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I'm a sergeant in the British Army, so I deal with young people (mostly teens), who have all the usual dramas and long distance relationship issues.
My speciality is Medicine I've spent the last 12 years as an army medic, which means I have lots of experience in trauma (which isn't very helpful here), Sports therapy, travel medicine, and GU medicine (Sexual Health).
When I found out about this site, it seemed to be another way to help people out. But I am very straight talking, so please don't be too offended if you don't like my honest opinions.
If there is any advise you should take away from this site it is: Never do anything that you can't explain to a Paramedic and always practice safe sex. |
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| Latest articles: STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them?
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19 April 2009: STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them? An STI is a sexually transmitted infection this is the "in vogue" name for what used to be called an Sexually transmitted disease (STD) This can range from pubic lice to AIDS and Hepatitis with m...
Why don't boys reply to my texts?
This question has 4 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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19 April 2009: Why don't boys reply to my texts? This is a commonly asked question at dear cupid and I understand it really isn't as important as a domestic violence question, but I feel it needs answering. Now this is just a personal opinion and if any guys ...
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Is my boyfriend pushing me away because he is joining the Air Force?
Q. I'm not really sure what to do about my boyfriend of over 2 years. Were both young, I'm 17 and he's a few months younger. To begin with, we were ace, we'd been best friends always, and although I had a bit of a rocky past, he took me regardless an...
A. 11 June 2009: He's being a tool now, maybe it is time for you to say enough is enough and actually dump him! Tell him when he is trained and wants to act like a grown up you will consider taking him back.
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STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them?
Q. STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them? An STI is a sexually transmitted infection this is the "in vogue" name for what used to be called an Sexually transmitted disease (STD) This can range from pubic lice to AIDS and Hepatitis with m...
A. 9 May 2009: A couple more points to add to this post:
- Pubic lice (Crabs) is almost extinct in the UK as so many people shave their pubic hair.
- STIs can be caught through open wounds and mucous membranes (mouth, eyes, nose, anywhere moist) so make s... (read in full...)
Help...I had unprotected sex and missed a period!
Q. hey every1 i need sum advice urgently...so im only 13 and im goin out with a guy who is 2 years older than me. my boyfrend started pressuring me into sex but i told him no and i kept saying no and now he has finally understood my answer. But anyway ...
A. 4 May 2009: You need to see a doctor and get tested!... (read in full...)
Some interesting facts on porn to share
Q. hey everyone,this is my second article for dear cupid site..thx for the over whelming response over the first. In this article i am going to talk about PORN ADDICTION i have come across a lot of people on this site seeking help for themselves or th...
A. 4 May 2009: This isn't a question!... (read in full...)
Passing bloody after sex!
Q. Why do I pass a drop of blood a day after sex on my pants like a watery consistency? I am female, 49 and in the menopause...
A. 4 May 2009: Not sure but doesn't sound good, I would speak to your GP.... (read in full...)
Computer problems! Help appreciated.
Q. The hard disk of my computer was taken out to place an external hard disk by my husband ones then he put back the original hard disk. In the process of doing, the pin of the hard disk got bent. Since then sometimes the computer does not start and ...
A. 4 May 2009: Try going to a computer help forum, or the shop you got the computer from.... (read in full...)
I am having a worsening pain in my vagina, what could it be and what should I do?
Q. ive been havin pain an sting like feeling in my vag area i kinda of always had on an off pain every now an then but it wasnt til today an yesterday i think its geting worse not only that but its swollen and it still hasnt went down since yesterday ...
A. 4 May 2009: Seriously, you are wasting time by posting on here, we can not give you the advise you need, please speak to a doctor as soon as possible.
Any unexplained pain is a very bad sign and if it is getting worse you need to get help NOW!... (read in full...)
5 Questions about teen pregnancy
Q. 1, Are you more likely to get pregnant if you have unprotected sex about five days before your period? 2, If you have unprotected sex too close to the time of your period can you miss a period and it be emplantation bleeding instead? 3, What is the...
