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I'm a sergeant in the British Army, so I deal with young people (mostly teens), who have all the usual dramas and long distance relationship issues.
My speciality is Medicine I've spent the last 12 years as an army medic, which means I have lots of experience in trauma (which isn't very helpful here), Sports therapy, travel medicine, and GU medicine (Sexual Health).
When I found out about this site, it seemed to be another way to help people out. But I am very straight talking, so please don't be too offended if you don't like my honest opinions.
If there is any advise you should take away from this site it is: Never do anything that you can't explain to a Paramedic and always practice safe sex. |
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| Latest articles: STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them?
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19 April 2009: STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them? An STI is a sexually transmitted infection this is the "in vogue" name for what used to be called an Sexually transmitted disease (STD) This can range from pubic lice to AIDS and Hepatitis with m...
Why don't boys reply to my texts?
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19 April 2009: Why don't boys reply to my texts? This is a commonly asked question at dear cupid and I understand it really isn't as important as a domestic violence question, but I feel it needs answering. Now this is just a personal opinion and if any guys ...
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Could be pregnant but can't afford a test
Q. I had sex with this boy two weeks ago and the condom was to big so the week after i had sex with a differant boy without protection he said he would stop before he came (i dont no wether he did) and this week i have had unprotected sex with a ...
A. 3 June 2009: You are still updating, but still haven't been to the doctor, we've tried to help but you are obviously an IDIOT, who doesn't listen to anyone and I truely hope you are not pregnant!... (read in full...)
Could be pregnant but can't afford a test
Q. I had sex with this boy two weeks ago and the condom was to big so the week after i had sex with a differant boy without protection he said he would stop before he came (i dont no wether he did) and this week i have had unprotected sex with a ...
A. 2 June 2009: GO AND SEE YOUR DOCTOR!
It's free! ... (read in full...)
If it hadn't been for the alcohol, it never would have happened!
Q. I am completely and utterly in love with my boyfriend of 1 and a half years who is also my best friend. Three nights ago however, I got very, very drunk on a night out with a friend, so drunk that I can't remember the majority (apart from little f...
A. 2 June 2009: To female anon, if you think I was heavy handed with this post, you should read some of my other answers!... (read in full...)
I really want a baby!
Q. Im thirteen and i want a baby but dont want to have sex, what should i do ?...
A. 1 June 2009: I have to disagree with SirenaBlusera getting a puppy is a very bad idea, I honestly don't think at 13 you would honestly care for a dog, because you have school, a social life and the attention span of goldfish.
Honestly I know my early advice w... (read in full...)
If it hadn't been for the alcohol, it never would have happened!
Q. I am completely and utterly in love with my boyfriend of 1 and a half years who is also my best friend. Three nights ago however, I got very, very drunk on a night out with a friend, so drunk that I can't remember the majority (apart from little f...
A. 1 June 2009: Alcohol doesn't make you cheat, it just makes it easier to cheat! Therefore you probably would have done this sooner or later and you are likely to do it again.
You need to look at yourself and the real reasons why you chose to kiss this other gu... (read in full...)
Sleep paralysis?
Q. Anybody heard about sleep paralysis? I had one once ,and I can't escapefrom the thought ,that I saw a demon that night ,who wanted to take me. The presence was so clear, and the moving body, coming close to me. I heard many people have the same exp...
A. 1 June 2009: This is not really a relationship question, why not try speaking to a doctor or a paranormal activity forum.... (read in full...)
I was treated unfairly by the police!
Q. Hey this isnt a relationship question sorry. Right i went to a huge birthday party on the eighth of may and there was sixty odd people there, most of them either 16 or 17 and one 18 year old. (my mum bought my alcohol as im not eighteen for a...
A. 31 May 2009: We are so stupid, that we ask a DATING ADVISE site if if we should make an official complaint to the police, when we have obviously broken the law....
Oh NO wait a minute, that was you, but thanks for putting your case across!
When you can ... (read in full...)
