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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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How to get many answers to your question.
Q. So many times folks submit good questions but, get few answers. It's very frustrating to have an important topic you need advice on and not be able to get it. While talking with friends is easy to get to what you need, asking in written form can...
A. 3 December 2013: I'm bumping this up to newest answers because the last 3 posts asking for advice were WALLS of text...
. MOST important... WHITE space. NO one wants to read a block of text. Use paragraphs with at least two lines between ideas. BETTER to err on t... (read in full...)
Is this a good sign that he would take me seriously?
Q. He is on a trip for a month or two. before he left we hung out together all the time he always hold my hand trying to get to know my friends, and also told me about all his friends and his life plan. he's really sweet. we kiss all the time and also ...
A. 20 March 2013: OP, stop guessing. stop wondering... stop assuming.
just because a man says he wants to see your beautiful smile when he returns is not an implication of exclusivity.
DO NOT pin your hopes and dreams on a man that is not even there...
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Should I talk to him about our cuddling while we slept in the same bed?
Q. I have a friend that I have known for 3 years we almost dated once, but chose to be friends and its made our friendship pretty strong. The other night I was visiting him at his house and he told me I could sleep over if I want. I made the choice to ...
A. 19 March 2013: tell him the next time you see him and are in a private place
"hey I really liked the cuddle and I really like YOU"
"and best friends make the best partners... what say you?"
YOU HAVE TO TAKE THE RISK.... or you will always wonder.
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What to do? I love her, I just don't want to spend the rest of my life with her. And I don't want to hurt her!
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for nearly 18 months. We have had an amazing relationship, the best relationship I've ever had, but I do not feel that she is "the one". I don't truly believe there is a "one", but no matter what way I spell it out i...
A. 19 March 2013: You’re right you do sound daft by thinking you are the bad guy if you set her free to find her true love. GAWD how selfish of you. It’s clear you DON’T love her as her comfort and happiness would be the most important thing to you in this case, ... (read in full...)
Is it me or him? I am sick of begging for sex. How can he be 23 and have such a low sex drive?
Q. I’m older than him. He is 23 and I am older. So if you are the kind of person who doesn’t understand the older woman, younger man relationship doesn't respond I’m looking for help and information. Not “advice” that’s not going to help me, at a...
A. 19 March 2013: OP your follow up tells me something important HE IS NOT WORKING. For men in general work is very much part of their makeup. Contributing to running the home financially is important to most men.
IF he is not working perhaps that’s h... (read in full...)
Why does he lie to me? How can I marry this man in two months?
Q. I really need help. Its no secret to my fiance that I don't trust him. I have talked to him about being honest and earning my trust back. But he continues to lie to my fsce. I give him every chance to be honest. Why does he lie to me? How can I ...
A. 18 March 2013: funsize, counseling takes a long time to work. If you marry him in May you may find a year from now in counseling that his issues are insurmountable and you will want out... a divorce is so much more difficult and expensive vs. a breakup.... (read in full...)
I need to protect my child from the stranger that is her father. Advice?
Q. Had a one night stand with complete stranger five years ago. That night resulted in a baby. I informed the guy i was pregnant but he cut all contact with me. Now i knew his name, address, where he worked and stuff about his life because there was a ...
A. 18 March 2013: BUT she's not a car... she's a person with her own mind and her own feelings.
I strongly suggest for your own peace of mind you consult a reputable child psychologist and get their professional opinon on how to handle this so that your long te... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for being upset my girlfriend didn't prepare ahead of time to make time to see me before she goes away?
Q. general question. would you guys be frustrated if your girlfriend/boyfriend was going out of town for a week and you had planned in advance to spend the night before together, but it took them FOREVER to finally come over? my girlfriend has k...
A. 18 March 2013: oh well wait... if her consistent pattern is to cancel plans at the last minute you have a bigger issue....
Personally I would grow tired of someone canceling plans on a regular basis and I'd stop making plans with them.... (read in full...)
I need to protect my child from the stranger that is her father. Advice?
