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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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Swept off my feet to be dropped on my butt
Q. Am I insane? I met a guy on match.com. We messaged eachother at the same time. He was stationed in afghanistan and would be home in two months. He was in special forces (i won't say what but it is pretty badass). we exchanged texts and emails d...
A. 5 April 2013: OP I know you feel bad but this really is NOT personal. It’s hard to understand how it can’t be about you and what you did or did not do but his behavior is his and it’s his problem and NOT a reflection on you.
One of my favorite relation... (read in full...)
I want sex but my partner only wants sex when she is in the mood!
Q. It's common for women to refuse sex when they don't want to do it themselves even if their partner is desperate. Some will refuse time after time. Surely if relationships are about compromise, they should look to find a compromise on sex too, but ...
A. 21 March 2013: OP do you miss the point that no one HERE can tell me why my husband turns down sex... ONLY he can. And to be honest I know why... and I accept it. ... (read in full...)
I want sex but my partner only wants sex when she is in the mood!
Q. It's common for women to refuse sex when they don't want to do it themselves even if their partner is desperate. Some will refuse time after time. Surely if relationships are about compromise, they should look to find a compromise on sex too, but ...
A. 21 March 2013: well maybe you need to ask the women that don't want sex why they don't want it.
and while you are at it can you ask my husband why he turns me down all the time (he even turns down blow jobs)
... (read in full...)
Is feeling unsure, after taking back a cheater, a normal response? Could he still be cheating?
Q. I have been with my fiance for almost 4 years. In the last year he asked me twice to marry him, after I said yes, he asked me 2 time to run off and get married in December last year and last month. However this month I found out he was cheating ...
A. 21 March 2013: Kay Not Sure (the names we pick when we come here are so telling...look at mine)...
hugs to you I get now why you put the trying to have a baby in and yes I see your POV and mindset in letting us know how serious you were.
I'm glad you ... (read in full...)
I found out my husband is using porn and I don't like it
Q. I have found out that my husband views internet porn a lot. I am so hurt by this. I work hard to stay attractive and am always ready to make love or be adventurous in bed w/him. He says It's no big deal, and It's the same as me using a vibrator. ...
A. 21 March 2013: OP I can understand your fear and pain since your experiences tell you that men always leave for the new shiny toy. I am sorry for that. NOT all men leave.
You say you’re lonely because your husband works a lot and gets home in the middle of t... (read in full...)
I want sex but my partner only wants sex when she is in the mood!
Q. It's common for women to refuse sex when they don't want to do it themselves even if their partner is desperate. Some will refuse time after time. Surely if relationships are about compromise, they should look to find a compromise on sex too, but ...
A. 21 March 2013: So you want sex 104 times a year and she wants it 0 and you think 52 is fair? I don't. Think of something you really really REALLY don't WANT to do and don't HAVE to do? Got it? Let's say it's something that is not pleasurable at all. ... (read in full...)
Why does he reel me in and then pull back? What is even going on?
Q. I guess the only way this would make sense is if i start from the beginning....it seems almost unreal, like something you would only read in a book but its happened, and it still is... SO back in october 2012 I had a random friend request on FB fr...
A. 20 March 2013: stop making all the effort.... he's not that into you honey.... (read in full...)
I want sex but my partner only wants sex when she is in the mood!
Q. It's common for women to refuse sex when they don't want to do it themselves even if their partner is desperate. Some will refuse time after time. Surely if relationships are about compromise, they should look to find a compromise on sex too, but ...
A. 20 March 2013: Yep based on your follow up, she just didn't like sex. I don't think in the case you described that anything could have been done to fix it and compromise.
In our house (and many of the houses I know) it's the opposite... the wife has a higher... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is really disconnected in our relationship. I don't know what to do
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for the 6 months and in the past month he has pretty much lost all interest in me sexually. He will cuddle with me on the couch and will kiss me (peck) goodbye but that is about it. He makes comments ...
A. 20 March 2013: Crying begging and pleading and promises… EMPTY WORDS… if he really means it tell he will have the chance to prove it once you move out and then he can woo you like a new girlfriend.
