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writes:bit of an embarrassing issue but need some advice.Met a girl, went to have sex with her after I had been drinking and I couldnt get an erection. I was so embarrassed. We said that we'd have another go in the morning but I couldnt really sleep and when the morning came I was having a "play" to see if anything was happenning down there and it wasnt so I just avoided having sex.Im sure it was just brewers droop, but Im petrified now that it will happen again. Because Il be so worried next time im with her and il be thinkin about getting an erection so much that il have performance anxiety and not be able to perform again!Years ago when I first went to have sex with my ex, the same thing happened. We went home after a night out and I couldnt get it up. I was thinking about it so much the time after that it happened a few times again, but I might have been drinking those times aswel, but I cant really remember. Eventually I managed to get it up and I never had a problem ever again, even when I had been drinking? weird.After I broke up with her I had a one night stand and the same thing happened after drinking. Iv managed to get it up with other girls after this, both after drinking and wen not.I feel like history is repeating itself. I quite like this girl but I think im going to not meet her again just cos im so terrified it will happen again. If it did I would die!Any one had similar situations or advice they could give? Im quite surprised that she even does want2 meet again. My penis seemed to not only be unable to get erect but it even shrivled, which probably wasnt to impressive!lol
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (28 April 2009):
 Sweet thing is spot on with her answer here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): Ever read Shakespeare? There's a wonderful scene in Macbeth (Act 2, Scene 3) where he describes how alcohol increases the desire and reduces the ability.
Relax. Literally. It happens to every guy at one time or another.
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (28 April 2009):
 Two things you need to realize about your equipment.
1. Alchohol affects how it performs (or doesn't)
2. The more you worry and obsess, the more it goes into hiding.
RELAX. Think erotic thoughts when you want to be with someone and keep the negative FEARS out of your brain. You're really too young to be having problems with your willy, so you might talk to you doctor to make sure you don't have high blood pressure or some other treatable thing that sometimes can affect how it performs.
Sex needs to be focused on the external, not internal. Focus your thoughts on how her skin feels, how she smells, what types of sounds she's making when you're touching her. Also, if you put your mind into her orgasm, you'll be less likely to think about yours, and it will just happen like it's suppose to. I hope this helps you out....
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