Q. Had a one night stand with complete stranger five years ago. That night resulted in a baby. I informed the guy i was pregnant but he cut all contact with me. Now i knew his name, address, where he worked and stuff about his life because there was a ...
A. 18 March 2013: You told the baby daddy he was going to be a daddy and he bailed.
that was 5 years ago. People change.
The key is your responsibility to your daughter. She will want to know where daddy is, who daddy is and why daddy is not part of her l... (read in full...)
Guys, would it be selfish to get in touch with him to apologize for the things I'm sorry I did?
Q. I would really be interested if any guys could answer this one, I was seeing a man on and off for a few months, and he made it clear he was unable to commit any further than a casual relationship. I have children, he does not, and he continua...
A. 18 March 2013: If you are apologizing to him as part of your recovery (Step 9) then I think you should do it because you are doing it for yourself not for him.
Make it clear that the apology is part of your recovery process and you have no intent to stir up a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want to go down on me
Q. My boyfriend doesn't want to go down on me. We have been physical for about 3 months. He loves having sex and always wants me to go down on him. I do because I enjoy it and want to make him happy. But he won't return the favor. I only got him to do ...
A. 18 March 2013: Some people do not like performing oral sex.
You are with one of those men. If you must have oral sex performed for you as part of your sexual repertoire then this is not the man for you.
I do not believe in withholding of fellatio as a way... (read in full...)
My boyfriend talks to a girl who I am not comfortable with. How to deal with this confusing situation?
Q. How would you deal with your boyfriend being friends or talking with someone you do not feel comfortable with? This girl who has recently became friends with some of my boyfriends friends has now targeted my boyfriend and is becoming a littl...
A. 18 March 2013: if you truly trust your boyfriend you have NOTHING to worry about.
A man can only be "stolen" if he wants to be. Even a clueless man will eventually figure out that the girl is after him and block her. IF he does NOT block her then he's no... (read in full...)
Is this a good sign that he would take me seriously?
Q. He is on a trip for a month or two. before he left we hung out together all the time he always hold my hand trying to get to know my friends, and also told me about all his friends and his life plan. he's really sweet. we kiss all the time and also ...
A. 18 March 2013: "he kisses my forehead a lot too"
seriously... this is NOTHING honey... my husband never kisses my forehead. EVER.
IF you two have not discussed if you are in a serious committed monogamous relationship then ASSUME you are NOT.
b... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable? If so, how do I get over this jealousy?
Q. I'm at the end of my ropes and I need this jealousy to be gone. I am going crazy! I have never been jealous before so it's aggravating to me when I get jealous over little things. At first I thought my boyfriend was hiding something from me. He ...
A. 18 March 2013: if you have never been insecure or jealous in a relationship before and you are in THIS ONE only, then I'm betting he's doing something wrong to get your radar up.
While folks are entitled to privacy even within a serious relationship, I personal... (read in full...)
Is he actually flirting with me and sporting some feelings?
Q. I know it's a lot but pleas read? I know there are lots of questions like this one but I really need your answer/advice. Maybe you've been there, know what to do? The problem is with a guy. Me, him and our group of friends have knew each o...
A. 18 March 2013: He sounds very immature
"telling me I'm fat when i"m really not"
"teasing in a really mean manner"
adults do not TEASE in a mean manner.
IF he prefers uber skinny girls and you are not that, then he's not the man for you.
he cli... (read in full...)
What can I text to him to keep the conversation going and get asked out on a date?
Q. A few months ago I had a one night stand with a guy I met at a bar and it sounds stupid but I felt like we had a connection and he said he'd call but never did. I forgot about it and didn't think anything of it but I was out on Saturday and I forgot ...
A. 18 March 2013: I agree Just let it go...
if he was interested he would have contacted you after the first encounter
in fact, delete his info from your phone....
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is ignoring me because I wanted an early night!
Q. My bf seems to be angry with me and i haven't seen or spoken to him for about 2 days. A few smaller things happened prior but it seems to be because i didn't want him to come back with me to my place on the weekend. It was late, i was extremely ...
