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I'm a sergeant in the British Army, so I deal with young people (mostly teens), who have all the usual dramas and long distance relationship issues.
My speciality is Medicine I've spent the last 12 years as an army medic, which means I have lots of experience in trauma (which isn't very helpful here), Sports therapy, travel medicine, and GU medicine (Sexual Health).
When I found out about this site, it seemed to be another way to help people out. But I am very straight talking, so please don't be too offended if you don't like my honest opinions.
If there is any advise you should take away from this site it is: Never do anything that you can't explain to a Paramedic and always practice safe sex. |
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| Latest articles: STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them?
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19 April 2009: STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them? An STI is a sexually transmitted infection this is the "in vogue" name for what used to be called an Sexually transmitted disease (STD) This can range from pubic lice to AIDS and Hepatitis with m...
Why don't boys reply to my texts?
This question has 4 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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19 April 2009: Why don't boys reply to my texts? This is a commonly asked question at dear cupid and I understand it really isn't as important as a domestic violence question, but I feel it needs answering. Now this is just a personal opinion and if any guys ...
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Hand-job Disaster
Q. Okay sooooo my 1st bf and i (i'm his 1st gf too) very recently just experimented by taking things to 3rd base..i did the basing. to be precise, i gave him a hand job, a pretty weak one seeing as i had no clue what i was really doing. but it did do ...
A. 26 May 2009: To ilovsox, you are using the wrong condoms if it is affecting the sensation. but I'm guessing buy your profile name that a Tube sock provides the sensation you require! ;p... (read in full...)
Any advice on allergies?
Q. This is a health question not a relationship question. I went to the doctor because I thought I had ear infections and tonsillitis, which I didn't I got diagnosed with hay fever or really really bad allergies that cause liquid behind my ears a...
A. 26 May 2009: I'm sorry I keep forgetting that you Americans have to take health insurance into consideration.
Can you not just ask for advise from your local drug store or would they charge you for that too?... (read in full...)
Former teacher student relationship possible?
Q. This is about my teacher.. I need help :( I am 16, 17 in September and I have finished school and I am halfway through my GCSE's. I had a few issues with one of my ex-teachers; as I am not coming back to my old school next year, she is n...
A. 25 May 2009: You've already almost fucked up her career, why are you so dead set on spoiling her whole life because you have a silly crush!
Leave her alone, only time away from her will heal your "broken heart"... (read in full...)
Do all MEN go through the Menopause?
Q. This is for guys over 40....Is it true that all man goes to male menopause after 40? And they lose their sex drive and erection? And if it is not true, why doctors are saying that it is normal?What is the truth?...
A. 25 May 2009: No it's not true at all and Doctors don't say that!
The truth is some men have erectile problems at any stage of their life but mostly in unhealthy over 40's.
The menopause is a condition that affects women only and the male menopause is a b... (read in full...)
I am constantly catching a cold, how can I build my immune system?
Q. Hey This has absoluetly nothing to do with relationships or anything like that but I do need advice or I might go mad. I keep getting the cold all the time like literaly I have had it twice in the last two weeks, I mean you would think I would ...
A. 24 May 2009: Wear a surgical face mask, and tell them to cough and sneeze into a tissue, and then bin it and wash their hands.
You can also buy anti-virus nasal sprays in boots, which are a bit of a con but it may help, also buy a alcohol based hand rub for ... (read in full...)
I am constantly catching a cold, how can I build my immune system?
Q. Hey This has absoluetly nothing to do with relationships or anything like that but I do need advice or I might go mad. I keep getting the cold all the time like literaly I have had it twice in the last two weeks, I mean you would think I would ...
A. 24 May 2009: I have to disagree with Gina on this one, there is no scientific link between being cold and catching one, in fact the cold virus prefers a warm moist atmosphere.
I'm going to post a link here it's about STIs but the infection process is the same... (read in full...)
I am constantly catching a cold, how can I build my immune system?
