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I'm a sergeant in the British Army, so I deal with young people (mostly teens), who have all the usual dramas and long distance relationship issues.
My speciality is Medicine I've spent the last 12 years as an army medic, which means I have lots of experience in trauma (which isn't very helpful here), Sports therapy, travel medicine, and GU medicine (Sexual Health).
When I found out about this site, it seemed to be another way to help people out. But I am very straight talking, so please don't be too offended if you don't like my honest opinions.
If there is any advise you should take away from this site it is: Never do anything that you can't explain to a Paramedic and always practice safe sex. |
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| Latest articles: STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them?
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19 April 2009: STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them? An STI is a sexually transmitted infection this is the "in vogue" name for what used to be called an Sexually transmitted disease (STD) This can range from pubic lice to AIDS and Hepatitis with m...
Why don't boys reply to my texts?
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19 April 2009: Why don't boys reply to my texts? This is a commonly asked question at dear cupid and I understand it really isn't as important as a domestic violence question, but I feel it needs answering. Now this is just a personal opinion and if any guys ...
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Can you trick a pregnancy test into showing a positive result?
Q. Is it true that you can trick a pregnancy test into saying "yes"? If so how is that even done?...
A. 29 April 2009: I was going to say what Phil said! Get a pregnant woman's piss, or have a Genetics lab set up in the basement.
Now what you need to do is talk to her and find out what the pair of you are going to do about this situation.... (read in full...)
How compatible are we, judging by the signs?
Q. I am a female pisces/aries cusp (34 years old) ,dating a male virgo/libra cusp (28 years old). How compatible are we? Because both our signs are on a cusp there is alot of conflicting information. I would appreciate any insight....
A. 28 April 2009: I though that was the who point of astrology, hearing what you want to hear to reassure you when you don't have the earthly answers.
Seriously I think it is quite narrow minded to say that everyone born in one month has certain traits and are not ... (read in full...)
How compatible are we, judging by the signs?
Q. I am a female pisces/aries cusp (34 years old) ,dating a male virgo/libra cusp (28 years old). How compatible are we? Because both our signs are on a cusp there is alot of conflicting information. I would appreciate any insight....
A. 28 April 2009: Try an Astrology website! I'm sure there are plenty that will take your money.
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Half penetration sex, am I still a Virgin?
Q. Hi, My BF's penis went in me about half way, the head was fully in and we did this a few times. He didnt push all the way because I want to keep my virginity but i cant help but think have I already lost it from what we wer doing. We tested ...
A. 28 April 2009: I think the very fact that you have asked this suggests that deep down you know the answer!... (read in full...)
Breast pain...
Q. Hi everyone. I have a REALLY bad pain in my breasts. I have had it for 2 weeks. The nipples are really sore, and if I havent got a bra on the pain is just terrible. Any advice? Does anybody know what it could be? Thanks x...
A. 28 April 2009: Cancer? Yes I said it! It could be the first signs of breast cancer!
NOW GO AND SEE A DOCTOR!... (read in full...)
Does she want me to be a lesbian?
Q. hi, ive just moved in with my girlfreind into a flat, and all my clothes were in the suitcases as we just got there and i went to the shop and got talking to one of my mates and when i got back she was staring in my suitcase and there was thongs in ...
A. 28 April 2009: Here's a tip, STOP being such a girl and then she won't treat you like a pretty dolly.
Seriously, if this bothers you dump her!... (read in full...)
Should I have a sex change and become a man...
Q. My ex-boyfriend had a sex change recently, but I am still in love with him!!! Now that he is a woman, I feel like I am a lesbian, although I have never felt this way about a girl before. Should I have a sex change and become a man, and therefore ...
A. 28 April 2009: Ask you doctor about having a sex change.... (read in full...)
I don't want my boyfriend to go to jail...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for five months now - since about a week before he and his ex broke up. They were together for two years and I'll admit, he was not the nicest guy towards his ex. For two years, he emotionally and physically ...
A. 28 April 2009: Are you serious? ... (read in full...)
Pregnancy from this?
Q. can you get pregnant if a boy has came in your mouth then fingered you ...
A. 28 April 2009: Hold on, you won't tell her because she won't trust you again? Surely that's something you should have though of before taking part in sexual activities, you know like using condoms.... (read in full...)
What is this milky liquid? Is this normal?
