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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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Can't deal with your lover's sexual past? Why not leave her / him if they have different morals to you?
Q. Hi guys AND girls, I've read a lot on DC about retroactive jealousy, or "his / her sexual past", and people having problems with it. Some very smart people here have made some very good suggestions on how to deal with it. The thing is, that i...
A. 12 April 2012: How in the world is the OCD/irrational behavior associated with RJ a male trait?
what trait are you trying to associate it with and make it a positive?
how in the world is RJ about effective reproduction.
IF RJ was a male trait then wouldn... (read in full...)
Why does he press on my bladder area during foreplay?
Q. Hi, My new partner likes to press down on my bladder area just above the bikini line during foreplay but this really makes me want to pee. Is there any reason why a man would like to do this? I'm so worried I will eventually pee on him but I als...
A. 11 April 2012: well in that case dear, I suggest you ask HIM why
I know that sometimes when men (and it's not just one or two who I have had it happen with) would insert their fingers into my vagina... the would use their THUMB in the crease of my leg (where t... (read in full...)
Can't deal with your lover's sexual past? Why not leave her / him if they have different morals to you?
Q. Hi guys AND girls, I've read a lot on DC about retroactive jealousy, or "his / her sexual past", and people having problems with it. Some very smart people here have made some very good suggestions on how to deal with it. The thing is, that i...
A. 11 April 2012: Cerberus,
With all due respect (and trust me sir I have a GREAT deal of respect for you and your wise words) I had NEVER heard of or dealt with RJ until DC. I have a degree in Psych and it was never a topic of discussion in my studies… Perh... (read in full...)
I'm 21 and I think sex is boring. I astound the guys I date! Is there a problem?
Q. I'm 21 and I have very little sexual experience. I've been to third base a couple of times, but I usually end it quickly because I'm not comfortable or I think it's boring. I do fantasize and play with myself occasionally, but almost never with ...
A. 11 April 2012: Being afraid of the pain is NORMAL…. Truthfully it never hurt me… and I was 14 when I lost it… (way too young I know now)….
Why do you equate feeling wet during sex with being dirty???
... (read in full...)
I don't know what he meant!
Q. I have been seeing this man for about a year now. The other night he made a comment/question that I'm a little confused about. This is what he said " if you have so many options then what are you doing here with me?". I was not sure how to answer ...
A. 11 April 2012: Did you ASK HIM?... (read in full...)
Can't deal with your lover's sexual past? Why not leave her / him if they have different morals to you?
Q. Hi guys AND girls, I've read a lot on DC about retroactive jealousy, or "his / her sexual past", and people having problems with it. Some very smart people here have made some very good suggestions on how to deal with it. The thing is, that i...
A. 11 April 2012: "Unfortunately we now live in a society with loose morals, it's called having sexual freedom."
I think you mis-spoke.
"Unfortunately we now live in a society with loose morals for everyone NOT JUST MEN, it's called having sexual freedom. ... (read in full...)
How do you end things when the other person is ignoring you?
Q. Last August my boyfriend of 5 years just uppin left me .. 3 days later I got a text message saying he was moving out and we were done. Then 3 days after that he was seen with a new girl at work. That ended about a month later. And we started talking ...
A. 10 April 2012: Yay OP! congrats to you!... (read in full...)
Is it just sex or more?
Q. i have been having sex with a guy for about 2yrs now.. in the begining he and i was jst hooking up... 2yrs later... i am soo much in love... i dont think he feels the same way. he probably likes me... or does he jst like having sex with me. he ...
A. 10 April 2012: You keep saying “I didn’t place any blame on him” WHY OP is this so important to you?
Very bad timing? Easy… it means he doesn’t want to be told he can’t get laid any more…
it doesn't matter what he meant by it to be honest.
he wants to... (read in full...)
I ended it, and then I said I didn't want to lose him and he said you already have!