Q. Hey This has absoluetly nothing to do with relationships or anything like that but I do need advice or I might go mad. I keep getting the cold all the time like literaly I have had it twice in the last two weeks, I mean you would think I would ...
A. 24 May 2009: Have you considered that this seasonal cold you are getting is possibly an allergy like hay fever?
Stay fit and healthy, don't smoke, drink plenty of water and avoid binge drinking. Eat plenty of fruit and veg.
You could also speak to your do... (read in full...)
Is it possible that semen could reach my vagina and I could be pregnant?
Q. Hey.. I have something bothering me all day and I need some advice.. Yesterday I was with my boyfriend and we were fooling around. I've never had sex, and we were making out. We were naked and I gave him oral sex. He came on his stomach and a bi...
A. 24 May 2009: Yes, go and get the morning after pill! In future if he is hard and it is not in his jeans make sure he wears a condom!... (read in full...)
Hand-job Disaster
Q. Okay sooooo my 1st bf and i (i'm his 1st gf too) very recently just experimented by taking things to 3rd base..i did the basing. to be precise, i gave him a hand job, a pretty weak one seeing as i had no clue what i was really doing. but it did do ...
A. 24 May 2009: Use a condom then all the mess is contained!... (read in full...)
I WON'T leave her!
Q. There is a girl in my grade that I like and she hates me. I will NOT leave her. Please help me!!...
A. 21 May 2009: You are being very creepy, I think you need to leave her alone or get professional help!... (read in full...)
When I get drunk I turn into a different person and I'm so cruel to her
Q. I'm so scared of losing my girlfriend, but i can't stop hurting her! It's like i've got the bad guy on one shoulder, and the good guy on the other! We've been for almost 2 years now and both at college, and going to the same uni in october....
A. 21 May 2009: STOP DRINKING!
It is that simple, are you honestly that weak that you can't control the amount of alcohol you drink? She deserves better than you and I'm more disappointed that she hasn't dumped you already!
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Emergency contraception! Please Help!!!!
Q. emergency!!!!!!!!!!!! please help this is really urgent. im 15 and i had sex for the second time with my boyfriend about 2 hours ago. However he pulled out of me and the condom wasnt on him we found it just at the opening of me and the tip wa...
A. 21 May 2009: I'd still go and get the morning after pill just to be on the safe side you can get it for free from your doctor tomorrow or you might be able to find a 24hour pharmacy where you can buy it for around £20.
If you phone NHS direct on 0845 46 47 (I... (read in full...)
Condom broke during sex....where do I go from here?
Q. i had sex and he finished inside me however when he pulled out the condom had a big hole in the middle. This happened two days after my period had ended and im expecting my period the 8th of june. Are my chances really high im very worried and ...
A. 21 May 2009: You go straight to your doctor who will tell you what your options are.... (read in full...)
Could my crush find out the email came from my computer?
Q. My friend sent an email to a guy I like (telling him someone "liked" him). She created a special gmail account to send it using my macbook at my house. She used a fake name to create the account. She sent the email from another computer, but she ...
A. 21 May 2009: Are you 30-35 or 13-15? Grow up if you fancy someone just tell them rather than being all sneaky and weird about it!... (read in full...)
The great porn debate
Q. p /> Please check out this post http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-could-he-hurt-me-by-watching-pornography.html I was trawling through the site the other day and found the question above. Everyone congratulated this girl jessica on ...
A. 21 May 2009: This post is asked FAR TOO often!
Not ALL men watch porn, but you girls do go on about it far too much, if you have ever read a Jane Ayre novel and enjoyed the sexy bits that is the same as a guy watching porn!
I know this doesn't make sen... (read in full...)
She's older, should I go for it?
Q. should i make a move? There a girl across the road from me a few years older, anyway she's proper fit and i well fancy her, she's really nice and whenever she seems me she's smiling and says hi.. should i tell her i like her and see what she thi...