He’s emotionally manipulating you because you are so torn.. i... (read in full...)
I want sex but my partner only wants sex when she is in the mood!
Q. It's common for women to refuse sex when they don't want to do it themselves even if their partner is desperate. Some will refuse time after time. Surely if relationships are about compromise, they should look to find a compromise on sex too, but ...
A. 20 March 2013: Why do some women hate sex so much?
well it could be lots of reasons and the reasons are different for each woman
I will assume that you are speaking from personal experience and that it's your wife and she is saying no more than she is say... (read in full...)
I don't want a divorce , so how do I stop my Husband from divorcing me?
Q. Im 23 from South Africa and currently seperated from my husband. He wants to get a divorce and I dont want to. Is there any way I can get him to go to counceling with me. We have a 1 year old baby and im 16 weeks pregnant. I love him and want us to ...
A. 20 March 2013: It does not sound like he's interested in fixing the marriage.
you can't force it.
I agree to protect yourself and the children you need an attorney.... (read in full...)
Why does he reel me in and then pull back? What is even going on?
Q. I guess the only way this would make sense is if i start from the beginning....it seems almost unreal, like something you would only read in a book but its happened, and it still is... SO back in october 2012 I had a random friend request on FB fr...
A. 20 March 2013: met online randomly October 2112 and within distance to meet face to face and still have not after 5 months.
NEXT...
he's playing games.
let it go.
if a person is serious about wanting to have a relationship with someone they will me... (read in full...)
My Wife Talking about sex toys with a collegue!
Q. Had a bit of a barney with my wife (of 5 months) last night. She said that she had a conversation with a male collegue about his business selling Sex Toys - I thought this was innapropriate and got the proverbial hump. Anway, thats not so much the ...
A. 20 March 2013: Ummm… yeah what they said.
Look she was talking about his business. Heck I’m older than you and even I get that you can talk to members of the opposite sex about things of a sexual nature (adult toys) and not be hitting on them. SHE TOLD YOU abou... (read in full...)
I really like this girl. Should I try to interest her again? We broke up earlier.
Q. So I've known this girl for several years, we dated when we first met, but it didn’t work out because we were in school. We've been friends since then; we've fought and been there for each other through a lot. We hang out a lot, once I even ask...
A. 20 March 2013: “it didn’t work out because we were in school” How in the world does being in school make a relationship not work out? I ask because it sounds like an excuse to me.
You ask her out and she says no. You told her you loved her and she cut ... (read in full...)
Shall I give into guilt and tell my beloved? That I kissed a few times with a boy when I was younger? Or how can I deal with my feelings on this?
Q. I was in a relation for 3 years with a guy, and i thought i loved him.. True love type of love, but I was too young and went with the flow did wrong things like inviting him home when no one was around. We kissed a couple of times.. But eventual...
A. 20 March 2013: you have guilt because you kissed another boy? is that the only reason?
if so LET IT GO... it's no big deal in my opinion.
... (read in full...)
Girlfriend seeing her ex and it makes me uneasy
Q. so my girlfriend has never been with a woman before me. we've been together for about four months now and i feel very confident that she loves and cares a lot for me. we seem to be a phenominal couple and have no real issues in our relationship at ...
A. 20 March 2013: in a perfect world where you can say and do what you want what would you do? would you forbid her to see him?
why or why not?
IF YOU TRUST HER then there should not be an issue.
the fact that it's an issue means you are not sure.
y... (read in full...)
How long do I wait? Do I reach out? Or just move on?
Q. Hi I have been dating this guy for 1.5 years. He has two kids from a previous marriage. We were trying and got recently pregnant. We were planning to move in together, and he even proposed. Unfortunately I miscarried at 9 weeks. We got into a small ...
A. 20 March 2013: I am sorry for the loss of your baby.
YOU move on when you are ready.
I would not subject myself to being casual with him, it will hurt too much.
Personally I can't see why you would want pregnancy then move in then get married... seems to... (read in full...)