Q. Hi, I'm married since a year. we have great sex and love life. My question is.... while Im in climax though my breast some milky liquid comes out. Is it normal or what?? we do not have children yet and Im not pregnant. Please advise thanks....
A. 28 April 2009: Milky liquid from your breasts? I'm guessing it's milk! Are you sure there is no chance of pregnancy?
This is normal in some people, but as Satin said, we are not Doctors and with out a proper medical history and examination there is no way to k... (read in full...)
Anyone have any good excuses?
Q. Hey u guys I actually need help with some excuses it's not for anything bad so don't judge me yet but this summer my parents will be going camping and there will be times that I can't go cuz of work so I figured that I could have my girlfriend over ...
A. 28 April 2009: You say you are 18-21 if your girlfriend is the same age why do you need to make excuses you are both consenting adults.
If she is under the age of consent... Well tough luck really ... (read in full...)
Brewer's droop!
Q. bit of an embarrassing issue but need some advice. Met a girl, went to have sex with her after I had been drinking and I couldnt get an erection. I was so embarrassed. We said that we'd have another go in the morning but I couldnt really s...
A. 28 April 2009: Sweet thing is spot on with her answer here.
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I want to play the field
Q. I'm a 16 yr old boy and I do not have trouble getting/attractive women. not to toot my own horn ,but i am good looking. my problem is commitment to girls my age. i find myself "looking at the big picture" and think it's a waste of time because i'm ...
A. 28 April 2009: Just enjoy yourself, but don't hurt any girls in the process make sure they know that you are not looking for the one and make sure you always practice safe sex!... (read in full...)
What does "Friends with Benefits" mean?
Q. Hello, i was talking to my ex-boyfriend, and he said we can be friends. im fine with that.He also said we could be friends with benifits. What did he mean? thank you....
A. 28 April 2009: It means he doesn't love you, care about your feelings or anything else a guy should feel about his girlfriend. But he thinks that you are a bit "easy" and that you still like him so he can take advantage of you and date other girls at the same ... (read in full...)
Ideas on how to make more friends?
Q. I would like to make some more friends because most of my friedns are working away at the moment and the only entertaining thing left for me seems to be families and watching movies as well as working at home. Any ideas would be welcomed ...
A. 28 April 2009: Have you tried joining clubs or societies? These are a great way to meet people who share similar interests as you.
Join a gym, volunteer with a Charity, try out a writers group, there are so many things out there for you to do, the key is to be... (read in full...)
He says he only cheated for sex...can this be true?
Q. My question is can a man (or woman)who cheats on their partner with the same woman and says it was only for sex nothing more over seveval years can it be true? He would go to her house for coffee and sex,and have gropes in the car if he gave her...
A. 28 April 2009: If a man says this then yes it can be true, women on the other had tend to want feelings and all that emotional stuff too.
So if a women says "it's just sex" and it was going on for some time I bet there is an emotional attachment, where as if a ... (read in full...)
Pregnancy after a vasectomy?
Q. What are the chances of pregnancy after a vasectomy after 18 years?...
A. 27 April 2009: It's very unlikely so long after surgery, as phil says normally after 2 months post op everything is fine.
But nothing is 100% so if in doubt get checked by a doctor and if you are really paranoid use condoms as well. Remember you can still ge... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant and how do I find my nearest family planning clinic?
Q. i am 13 year old and the other night i was messing around with this lad cutting a long story short i sucked him off and he never spermed in my mouth but he wiped it away a short while after he fingered me and then he tried to have sex with me but i ...
A. 27 April 2009: Go to your doctor (GP) or local hospital, they will have pregnancy tests for free or you can look on this link for your local Brook advisory centre: http://www.brook.org.uk/content/Default.asp
Also can I suggest that before you do anything... (read in full...)
Pregnancy from this?
Q. can you get pregnant if a boy has came in your mouth then fingered you ...
A. 27 April 2009: I can't believe you have left it for another week.
This is what you say: "Mum, I've been really stupid, please don't go mad, I'm really sorry.... I think I might be pregnant, Help!"
Just take it from there.... (read in full...)
STD tests.
Q. I just found out my bf never got tested for STD's, so i told him he has to - since we are a little -active- and we are going together, i have no idea how these tests go or how it is done i mean do they take blood ! or just examination or what !! and ...
A. 26 April 2009: For a full screen normally there is a Swab test, blood test and urine tests.
With all of these any STI can be found.... (read in full...)
