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writes: I dont really have a problem but would like some advice. I used to be a fairly confident person, i was quite popular in school and never had any problems talking to guys I like but I have been having that problem recently.I broke up with my partner of six years a 1 1/2 ago, we had a little boy, who I absolutely adore and I took the time after the relationship ended to make sure I gave my son the best life possible and didn't rush into any relationships, although I was asked out and pursued by a couple of guys. We are now completely settled in our own house and I have landed the job of my dreams so things are going great.I started my new job eights months ago and my second week in, a new guy also started but he isn't in the same department as me so I don't get to talk to him, but I have realised in the last month that whenever he walks past my desk I get butterflies in my stomach, so I decided to email him (with somewhat of a fake problem with my phone - a phone which i knew he had) he replied and was really really nice and helpful and even offered to give me some spare bits and pieces for the phone. I dont really know him but would like to know him better but i think he is really really shy (not the type to initiative a conversation) and because I can't talk to him about work things, and he never goes to lunch without his friends I am really stuck for an opportunity to get chatting to him. I dont want to keep emailing him about rubbish because i dont want to seem too eagar or desperate and would like to get to know him properly.I have read some of the replies on this website and some of the answers are really fantastic and level headed so i am hoping someone can help me. Im sure there is an easy solution to this, but i just cant see it cause my feelings might be clouding my judgement. HELP
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2006): I just want to say thanks to Aunt Audrey for her advice, I took her advice today and emailed the guy and asked him out and guess what, he said he thought it was a great idea so we are going out in a couple of weeks time.
I cant believe I actually was brave enough to ask, it is one of the scariest things I ever had to do (including child birth) so I am chuffed to bits that I finally bit the bullet and just done it, cause I could see myself obsessing over asking him for months and then chickening out and forgetting about it and I would have missed this opportunity, so I want to say to everyone else in the same situation, just ask the person, you never know, it could work out exactly the way you want, and if it doesn't, then at least you know where you stand, which is 100 times better than wondering.
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reader, Aunt Audrey  +, writes (29 March 2006):
 Sure there's an easy solution to this.....ask around at work and find out if he's single, and if he is e-mail him and ask him out. You'll never know until you try, the days of us girls waiting for guys to ask has long gone, and I'm sure he won't mind you suggesting a night out. The worst thing that can happen is he'll say no!
Go for it, and who knows you could really get on.
Good luck! x
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