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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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My body doesn't even get ready for sex anymore, I can't orgasm!
Q. Basically i have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years, hes wonderful and i love him very much, we live together and we plan to get engaged soon. We lost our virginity to eachother and for the first few times we had sex i orgasmed (both clitorus ...
A. 24 March 2013: so 9 out of 10 times you find sex satisfying and that ONE time out of ten you don't is the problem?
lucky you!
I'm not sure why you think your body is different than others if less than 30% of women have orgasms from penetration how are ... (read in full...)
Caught Him in the act. Now what?
Q. About 2 years ago I came home early and found my husband making out with her in my car in the driveway (we have a long country drive) He seemed devastated and vowed to go to therapy and never ever do that again. Found out at counseling it had ...
A. 21 March 2013: OP,
I sense you are scared to be on your own and would rather put up with his lies and cheating than leave him.
IF that's the case, then you must look the other way and move on living the lie.
Personally if that's how you feel (staying... (read in full...)
He cheated. I told the girl, but she went back to him and he forgot about me.
Q. I Really need help with this one... So I have been doing a long distance relationship with this guy since last january of 2012 I was going to school in vegas and he lives in huntington beach 3 hour drive not bad. We actually saw eachother alot in ...
A. 21 March 2013: Thanks for the follow ups OP, it’s always good to get more answers.
You ask “why even after I TRIED to break up with him did he try so hard to keep it going”
Again I submit… why not… it was his ego that needed stroking… you were 3 hours away a... (read in full...)
Why won't my partner give me blowjobs?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 8 years and she has never giving me a proper blowjob, and by proper I mean that she has never gotten me off while doing it. She rarely goes down on me, and I mean rarely, I'm taking once every year or two. And ...
A. 21 March 2013: I just saw my ex husband last week… we were talking about things we miss about each other (it was a very odd divorce) and he said he missed being able to orgasm from a blow job. Apparently I was the only partner he ever had that could get him to ... (read in full...)
My body doesn't even get ready for sex anymore, I can't orgasm!
Q. Basically i have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years, hes wonderful and i love him very much, we live together and we plan to get engaged soon. We lost our virginity to eachother and for the first few times we had sex i orgasmed (both clitorus ...
A. 21 March 2013: what do you mean " I can make myself come easily by clit, but I can't get myself there fully"
I only can orgasm from direct clitoral stimulation. no penetration needed or desired. You could thrust from now till doomsday and all I'm getting ... (read in full...)
I want sex but my partner only wants sex when she is in the mood!
Q. It's common for women to refuse sex when they don't want to do it themselves even if their partner is desperate. Some will refuse time after time. Surely if relationships are about compromise, they should look to find a compromise on sex too, but ...
A. 21 March 2013: OP do you miss the point that no one HERE can tell me why my husband turns down sex... ONLY he can. And to be honest I know why... and I accept it. ... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed and hurt because he got a lap dance for his birthday!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for one year now and the day before our one year anniversary he went out for his 21st birthday and went to a strip club with his friends. They also paid for him to have a private lap dance. He said nothing else happened ...
A. 21 March 2013: Most men I know here have to sit on their hands for a lap dance... you are not allowed to touch the girl
she's got a g string and maybe pasties on... she will grind her butt on his lap and shake her boobs near his face.. but NO touching BY HIM..... (read in full...)
How do you know if a guy likes you, or if he just wants sex?
Q. Hi to anyone who can help me figure this out. Male agony "uncles", your views are wanted the most. What I wonder is, when do you know if a guy actually likes you, or if he's just after sex? I have this kinda complecated "thing" with a friend of...
A. 21 March 2013: Sadly OP you are nothing to him but an easy lay...he does not have to have a relationship with you to have sex.
He likes you well enough to have sex with you and see you when it's easy and convenient. He does not like you enough to make an e... (read in full...)
Should I say something to her about how we seem to be drifting apart?