A. 3 May 2009: I think you have a lot of issues and questions that need answering and the best place to get these answers is a family planning clinic or your doctor.
Please go and get checked out by a doctor so you can find out if you are pregnant, get answers ... (read in full...)
Country girl finding it impossible to find love
Q. i have very basic question. how do i get a boyfriend how do i get a guy to fancy me.even though i am fat,short,plain looking,30+ age and feel over the hill and no guy be interested in me because older and no longer in my 20s .who shy and find it ...
A. 3 May 2009: I have an idea: there must be lots of girls in Ireland in your situation, you should write an article for our articles page make friends with the other girls who have posted this question in the same situation as you.
Then you can start a lonely... (read in full...)
Country girl finding it impossible to find love
Q. i have very basic question. how do i get a boyfriend how do i get a guy to fancy me.even though i am fat,short,plain looking,30+ age and feel over the hill and no guy be interested in me because older and no longer in my 20s .who shy and find it ...
A. 3 May 2009: Please correct me if I'm wrong but you have posted this or very similar at least five times previously and had some really great answers.
Maybe your real issue is you are actually happy being miserable, and don't want our advice?
I think Emily... (read in full...)
I need some help labelling my sexuality
Q. I'm having difficulty in labelling my sexuality for others to understand. Whilst it doesn't matter to me, I can't find a category I can define myself by and was hoping that others with more knowledge or an unbiased view could help. I'm male, I've...
A. 3 May 2009: I still don't see why you need to pin a label on yourself. But if you really must have a neon sign I would go for almost bi. ... (read in full...)
Am I really a dumb b*tch? That's what he said! Any advice?
Q. “Sometimes you must allow yourself to go through some hurtful things so you can become strong because you were emotionally weak”. (My quote) ***This is long, but not boring*** Were do I begin! I'm in love with an ex-con who had it together, but...
A. 3 May 2009: You're probably not the dumbest bitch in the f'n world (you should read some of the posts on here), but you do need to move on.
How do you suggest he gives you closure? I don't get it, what can this idiot give you to make you feel better and move... (read in full...)
His condom came off..inside of me. What could happen?
Q. Me and my boyfriend recently just had sex for the first time and we were both Virgins. It was quite painful but he made sure that we went at my pace and that i was okay with everything. There was more blood then i expected as well, we did use...
A. 3 May 2009: It wasn't too small it was put on wrong! Condoms are very very rarely too small but they often fall off or split on novice users, the pair of you should practice putting them on properly in future.
You could be pregnant, there is a thing called p... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend pushing me away because he is joining the Air Force?
Q. I'm not really sure what to do about my boyfriend of over 2 years. Were both young, I'm 17 and he's a few months younger. To begin with, we were ace, we'd been best friends always, and although I had a bit of a rocky past, he took me regardless an...
A. 3 May 2009: This is a phase all potential recruits go through and I was no different. Once you decide to join the forces, you think that you are going away and never coming back, once he gets that train to RAF Holton he thinks that, he'll never see his friends ... (read in full...)
She's had sex with possibly 30 plus guys and I have issues with it!
Q. Hi everybody Me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost 5 months now. Im 20 and she's 23. I seem too keep on having an issue with her past. She's had sex with around 30 guys. Could be more. I myself have been with 17 girls, and as such I a...
A. 3 May 2009: If you don't like it dump her!... (read in full...)
My ex wants me to give him 125.00 for a speeding ticket!
Q. My ex bf has just asked me for 125 2 pay off a speading ticket he got and 6 points, i said i have 2 think about it i know i will get the money back, but he has a new gf and hasent even told her he has got caught speeding Im also not sure if hes ...
A. 3 May 2009: £125 and 6 points that means he was going very fast! probably over 90mph, in a national speed limit road. He deserves the points and the fine, it's lucky he got caught and didn't kill some one! Let it be a lesson to him, his crime, his punishment!... (read in full...)