A. 18 March 2013: Wow he sulks like a baby when he doesn't get his way doesn't he?
STOP apologizing for being adult enough to say "hey I'm too tired for anything tonight" it's not like it was your first date or something...
The rules in any relationship hav... (read in full...)
Is he in love with me or am I being played
Q. About 9 month ago I met a boy, I fell for him straight away but he is no my bet friend. I told him a few months back that I liked him, to which he replied "I don't like you in that way", so I kind of learnt to see him more of a friend and see other ...
A. 18 March 2013: Ask him, "have your feelings changed for me or are you just screwing around with my head" and tell him to fish or cut bait.
either he wants to date you or he does not. If he does not but he continues to tease you with "potential" he's playing... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into it
Q. I have a brief question. I have a female friend who I enjoy talking to. However, at times, I ask her for dating tips, so I can simply be educated on how to date. Instead, she tells me she doesn't want to offer any. She says the same thing when ...
A. 18 March 2013: Would you date her?
When my husband and I started spending time together we had no plans to be serious with each other...part of my plan was to help him get comfortable with dating in general... see how that worked?
Are you asking he... (read in full...)
Should I talk to him about our cuddling while we slept in the same bed?
Q. I have a friend that I have known for 3 years we almost dated once, but chose to be friends and its made our friendship pretty strong. The other night I was visiting him at his house and he told me I could sleep over if I want. I made the choice to ...
A. 18 March 2013: Who wanted to date and which one of you opted to be just friends... that has a lot of bearing on my reply.
and what do you want now?
Personally, even if you are just friends if you got into his bed to sleep with him, it sends a signal..... (read in full...)
Is my friend Gay
Q. I have a friend and we went for classes together and became great friends. She told me she was dating a guy named D and loves him but turns out that she was never dating him. Once I asked her if she found me more attractive than him, she said sh...
A. 18 March 2013: And it matters to you if she's gay because why?
Are you gay? do you want to date her?
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend Thinks oversleeping and not pitching for date is okay
Q. My boyfriend is a loving, amazing guy. He stood with me when my life was falling apart and never lets me down. Except when he makes plans. He plans fantastic dates or meetings with friends, and they're awesome indeed. IF HE SHOWS UP. I've lost co...
A. 18 March 2013: If he has stood you up without warning or contact more than once, it’s a problem.
He had plans with friends and he stood them up, so it’s not just you. IT sounds like he’s scattered and not well organized.
If he’s oversleeping, an... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have a relationship with no differences in opinion?
Q. Hi guys! You have helped me out a lot in the past so I am back again for some advice. I got out of a LTR in October last year and (I know it sounds bad but...) I hooked up with someone I had befriended from work fairly quickly, I recall it was ab...
A. 18 March 2013: it's great that you have not had a disagreement yet.
The question is are you avoiding talking about things that upset you? if you are, then talk to him about it.
Do not avoid topics and issues that may lead to disagreements...... (read in full...)
Spends his money on gifts for himself before my Birthday and then he is broke
Q. I know it is wrong to have expectations of one's spouse. I am a big believer in the philosophy that our expectations determine our own happiness. I am trying to work on myself when it comes to this concept and even my therapist agrees with me that ...
A. 18 March 2013: It’s NOT wrong to have expectations. IF the reason you don’t have them is to maintain contentment, then you do yourself a disservice unless your expectations are outrageous. I think your therapist is wrong in saying that having NO expectations of ... (read in full...)
Broke up with my BF because of his indiscretion, was I right
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, I have left my jobs to. Follow him wherever his job takes him. Last year I had a miscarriage. Since then we have been living in qatar. I was unable to work without a visa so I have been a house GF ...
A. 18 March 2013: Good for you.
Yes you did the right thing to leave him. You will never trust him again will you?
Take time and heal...... (read in full...)
What to do? I love her, I just don't want to spend the rest of my life with her. And I don't want to hurt her!
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for nearly 18 months. We have had an amazing relationship, the best relationship I've ever had, but I do not feel that she is "the one". I don't truly believe there is a "one", but no matter what way I spell it out i...