I cut this online guy off, should I apologize?
Q. Hi everyone, I started talking to this guy who I met online over the phone who I really like and have great chemistry with. But because of his situation(him being separated) I abruptly cut him off through text message, which left me feeling really ...
A. 20 March 2013: you should not have any guilt. why do you have guilt?
he's separated which means (at least in my state) that he's legally married.
now how long he is separated and what he was hoping to get out of your relationship may have bearing.
I wa... (read in full...)
I met my online long distance guy but is it worth it?
Q. I live in a small city in Canada grew up here all my life and have struggled meeting guys I like. I recently tried match.com and met a guy who lives 90 minutes by ferry away. We had chatted very often for about a month and then we met this past ...
A. 20 March 2013:
My husband and I met at a gaming convention. He lived 100 miles away by car it was 90-120 minute trip depending on the time of day. I got very good at doing it in my sleep practically once we got serious.
after a year we could not bear to ... (read in full...)
He wants to be with me but won't admit it, what should I do?
Q. My situation is a long story but I'll try to keep it as short and sweet as possible. I was dating my boyfriend since my junior year in high school. We are crazy about each other and we fell so in love! There was a period in our relationship when we ...
A. 20 March 2013: “he tried to date another woman” oh sweetie do you not realize he broke up with you so he could date her and not lie to you that he was cheating on you. Possibly he told her that he was in an LDR and she refused to date him till he ended it with ... (read in full...)
How long do you wait for someone to respond or do you just give up hope?
Q. I met a guy at a friends holiday party. We had a great time. We end up kissing at the end of the night. We shared a cab ride home, and he asked me to go to his place to continue making out. I declined and he asked for my number. I gave him my number ...
A. 20 March 2013: why in the world did your friend send money
why in the world did you send him money
are you trying to buy him?
YOUR friend blew a fit and got a cab and you opted to run after her and NOT say anything to him?
you blew it
live and lea... (read in full...)
Is feeling unsure, after taking back a cheater, a normal response? Could he still be cheating?
Q. I have been with my fiance for almost 4 years. In the last year he asked me twice to marry him, after I said yes, he asked me 2 time to run off and get married in December last year and last month. However this month I found out he was cheating ...
A. 20 March 2013: STOP trying to get pregnant. I don’t get the whole get pregnant BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED thing.
The first thing I would do if you even want to stay with him (and I can understand if you do but it won’t be easy and it probably won’t last long ter... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend didn't support me in ways I needed. Is it wrong of me to be mad at him? I feel betrayed
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years, he has a sister who is my age who I really dislike due to many things she did to me in the past. She seemed to be jealous of my relationship with her brother (things such as making fun of me at scho...
A. 20 March 2013: I'm not sure why you think that your ages were important to add... can you explain it to me?
You are entitled to your feelings... they are feelings after all...and personal.
To be honest if my partner saw his sister hit me or heard her insu... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is in a totally different place than me. How do I change this?
Q. What am I supposed to do when my boyfriend is in a completely different place to me? I'm 22 and he's 23 we've been together for two years and we decided to start house hunting a while back, although I don't feel he's taking it seriously, when we ...
A. 20 March 2013: If you can't afford to get a place on your own how to you plan to afford the big white wedding, the kids and that whole lifestyle?
are you looking to buy or just rent? I would NOT buy a house with a man I was not married to.
Now I had my ... (read in full...)
Asked a girl out said she's seeing someone else should I go for it anyways?
Q. Got this girls number had previously meet her and already decided that i liked her. Been texting a little bit asked her out on a date and she said she might be seeing someone else. I dont think their in a relationship just been out on a date. can i ...
A. 20 March 2013: ask her to clarify "might be going out with someone" and proceed accordingly
note, that if she's doing this to someone now, she may do it to you later on.... (read in full...)
Old FWB wants to make it official. Is it risky?
Q. My old sex buddy and i saw each other today , it's been a while since we've seen each other , but he messaged me on Facebook than we texted and he said if i would ever be his girl , and i replied if he would be faithful than yeah . Than he said he'd ...