A. 21 May 2009: Yeah go for it, what have you got to loose?... (read in full...)
She smokes! Why do I want her?
Q. i'm a freak right. The fact that some girl smokes turns me on and makes me want her, why am i weird like that? ...
A. 21 May 2009: No you're not a freak at all, Smoking has been made out to be sexy for years and to be honest seeing a girl smoke is one thing but have you kissed a smoker?
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Any advice on allergies?
Q. This is a health question not a relationship question. I went to the doctor because I thought I had ear infections and tonsillitis, which I didn't I got diagnosed with hay fever or really really bad allergies that cause liquid behind my ears a...
A. 21 May 2009: Here's a CRAZY idea; look at the packet on your medication, it will give advise on it if you are having side effects, it will probably say something along the lines of: Stop taking the medication and seek medical advice.
So do that, seek medical ... (read in full...)
Why do men masturbate when they have girlfriends?
Q. Why Do Men Masturbate When They Ave Girlfriends???? Plzzzzzzzzz Help My Bf Dose It N It Make Me Really Angry N We End Up Arguein About Itt!!! I Think It Rude N It Make Me Fill Like He Dosen't Love Me N That He Get More Pleasur Wen He Masturba...
A. 19 May 2009: We're not trying to be rude but it won't be too long before you are in the grown up world where you need to be able to write properly.
There is nothing you can do.... Guys masturbate and will no matter what you say or do.... (read in full...)
Amazing sex but now she's pregnant help!
Q. I had amazing sex with this girl the other week she is my best mates girlfriend and i dont have any regrets there just one problem she's pregnant what should i do? ...
A. 19 May 2009: You face the consequences of your actions like a grown up!
If you feel mature enough to have sex, then you are old enough to deal with being a Dad or supporting her through the emotional turmoil that will lead up to and follow an abortion... (read in full...)
I need some advice about the age of consent!
Q. I am a 17 year old female. My boyfriend is 15 years old. He is a freshman in High school, I am a junior. I will turn 18 two months before he is 16. We live in Massachusetts and his parents are completely ok with us dating. Am I still legally al...
A. 19 May 2009: Dating is fine sex is not!... (read in full...)
Is it illegal for a guy to meet a 16 year old on the internet for sex?
Q. Right I have been debating if I should ask this or not but its been doing my head in. I'm 26 and been talking to this woman on msn for about 3 months. We agreed since i was just out of a relationship that it would just be a bit of fun. Anyway ...
A. 19 May 2009: It's not illegal in the UK but could be seen as immoral but that is your choice.
Just make sure you practice safe sex, you don't want to be responsible for another teenage mum.... (read in full...)
He doesn't believe I was a virgin because I didn't bleed!
Q. Hi i am engaged and he took my virginity. i didnt bleed so now he thinks i wasnt a virgin and is getting upset. i think i tore it while stretchin one time and now what should i say/do? please? ...
A. 19 May 2009: He was so desperate to marry a virgin but takes your virginity before your wedding day (lots of respect for you there)? Tell him he is a massive hypocrite and that not all virgins bleed!
This guy is obviously an idiot, do you really want to ... (read in full...)
Fiancee says we are never going to have sex!
Q. Me and my fiancee have been together for about 7 months, and we love either other very much, but she told me that we are never going to have sex. I love her and i would never cheat on her. but it is getting to me. We used to fool around but lately ...
A. 18 May 2009: Did you get engaged to her thinking that she would have sex with you if you put a nice ring on her finger?... (read in full...)
Why do men masturbate when they have girlfriends?
Q. Why Do Men Masturbate When They Ave Girlfriends???? Plzzzzzzzzz Help My Bf Dose It N It Make Me Really Angry N We End Up Arguein About Itt!!! I Think It Rude N It Make Me Fill Like He Dosen't Love Me N That He Get More Pleasur Wen He Masturba...
A. 18 May 2009: Why do girls talk in text speak and use CAPITOL letters for every word?
Because that is just the way it is, we have to put up with your little faults, you have to put up with ours!... (read in full...)