A. 18 March 2013: Ugh this sucks doesn't it?
Have you told HER how you feel? IF not, and she's under the impression you two are moving towards a more committed permanent relationship you MUST tell her the truth ASAP
and yes it will hurt her no matter how g... (read in full...)
I'm not ready yet to start dating someone else. How do I tell this to the girl I met and made plans, to go on a date with?
Q. I need advice i've done something stupid and now don't know what to say to them! On Saturday night this girl I met asked me out on a date and I was still pretty drunk when I accepted it and I was sure at the time it was what I wanted and that I w...
A. 18 March 2013: tell her exactly what you told us
your breakup is fresh
you are not ready to date
you like her but don't want a relationship and are not ready to get involved with anyone and don't want to lead her on....
and admit that you had too much ... (read in full...)
Is it mean to ask my friend for this guy's number?
Q. I have a friend who i've been close with for about a year now. But i have always had feelings for him. And i'm also pretty sure he's got the same feelings for me. I never told him this because there are a lot of complicated reasons that makes it ...
A. 18 March 2013: if you and the new guy are both facebook friends with the old guy you can find him on your friend's facebook friends list and contact him that way if you are interested.
I just can't help but wonder if you like your old friend as more than a ... (read in full...)
Why is he ignoring me? Has he lost interest?
Q. I am a married woman. I am unhappy and have told my husband so. I met another man through work, I work in a doctor's office; he is a drug rep. We have exchanged flirtatious text messages and even met up once. We both admitted that something was ...
A. 18 March 2013: OP you said "I am a married woman. I am unhappy and have told my husband so"
so what are you doing about this? are you planning your exit from the marriage or do you want to fix it?
if you do not want to fix it, then you need to be plan... (read in full...)
She's not the romantic type and doesn't show her affections very often
Q. Friends for two years with my now long distance girlfriend, we have been in a relationship for about five months with a view to have our first meeting in person this year (she's in Thailand, I'm in the UK). The problem is, she's not the romantic ...
A. 18 March 2013: two years and you have NOT met and you are not getting your emotional needs met...
I don't have a problem with LDRs if you have met in person and have plans to end the gap.
The fact that you have not even met is not a good sign in terms of anyt... (read in full...)
What should I get my 16 year old boyfriend for his birthday?
Q. We have been going out for a year and a half, and his birthday is coming up (turning 16). I was thinking about getting him a football with different messages on it, like "I love you" or "MP + MF forever", stuff like that. I just wanted to know if ...
A. 18 March 2013: I would not get anything that says xx and xx forever... or even "I love you" since then he can't really use it and most guys are not big on keeping things on the shelf for display....
I suck at giving gifts... if he has a particular b... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for being upset my girlfriend didn't prepare ahead of time to make time to see me before she goes away?
Q. general question. would you guys be frustrated if your girlfriend/boyfriend was going out of town for a week and you had planned in advance to spend the night before together, but it took them FOREVER to finally come over? my girlfriend has k...
A. 18 March 2013: it's just a week... you get to kiss her goodbye at the airport this morning....
some folks leave packing till the last minute... it's not a reflection on you or the relationship, it's just her style.... (read in full...)
How to get my crush to ask me out?
Q. there is a particular guy in one of my classes. who always look at my direction, and sometimes I catch him looking at me also. He appears to be a legit, he has smart brains as well as a nice personality. Kind of rare these days, we've only spoken ...
A. 18 March 2013: How about "hey wanna get a cup of coffee after class today?"
if he can great.. if he says no but offers a different time, great.. if he say "can't maybe later" and makes no move to ask for a different time, he's not interested.
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Why does he lie to me? How can I marry this man in two months?
Q. I really need help. Its no secret to my fiance that I don't trust him. I have talked to him about being honest and earning my trust back. But he continues to lie to my fsce. I give him every chance to be honest. Why does he lie to me? How can I ...
A. 18 March 2013: If he is lying to you and you don't trust him, I can't say you should marry him.
My cousin many years ago canceled a wedding (her first so it was HUGE) less than 6 weeks before the ceremony... invitations had gone out, she had to CALL everyone... (read in full...)