A. 20 March 2013: TREAD VERY VERY CAREFULLY OP.
I'm betting you care more for him and about him than he does about you and he's just looking to stick his wick in something again...
IF you want to DATE him (really DATE HIM and have him respect you and trea... (read in full...)
We have grown apart in our marriage. Should I leave? Have others done it and came out ok?
Q. I am 38. I have been married for 14 years together 17. I have 3 children. I love my husband, I care for him but I'm not in love with him like I should be. I feel no attraction to him, have no desire and cannot give him affection. He is a good ...
A. 20 March 2013: Before you throw in the towel it sounds to me like you guys just need to reconnect and figure out if it's salvageable
If he's still abusive then I would not bother.
I can't think of the books and therapies that are consistently used to help cou... (read in full...)
Husband has been texting another woman 7 times a day then deleting them
Q. Hi is it normal for my husband to be texting a woman in the cafe where he goes? he is a lorry driver and stops in the cafe most but not everyday. i found out he has been texting her 7 times a day starting as early as 7am just after he leaves the ...
A. 20 March 2013: It would not be ok for me if my husband was carrying on an emotional affair with another woman. And that is what's going on here.
IF you tell him to stop and he does not, he's not willing to give her up for you.
If you two have been marrie... (read in full...)
Why would a man leave a classy woman for a piece of trash?
Q. How can you be in love with someone and barely know them after 2 months of dating all you really do is talk on the phone you. You dont know nothing about this person I would think that first get to know a person before calling them your trophy or ...
A. 20 March 2013: OH I LOVE CERBERUS! “any woman who calls herself classy is just self important trash.” A rose by any other name…
I was going to ask you myself OP… I assume you see yourself as the classy woman?
What about this young lady that you wer... (read in full...)
How is this romantic and not creepy?
Q. My roommate just got a date with a girl for being a creep and messaging her on facebook when he didn't even know her. He sent a message to her on an account he newly made that said I quote "I don't know you very well but one of my friends knows you ...
A. 20 March 2013: I admit that i would have been intrigued by it and after verifying he was not a stalker creep or other dangerous things I would have probably given him a chance in public.
... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is really disconnected in our relationship. I don't know what to do
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for the 6 months and in the past month he has pretty much lost all interest in me sexually. He will cuddle with me on the couch and will kiss me (peck) goodbye but that is about it. He makes comments ...
A. 20 March 2013: Ok I’m reading this and these are the things that stick out
“won’t seek therapy” I allowed my last marriage to end because he would not seek therapy. IF I was dating now (I’m remarried) my new rule would be that I would not date a man wh... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about my ex whom I dated for only about four months
Q. This is going to sound pathetic but I can't stop thinking about my ex whom i only dated for about four months. We broke up 8 months ago. He drug the relationship out for about a month before the split, and right after we broke up I cut contact with ...
A. 20 March 2013: NOT pathetic at all. HUMAN and NORMAL. YOU miss the sex and the dream of a relationship. YOU miss the partnership… YOU DON’T actually miss HIM you miss what he represents.
If you heard from friends that he’s drinking too much you know how he i... (read in full...)
I found out my husband is using porn and I don't like it
Q. I have found out that my husband views internet porn a lot. I am so hurt by this. I work hard to stay attractive and am always ready to make love or be adventurous in bed w/him. He says It's no big deal, and It's the same as me using a vibrator. ...
A. 20 March 2013: I know that a lot of women dislike porn usage. I really don’t get that if it’s not impacting on the relationship. Is his porn usage keeping him from you? Does he not love on you? Does he not treat you well? Does he not initiate sex with you?
H... (read in full...)
I like this man and I'm scared he'll find out about my past
Q. ive been sexually active with a few guys in my neighborhood and ive fell in love with someone who lives close who doesent know about my past and im afraid of him finding out. what should i do?...
A. 20 March 2013: how would he find out? would one of your former lovers tell him? would he ask them?
why is this even a concern at your age you would normally have prior partners.... (read in full...)
