and realise that your relationship has the potential to destroy his life. On the plus side you get to keep a best friend who you will otherwise surely lose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): Why not try talk to him about it
or better yet, wink at him and see what he does
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reader, thunderchild +, writes (18 October 2008):
 this guy is old enough to be your dad! think about it, its a dangerous game that shouldnt be played no matter how "mature" you are still under age and he is taking advantage of you think of what this will do to the relationship you have with your friend, the wife thing is irrelevant and you are still a child he is practically a paedofile!
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