Shoud I ask him out or something?
Q. Ok so here it is.. I am 13 ( i know it sounds too young but its not to me) i really like this guy and it is not just a stupid crush. When i am around him i feel happier and safe. He always sticks up for me and stuff, but he is just a new frien...
A. 31 May 2009: Yes ask him out!... (read in full...)
He promised to quit smoking but its been 9 months..how can I not hate it!
Q. well here's the story.. i met him as a smoker.. i did not want to date him because of that but he insisted and insisted and insisted promising that he will quit if i gave him a chance..but he have been together now for 9 months now and he still ...
A. 31 May 2009: I used to smoke, and I tried everything to quit, and failed with everything there was on the market, not because they don't work but because I didn't really want to give up.
But then I met someone very special who hated smoking and I made the prom... (read in full...)
Could be pregnant but can't afford a test
Q. I had sex with this boy two weeks ago and the condom was to big so the week after i had sex with a differant boy without protection he said he would stop before he came (i dont no wether he did) and this week i have had unprotected sex with a ...
A. 31 May 2009: Ask your DOCTOR!!!... (read in full...)
Does this mean that I am pregnant?
Q. what are the early signs of pregnancy? i felt very sick and run down a few hours after i had sex and went to be sick a few times but nothing came up. i also had stomach cramps a day later. does this mean that i am pregnant?...
A. 31 May 2009: These signs are far too early for pregnancy, but if you had unprotected sex in the past 72 hours (3 days) you can get the morning after pill. If it has been over 72 hours since unprotected sex, go and see you doctor to find out what your options ... (read in full...)
Lied about my age, will he still love me?
Q. Hi, i met my boyfriend online 2 months ago. We got chatting and really hit it off, met a couple days later and we got along so well and fell for each other so bad that i didnt end up leaving and so now ive moved in with him. We've already been thr...
A. 31 May 2009: I had an ex who did that to me, please notice I say ex! If you can lie about your age, what else can you lie about?
Come clean to him before he finds out for himself or buys you driving lessons, or wants to go on holiday and sees your passport... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for your boyfriend to stay at another girl's house with his "brother"?
Q. Is it wrong for your boyfriend to stay at another girls house with his "brother" after a night out on the town?...
A. 31 May 2009: What do you mean by "Brother"? Do you mean his male sibling of blood relation or a mate he hangs out with and local slang makes him his brother? Why did you write Brother in quotation marks? I'm confused!
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Engaged but, he doesn't work, smokes weed all the time, plays video games and I'm tired, any suggestions?
Q. i dont know what to do thats y im asking for help. i been with my boyfriend/fiancee for 2 yrs, the reason y i put the slash fiancee is cause im engaged to him but i feel like our relationship is going no where, im 24 he is 25 he has a daughter from ...
A. 31 May 2009: Dump him and sell the ring and PS3 to buy something nice for the kids!... (read in full...)
Could be pregnant but can't afford a test
Q. I had sex with this boy two weeks ago and the condom was to big so the week after i had sex with a differant boy without protection he said he would stop before he came (i dont no wether he did) and this week i have had unprotected sex with a ...
A. 31 May 2009: You are a very silly girl indeed! If you don't understand about condoms and contraception you really should not be sleeping around!
As for not being able to afford a test go to your doctor and he will do a test for free and also give you your opi... (read in full...)
I really want a baby!
Q. Im thirteen and i want a baby but dont want to have sex, what should i do ?...
A. 30 May 2009: Buy a doll!... (read in full...)
I was treated unfairly by the police!
Q. Hey this isnt a relationship question sorry. Right i went to a huge birthday party on the eighth of may and there was sixty odd people there, most of them either 16 or 17 and one 18 year old. (my mum bought my alcohol as im not eighteen for a...
A. 28 May 2009: Yes send a letter to the police complaints commission, I'm sure dealing with a letter from an angry underage drinker is something they will take seriously, but remember they are busy looking into the Charles De Menzies and other high profile cases ... (read in full...)