My ex wants to get married but I cant forget about her past
Q. I was in a 5 year relationship with my ex.We have been broken up for 2 years.I ran into her at a restaurant and we began talking about getting back together.We started back dating and having fun together.After about 2 weeks she told me during our 2 ...
A. 20 March 2013: I'm not sure why she wants to get married so quickly.
Are you a sufferer of RJ? Because her being involved with someone while she was broken up from you seems perfectly normal to me.
many pregnancies end in miscarriage. before the advent ... (read in full...)
I still have bursts of anger and wish that bad things would happen to my ex
Q. I asked many questions about my ex girlfriend cheating on me and leaving me for another guy after our 8 year relationship. Now looking back i can see how pathetic and broken i was when i look at my previous questions. It has been a year and four ...
A. 20 March 2013: if after 6 months you are still dragging around such rage and hatred you are not done processing your pain.
I really am a huge believer in working things like this through with a competent therapist who can help you find skills and methods ... (read in full...)
My mom has made sacrifices for me but I don't want to be a nurse!
Q. Hello. This is a bit of a complicated question. I am currently in college studying to be a nurse. It's a great job and it's needed everywhere, but I just don't love doing it at all. I have volunteered and taken most of the prerequisites to get...
A. 20 March 2013: If you don't want to be a nurse, then don't be a nurse.
My concern is how will you make your living writing? I have a friend who writes for a non-profit organization so I know that there are jobs out there that you can get.
You can write... (read in full...)
B/f broke up because he can't trust me but I worry about him hurting himself since he's doing drugs
Q. After dating my ex for about a month, he decides to break up with me because he can't trust me and feels i am always lying to him. The first time we broke up was because i cheated. He wanted to give me another chance because he says he really loves ...
A. 20 March 2013: He's your ex, you need to let it go.
you weren't together very long and he's not your responsibility.
If you are concerned that he may harm himself you can report it to the authorities and let them deal with it.
... (read in full...)
A girl sent my boyfriend naked pics, what should I do?
Q. Hello everyone. My boyfriend and I have a really close relationship and we're always honest about everything. Well, this past weekend my boyfriend let me know that a girl sent him some naked pictures of herself. Which honestly I wasn't too shocked ...
A. 20 March 2013: You can't control other people or their behavior.
If you trust your boyfriend then that's all you need and he will do the right thing... he will delete the pictures and tell her they were inappropriate and not to send them again
if they w... (read in full...)
His snoring is keeping me from enjoying our bed with him and he has given up on his appearance. How do I tell him?
Q. Hi, am 5 yrs into marraige and my husband started balding 2 yeses after our marraige. He also snores badly tht its difficult for me to sleep next to him. And fr so many years I have been trying to tell him tht he should do something about it. But he ...
A. 20 March 2013: Dear OP,
I too believe he needs a medical workup for sleep apnea which can cause death if not treated. I also second the idea of ear plugs. I don’t like the idea of separate bedrooms but if all else fails you may have no choice if you choose t... (read in full...)
Is this a good sign that he would take me seriously?
Q. He is on a trip for a month or two. before he left we hung out together all the time he always hold my hand trying to get to know my friends, and also told me about all his friends and his life plan. he's really sweet. we kiss all the time and also ...
A. 20 March 2013: OP, stop guessing. stop wondering... stop assuming.
just because a man says he wants to see your beautiful smile when he returns is not an implication of exclusivity.
DO NOT pin your hopes and dreams on a man that is not even there...
... (read in full...)
He gave me the boot with a cliche break up line, why?
Q. Hi friends! I just got broken up with by guy I've known for almost 2yrs. We have been together for only about 6mths. I told him I had feelings for him then got the kiss of death email. He wrote this: "I think your sweet too nice and too cool of a ...
A. 20 March 2013: I’m adding my voice to the chorus of “he did tell you”.
Six months of dating at your age is not a lot of time… still the honeymoon period… that’s the time when you make the choice about if the person is a good fit or not.