How to make your breath not smell bad?
Q. Hey. I was wondering, is there any way other than breath mints, mouthwash, gum, and eating the right way to make you breath not smell bad? The mints I don't always have access to, and I don't have much control over what I eat. I don't have any ...
A. 18 May 2009: See a dentist, avoid smelly food and drink, don't smoke, brush you teeth and tongue, floss, and use mouth wash.
Chew gum after meals and before kissing! ... (read in full...)
Anyone have any information about cytomegalovirus?
Q. Hello!. well, I had a blood test just as my medical annual checking and i came positive for cytomegalovirus.. i have been reading some things and most are related to pregnancy.. so my question is, does anyone know what this is? cause i have ...
A. 18 May 2009: Anyone can catch it, but the effects are worse when pregnant... (read in full...)
My husband told me he's gay but he wants to be "ex-gay"
Q. My husband told me yesterday that he was gay. It wasn't a big announcement, he just said to me "I have something to tell you, it's important!" so I sat down and listened. He admitted he was gay, and said tearfully "I DON'T want to be this way! I ...
A. 18 May 2009: Ex-Gay? Now there's an interesting theory, unfortunately as you don't choose your sexuality (no matter what certain political and religious movements say) I can see a flaw in his plan!... (read in full...)
What's going on with him here?
Q. Ok, so, some background: me and my boyfriend have been together a year and a half. I was at his house this evening and for dinner we had burgers and salad [with onions]. Later on in the evening, we were sitting on his bed and, im not sure how it ...
A. 17 May 2009: He's being a teenager! That's what's going on!... (read in full...)
What can you all tell me... am I pregnant or not?
Q. I recently had a 3 day period, very light and more like spotting. 2 weeks later I'm having pain in my side, vomiting, sleepy a lot, I don't eat pickles or cereal, and now I can't stop eating ice or icys! I took a pregnancy test maybe a week ago ...
A. 17 May 2009: Sounds like you could be pregnant, not everyone gets all the symptoms. Go and see your doctor and get checked over!... (read in full...)
Medical records...
Q. Hi cupids, This is a medical question. I have recently had bowel problems which is leading towards surgery. The docs are asking if it could be herditary but none of my living relatives have had any of the same symptoms. My nan who died in 2004...
A. 17 May 2009: Medical records are kept on file for long periods of time, but if she died in 2004 I doubt they'll have been transferred onto the new NHS system.
Her doctor should still have access to her notes but I'm not sure on the legality of releasin... (read in full...)
Anyone have any information about cytomegalovirus?
Q. Hello!. well, I had a blood test just as my medical annual checking and i came positive for cytomegalovirus.. i have been reading some things and most are related to pregnancy.. so my question is, does anyone know what this is? cause i have ...
A. 17 May 2009: Try this site: http://www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/1108.aspx?CategoryID=54&SubCategoryID=137
This is something your doctor will have to explain to you fully, but that web page may give you some idea.... (read in full...)
Worried that he wont like me when he sees me
Q. ok so here it is. i am really nervous.. this boy (a friends, friend) and i have been talking on msn and he asked me out. ive said yes and we are going to meet in a weeks time. i have met him twice like with my friends always liked him but didnt kn...
A. 17 May 2009: He's met you before and still asked you out, I really wouldn't worry about it, first impressions stick so if there was anything he didn't like about you, he would have remembered and not asked you out.
So obviously you are better looking than you... (read in full...)
We had sex and now he wants to be "friends"...???
Q. my boyfriend and i had sex then he want us to be friends what does that mean...
A. 17 May 2009: He got what he wanted from you and now he wants to do the same to other girls!... (read in full...)
Boils - Do you have a remedy?
Q. Hello there! This is abit of an embaressing issue really. I get Boils on my bottom and i was wondering if anyone has any tips / remedies on how to get rid of them or reduce them because i have low self confidence because of it. Help please! Than...