Q. On friday night i ended things with the guy i was seeing for 2months. He said he was sure he was ready for a relationship and i wasn't prepared to wait around. At the time i told him i couldn't be friends as i would be upset when he started seeing ...
A. 10 April 2012: yeah watch people... go to museums... sit in outdoor cafes sipping coffee and smiling at babies...
ENJOY your holiday... it's not much of a holiday if you drag home with you now is it?... (read in full...)
I ended it, and then I said I didn't want to lose him and he said you already have!
Q. On friday night i ended things with the guy i was seeing for 2months. He said he was sure he was ready for a relationship and i wasn't prepared to wait around. At the time i told him i couldn't be friends as i would be upset when he started seeing ...
A. 10 April 2012: if he poked you on facebook all day it's because YOU POKED HIM BACK.
sadly it means nothing
I would ignore it.... (read in full...)
Am I being petty over my husband's friend?
Q. Hello! So my husband and I were separated for three months and have decided to work things out. While we were separated he was seeing a lady who works in his building. They would go out and hang out and what not. I don't have a problem with tha...
A. 9 April 2012: I agree do you KNOW for a FACT that your husband told her not to contact him or did he just tell her that you were going to get back together and work on your marriage…. Two VERY different things.
Sounds to me like he didn’t want to give up his f... (read in full...)
My Husband Seems to Prioritise Cats Over Baby Daughter
Q. My husband and I have a 3mo old daughter. The other day I mentioned it was time to start thinking of what methods we needed to use to childproof the house in the near future. I said I would like to move all the cats' litter boxes upstairs cos if B...
A. 9 April 2012: My father had Cat Scratch Fever.
I had a child bitten by a dog once. I put the dog down the next day. I get your feelings.
A bedroom is an odd place for a litter box.
my cats were given one of the extra bathrooms... and cat doo... (read in full...)
Why does sex hurt when he's on top?
Q. I lost my virginity recently and i have had sex twice with me on top.It didnt hurt then but yesterday i tried to have sex with my boyfriend on top and it hurt a lot!.Why did that happen and how can we make it comfortable with him on top?...
A. 9 April 2012: well it depends on what hurt...
and why...
are you wet enough?
are you angled properly so he can penetrate properly?... (read in full...)
I'm insecure because I'm not the hot blonde but a short Asian!
Q. So lately alot of people have been saying im pretty or beautiful. But i just pass it off thinking theyre just saying that because they feel bad for me, theyre my friends, or theyre my family. Whenever i look in the mirror at myself i dont see the ...
A. 9 April 2012: Well dear I can tell you point blank that my fiance DROOLS puddles for tiny Asian ladies... they are his preferred female.... I am neither... and yet he's with me.
so the point is this:
1. many men find tiny women attractive
2. many men ... (read in full...)
I think I smothered her. How do I get her back?
Q. i'm really into this girl. she's recently had a rough break up (was abused), but i didn't know anything about that before i met her a couple of months ago. we flirted on fb quite a bit, now i feel like i've smothered her (she barely responds). how ...
A. 9 April 2012: she just recently had a bad breakup... she's probably not ready to date yet...
do you live close by
do you want to be a friend or more?
because if you want MORE you need to let her heal.... (read in full...)
His female friend is really nasty to me since our breakup!
Q. My ex and I had a bad breakup and I know I hurt him. One of his buddies must have asked him about the breakup and he vented to her. Now she is going around trash talking me and has said some really mean things about me even to my face. I've tried to ...
A. 9 April 2012: Ignore all of them. there is nothing you can do.
living well is the best revenge... although it upsets you you can't let them know... put yourself above all of it.
trash talking the ex is part and parcel of dating and breaking up...
... (read in full...)
I don't know what he meant!
Q. I have been seeing this man for about a year now. The other night he made a comment/question that I'm a little confused about. This is what he said " if you have so many options then what are you doing here with me?". I was not sure how to answer ...
A. 9 April 2012: why didn't you ask him what he meant by the statement?... (read in full...)
An old friend kissed me on the lips!