Clearly he liked you... (read in full...)
My dilemma is, should I remain friends, talk, text and see each other, to rebuild a trust. Or tell her it's too hard and stop trying?
Q. My first post here. I've been searching the web to get some peace of mind for some months now. Still at it. So here's my story. I'll try and summarize as best as I can. My ex g/f is 5 years my senior. We met 1 year ago and we dated for 5 month...
A. 20 March 2013: Does not matter how you feel about her...the update does NOT change my mind.... YOU need to go no contact and let her go or you will never get over this and you will continue to hurt.... (read in full...)
Swept off my feet to be dropped on my butt
Q. Am I insane? I met a guy on match.com. We messaged eachother at the same time. He was stationed in afghanistan and would be home in two months. He was in special forces (i won't say what but it is pretty badass). we exchanged texts and emails d...
A. 20 March 2013: OP... please feel free to PM me.
I think you may be over thinking this.
IMO, he TRIED. maybe he tried TOO Hard and too fast.
I often have found in cases like this that the "flash and burn" kind of relationships have this happen. ... (read in full...)
I never thought a long distance relationship would be so hard!
Q. Hello everyone, first of all, I really want to thank you for your time and good will to help. :) I've been in a long distance relationship for 2 months now. The last time I saw my boyfriend was a month ago. The problem is - I just miss him so much!...
A. 19 March 2013: OP I saw your follow up after I posted If you need to have a partner that is close to you and available 24/7 then you are not cut out for an LDR. Some folks aren't. There is no shame in it. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a 38 year old virgin and won't finger me or go down on me
Q. My boyfriend is 38 and a virgin. I'm 35 and we've been dating for almost three years. I've been married once before and have 2 children. I don't expect my boyfriend to have sex with me but he won't finger me or go down on me. I pleasure him in ...
A. 19 March 2013: OP thank you for your follow up… He has never touched your genitals but expects you to service his? His excuse is a crock since if he can’t stop you would finish him with a blow job. THREE YEARS you have done this? I do not advocate ... (read in full...)
My American wife has accused me of getting married for a Green Card, what should I do now?
Q. 6 months ago , I got married to US citizen in Pakistan. We met through dating site and after four months she came to Pakistan to marry me. After honeymoon,once she got back to US, she filled Spouse Visa Petition for me. One month ago, we had a ...
A. 19 March 2013: OP why does SHE have to terminate the marriage? why can't you?... (read in full...)
I want to have an open marriage but don't know how to discuss it with my husband
Q. I know I will probably hear a lot comments like just leave him, and find someone else. But that's not why I m telling you my story. The thing is that I am more and more think about having an open kind of relationship with my husband. I know ...
A. 19 March 2013: OP I see your update (again not highlighted in yellow) and I truly do understand what you are saying. here's the catch... MOST people (especially women) cannot separate sex and feelings. IF you begin a sanctioned affair, the possibility exist... (read in full...)
What is it about a short man that women find so disgusting?
Q. I have been rejected by a few girls and have lost heart. My track record keeps me from trying as I have no reason to believe I will succeed. I have been aware that women do not find short men attractive and recently i have been following "expos...
A. 19 March 2013: "I no longer make an effort" well then why should folks even bother with you if you can't bother to make an effort? I think you do make an effort and you feel that it's not worth it hence: "i just don't care anymore" YES YOU DO or you... (read in full...)
Swept off my feet to be dropped on my butt
Q. Am I insane? I met a guy on match.com. We messaged eachother at the same time. He was stationed in afghanistan and would be home in two months. He was in special forces (i won't say what but it is pretty badass). we exchanged texts and emails d...
A. 19 March 2013: OP i see your follow up... (its not marked as one) thank you for the rest of the story. I didn't think he was married I don't think he used you and I don't think that you sleeping with him is what ended it. I have seen his type before.... (read in full...)
My dilemma is, should I remain friends, talk, text and see each other, to rebuild a trust. Or tell her it's too hard and stop trying?