A. 17 May 2009: Yeah see your doctor who can sort this out at the cause, but for now hot salty baths can help a little.... (read in full...)
Am I Pregnant or not?
Q. Right, so i've been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend for the past 5 weeks on and off. Stupid, i know, but we got lazy with the condoms and haven't been worrying about it. I have never skipped a period in my life and my period was due eight ...
A. 14 May 2009: I still think you should follow the nurses advice, but if it keeps coming up negative you could be that 0.01% or your not pregnant and all these symptoms are down to stress.
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Sleeping while partner has sex with me
Q. hi plz help, in a normal relationship is it right that u should wake up and find your partner has had or is having sex with you this has happend so many times. xxxxxx...
A. 13 May 2009: Unless you have told him you like to be woken up that way, what he is doing is technically rape.... (read in full...)
My girl wants to use a strap-on, on me
Q. My girl friend asked me if i would let her use a strap-on on me.i told her i would have to think about it and i just dont know what to tell her now.i dont know if that would make me gay...
A. 13 May 2009: I don't think it would make you gay as you still like girls not boys, you'd just be a straight guy who lets his girlfriend "bum" him.
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I'm oblivious to the study of law, yet I want in
Q. Hi, I wanna go into Law in the future. I was wondering if anyone knew what I would do if I had to defend someone who was guilty of domestic violence. Would I have to defend him if people knew he was guilty? Is it bad? Thanks...
A. 13 May 2009: Yes you would have to defend people who are guilty, and this is were you have to decide if it is worth the money or do you have morals?
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Said he'd text me but he hasn't yet
Q. Okay new boyfriend. It's been a week officially. We've been talking everyday since he got my number, but yesterday he REA llY dessapointed me. I have bipolar disorder and havent been taking my meds because i dont like the side effects, so maybe i'...
A. 13 May 2009: What you do is start taking your meds again, and tomorrow make an appointment to see your doctor who can prescribe you something that doesn't have the same side effects.... (read in full...)
Said he'd text me but he hasn't yet
Q. Okay new boyfriend. It's been a week officially. We've been talking everyday since he got my number, but yesterday he REA llY dessapointed me. I have bipolar disorder and havent been taking my meds because i dont like the side effects, so maybe i'...
A. 13 May 2009: No don't break up with him, you should take your medication then you will stop being so stressy and paranoid!... (read in full...)
We can't find the condom!
Q. hi, i had sex with my boyfriend last night, but we couldnt find the condom!! its literally gone n he cnt remeber if he took it off or not, wt shoud i do??? x...
A. 13 May 2009: Get to a Emergency Department right now, they will find it and give you emergency contraception and do STI checks etc.... (read in full...)
Broken up because of family/religion but I can't get over him!
Q. My case might be unique cause I am from a very conservative background. I am a very religious Hindu and i CANNOT go against my parents to marry a guy they disapprove of. But emotions took over me, and i fell in love for a Buddhist guy! He loves me ...
A. 13 May 2009: You are not alone or unique, this is one of the oldest problems in the book - Romeo and Juliet, not religions but the same basic story.
Don't let something as silly as religion stand in your way, so what if you believe in different things, ... (read in full...)
Am I Pregnant or not?
Q. Right, so i've been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend for the past 5 weeks on and off. Stupid, i know, but we got lazy with the condoms and haven't been worrying about it. I have never skipped a period in my life and my period was due eight ...
A. 13 May 2009: Maybe you should go to your Mum, she'll lecture you, but will also help you. ... (read in full...)
Am I Pregnant or not?
Q. Right, so i've been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend for the past 5 weeks on and off. Stupid, i know, but we got lazy with the condoms and haven't been worrying about it. I have never skipped a period in my life and my period was due eight ...
A. 12 May 2009: Follow the Nurses advice, I understand it's something your not good at, like the advise to use PROTECTION, but this may come as a surprise.... You DON'T always know best!... (read in full...)
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