My 14 y/o daughter wants to have sex with her b/f
Q. My 14 year old daughter has just told me she wants to have a sexual relationship with her 15year old boyfriend. What should i do?...
A. 26 April 2009: I disagree with the poster that said "Don't put her on protection" Why not take her to the local Brook advisory clinic, where they can talk to her about sex, pregnancy, contraception and STIs.
Education is the key here.
http://www.br... (read in full...)
What is Tantric sex?
Q. TANTRIC SEX Hi all! This is my first time on any kind of forum and its feels nice to be here. i'm wondering if any of you out there can tell me what tantric or tantra sex is? embarrasing i know, but i've not got a clue!. thanks ...
A. 26 April 2009: www.google.com
Good luck... (read in full...)
My family is against our relationship.
Q. Hi, I'm 16 years old. I have a bf, he is 12. Some people think that it's wrong because I'm 4 years older, but I don't care because we love each other very much but the problem is that my whole family don't like him, so I can't come home to him and ...
A. 26 April 2009: Maybe it would be easier if you found a boy closer to your age, at 16 you are an Adult, and he is still a child, so I understand why your parents don't like the idea of this relationship.... (read in full...)
I hate my dad because he cannot offer me the lavish lifestyle that has been my dream!
Q. hello dear cupid, i am 22 and i have a strange problem.... I hate my dad! i know he is my god and my caretaker...but still i hate him because he cannot offer me the lavish lifestyle that has been my dream although he has always provided me with the ...
A. 26 April 2009: Get a job! You want that life style... You pay for it! Seriously are you honestly 22-25? Or if you really want to be a kept women, find yourself a rich man.
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My husband is converting to Islam and wants ME to convert too!
Q. I was shocked by what I found around the house when I woke up this morning. There were a lot of prayer books and a copy of the Koran (is that how you spell it??) lying around, plus some other Islamic literature. I asked my husband why there was Is...
A. 26 April 2009: Religion is a very sensitive subject and everybody has their own take on it. So you must talk.
You say all this happened this morning? That's not much time for you to "have to accept" his new religious choice. Apologise about being insensit... (read in full...)
What would YOU do?
Q. So. Here's a wee situation for you. You see someone you have really strong feelings for every weekday, and you're pretty close to them. You know you'll only ever be friends, you understand that. You know that you're going to leave, and that if you ...
A. 26 April 2009: You have answered this yourself.... What have you got to loose? Just talk to him!... (read in full...)
I'm losing my appetite...
Q. I feel myself losing appetite. Is this normal?? When winter comes I know I eat a lot but since it's getting warmer, I find myself eating little bits of food. ...
A. 23 April 2009: Last summer I was in the Middle East, and for the first 4-6 weeks I hardly had an appetite at all, but once I got used to the heat, I could happily eat and even drink hot drinks during the day.
As the other posters eat light meals and drink pl... (read in full...)
Lesbian cheats on girlfriend with boy
Q. I have a really big problem and I am so upset by it I think I'm going to therapy. On Sunday I got at 5:52 a.m. a call from my girlfriend. She was sobbing and screaming and saying something that I couldn't understand. I thought she was saying s...
A. 23 April 2009: If you can't support the girl during this time she is probably better off with out you!
At the end of the day how many rape victims actually think it's their fault and they let it happen. I'm still not convinced. As I said before if you are drun... (read in full...)
He smelled awful!!!
Q. Hi aunts, I really need some advice, I've been going out with a boy for a while and tonight for the first time we discovered a little more about each other and when he pulled down his boxers a horrible smell came, it was so ghastly that I wanted to ...
A. 22 April 2009: I would dump him, and if he asks why tell him straight, you really don't want a guy who can't keep himself clean down there.
Guys always assume that they will "get lucky" so most of us keep ourselves particularly clean when going out on a date, so... (read in full...)
Lesbian cheats on girlfriend with boy
Q. I have a really big problem and I am so upset by it I think I'm going to therapy. On Sunday I got at 5:52 a.m. a call from my girlfriend. She was sobbing and screaming and saying something that I couldn't understand. I thought she was saying s...
A. 22 April 2009: She was Raped! Taking advantage of a drunk girl is still rape, but it's a very grey area in the law. I would still recommend reporting this to the police though.
If you are too drunk you don't have the mental capacity to give informed consent,... (read in full...)