Q. My first post here. I've been searching the web to get some peace of mind for some months now. Still at it. So here's my story. I'll try and summarize as best as I can. My ex g/f is 5 years my senior. We met 1 year ago and we dated for 5 month...
A. 19 March 2013: I'm sorry I only skimmed your question..
she's keeping you on the back burner just in case.
for your own peace of mind and sanity I would end the friendship and go no contact (block her phone, her email and her social media accounts)
y... (read in full...)
I never thought a long distance relationship would be so hard!
Q. Hello everyone, first of all, I really want to thank you for your time and good will to help. :) I've been in a long distance relationship for 2 months now. The last time I saw my boyfriend was a month ago. The problem is - I just miss him so much!...
A. 19 March 2013: LDRS are very very hard. LDRS for teens are nearly impossible. LDRS require
Trust
Communication
Honesty
Patience
MONEY
TIME
A PLAN TO END THE DISTANCE
I’m going to address MONEY ,TIME and ending the distance.
You need MO... (read in full...)
My American wife has accused me of getting married for a Green Card, what should I do now?
Q. 6 months ago , I got married to US citizen in Pakistan. We met through dating site and after four months she came to Pakistan to marry me. After honeymoon,once she got back to US, she filled Spouse Visa Petition for me. One month ago, we had a ...
A. 19 March 2013: I googled it
http://travel.state.gov/law/family_issues/marriage/marriage_589.html
In general, marriages which are legally performed and valid abroad are also legally valid in the United States. Inquiries regarding the validity of a marria... (read in full...)
I want to have an open marriage but don't know how to discuss it with my husband
Q. I know I will probably hear a lot comments like just leave him, and find someone else. But that's not why I m telling you my story. The thing is that I am more and more think about having an open kind of relationship with my husband. I know ...
A. 19 March 2013: I get it. I do. I came from an open marriage. I ended up letting my now ex husband go and marrying the "boy toy"
so even if your marriage is OPEN it does NOT protect it from failure.
Do you want to stay in the marriage because you don'... (read in full...)
What is it about a short man that women find so disgusting?
Q. I have been rejected by a few girls and have lost heart. My track record keeps me from trying as I have no reason to believe I will succeed. I have been aware that women do not find short men attractive and recently i have been following "expos...
A. 19 March 2013: I’ll start with this short men are NOT disgusting.
What is “disgusting” is a man that lacks confidence for whatever reason he deems himself unworthy to date.
This OP is your biggest problem. Not your height, your self-percept... (read in full...)
My American wife has accused me of getting married for a Green Card, what should I do now?
Q. 6 months ago , I got married to US citizen in Pakistan. We met through dating site and after four months she came to Pakistan to marry me. After honeymoon,once she got back to US, she filled Spouse Visa Petition for me. One month ago, we had a ...
A. 18 March 2013: You have already posted about suing her right?
isn't this you: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-sue-my-us-wife-for-defamation.html
now you want to figure out how to keep her?
so which is it you want to sue her and punish her or... (read in full...)
A girl sent my boyfriend naked pics, what should I do?
Q. Hello everyone. My boyfriend and I have a really close relationship and we're always honest about everything. Well, this past weekend my boyfriend let me know that a girl sent him some naked pictures of herself. Which honestly I wasn't too shocked ...
A. 18 March 2013: so some random girl out of the blue sent your boyfriend naked pictures of her.
He's not having any contact with her at all right? not friends on facebook, no texting... NOTHING.. he doesn't even know her and has NO CLUE why she picked him to s... (read in full...)
Is this a good sign that he would take me seriously?
Q. He is on a trip for a month or two. before he left we hung out together all the time he always hold my hand trying to get to know my friends, and also told me about all his friends and his life plan. he's really sweet. we kiss all the time and also ...
A. 18 March 2013: "he kisses my forehead a lot too"
seriously... this is NOTHING honey... my husband never kisses my forehead. EVER.
IF you two have not discussed if you are in a serious committed monogamous relationship then ASSUME you are NOT.
b... (read in full...)
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