Q. My best friend of 10 years is drifting away from me. We've lived in different countries for the last 5 years but had loads of phone contact and it's always back to normal when we see each other. We know the intimate details of each others' lives, ...
A. 21 March 2013: you can tell her you understand what's happening and why and let her know you miss her and will be available when time permits.
I had a bff when I was 14... till I was about 29 we were friends... after I married and had children (she never di... (read in full...)
"The one"???
Q. How do you know if someone is "the One"? Just generally....
A. 21 March 2013: I'm on my fourth "the one"
and to be honest the guy that was MY ONE... that I loved and adored with my heart and soul and mourned more than any other boy that left me... I was not his one... and he was never one of my husbands..
Judaism h... (read in full...)
My best friend's sister likes me. Should I tell him?
Q. i think one of my best friends twin sister likes me and i've started to like her I'm 19 and shes 16 also I turn 20 before she hits 17 what should I do about telling him?...
A. 21 March 2013: First of all I think at 20 you may be too old right now for a 16 yr old girl.
So until she's closer to 18 I'd just keep on as if nothing is different.
Perhaps you like her because she has a crush on you?
I dated my then best friend's broth... (read in full...)
Caught Him in the act. Now what?
Q. About 2 years ago I came home early and found my husband making out with her in my car in the driveway (we have a long country drive) He seemed devastated and vowed to go to therapy and never ever do that again. Found out at counseling it had ...
A. 21 March 2013: YOU WON'T BE ALONE.
I do not think you can fix this or him.
He's been with her since 2009 that's FOUR YEARS... he's not giving her up.
This is NOT about YOU rather it's about him.
He's greedy, selfish, childish and immature. He'... (read in full...)
Long distance guy is refusing to let me follow him on Twitter or add him on Facebook?!
Q. Going to try and keep things brief. There's a guy im talking to, we are long distance, he lives about 2 hours away. We originally met in person, we have been speaking for 3 months and have not met since but we are planning a visit sometime within ...
A. 21 March 2013: IF you are the same person that posted about him not wanting to talk on the phone much I believe you have found my husband's long lost twin.
My husband has no facebook account. no twitter feed... very little online presence... he just prefers ... (read in full...)
Is my old sex buddy trying to make it official?
Q. My old sex buddy and i saw each other today , it's been a while since we've seen each other , but he messaged me on Facebook than we texted and he said if i would ever be his girl , and i replied if he would be faithful than yeah . Than he said he'd ...
A. 21 March 2013: I would be very cautious OP. Men have been taught that they need to promise a relationship to a girl to get laid.
Just because you spent time together and were affectionate and companions outside of bed does not mean he loves you or will wan... (read in full...)
I'm uncomfortable with people looking at me
Q. Why do they keep looking at me? I don't understand? So I signed up for the gym a few months ago and diet to help with my self confidence and I've lost a lot weight, toned. Uk size 10 but still curvy with big boobs. I've noticed that the guy...
A. 21 March 2013: They look because they like pretty things. you are a pretty thing.
maybe the girl at the gym is a lesbian or bi and thinks you are a pretty thing too.
... (read in full...)
I'd like a strictly FWB situation, he say's he doesn't want to hurt me. He said he wants to have sex, but doesn't want to hurt me. What does he want?
Q. I started talking to this boy I like who is in one of my university classes. I want to be FWB for now as we are both about to start a new program that is going to last almost two years and will be very busy for a real relationship. I'd love to be ...
A. 21 March 2013: I’m joining the chorus of “don’t do it”
When I met my hubby I offered him FWB and I meant it. He said “what single guy would be crazy enough to turn down NSA sex?” and he’s right…
The problem with your situation is you LIKE this boy. “... (read in full...)
My daughter was bullied into sending a nude photo to a boy. What should I do?
Q. Ok, so my 13 year old daughter comes to me in the middle of the night crying because she did something really bad. She said she was pressured into sending a photo of herself nude to a boy in her class. He was being really mean and bullying towards ...
