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writes:Hi, I'm 16 years old. I have a bf, he is 12. Some people think that it's wrong because I'm 4 years older, but I don't care because we love each other very much but the problem is that my whole family don't like him, so I can't come home to him and he can't come home to me and I just can't take him home because we live very far apart.What can I do? My family thinks we not are in a relationship any more. Reply to this Question
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reader, HopelessRomantic2010  +, writes (16 May 2009):
Hii...I'm seventeen, and my boyfriend is fourteen. The 29th of this month will be our seven-month anniversary. We got together after knowing each other for about two months; he was thirteen, and I was going on sixteen at the time. It was rough at first--our moms were a little freaked (our dads were just kind of shrugging and being like, "At least they're not gay or dating someone of another race or anything like that.") Eventually, though, they warmed up to the idea. Now, it's not something they really think about. All we really did was get to know each other's mother (and now, by the way, they totally love us!!!) and show them that we really do care about each other and are serious about the relationship, even if the circumstances are a little unconventional. My suggestion to you is to do the same thing. Bring him to your parents, and let them go all third-degree on him. It's embarrassing, yes, but in the end, they will most likely wind up feeling more at ease if they really gets to know him and everything. Good luck...and feel free to message me anytime you want to talk.Best wishes, and God bless,~SarSar~
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reader, smartazngirl +, writes (15 May 2009):
 Because he's 12. He's still very immature. You gotta wait for him to mature and go through puberty.
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reader, sayitaintso  +, writes (3 May 2009):
being honest 12 is too young to be in a serious relationsip. no wonder your family is against him its because hes too young. that will raise everyones eyebrows sorry honey. but you can never be too young to love i know that for sure. but listen to the good advice and don't be too naive you need to focus on other things in your life as a normal teen.and not let this take up your time. you'll find out for yourself one day
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reader, Bubbles101  +, writes (28 April 2009):
I think you should talk to your family. Try telling them that you love him very much and you would really appreciate it if they aod support you. Just say that you can't help who you love.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (26 April 2009):
 I've been there, I've dated a guy 2.5 years younger than me. He was really immature and often let me down. It's also probably illegal for anyone his age to have sex, so think to yourself - it's either abstinence or suffer the consequences - which would you rather? If it's a long distance relationship, this can make things even more difficult. I would look for somebody else as this sounds like a recipe for disaster and sadness, and if he still loves you in four years, then great =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): You should wait for a few years before you have a relationship with him. He's a bit too young to know what love is. I know you won't like this, but I think you should stop seeing eachother and stay in contact until he's old enough to know what he's doing. Your parents should respect your relationships no matter what. They obviously don't like the idea of the age difference and probably his attitude. You should find someone your own age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): Yeah thats a tiny bit weird a 12 year old in love? He's like what still in junior high? You might need to talk to someone sweetheart you'll be grwon in 2 years if you're sixteen and he'll still be a 14year old child you can do serious jail time for that you know?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): Ask your parents to give him a chance.Maybe your parents are scared that your going to have sex and a result of this,is that it is illegal.Prove to them that you really both love each other and they will have to deal with it.good luck
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reader, andrew loves hali +, writes (26 April 2009):
 i agree with ArmyMedic that is kinda a weird age difference i mean hes 12 and your 16 its kinda weird.
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reader, Smulie +, writes (26 April 2009):
Smulie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit is not the age they do not like, but that is because they came to argue, it is a little complicated. but im a girl not a boy, I came to press male
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reader, say_anything +, writes (26 April 2009):
 that's an awfully big difference in ages considering you're in your teens. the difference between 16 and 12 is immense, not least because you're at the age of consent and he is not, so there's legal problems associated with your relationship as well as social and emotional ones.
i think your parents' dislike is probably based on this problem, and i think you need to think long and hard about whether continuing this relationship is a good idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): I think that since you are a sixteen year old guy and he's only twelve that they have a big issue because you are way older than him and i don't think that they will ever accept your relationship at this stage, as army medic says try find another guy closer to your age
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reader, Smulie +, writes (26 April 2009):
Smulie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionby mistake I came to cross the male and not the female, I am female. so now I've created a new user with the same question
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (26 April 2009):
 Maybe it would be easier if you found a boy closer to your age, at 16 you are an Adult, and he is still a child, so I understand why your parents don't like the idea of this relationship.
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