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How do I avoid losing my friend?

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Question - (26 October 2007) 4 Answers - (Newest, 27 October 2007)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

okay well i have a little problem atm. Im 17 and theres this girl 15 lets call her lucy, who i have known all my life. we have always been so close, and she comes to me when she has a problem and she can also keep me smiling even when im down. and no shes not my girlfriend, she is lets say a best friend.

she has always been a very affectionate person and loves her cuddles up on the sofa, hugs and small kisses, and i have to say so do i.

But the problem is i now have a girlfriend, and i think we both agreed we should seperate a bit, and she has certainly drawn away from me alot. I know i have a girlfriend now and we have a great realationship, but i miss my speical time with lucy, i have tryed to show her nothing has changed. and tryed to cuddle up to her but she just draws away from me, its now driving me insane and i really dont want to loose her.

please help, any advice would be much appriceated.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2007):

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I do want her around, and i still love her to peices. but she more like my little sister than a gf, and i still do love my gf but lucy is special. im so confued !

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A female reader, baybee-x-sparkii United Kingdom +, writes (26 October 2007):

baybee-x-sparkii agony auntno offence but i think lucy is the one you really want, it seems that way from what you have written. try explaining to lucy that u still want her around adn you like the affectionate side that she brings.

hope this helps

sparkii x

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A female reader, need help here i am United Kingdom +, writes (26 October 2007):

dont let lucy get to you if you have a wonderfull relationship with this other girl then stay with her love is riht infront of you just focus on your girlfriend and have a happy time with her youve allready had your time with lucy now its this lucky girls turn leave lucy and dont do anything youll regret

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A male reader, Abacadaba United Kingdom +, writes (26 October 2007):

Abacadaba agony auntThese things happen. Especially if you have a cuddly relationship, the fact is 'Lucy' proberly feels that she isnt your special girl anymore, that your girlfriend is, which is true. But the fact is you can still be best friends but i dont think by the sounds of it Lucy wants to be cuddly anymore, and to be honest i dont think your girlfriend would apretiate it either. Still spend time with Lucy, but you gotta realise you might not be able to do the cuddle thing all the time anymore, because it seems alot more intimate etc. I wouldnt worry about it, your not gonna lose her as your best friend, just old habbits might have to be lost, but the friendship will still be there.

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