A. 21 March 2013: I was a 13 yr old child like your daughter and I did not have internet or cell phones to make my trouble worse.
He hasn't deleted it. He may share it but just hasn't yet.
IF he gets mad at her for something (like maybe not putting out for ... (read in full...)
Is he playing with my emotions?
Q. I met this guy from a friend of mine a year ago, and I started developing feeling for him. He initiated the first meeting, and took me to the "City" and everything was fine for a couple of dates. One day he started being really obnoxious, telling ...
A. 21 March 2013: He tests you?
I'd tell him he flunked my test and I'd cut this crazy loon out of my life.
YOU deserve better than this.... (read in full...)
No sex, because he's disinterested? My husband regularly masturbates but our sex life is non existent. What are my options?
Q. My husband regularly masturbates and our sex life is non existent. His explanation is that he is not at all interested in sex, but masturbates when he has a bodily pain and can't concentrate anymore on anything else. We spoke several times ab...
A. 21 March 2013: OP if you say you are hurt by his “insensitivity ” and are just trying to find the words to communicate that fact and understand how to personally deal with it, you are saying you are trying to find a way to tolerate it.
NOT tolerati... (read in full...)
I want sex but my partner only wants sex when she is in the mood!
Q. It's common for women to refuse sex when they don't want to do it themselves even if their partner is desperate. Some will refuse time after time. Surely if relationships are about compromise, they should look to find a compromise on sex too, but ...
A. 21 March 2013: well maybe you need to ask the women that don't want sex why they don't want it.
and while you are at it can you ask my husband why he turns me down all the time (he even turns down blow jobs)
... (read in full...)
He cheated. I told the girl, but she went back to him and he forgot about me.
Q. I Really need help with this one... So I have been doing a long distance relationship with this guy since last january of 2012 I was going to school in vegas and he lives in huntington beach 3 hour drive not bad. We actually saw eachother alot in ...
A. 21 March 2013: OK what I see so far:
It’s LDR.
He said the L word… and gives you promises of fidelity and living together within a year (if that’s not dangling a carrot in front of you I don’t know what is)
He canceled plans for a special day (his b... (read in full...)
Do guys think experienced girls are hotter?
Q. Do boys think girls are hotter when they find out that they have 'done stuff' with another boy ?...
A. 21 March 2013: I don't think so. Hopefully you are not doing things with boys just to do them or get a reputation.
Personally, IMO there is nothing wrong with waiting for a boy you really like to start experimenting with the physical side of relation... (read in full...)
Is feeling unsure, after taking back a cheater, a normal response? Could he still be cheating?
Q. I have been with my fiance for almost 4 years. In the last year he asked me twice to marry him, after I said yes, he asked me 2 time to run off and get married in December last year and last month. However this month I found out he was cheating ...
A. 21 March 2013: Kay Not Sure (the names we pick when we come here are so telling...look at mine)...
hugs to you I get now why you put the trying to have a baby in and yes I see your POV and mindset in letting us know how serious you were.
I'm glad you ... (read in full...)
I found out my husband is using porn and I don't like it
Q. I have found out that my husband views internet porn a lot. I am so hurt by this. I work hard to stay attractive and am always ready to make love or be adventurous in bed w/him. He says It's no big deal, and It's the same as me using a vibrator. ...
A. 21 March 2013: OP I can understand your fear and pain since your experiences tell you that men always leave for the new shiny toy. I am sorry for that. NOT all men leave.
You say you’re lonely because your husband works a lot and gets home in the middle of t... (read in full...)
I want sex but my partner only wants sex when she is in the mood!
Q. It's common for women to refuse sex when they don't want to do it themselves even if their partner is desperate. Some will refuse time after time. Surely if relationships are about compromise, they should look to find a compromise on sex too, but ...
A. 21 March 2013: So you want sex 104 times a year and she wants it 0 and you think 52 is fair? I don't. Think of something you really really REALLY don't WANT to do and don't HAVE to do? Got it? Let's say it's something that is not pleasurable at all. ... (read in full...)