After birth complications and a c section, my wife has problems enjoying sex.
Q. I am 24 and my wife is 26 we have a baby 5 months ago ( Tried normal delivery but she had to have a c section). She had a few complications with pregnancy like high blood pressure, high blood sugar and several uti but the baby was. Healthy. He was ...
A. 18 March 2013: I'm betting it's a combo of the anti-depressant (she needs to talk to the doctor to try different ones that don't decrease libido or ability to orgasm.
secondly a bad pregnancy and an unplanned section will mess with her body and her brain...... (read in full...)
What is the appeal of threesomes?
Q. My girlfriend of over a year (who I am very close to) suggested that we have a threesome and I declined immediately. We have wonderful sexual experience together. The thought of another guy even touching and kissing her in the bedroom physically ...
A. 18 March 2013: I've had FFM threesomes and MMF threesomes. I've also had FFF threesomes and been in more parties than I care to admit.
I think for many it's just the excitement of something forbidden.
For bicurious or bisexual girls a FFM threesome may ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend sexualises women and makes dirty comments!
Q. My bf Of 4 years has a bad habbit of commenting when an attracive woman walks by us if we are out. He knows i dont like it but tells me he cant help it ( which i dont buy). He will make sounds, his draw may drop or goes "whoa" and even turn ar...
A. 18 March 2013: His reaction when you play stupid games and do it back to him (to me that's a game) is very telling.
He knows you don't like it since you've said something and tried to "turn the tables"
If it bothers you that much and he won't stop, then... (read in full...)
Is it ok to for me to kiss her goodbye? Is that going too far?
Q. So I am in love with my best friend. She knows this, but she can't let herself like me because she has a BF that goes to a different college. I've told her that before we get out for summer break (Which is a full 4 months) I will kiss her goodbye. ...
A. 18 March 2013: NO I'm sorry it is NOT ok for you to disrespect your friend because YOU want something.
How would you feel if you were the boyfriend of this girl and some other guy who had a thing for her insisted on kissing her even though you were in the ... (read in full...)
I'm married and a married hottie came onto me at work. What should I do?
Q. I work in the same company as this woman. Never really took any notice of her or talked to her, but I knew she was married. One day we found ourselves alone together and she made it plain she fancied me. In fact she put her hand on my thigh, I ...
A. 18 March 2013: How about if you ask your wife what to do?
YOU ARE MARRIED... what part of forsaking all others did you miss????
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How to get many answers to your question.
Q. So many times folks submit good questions but, get few answers. It's very frustrating to have an important topic you need advice on and not be able to get it. While talking with friends is easy to get to what you need, asking in written form can...
A. 17 March 2013: Thank you for the reply.
I agree a catchy title is important but sometimes the posters don't have the luxury of picking their own title as the moderators have final say.... (read in full...)
I should marry him, yes? or marry him not?
Q. Should I marry my boyfriend? Reasons for I love him and know he loves me He is willing to take on my thirteen year old daughter He loves my family He cooks well, haha He loves my cooking He is warm and loving in his ways generally Reasons ...
A. 17 March 2013: if you have doubts and you ask strangers on the internet the answer will be no do not marry him.
I have to tell you this in all honesty... if you were 18-30 and never married I'd say NO. But you are a parent and of an age where you have exp... (read in full...)
My boyfriend sexualises women and makes dirty comments!
Q. My bf Of 4 years has a bad habbit of commenting when an attracive woman walks by us if we are out. He knows i dont like it but tells me he cant help it ( which i dont buy). He will make sounds, his draw may drop or goes "whoa" and even turn ar...
A. 17 March 2013: my husband when we were dating was on the phone with me walking to his train and I heard him say "gorgeous legs" to a woman as she walked by... ugh it's infuriating isn't it.
He does what I call the "exorcist neck thing" when a girl of his ... (read in full...)
Is it me or him? I am sick of begging for sex. How can he be 23 and have such a low sex drive?