Q. I am in a commited relationship to my boyfriend of almost a year now. I would never even think or barely look at another man. I went to a party and an old friend of mine whom i hadnt seen in a few years, who was really drunk at the time i arrived, ...
A. 9 April 2012: it's a meaningless kiss i'm sure.
My dad kisses me on the lips it means nothing....
... (read in full...)
My biological clock is ticking, and he just rolls his eyes!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. From the start he knew i wanted marriage and children some day. He also told me he wanted those things. Over time, this has gone to, wanting it, not wanting it, not sure, wanting it. He has also ...
A. 9 April 2012: oh and If most of us waited till we were financially ready to have kids... there would be a lot fewer kids in this world.
sometimes getting married and having kids is a bit of a leap of faith...... (read in full...)
I ended it, and then I said I didn't want to lose him and he said you already have!
Q. On friday night i ended things with the guy i was seeing for 2months. He said he was sure he was ready for a relationship and i wasn't prepared to wait around. At the time i told him i couldn't be friends as i would be upset when he started seeing ...
A. 9 April 2012: Let him go.
You want him as more than a friend and he's not ready to be more than a friend... you are holding on to a dream
I don't believe we can truly be friends with ex partners.
FriendLY yes.
Civil YES
truly be friends... so ra... (read in full...)
I feel I'm wasting my time telling him the good stuff!
Q. Hi,I would like some advice on how to really convince someone that they mean a great deal to you.everyday i don't see my guy i always tell him how much i miss him and his cuddles and kisses but he never believes me,he is always saying i just say ...
A. 9 April 2012: sounds like he has low self-esteem and can't believe how lucky he is to have a person like you...
there is not much you can do.
I'd say nothing.
I'd also consider if you want to spend your entire life stroking a fragile ego........ (read in full...)
Should I have some sexual fun before I settle into marriage?
Q. Hi everyone, Better go though me situation a bit. I'm in a 2.5 year long distance relationship. Been through good time and hard time. We meet every 4-5 months and make it a trip to somewhere away from home. We last met three months ago and g...
A. 9 April 2012: how in the world can you speak of marrying a man which is done for love in one breath and talk about having sex with someone else in another?
if it's just about sex... masturbate.... (read in full...)
He gets defensive when I mention his changed behaviour
Q. hi my partner is been slightly distant with me, its only been recent. but he hass his phone 24/7, when he has no credit he is fine, but when he does have credit he takes his phone everywhere and takes forever in the toilet. he cant get on the ...
A. 9 April 2012: so you believe him to be cheating?
and you are pregnant with his child?
what advice would you like?
you give us the info and say Please help...
do you want us to help you cope with his behavior?
do you want us to help you figure... (read in full...)
He comes to my place, eats, uses utilities but says I am ungrateful for not paying when we go out!
Q. My boyfriend stays over at my house over the weekend. I recently found out that he thinks i am being ungrateful because he pays for dinner and i dont offer any money to put to it. This is because he tells me it is on him or he'll buy dinner. Money ...
A. 9 April 2012: so he comes and uses your electricity and gas and water and space every weekend and 2/3 of the time you pay for the food you spend the time to cook and clean up right?
and then 1/3 of the time he wants you to help pay for the meal too?
he's wr... (read in full...)
Am I being petty over my husband's friend?
Q. Hello! So my husband and I were separated for three months and have decided to work things out. While we were separated he was seeing a lady who works in his building. They would go out and hang out and what not. I don't have a problem with tha...
A. 9 April 2012: Well
1. it's not your place to talk to her pastor
2. she's not a whore
3. you had no right to curse her out
You asked him to stop seeing her. HE TOLD Her you are back together and she is trying to embrace YOU as a friend as well as keep ... (read in full...)
My biological clock is ticking, and he just rolls his eyes!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. From the start he knew i wanted marriage and children some day. He also told me he wanted those things. Over time, this has gone to, wanting it, not wanting it, not sure, wanting it. He has also ...