I love her but no sex!
Q. my girlfriend does not want to have sex with me and i love her. what should i do? Is there anything I can do or say to make her change her mind?...
A. 22 April 2009: If you love her, you will respect her, stop thinking with your Dick! Give her time and when she sees that you aren't just after sex and you actually care about her, you will have a much higher chance of actually having sex with her.
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Worlds apart but too close for comfort
Q. I am 18 years old and have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. However, I have known this other man for 6 years over the internet. We've met up before and it was amazing, although nothing happened, I feel like I've betrayed my boyfriend. I...
A. 22 April 2009: Dump your boyfriend! You obviously don't love him and are just using him as a comfort blanket till you find someone you actually like.
I can't believe you are calling him immature, when you are off kissing and flirting with whom ever you like!
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Do I need to see my GP or nurse?
Q. I've had periods for 4 years and I've always had them regularly every month and I stay on my period for 5 days. I recently gone on the mini pill because I don't want to get preganent but since going on the pill I've been coming on my period every ...
A. 22 April 2009: Yes "Perma-period" is very common with the mini-pill, it's a very annoying side effect to an otherwise good contraceptive.
Some people have said if you give it a couple of months to settle down, but personally I would suggest if you don't like it,... (read in full...)
Who is Jasmine???
Q. There is this person writing to me on myspace.. annonymous.. and I don't know who it is.. they have no pictures of them only of supposed family and they have said their name is Jasmine. I don't know anyone named Jasmine. Soo does anyone know how ...
A. 22 April 2009: Just delete her! ... (read in full...)
Do we take things "further?" he's 13, I'm 17 and we fight all the time.
Q. Im a 17 yr old girl and my boyfriend is just 13 .. we are 2gether for 8 months...at first the age worried me a bit but now i really do love him ... but we do fight alot, i have lost interest in school work since ive been with him because when we ...
A. 22 April 2009: http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/article2233878.ece Do you remember this? I'm sure it made Irish Papers as well as UK.
There was national up cry, and most of the country wanted the girl involved arrested for statutory rape of a minor! T... (read in full...)
Dated 3 weeks, he dumped me and now he hates me!
Q. me and my boyfriend went out for 3 weeks and then he dumped me. today he said he hates me. and he said the reason is when i seen him in the three weeks i only seen him for like 5 minutes but i actually seen him for 30minutes, but we were on holiday ...
A. 22 April 2009: You're not 18 are you?
I think you really shouldn't worry about his reasons for dumping you, to me it sounds like he is making up rubbish excuses.
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Only 3 days to prove to him that I love him!
Q. Okay here it goes i will have three days to prove to him that i love him and want to be with him and to make him see that we can be happy together!! Tell me what to do ! please! WE will also be around other people so help me please just give me the ...
A. 22 April 2009: Are you honestly 22-25? I think you are being a little dramatic about this. You haven't really given us much to work with, why only 3 days?
And why do you have to prove you love him, is telling him not enough?... (read in full...)
Pregnancy from this?
Q. can you get pregnant if a boy has came in your mouth then fingered you ...
A. 22 April 2009: Seriously you need to speak to your Mummy and ask her how babies are made!
Do it NOW!... (read in full...)
Does anyone believe in fortune tellers?
Q. My question is quite short, I'm wondering if anyone believes in Fortune Tellers? xx...
A. 22 April 2009: No... (read in full...)
We think I might be pregnant
Q. Hello. I'm New and Well... I'm sorta worried. I've know my friend for a WHILE~ and We just hooked up. We are SO~ much A like! Clones maybe. Ha! Well, one day we hung out and just enjoyed our selfs. and when we came back we watched tv and well... ...
A. 21 April 2009: You are within child baring age and have had sex, there is no reason not to see a gyno.
Yes you could be pregnant, but what is this "milk super fast" to me it sounds like some kind of diet shake or supplement, as other aunts have said, you coul... (read in full...)
Follow up: Starting a relationship when one is in jail
Q. Okay i Know i just asked a question but i don't think i was clear and it was confusing.. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/starting-a-new-relationship-while-one-is-in.html Here it goes... **************...
A. 21 April 2009: Why has he been locked up if he was the only injured party? What else has he been convicted of, I'm guessing more than just dangerous driving.
I'm sure he is a lovely guy, but if a jury find him guilty of a crime that warrants 3 years in jail, it... (read in full...)
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