Q. I’m older than him. He is 23 and I am older. So if you are the kind of person who doesn’t understand the older woman, younger man relationship doesn't respond I’m looking for help and information. Not “advice” that’s not going to help me, at a...
A. 17 March 2013: It's not you it's him. I know that does not help but if he has a lower sex drive than you, there is not much you can do.
I'm 53 and i could go most days.. .my 39 yr old hubby... not so much.... so we go weeks and months without any sexual c... (read in full...)
Should I make a move on my history teacher?
Q. I need help. I really have feelings for my history teacher. He gives me all the right signs showing that he likes me back but I don't know. I am 17 and in high school and he is 24. He smiles at me all the time and compliments me. I think of him all ...
A. 17 March 2013: should you make a move... sure IF:
you want to DIE of mortification and embarrassment when he tries to rebuff you without hurting your feelings and you realize it's a ONE SIDED CRUSH that you have.
THEN you have to drag your shame and morti... (read in full...)
I'd like to tone down the sexual tension so that I can keep the friendship
Q. my question is about the sexual tension between my best friend and myself. back when we first met, we crushed on each other , then as we attempted dating, it was rather fail, and we decided we'd just be friends, over time, we've grown closer. Our ...
A. 16 March 2013: Not being able to choose is not saying anything about the commitment IMO.... you can easily be committed to your fiance and honor your promise and vows if you choose to be with him over the friend.
The issue is, you are torn between these tw... (read in full...)
I'd like to tone down the sexual tension so that I can keep the friendship
Q. my question is about the sexual tension between my best friend and myself. back when we first met, we crushed on each other , then as we attempted dating, it was rather fail, and we decided we'd just be friends, over time, we've grown closer. Our ...
A. 16 March 2013: You've made your choice you already said so.
now just do it.
and to be honest if you can't or won't give up the best friend, then you need to break off your engagement till you are ready to make a choice.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid this relationship my daughter is in is bad news -- how do I get her to see the big picture?
Q. aunts and uncles, i have a daughter that is pregnant by a much, much, much older guy, she has a child from another boy. shes living with this guy now and bragging about how she is going to be a stay at home mommy. now most of you are going to s...
A. 16 March 2013: WOW... mom ya had me until you got to
"my issue is what can he possably want with such a young girl? the baby that she is about to have? what could they have in common hes amost 50 for peets sakes?"
Since you are around my age I will ass... (read in full...)
Is this age difference too much?
Q. What is the biggest age gap relationship you have known of? I am 26 years old and massively attracted to a 45 year old man. I can't help it it's getting me down, my family wouldn't approve....
A. 16 March 2013: The age gap is the LEAST of your problems.
He's MARRIED. I'm betting his wife does not know they are unhappy. My EX husband used to do that all the time... tell girls he was married but we were not happy. It was a lie.
He's PLANNING to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is not "the one". I don't even know if such a person exists for me?
Q. I'm 25, I'm in a relationship of 7 months and my boyfriend is not THE ONE. He does have some qualities I admire in a man, but there are some things missing. Most of all, I like men who are a bit "hard to catch" emotionally, who know how to puzzle ...
A. 16 March 2013: I agree with IamHereToHelpYou.
the type of man you describe is not one you will ever be able to settle down with...
part of love is catching and being caught Men that dont' want to be caught are not emotionally available and theref... (read in full...)
Is this age difference too much?
Q. What is the biggest age gap relationship you have known of? I am 26 years old and massively attracted to a 45 year old man. I can't help it it's getting me down, my family wouldn't approve....
A. 16 March 2013: doesn't matter the biggest gap I know. it has no bearing ON YOU or YOUR relationship.
you are a grown woman at 26.... he is 19 years older... has he expressed an interest or do you have a mad unrequited crush?
You do not have to nor shou... (read in full...)
How to get many answers to your question.
Q. So many times folks submit good questions but, get few answers. It's very frustrating to have an important topic you need advice on and not be able to get it. While talking with friends is easy to get to what you need, asking in written form can...
A. 28 November 2012: Aunty Em you are so right... I was going to add something about that... but I felt that it was not applicable to everyone... ... (read in full...)
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