A. 9 April 2012: I agree... the time has come.
if he keeps putting you off you have no choice but to
a. accept him on his terms now and figure that there are no children in your future with this man
or
b. leave him and find a man who wants what you wa... (read in full...)
He's controlling! Should I end things, and if so, how?
Q. I've married for 20 years with an adult daughter. My husband is controlling and I finally have the courage to end my unhappy marriage. Then I met this man 16 years older than me. He is helpful and supportive throughout my divorce. Two years on I ...
A. 9 April 2012: I'm confused
are you divorced now and living with this other man?
or are you still married? and having a bit on the side?
or are you in your own place and this new guy is your bf and it's not good.
if you are in your own place then... (read in full...)
Can't deal with your lover's sexual past? Why not leave her / him if they have different morals to you?
Q. Hi guys AND girls, I've read a lot on DC about retroactive jealousy, or "his / her sexual past", and people having problems with it. Some very smart people here have made some very good suggestions on how to deal with it. The thing is, that i...
A. 9 April 2012: why not just ask women if they are virgins before you date them
tell them that if they LIE to you that the BREAKUP will be painful and ugly as your ego can't cope with the fact that they might have had a life prior to you, so it's better to be tr... (read in full...)
He doesn't want me for anything other than sex. How do I end things gently?
Q. Hi everyone I really need help with this situation I have been sleeping with a man for over a year now I really like him he told me we were just taking things slowly but now I finally aksed him what was going on with us he said it is just sex so I ...
A. 9 April 2012: I too don't see any need to be gentle. I don't get this need to be FRIENDS with an ex... friendly terms sure... but NOT friends...
it's over
block his info and move on.... (read in full...)
My Husband Seems to Prioritise Cats Over Baby Daughter
Q. My husband and I have a 3mo old daughter. The other day I mentioned it was time to start thinking of what methods we needed to use to childproof the house in the near future. I said I would like to move all the cats' litter boxes upstairs cos if B...
A. 9 April 2012: put low climbable gates around the litter boxes... that the cats can get to but the child will be thwarted by...
(works for Xmas trees as well)....
teach her no for those things that are not safe... but moving the litter box is not good for ... (read in full...)
How do you end things when the other person is ignoring you?
Q. Last August my boyfriend of 5 years just uppin left me .. 3 days later I got a text message saying he was moving out and we were done. Then 3 days after that he was seen with a new girl at work. That ended about a month later. And we started talking ...
A. 9 April 2012: I agree with the post that says just remove all his stuff from your home. whether you let him know you are putting it out for trash is up to you or not but that could be your goodbye text.... "all your stuff is on the curb for the trashman, have a ... (read in full...)
I'm 21 and I think sex is boring. I astound the guys I date! Is there a problem?
Q. I'm 21 and I have very little sexual experience. I've been to third base a couple of times, but I usually end it quickly because I'm not comfortable or I think it's boring. I do fantasize and play with myself occasionally, but almost never with ...
A. 9 April 2012: If you are not ready you are not ready.
But you should consider why you are not ready?
Are you afraid of something?
Pain? getting pregnant? being thought badly of?
I am betting when you meet the right guy you'll be ready.... (read in full...)
Ok to attend bachelorette and bridal shower but not wedding?
Q. Not so much a love/relationship question but... Is it acceptable to attend the bride's bridal shower and bachelorette party but not her wedding? My best friend Sam and her boyfriend planned a trip a few months ago, and I, along with her good ...
A. 9 April 2012: She invited you because she considers you a friend.
DO you like this woman? if so why would you consider not attending an event she invited you to?
if it's a first wedding, trust me lots of folks she barely knows are invited and that's who s... (read in full...)
I cheated now he wont he talk to me
Q. hi , a couple of years ago i dated a young man for a few months , he was a good lover , was very nice to me but unfortunatley i was rebounding from my ex who was totally opposite to my new boyfriend (my ex was always on and off with his wife with ...