Is calling out because of an emergency a good reason to terminate me?
Q. this question i have has to do with work, i was put on a final write up because of my attendance so one of the managers from my job put me on the final write up and told me if i call out one more time im terminated so i ask her what if i have an ...
A. 28 May 2009: This is going to sound very harsh:
Why should they employ you if you keep failing to attend you are wasting the companies time and money, you have had warnings, so you could have made some kind of other arrangements.
If I was your boss I woul... (read in full...)
Could having an orgasm help my period start?
Q. Hi, im 14 and havent had my period yet! idk if theres something wrong with me but all my friends have it. Im not under developed. Ok but i was wondering if maybe an ogasm could have had an effect on me getting my period or not?? i need answers! ...
A. 28 May 2009: Having an orgasm will not make any difference.... (read in full...)
Diet & exercise tips for 6 pack abs?
Q. Ok, im 14 and can not find anything that sounds convincing or is true on building ab muscle. I want to get a 6pack (not to big, just a nice mild look on the skin cerface). I heard that a good diet helps.. can somebody please share any d...
A. 28 May 2009: If you eat what you describe there you will not have enough protein to build the muscles you need for a 6 pack. Eat plenty of varied healthy food and if you want to get a good physique check out this link: http://www.armyfit.mod.uk/
You need to ... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. He is my first boyfriend. I am also a virgin. So I've always said I would not have sex until I was married. But more and more, it's getting harder between my boyfriend and I. Today, we were ...
A. 28 May 2009: No you are no longer a virgin!... (read in full...)
Is it innapropriate?
Q. Dear Cupid, is it inappropriate/creepy for me, 20, telling a 14 year old girl (albeit mature), that i think she's beautiful and if i were younger, i would ask her out? opinions to be appreciated...
A. 28 May 2009: It's a little creepy to be honest!... (read in full...)
I gave my professor roses and now she calls me pumpkin, does she like me?
Q. I have given this lady professors some roses...dont get it wrong im a female myself and that makes me not straight...let me just get to the point she knows i like and want her to be my girl...she also accepted the roses...told me i should have ...
A. 27 May 2009: She may have something for you... Unless you are round and orange in which case you actually are a pumpkin!... (read in full...)
16 and erectile dysfunction?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for eight months now, and for five of those months we've been sleeping together. I love him more than anything and he loves me too. I know he does. He never fails to show it and he does so many things for me. We are both ...
A. 27 May 2009: Firstly there are latex free condoms available, so can I suggest using them.
Secondly if you are both 16-18 then I think you will both be going through exams or job seeking at the moment, this is a very stressful period of your lives and one of t... (read in full...)
I have never loved my husband, and although he tries really hard, I never will. Should I divorce him?
Q. Hi. i'm 30 years old. I've been with my husband since I was 20. When I met him I was fresh out of a relationship and wasn't really looking to get into anything new. However I met him and he was different than anyone I had ever dated..sweet, ...
A. 26 May 2009: Wow, you are possibly the most selfish person in the world! You have tortured this guy for the past 10 years and now you are contemplating not divorcing him?
Do please divorce him so he can find a nice lady before he gets too old and bitter h... (read in full...)
How long does it take for a vasectomy to kick in?
Q. Does anyone know how long after a vasectomy is a man truly infertile?...
A. 26 May 2009: After you have had the snip you get asked to return to give a sample after 2 weeks, once this has come back clear you are officially infertile.
If you have sex before then you should still use the appropriate protection and remember you are stil... (read in full...)
Can I be pregnant.... I gave him a hand job and he fingered me...
Q. ok so ... i gave a guy a hand job and he cummed on my hands .. so i wiped then off .. and he put his penis back in his pants . he could have got a lil on his hands.. but they were dry and so he fingered me he didnt stick his finger in me .. he just ...
A. 26 May 2009: Yes there is a chance of pregnancy! If his penis is not in his pants it should have a condom on, unless he has gone for a wee!... (read in full...)
