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writes: My best friends have a problem. I know I should support them but I just can't... they have tried to stop it... but it kicks her in the ass because they want it more after they quit. I swear I'm not doing that little game where the friends I talk of is myself because they all do it.I hate it and know what it does so I won't give in this time.SMOKING.How do I make it clear to them to stop? I know all the people are doing it... but i hate it.
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reader, baby duck  + ♥, writes (26 March 2008):
 I used to smoke. I quit many times. When I finally quit for good it was because I finally wanted to quit, even more than I wanted to smoke.
Be careful of your tone with your friends. Your heart is in the right place, but your delivery could do more harm than good. I know that when well-intentioned people would tell me, "I quit and you can, too!" my response was usually a very dry, "Yeah? And you can mind your own business!"
You don't have to tolerate the smoke. It stinks. It makes breathing difficult. Put distance between you and them when they're doing it. Just keep in mind that we all have flaws ... no one is perfect.
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reader, Dazzerg  + ♥, writes (26 March 2008):
 I am a smoker too and Abac has got it totally right. We all know its harmful (but then again so is something like drinking) but nicotine is addictive and the fact is it does work; it does reduce your stress levels. If that is the reason your friend is smoking then I think you need to help any stress they maybe under, she also has to want to quit for herself and might not respond well to pressure although you do mean well. Good luck :)
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reader, Uncle_Phil +, writes (26 March 2008):
 I didn't know you cared!
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reader, Abacadaba +, writes (26 March 2008):
 Im a smoker, ive tried before and it is hard, temptaion is a harsh mistress, especially with something so available. Its one of those things where pretty much the only way youll quit is if you yourself wants to quit. Trying to make your friends quit proberly wont do alot im afraid, if you dont like it, ask them not to smoke around you, easiest way.
Also,Uncle_Phil, xoxo = kiss hug kiss hug :P
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reader, Uncle_Phil +, writes (26 March 2008):
You just worry about yourself love - you're the most important one to you.
They're not going to stop unless they want to, and that's that I'm afraid
BTW - did you know that OXO is a beef stock cube?
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