A. 9 April 2012: He has EVERY right to not be friendly with you.
WHAT YOU WANT does not matter in this case. YOU want him to be friendly to make YOU feel better. OH well.
You did a scummy ugly thing. live with it.
He sounds like a gem and a man of morals ... (read in full...)
I'm in desperate need of earning back my boyfriend's trust
Q. Well I have been with my boyfriend 7 months now, but there are so many guys that have been flirting with me ever since i started dating him. Now he is realizing that he has given me so many chances and doesn't know if he should now. I'm afraid of ...
A. 9 April 2012: If you have not done anything and are being accused of doing things you did not do or lying about it why do you want to stay with this boy?
... (read in full...)
He likes me touching him but doesn't want to touch me back. A user?
Q. I have been texting and phoning this guy 24\7 for over a year now. He has told me loads of times that he likes me, and I have told him that I like him. We have had what I would class as a few non-dates, lunches etc but I have asked him out a few ...
A. 9 April 2012: yes he is using you.... (read in full...)
Is it just sex or more?
Q. i have been having sex with a guy for about 2yrs now.. in the begining he and i was jst hooking up... 2yrs later... i am soo much in love... i dont think he feels the same way. he probably likes me... or does he jst like having sex with me. he ...
A. 9 April 2012: He will never be what you want
He will NEVER love you
He will NEVER NOT USE YOU FOR SEX.
IT’s not going to make you happy to continue to let his man use and abuse you.
You are correct you can’t break up with a man you are not going with
You ... (read in full...)
Men & Women: How long have you gone without sex?
Q. How long have you gone without sex with another person? ...
A. 9 April 2012: hmmm...
the longest I remember is 10 months.
and i didn't miss it.
... (read in full...)
I am tired of living with a dog I don't want and a wife I don't trust.
Q. I live in a small 2 bedroom condo with my handicapped wife and our two girls, 8 and 5. We run a business out of our home as well. Needless to say, the place is crowded and life for me is restrictive. For years my wife has asked if she could get...
A. 9 April 2012: Dear OP,
I’d like to quote MYSELF from my original reply on March 15th:
“The poor dog. Your poor kids. AND POOR YOU… I get it. And it’s not about the dog.. it’s about the lack of respect your wife shows you and the lack of trust she has no... (read in full...)
Why does he press on my bladder area during foreplay?
Q. Hi, My new partner likes to press down on my bladder area just above the bikini line during foreplay but this really makes me want to pee. Is there any reason why a man would like to do this? I'm so worried I will eventually pee on him but I als...
A. 8 April 2012: we are assuming he's pressing with his hands.
what is he pressing with (asks the man in my life) so that we may better answer you
is it his penis
his hands
his belly?
... (read in full...)
I am tired of living with a dog I don't want and a wife I don't trust.
Q. I live in a small 2 bedroom condo with my handicapped wife and our two girls, 8 and 5. We run a business out of our home as well. Needless to say, the place is crowded and life for me is restrictive. For years my wife has asked if she could get...
A. 8 April 2012: lies of omission are still lies OP. I gave honeypie her deserved high rating for calling you on the way you presented your story to elicit tea and sympathy.
your anger, perceived emasculation and resentment are palpable.
YOU SAID:
", I th... (read in full...)
Do I tell the guy I'm dating that I did a background check on him?
Q. So, I have been seeing this guy (43 years old) for 2 weeks now, and decided that things have been getting more serious and I should do a background check on him. I do that to anyone I start dating because I have children I need to think about. Don't ...
A. 7 April 2012: OP, relax. You are their normalcy...
... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said even though marrying and having children with me would muddy his bloodline, he would overlook it!
Q. Im a 26 year old british asian female, my 31 year old bf is a white american male. We have been together for a few months and recently he expressed a desire to have kids one day in the future. Of course this is great! I would love children with ...
A. 7 April 2012: I understand why you are staying OP but I am glad that you see this is a self-limmiting relationship....
when you are ready you will move on to a man that actually deserves you.