Possible miscarriage? Brown slimey stuff!
Q. please help! i finished my period last week. A couple days later i started to discharge dark brown slimy stuff. I dont know what it is. I just keeps coming out and i dont know if it is a possible miscarriage or what?? someone please help MOD NO...
A. 26 May 2009: The dangers of unprotected sex in a hot tub(or anywhere else) are; STIs, Pregnancy, ectopic pregnancy and death caused by internal bleeding!
Oh and the brown slimy stuff could be the signs of an abortion or ectopic pregnancy! Go to the ER/ED ri... (read in full...)
Does a towel work as a contraceptive?
Q. Me and this guy hooked up wich was a total mistake, but i was wondering if you can get pregnant if he pulls out and cums and then after uses a towel continue having sex....
A. 26 May 2009: You really should not be having sex if you don't understand the basics!
You could be pregnant or have an STD! Go to a doctor and get checked for both and while you are there ask him for some sex education!... (read in full...)
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you have never met?
Q. is it possible to fall in love with someone u have never met but just spoken on the phone constantly probably a year ...
A. 26 May 2009: NO! You are just in love with the idea and imagination of being in love! ... (read in full...)
I think about him day and night!
Q. hello, i have a crush on a boy who is the same age as me apart from his 15 already and am 14 and half. i cant stop thinking of him day and night, he has diabetes and i sometimes care about him. so can you give advise, please....
A. 26 May 2009: Don't give him chocolate or sweet drinks.... (read in full...)
Hand-job Disaster
Q. Okay sooooo my 1st bf and i (i'm his 1st gf too) very recently just experimented by taking things to 3rd base..i did the basing. to be precise, i gave him a hand job, a pretty weak one seeing as i had no clue what i was really doing. but it did do ...
A. 26 May 2009: To ilovsox, you are using the wrong condoms if it is affecting the sensation. but I'm guessing buy your profile name that a Tube sock provides the sensation you require! ;p... (read in full...)
My mum thinks my boyfriend is abusive but I want to move closer to him
Q. okay my family LOVED my boyfriend up until we had a massive argument and I told my mum everything that he's done (he's not done anything abusive, but he does small things like reads my texts, hacks my email, reads my msn history, doesn't let me talk ...
A. 26 May 2009: I think your mum is right here, she has experienced what you are going through and can see the signs that your boyfriend has the potential to be a psycho!... (read in full...)
She wants to be single! I want her to realize she wants me!
Q. I was with this girl for 7 months and we had been discussing marriage. All of the sudden she changes and blows me off for about a week. Next thing I know she says she likes another guy she has hung out with like 3 times but never done anything with. ...
A. 26 May 2009: Give her time and space, if she does want you deep down suffocating her isn't going to help you win her back. Girls want what they can't have, so go out and enjoy yourself let her live without you talking about settling down and having kids!
... (read in full...)
18 year old girl sending me provocative texts...should I take her up on her offers?
Q. I'm currently 25yo but i've got an 18yo girl proposing all sorts of dirty things to me via text message. I've never even met her but she got my number after i allowed a friend who had no phone cred to use my phone to text her. Would it be wrong of ...
A. 26 May 2009: Is it definitely a girl, and not some guy taking the piss?
Go for it, be safe, but just think how many other guys she may be playing the same game with.... (read in full...)
Date will be without alcohol this time and I'm nervous!
Q. I have a date tonight with a man ive seen 3 times but each time we was drunk and was out partying...tonight have to meet him from work with no alcohol....im so scared he will take one look at me and be like yuck....im so nervous to the point my ...
A. 26 May 2009: Unfortunately this is something that everyone has to deal with and it is scary, but what you don't realise is he is thinking the same thing as you!
Don't worry meet him have fun and get to know him while you are both sober, you never know he might... (read in full...)
What is an STD?
Q. What is mean STD? yaar, Is it releted to pregnency or unsafe sex? pls tell me yaar what is meaning of STD and how it happends? ...