Dumped by fiancée, should I get the ring back?
Q. After proposing to a woman I have lived with for two years i moved to another city. She joined me a few months later, but then ended the relationship because I cheated on her. (note: she did as well prior to that) She wont give me the 10K diamond. ...
A. 3 May 2009: Morally, yes you should get it back but then again, this seems like a tit for tat relationship: She slept with.... so I slept with.... etc.
SO do you want the ring back for morals or because you want the last say?
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Age..just a number?
Q. i really like this guy- but hes 24 and i'm 14. i know i have to get over it, but i just can't! i try so hard but it doesn't work. I see him all the time, and he acts like its a joke that i'm in love with him when we're around other people, but when ...
A. 3 May 2009: Why would a guy of 24 want to date a 14 year old? It's illegal, she can't watch movies with him (unless it's a PG) she can't go to the pub with him, and if her Dad finds out he gets a kicking as well!
Age isn't just a number, if it was I wouldn't... (read in full...)
Having STD testing as a rule?
Q. Since several of my friends fell victim to some nasty STDs, I decided to make it a rule to never sleep with a woman unless she got tested and showed me the results ( and I would in turn of course ). However I feel this simply doesn't fly with...
A. 3 May 2009: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/sti-std-what-are-they-and-how-do.html... (read in full...)
Is my teacher flirting?
Q. Hiya guys. I understand that there are many of these questions regarding teacher 'crushes' and many people saying they're 'in love' with them but I know what I feel about the guy, and it's kinda like a love him as a friend and I know at least wh...
A. 2 May 2009: Yes this is the same as every other "I love my teacher does he like me question"
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Is your first friend on facebook your most important one? (ie boyfriend or girlfriend)
Q. Can you date someone from face book by just meeting them on face book? It's a general question. If you make someone your first friend on face book list does that mean they are girlfriend or boyfriend or is that rubbish, I thought it went ...
A. 2 May 2009: I think the first person you add on facebook stays at the top of your list then it goes on alphabetically from there.... (read in full...)
Am I?
Q. My boyfriend and me had unprotected sex. About three days after i thought i had gotten my period(but it was too early for that to start) My periods usually last around a week, this one lasted about four days... emplantation bleeding or period? Im ...
A. 2 May 2009: YES you probably are, go and see a doctor! and DON'T have unprotected sex!... (read in full...)
Understanding a dream?
Q. In simple terms, I want to know what my dream means. The people in the dream were me and the 4 guys that I have fancied since I have been going to secondary school. I have been out with 2 of these 4 guys, 1 of them I am going out with now, but ou...
A. 2 May 2009: I get stressful dreams about things I worry about in real life.
I think it is just your sub conscience working over time while you are resting.
Don't worry about it! ... (read in full...)
How can I convince him that he should call his parents?
Q. My husband and I have a problem. He isn't in touch with his parents, doesnt even want to call them. This all started when we moved in together, and escalated when he didnt call them to say that we got married (it was a small, impromptu wedding). ...
A. 2 May 2009: His parents, his issues. Just because you are a Mummy's girl doesn't mean he has to be!
Give the poor guy a break, if this is the only thing that causes trouble in your relationship why are you pushing it?... (read in full...)
Does it sound like I'm prego, or what?
Q. Im 15, i've been on Birth Control for 3 months now, my mom forced me but im pretty bad at remembering to take them so id say i miss 12-15 pills per month. I always get my usual week long period, normal nothing strange. On 4/25/09 tho my boyfriend ...
A. 2 May 2009: I can see why your mum "forced" you on to birth control, you are possibly the most irresponsible teenager on this site!
Take Satins advice!... (read in full...)
13, pregnant from first time and it was a dare
Q. Hey i have just turend 13 in december and just found out i am pregnant since I am really young and only just started my period in november i had sex in march and only slept with one lad a dont know what to do but i dont want an abortion but in a...
A. 2 May 2009: Does it matter if the Nurse goes to social services? Why are you so scared of them? Social services are there to help people like you!