... (read in full...)
Is the age difference a big deal?
Q. So I'm 17 going on 18 and this girl and I really like each other. But the problem is her parents won't let her date till she's 16 which will be in September. So we have been like talking and hanging out and everything but her parents still don't ...
A. 7 April 2012: Deep sigh...
once you are both 18 the age will not matter
you are nearly 18 legally an adult
she is 15 the body of a young woman the emotions of an older child....
the difference between 15 and 18 is HUGE.
and in the USA it is ILL... (read in full...)
Am I only good enough for him when he is in the mood?
Q. this is going to be one long message with spell errors sorry.. haha and please read and answer oky so there's this boy his name begins with an F so lets call him F. so i've liked F ever since the first day i met him in 2009. (its 2012 now lol) an...
A. 7 April 2012: he is a slimeball honey he is just USING YOU for sexual things
he does NOT like you only what's between your legs...
just go NO CONTACT with him
IGNORE HIM
you have my permission to write him a really long letter and tell him EVERYTH... (read in full...)
I think I should end it, but I don't want to hurt her.....
Q. I recently posted a question about me dating a woman 28 years older than me. We've been together for 6 weeks and at first we were all cuddly and mad about each other but now it seems like she's gone off me and just wants me for my money. ...
A. 7 April 2012: thanks for the update OP.... i know this is a rough time for you but I think it's a good move on your part... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got me nothing for Valentine's or Easter. This isn't ok, is it?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for two months, so this valentines day was our first one. He got me nothing, all my friends were asking what I got as he should have put in an effort being the first one I felt so stupid telling them he got me nothing. ...
A. 7 April 2012: You were a very new couple when it was Valentine's day.
some folks don't give Easter gifts and even if they do you are only together 2 months... I'd not be too worried...
... (read in full...)
Do I Have A Small Penis?
Q. Hi I'm 18 and I feel as though I have a small penis, it is about 3 inch flaccid, and a little over 5 inch erect, do I have a small one?...
A. 7 April 2012: flaccid means NOTHING....
5 inches long is a good length imo...
the concern is what's the girth?... (read in full...)
Do other couples not sleep in the same bed so they can sleep better?
Q. Hi everyone, My boyfriend and I are happy together. We are each other's best friends, we share the same interests and spend the majority of our spare time doing fun things together. We spend more time together than the average couple, definite...
A. 7 April 2012: I often OFFER to sleep in another room... he balks.
what about a bigger bed... if you have a double or a queen you will be amazed at the real estate a king gives you.
in fact we found it too big and stayed with a queen size....
it's v... (read in full...)
Great guy but a small penis. Any tips?
Q. i have recently began a new relationship with a man i work with, having been messed around for a long time i realised that this one is different. He is sweet and charming and very respectful. However i have quite a lot of experience in the bedroom ...
A. 7 April 2012: does his mouth work?
do his fingers work?
I can make love with my partner who is on the small side of average and be very pleased...
do NOT lie to him... however you must tell him the truth...
you just have to find the right position... (read in full...)
My husband sends my daughter to bed so that we can go around the house naked. Is this fair?
Q. I am a 31 year old woman and newlywed with a 10 year old daughter from a previous relationship. My new husband insists that a night, my daughter go to her room so we can have private time and likes me to go nude around the house, even if we are ...
A. 7 April 2012: I'm sorry you are willing to banish your daughter to her room (although 9 pm is a late enough bedtime for a 10 yr old) so that you are naked because YOUR HUSBAND wants it?
what do you want?... (read in full...)
Do I tell the guy I'm dating that I did a background check on him?
Q. So, I have been seeing this guy (43 years old) for 2 weeks now, and decided that things have been getting more serious and I should do a background check on him. I do that to anyone I start dating because I have children I need to think about. Don't ...
A. 7 April 2012: at two weeks out meeting a man you met on the internet you should still be meeting him ONLY in public places and he is at least 6 months away from being anywhere NEAR your children.