Why does he reel me in and then pull back? What is even going on?
Q. I guess the only way this would make sense is if i start from the beginning....it seems almost unreal, like something you would only read in a book but its happened, and it still is... SO back in october 2012 I had a random friend request on FB fr...
A. 20 March 2013: stop making all the effort.... he's not that into you honey.... (read in full...)
Is "no contact" really the best way to get over a breakup?
Q. Hi Everyone, I broke up with my boyfriend a couple months ago. I went "no contact" for the first 2 weeks but it was too difficult for me...I missed him so much, to the point of physical pain. Is this typical? We've been talking since then,...
A. 20 March 2013: I'm with SageOldGuy on this... break ups like this lead to FWB and then when you graduate and move home, it will end gradually if you both let it... then one will meet someone new.... and it will be over and done... if this works for ... (read in full...)
I want sex but my partner only wants sex when she is in the mood!
Q. It's common for women to refuse sex when they don't want to do it themselves even if their partner is desperate. Some will refuse time after time. Surely if relationships are about compromise, they should look to find a compromise on sex too, but ...
A. 20 March 2013: Yep based on your follow up, she just didn't like sex. I don't think in the case you described that anything could have been done to fix it and compromise.
In our house (and many of the houses I know) it's the opposite... the wife has a higher... (read in full...)
Long distance guy doesn't like phone calls. I need more than just texting?!
Q. I'm 20, talking to a guy that's 21. We live just over 100 miles away. (I still find that LD if you can't see the person spontaneously) I'm in university and he graduated from university last year, and is now taking a gap year whilst working a...
A. 20 March 2013: OP thanks for the update! Sounds like it's going well here... You expressed your needs and he understands and is willing to compromise... much like my hubby did for me.. he did not like the phone and did not need daily contact but I want... (read in full...)
Long distance guy doesn't like phone calls. I need more than just texting?!
Q. I'm 20, talking to a guy that's 21. We live just over 100 miles away. (I still find that LD if you can't see the person spontaneously) I'm in university and he graduated from university last year, and is now taking a gap year whilst working a...
A. 20 March 2013: Sageoldguy, I love you darling but you may be wrong here... some guys (and gals) just don't like to talk on the phone....it's not that they are cheating or hiding something.
My husband can and did go weeks without talking to me on the phone ea... (read in full...)
My boyfriend found out I lied and he posted naked pics of himself online to retaliate!
Q. Anyone want to give advice on whether I should stay with my bf or not? Here's my story. I hooked up with a guy a couple years ago. We still talk here and there. Current bf asks me if I ever hooked up with him. I lie and say no. A few other ...
A. 20 March 2013: who said the hook up guy was more attractive?
pretty judgmental of you, OP.
If you can't understand that LIES are the worst thing you can do in a relationship I'm not sure we can help you.
How did your boyfriend know to ask about this... (read in full...)
My boyfriend found out I lied and he posted naked pics of himself online to retaliate!
Q. Anyone want to give advice on whether I should stay with my bf or not? Here's my story. I hooked up with a guy a couple years ago. We still talk here and there. Current bf asks me if I ever hooked up with him. I lie and say no. A few other ...
A. 20 March 2013: YOU lied about a guy you hooked up with and are still friendly with?
your friend plays silly honeypot games with him....
two wrongs don't make a right and doing something because you are mad to get back at your partner is more childishness... (read in full...)
Long distance guy doesn't like phone calls. I need more than just texting?!
Q. I'm 20, talking to a guy that's 21. We live just over 100 miles away. (I still find that LD if you can't see the person spontaneously) I'm in university and he graduated from university last year, and is now taking a gap year whilst working a...
A. 20 March 2013: That would make me crazy. the problem is he's in touch daily right?
don't ASK for a phone call... if you are a couple CALL HIM if you need it.
when my hubby and I were LDR (about 100 miles and a 2 hour drive) at first it was all email... no ... (read in full...)
