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writes:I'm a 16 yr old boy and I do not have trouble getting/attractive women. not to toot my own horn ,but i am good looking. my problem is commitment to girls my age. i find myself "looking at the big picture" and think it's a waste of time because i'm not gonna have a serious relationship at this point in my life. i know its not about serious relationships at this point, but having sex instead. anyone have advice/methods........ or can you tell me a more positive way to think about this (female input suggested) anyone can answer. Reply to this Question
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (28 April 2009):
 You are totally right in not wanting to commit to anyone at your age - you are way too young to be thinking about settling down. And even if you meet girls that think they want to settle down already; they are just disillusioned and in love with the idea of being "in love".
I think you just need to stop worrying so much and enjoy yourself. You are only young once so just make the most of it and dont feel pressured into settling down - you have all the time in the world for that!
Just make sure you dont sleep around otherwise you will get a reputation and possibly some other unwanted side effects i.e. you run the risk of getting a girl pregnant or catching STI's! Make sure you use a condom at all times! And your major issue is going to be girls getting to attached to you - you need to make sure that no-one gets hurt in the process.
What you will find is that while you are wanting to play the field and have a bit of fun, girls will feel used if you just sleep with them and dont want anything more from them. So you have to be careful here to find a girl who is happy to remain casual with you otherwise you will end up hurting quite a few people!
I hope this helps!
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (28 April 2009):
 Just enjoy yourself, but don't hurt any girls in the process make sure they know that you are not looking for the one and make sure you always practice safe sex!
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reader, niki20 +, writes (28 April 2009):
 at your age commitment sucks. its normal.....unless it lastes a loooong time and you cant find yourself getting out of it. you can "see" women which is like dating but w/out the commitment. you can also just hang out and find yourself friends w/ benefits. other then that i am not sure how to go about it w/out commitment.....i hope i helped. goodluck
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