A. 26 May 2009: Read the link that heretohelp posted. It's very well written and will give you all the advise you need.... (read in full...)
Why do men want sex from their girlfriend?
Q. Why men in love want to have sex with their woman? My boyfriend keeps telling that he really wants to make love to me. And that he misses me when we are not together...Its not that he pressures me to have sex with me but he keeps mentioning about ...
A. 26 May 2009: Hormones! we are all cavemen, and all we want to do as teenage boys is reproduce with as many people as possible to spread his genetic line.
Unfortunately he won't understand why he gets these urges it just happens, it's like why do you need to ... (read in full...)
Handsome boyfriend and lustfull female colleagues!
Q. Hi guys, this happened at the weekend and I just want your thoughts. My bf and I went to his works do at the weekend and there were five women there that he works with. One of the lady managers had gotten quite drunk and every time she talked with ...
A. 26 May 2009: Just ask him how work is on occasions and if he mentions that these girls are being a bit forward or if they behave in the same way around you again, you could suggest that he could make an official complaint.
Unfortunately a man making a sexual h... (read in full...)
Any advice on allergies?
Q. This is a health question not a relationship question. I went to the doctor because I thought I had ear infections and tonsillitis, which I didn't I got diagnosed with hay fever or really really bad allergies that cause liquid behind my ears a...
A. 26 May 2009: I'm sorry I keep forgetting that you Americans have to take health insurance into consideration.
Can you not just ask for advise from your local drug store or would they charge you for that too?... (read in full...)
I beat up my wife now she's asked for a divorce..I want her back!
Q. i beat up my wife and was arrested she has now gone back to her parents with our 2 children i am going to seak help tomorrow at the doctors for anger managment but how can i win her back as she has asked for a divorce? i love her oh so much and...
A. 25 May 2009: I really hope this is a fake post, but if it isn't I really hope she has the strength to NEVER see you again and keep your kids away from you!... (read in full...)
What are the laws in the united kingdom for a 16 year old whose living with a friend who works getting job seekers allowance?
Q. This isn't really a relationship question but what are the laws in the united kingdom for a 16 year old whose living with a friend who works getting job seekers allowance? I've tried googling it but its all jibberish and doesnt mean much lol! ...
A. 25 May 2009: Go to the Job Centre and they will tell you what the law and rules are.... (read in full...)
Accidently hit ny girlfriend in the face, what can I do to make up for that?
Q. Hey. My alarm didn't go off, and i missed my girlfriend. She waited for me for a long time... not something that was fun for her. after that, I accidentally hit her in the face... ouch... oops... I want to make up for it somehow, but I'm kind of ...
A. 25 May 2009: Lot's of grovelling, flowers, her favourite chocolate and a meal at a restaurant of her choice!
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Former teacher student relationship possible?
Q. This is about my teacher.. I need help :( I am 16, 17 in September and I have finished school and I am halfway through my GCSE's. I had a few issues with one of my ex-teachers; as I am not coming back to my old school next year, she is n...
A. 25 May 2009: You've already almost fucked up her career, why are you so dead set on spoiling her whole life because you have a silly crush!
Leave her alone, only time away from her will heal your "broken heart"... (read in full...)
Hand-job Disaster
Q. Okay sooooo my 1st bf and i (i'm his 1st gf too) very recently just experimented by taking things to 3rd base..i did the basing. to be precise, i gave him a hand job, a pretty weak one seeing as i had no clue what i was really doing. but it did do ...
A. 24 May 2009: Use a condom then all the mess is contained!... (read in full...)
Any advice on allergies?
Q. This is a health question not a relationship question. I went to the doctor because I thought I had ear infections and tonsillitis, which I didn't I got diagnosed with hay fever or really really bad allergies that cause liquid behind my ears a...
A. 21 May 2009: Here's a CRAZY idea; look at the packet on your medication, it will give advise on it if you are having side effects, it will probably say something along the lines of: Stop taking the medication and seek medical advice.
So do that, seek medical ... (read in full...)
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