My mother knew my b/f before we got together, and hates him
Q. So I've been seeing a guy for 2 months! He's quite a bit older but ages isn't my issue, he's separated from his wife but not a lot of people know and I've posted on here bout me not wanting to be slagged off at work for being a "home wrecker" even ...
A. 20 March 2013: he was caught drinking AT WORK?
does he still drink at home? is he an alcoholic?
My husband is an alcoholic but he would never drink at work.
He's older than you. He's separated a mere 4 months and you've been seeing him for 2 months,... (read in full...)
My ex-wife is trying to turn our daughter against my girlfriend
Q. My ex wife has crossed her line,and for some reason blames everything on my girlfriend whose been nothing but nice to my child and my wife!and my child(amelia)she loves my girlfriend and has accepted her,she calls her to take her shopping,to discuss ...
A. 20 March 2013: TOUGH one...
I feel bad for Ameila.
your ex is jealous. and there is nothing you or your fiancée (if you are getting married in 5 months she's NOT a girlfriend honey) can do to stop her from saying or doing things to try to turn her.
T... (read in full...)
My body doesn't even get ready for sex anymore, I can't orgasm!
Q. Basically i have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years, hes wonderful and i love him very much, we live together and we plan to get engaged soon. We lost our virginity to eachother and for the first few times we had sex i orgasmed (both clitorus ...
A. 20 March 2013: i'm betting you are trying too hard
can you bring yourself to orgasm with your fingers or toys (or my favorite a shower massager?)
if so, relax enjoy the sex and have the orgasm afterwards...even if it means you masturbate and he holds you whi... (read in full...)
Men: Why is my husband watching porn that involves fat women over 60?
Q. Hi, I'm married woman in my 30s and have a small son. Me and my husband watch porn together, but recently I found out that he is watching a different type of porn when I'm not around, it involves the opposite of me, women that are over 60 and fat. ...
A. 20 March 2013: it does not mean he does not like you any more.
it means he wants to watch a different kind of porn
my hubby watchs tranny porn... does not mean he's leaving me for a tranny.... (read in full...)
Do I tell her? And what do I say?
Q. Hi guys, I'm in abit of a dilemma and really need some advice.... I have seen a girl around, I dont really know her that well but I've spoken to her a few times when I've seen her out. She's an artist like me and when we've spoken, there se...
A. 20 March 2013: It's your call.
so here's the deal if she's dating him and she dates you and does not tell him... you do realize she could do the same to you.
... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is really disconnected in our relationship. I don't know what to do
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for the 6 months and in the past month he has pretty much lost all interest in me sexually. He will cuddle with me on the couch and will kiss me (peck) goodbye but that is about it. He makes comments ...
A. 20 March 2013: Crying begging and pleading and promises… EMPTY WORDS… if he really means it tell he will have the chance to prove it once you move out and then he can woo you like a new girlfriend.
He’s emotionally manipulating you because you are so torn.. i... (read in full...)
His kid saw us having sex! How do we handle this!
Q. Hey everyone, I cannot even think straight right now,my head is spinning..I'm dating my boyfriend for 3 years now,he is a divorcee and has a child..so the child visits the father on weekends but this weekend the mother called my boyfriend and said...
A. 20 March 2013: KIDS walk in on their parents having sex all the time
how old is this kid?
best thing is for dad to go to him and say "do you want to talk about what you saw last night when you walked into our room?" kid will probably say no....
and th... (read in full...)
Do I tell her? And what do I say?
Q. Hi guys, I'm in abit of a dilemma and really need some advice.... I have seen a girl around, I dont really know her that well but I've spoken to her a few times when I've seen her out. She's an artist like me and when we've spoken, there se...
A. 20 March 2013: Ben,
if you were kind of dating her and someone who really liked her came along and said they liked her the way you do what would you want her to do?
how would you feel?
... (read in full...)
I found out I am his mistress and cannot let him go?