Why not take a look at their website and actually see what they do: http://w... (read in full...)
What is uncensored porn?
Q. Hi guys! I recently found out that my partner has a uncensored website. He also sells viagrra and something called cilas. Firstly what is uncensored porn? And is it ok for him to sell viagra? I've asked but he wont discuss business. He's now ...
A. 1 May 2009: You're boyfriend is a drug dealer, selling Viagra is illegal in the UK, uncensored porn or "hard core porn" is also illegal. So you've got yourself a good catch there.
I personally would say NO not good father material.
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I have reached the age of legal consent and wanted to have sex with my long term girlfriend but I couldn't get it up.
Q. I turned 16 ten days ago, and that means I'm legal in my country (UK). I thought that when I was 16 I would not have a problem with having sex, as I did not have to worry about the law etc, but my girlfriend of 8 months and I tried having sex ...
A. 1 May 2009: You just have to relax, you got stage fright! Stop seeing sex as such a big deal. Once you have chilled out it will be much easier to maintain an erection.
Just make sure you use protection.... (read in full...)
For the boys: Innocent or not innocent? Tall or short? Athletic or not?
Q. i want to know what the guys out there look for in a girl.. do you (guys) like girls that look more innocent or not innocent? do you prefer girls that are tall? or short? do you prefer girls that are athletic or not athletic?...
A. 1 May 2009: Intelligence and humour, all the other physical stuff doesn't matter that much.... (read in full...)
What to do, job, travel, course?
Q. i have been looking for a job or a course for about 5 months now and i am totally sick of looking at jobs i dont want to do. i have been looking at courses too and feel that im just gonna waste my time doing a course. im thinking of working away for ...
A. 1 May 2009: I think a course, education never goes a miss. Can I suggest English! You could learn all about correct use of grammar!
In this current economical climate, the job market is pretty full so there are a lot of application forms and CVs crossing... (read in full...)
I am not physically attracted to my wife any longer. What to do about it?
Q. I know this is horrible of me but I am not physically attracted to my wife anymore. since we started dating and now since we are married she has put on a lot of weight while I have now for the past four months have started a workout and diet plan ...
A. 1 May 2009: This is a difficult situation, you have obviously tried subtly, and are putting the effort in yourself. Maybe it is time to be less subtle and tell her you are starting to worry about her health (Diabetes, heart disease, etc)
But be careful ... (read in full...)
I need a job but I don't want to work because my boyfriend is already giving me everything I need!
Q. i need some advice and no judgement please, my problem is, my boyfriend is taking care of me,very good care. what ever i neeed he provide, he's on the wealthy side, but i need a job, but i don't want to work because he giving me every thing i need ...
A. 1 May 2009: You said you need a job, we're just agreeing with you.
Don't get a job I'm sure he won't resent you, and you don't need the social interaction of the real world.
If you want to been seen as some one like Paris Hilton carry on.
At the en... (read in full...)
I need a job but I don't want to work because my boyfriend is already giving me everything I need!
Q. i need some advice and no judgement please, my problem is, my boyfriend is taking care of me,very good care. what ever i neeed he provide, he's on the wealthy side, but i need a job, but i don't want to work because he giving me every thing i need ...
A. 1 May 2009: Try doing some voluntary work, if you don't need the money there are so many charities that require volunteers. That way you put something back and you conscience is clear about mooching off your boyfriend.... (read in full...)
A question about virginity for all the boys out there
Q. This is mainly aimed at boys but girls can answer too, i would like to know, if a girl said that she wanted to lose her virginity to you but didn't want to be in a relationship with you, would you mind? Or would that be a problem for you? Thanks....
A. 1 May 2009: What's the catch? How old is she? Are you sure she's a virgin? Something just doesn't feel right about this!
If something sounds too good to be true, then usually it is.
Just make sure that you use protection even if she says she is on the pi... (read in full...)
Is he not going to text me for a while since I did the same?