I could see doing the check at say TWO MONTHS but not two week... (read in full...)
We haven't had sex in 2 years. My chubby wife says it hurts!
Q. Hi, My wife is very overweight and I love her very much. We have not had sex with penetration in almost 2 years. She keeps telling me to be patient but I don't know how much longer I can take it. She says it hurts her as she puts it when I'm bou...
A. 7 April 2012: stop bouncing on her belly
try some of these suggestions
http://www.futurescopes.com/love-and-sex/750/sex-positions-fat-people-making-love-when-youre-obese... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said even though marrying and having children with me would muddy his bloodline, he would overlook it!
Q. Im a 26 year old british asian female, my 31 year old bf is a white american male. We have been together for a few months and recently he expressed a desire to have kids one day in the future. Of course this is great! I would love children with ...
A. 7 April 2012: it means you would have children with a man who would raise then to hate their grandparents...
he's a racist and a bigot... and that is what he will teach his kids...... (read in full...)
Do I tell the guy I'm dating that I did a background check on him?
Q. So, I have been seeing this guy (43 years old) for 2 weeks now, and decided that things have been getting more serious and I should do a background check on him. I do that to anyone I start dating because I have children I need to think about. Don't ...
A. 5 April 2012: Well what if you were friends with him and took it slowly and had NOT done a background check because you were doing it slowly
Meet online
Meet for coffee
He likes you asks you for a date
Meet him for dinner
He asks for another date
Spend ... (read in full...)
Do I tell the guy I'm dating that I did a background check on him?
Q. So, I have been seeing this guy (43 years old) for 2 weeks now, and decided that things have been getting more serious and I should do a background check on him. I do that to anyone I start dating because I have children I need to think about. Don't ...
A. 5 April 2012: The trembling is probably a side effect of the medications he takes. My son trembles from some of his meds.
I hear what you are saying… but again it was two weeks.. how many dates did you have with this man in two weeks… two maybe 3 would be... (read in full...)
Do I tell the guy I'm dating that I did a background check on him?
Q. So, I have been seeing this guy (43 years old) for 2 weeks now, and decided that things have been getting more serious and I should do a background check on him. I do that to anyone I start dating because I have children I need to think about. Don't ...
A. 5 April 2012: Your new follow up says “if I find it going in a serious direction…” and yet you checked this guy out after just two weeks… do you check out new women friends too to protect your children?
IF you are willing to be friends with this man with psy... (read in full...)
Do I tell the guy I'm dating that I did a background check on him?
Q. So, I have been seeing this guy (43 years old) for 2 weeks now, and decided that things have been getting more serious and I should do a background check on him. I do that to anyone I start dating because I have children I need to think about. Don't ...
A. 5 April 2012: Trembling on the date and peeing a lot… sounds nervous to me…
As for the psych hospital.. I have my discharge papers somewhere… I just tell folks “I’m certified I have papers” . I did my time at least 3 times… depression hurts… out of cont... (read in full...)
I think I should end it, but I don't want to hurt her.....
Q. I recently posted a question about me dating a woman 28 years older than me. We've been together for 6 weeks and at first we were all cuddly and mad about each other but now it seems like she's gone off me and just wants me for my money. ...
A. 21 March 2012: I agree that since she is not caring about YOUR feelings you don't need to care about hers... she appears to not care about you all that much anyway...
just tell her that it's not working out and that you are sorry but you need to move on.
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I am tired of living with a dog I don't want and a wife I don't trust.
Q. I live in a small 2 bedroom condo with my handicapped wife and our two girls, 8 and 5. We run a business out of our home as well. Needless to say, the place is crowded and life for me is restrictive. For years my wife has asked if she could get...
A. 15 March 2012: The poor dog. Your poor kids. AND POOR YOU… I get it. And it’s not about the dog.. it’s about the lack of respect your wife shows you and the lack of trust she has now created. The dog is a symptom not the problem.
That being said I want to ... (read in full...)
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