Q. Hi all, I am a newly divorced lady and I'm in a relationship with a man who is 8 years younger than me. Its a fairly new relationshi (3 months) and when I got involved with the man,he gave me the impression that his relationship with the baby ma...
A. 20 March 2013: His marriage has nothing to do with your relationship? DOES HIS WIFE feel this way???
YOU can easily end this.
DO NOT take his calls
Do not answer his texts
Do not go to see him
Do not email him
YOU DO NOT HAVE TO TELL HIM.. just delet... (read in full...)
How can I forget my ex boyfriend if I still hate him?
Q. How can i forget my ex bf,if still i hate him for lying to me many times?Im trying to forgive him many times but still he deny the truth i was hurt why he did to me like this i was honest to me him,he promise many things but i know all of that is ...
A. 20 March 2013: how long ago did you break up?
love and hate are actually both the same.. it's Passion just on opposite ends of the spectrum.
perhaps you continue to hate as a way to hold on to him?
the opposite of love is ambivalence...
he won't ap... (read in full...)
I want sex but my partner only wants sex when she is in the mood!
Q. It's common for women to refuse sex when they don't want to do it themselves even if their partner is desperate. Some will refuse time after time. Surely if relationships are about compromise, they should look to find a compromise on sex too, but ...
A. 20 March 2013: Why do some women hate sex so much?
well it could be lots of reasons and the reasons are different for each woman
I will assume that you are speaking from personal experience and that it's your wife and she is saying no more than she is say... (read in full...)
Why does he reel me in and then pull back? What is even going on?
Q. I guess the only way this would make sense is if i start from the beginning....it seems almost unreal, like something you would only read in a book but its happened, and it still is... SO back in october 2012 I had a random friend request on FB fr...
A. 20 March 2013: met online randomly October 2112 and within distance to meet face to face and still have not after 5 months.
NEXT...
he's playing games.
let it go.
if a person is serious about wanting to have a relationship with someone they will me... (read in full...)
Is feeling unsure, after taking back a cheater, a normal response? Could he still be cheating?
Q. I have been with my fiance for almost 4 years. In the last year he asked me twice to marry him, after I said yes, he asked me 2 time to run off and get married in December last year and last month. However this month I found out he was cheating ...
A. 20 March 2013: STOP trying to get pregnant. I don’t get the whole get pregnant BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED thing.
The first thing I would do if you even want to stay with him (and I can understand if you do but it won’t be easy and it probably won’t last long ter... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is really disconnected in our relationship. I don't know what to do
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for the 6 months and in the past month he has pretty much lost all interest in me sexually. He will cuddle with me on the couch and will kiss me (peck) goodbye but that is about it. He makes comments ...
A. 20 March 2013: Ok I’m reading this and these are the things that stick out
“won’t seek therapy” I allowed my last marriage to end because he would not seek therapy. IF I was dating now (I’m remarried) my new rule would be that I would not date a man wh... (read in full...)
I found out my husband is using porn and I don't like it
Q. I have found out that my husband views internet porn a lot. I am so hurt by this. I work hard to stay attractive and am always ready to make love or be adventurous in bed w/him. He says It's no big deal, and It's the same as me using a vibrator. ...
A. 20 March 2013: I know that a lot of women dislike porn usage. I really don’t get that if it’s not impacting on the relationship. Is his porn usage keeping him from you? Does he not love on you? Does he not treat you well? Does he not initiate sex with you?
H... (read in full...)
No sex, because he's disinterested? My husband regularly masturbates but our sex life is non existent. What are my options?
Q. My husband regularly masturbates and our sex life is non existent. His explanation is that he is not at all interested in sex, but masturbates when he has a bodily pain and can't concentrate anymore on anything else. We spoke several times ab...
A. 12 March 2013: you have several options
1. live with it the way it is... (not one I advise)
2. take a lover on the side in secret (again not what I'd advise)
3. tell him you will take a lover on the side to make up for what's lacking in your marriage... (read in full...)
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