Q. Ok, so there's this guy I met him in a restaurant I always go to. He asked me for my number so he can always have my food ready before I get there. We started talking, and then he kept telling me he liked me and how he just needed to have my number ...
A. 1 May 2009: I think you two are playing silly games! Why don't you actually meet him and talk like grown ups.... (read in full...)
I want to pretend I'm someone else online when I talk to my crush!
Q. so,my crush likes me back and stuff,but in the past month we haven't talked at all.he tried several times to greet me,but i acted like he wasn't there(totally ignored him,i know what a horrible thing i've done),so he avoided me and acted like i ...
A. 1 May 2009: Lying is a very bad idea, if he ever finds out, he will NEVER talk to you again.... (read in full...)
STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them?
Q. STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them? An STI is a sexually transmitted infection this is the "in vogue" name for what used to be called an Sexually transmitted disease (STD) This can range from pubic lice to AIDS and Hepatitis with m...
A. 1 May 2009: Please feel free to link this, that is the reason I wrote it in the first place. I really feel there isn't enough education at any level on this kind of thing.... (read in full...)
Help me! Big crisis!
Q. i hav been goin out with my gf for a long time but theres another girl who wants me and i dont know what to do someone help me please :(...
A. 1 May 2009: 26-29! Seriously are you so weak that you can't tell her that you are in a relationship! ... (read in full...)
He wants anal without a condom
Q. Me and my boyfriend have recently had anal sex for the first time(with condom). It was great, i felt no pain at all and he enjoyed it alot. We are gonna do it again this weekend, but he wants to do it without a condom and i dont want to. What can i ...
A. 1 May 2009: Simply say "NO CONDOM, NO SEX" if that doesn't convince him well he can go with out for a while.
NO means NO! and if he does anything when you have said no it's rape. That may make him realise that your wishes should be respected.... (read in full...)
I have a crush on a student.
Q. I just need to vent!!! I'm a male teacher in his late 20's and I have a crush on one of my female students who is about to turn 18. It's not lust.... I just think she and I have many things in common and we seem to have a great connection. She is ...
A. 1 May 2009: It depends on if you want to be employed as a teacher ever again, I understand it is legal once she graduates but how many head teachers would employ a guy that is dating a girl that has just graduated from his class?
I wouldn't, I understa... (read in full...)
What is this lump? Help!
Q. hello I feel quite embarrassed asking this question and I understand that you aunts are not doctors but I would like some advice. Well... just above my clit there is this small lump and I know it isn't a spot, I do shave and haven't yet come across ...
A. 30 April 2009: Any lumps ,bumps or anything out of the ordinary MUST be checked out by a Doctor as we can't tell you what it is, even if we took a full history and saw the spot, how many dermatologists are on Dear Cupid?
Also please DON'T put " cortison... (read in full...)
Could I get pregnant after only 1 depo shot?
Q. I just took my first depo in January and I'm do today for my next. If I had sex yesterday is there a chance I could be pregnant?...
A. 29 April 2009: I think you should be fine, the reason they set these time lines is so that you have an over lap of protection.
But if you are getting it done today speak to your family planner and they will be able to tell you for certain.... (read in full...)
Can you trick a pregnancy test into showing a positive result?
Q. Is it true that you can trick a pregnancy test into saying "yes"? If so how is that even done?...
A. 29 April 2009: I was going to say what Phil said! Get a pregnant woman's piss, or have a Genetics lab set up in the basement.
Now what you need to do is talk to her and find out what the pair of you are going to do about this situation.... (read in full...)
13, pregnant from first time and it was a dare
Q. Hey i have just turend 13 in december and just found out i am pregnant since I am really young and only just started my period in november i had sex in march and only slept with one lad a dont know what to do but i dont want an abortion but in a...
A. 14 April 2009: "i think it will be cool to dress them up and push them about and show them off to mates" ARE YOU SERIOUS!!!!
You have to go to a Doctor and tell your parents, they will be angry but they are educated intelligent people (which is surprisi... (read in full...)
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