My boyfriend says he's not a sexual person...is this normal?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating long-distance for eight months. We're finally going to be living in the same city. We're both in our 30's and haven't had sex with each other yet. He wasn't bringing it up, so when I finally did, he said, "We ...
A. 18 June 2010: You guys never talk about sex before you actually met up? As in, this is news to you? (that he isn't "that" sexual)
Personally I do find it a little odd for a guy in his early 30's. I don't think I have ever met a guy that wasn't "into" sex. May... (read in full...)
Made out, emailed but no replies
Q. I have just broken up from a long relationship and was not intending to meet any one. However whilst dancing in a club and a bit tipsy I met a guy. I flirted with him and refrained from giving him my contact details and name, likewise he did the ...
A. 17 June 2010: I would send him another e-mail when he gets back, just a short and sweet one, then...... the ball is in his court. IF he is interested as well he will contact you, if not.. Well then you had yourself a little fling is all.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is visiting dating and teen porn sites and its ruining our intimacy!
Q. My bf does not think dating forums and porn has anything to do with me. I feel unsexy and not good enough. He cant stay of teenporn sites. I hate it it affects our sex life. He does not even try to satisfy me. He is using cipralex which makes it ...
A. 17 June 2010: Dump him, what really are you hanging on too?
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Is it normal for men like me to want to spice up marital sex life with an escort?
Q. My wife of 15 years took a remark I made the wrong way. She got really upset and I said it did come out the wrong way. She is the only one I have been with in 15 years. The truth is the sex isn't like it used to be. I suggested having an escort ...
A. 17 June 2010: Adding an extra body to the marital bed is not what i would consider spicing up your sex life.. Quite the contrary. It's a sure way to start drama and problems.
Do I think it's normal? I think men ( and women) who have been married a long time wan... (read in full...)
I think losing my virginity ruined my life! Please help!
Q. i had sex for the first time, and i loved him and i thought he loved me, but i guess not he used me and its been about 7 months sence then. i wasnt ready but he talked me into it, i cry myself asleep because of him. and now i feel like a whore, and ...
A. 17 June 2010: I agree, don't have sex til you feel you truly are ready.
We all (young and old) make mistakes, and hopefully we learn from these mistakes and do not repeat them. So do forgive yourself for making the mistake of sleeping with someone you thought ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wont do anything in bed for me because he says I am too wet!
Q. im really worried because while in bed with my boyfriend i will play about with him by giving him a handjob and i will give him a blowjob and he wont do anything for me i try to drop hints like saying what do i get and he says sex, i spoke to him ...
A. 3 June 2010: Wow, sorry honey, but you need to stop doing things to him if he can't "return" the favor. And... maybe give him a book on female reproductive organs...
YOU (as a female) are SUPPOSED to get wet. It's natural lube a females body produces when she... (read in full...)
Girlfriend woke up one morning and told me she didn't love me any more...
Q. My gf of nearly 1 year, one day woke up an said i dont love you any more, i dont feel anything . i loss feelings for you. its hard letting her go i love her so much its very devastating and shocking to hear those words. were not the prefect couple ...
A. 3 June 2010: I'm sorry that has got to suck! But look at it this way, isn't it better that she was honest? That she didn't pretend to be someone she isn't? Now you are free to find a women who have the same ideal & values as yourself.
Take some time being si... (read in full...)
Do I have the right to request he doesn't contact her on our romantic break
Q. I'm going away for the weekend with my boyfriend. He told me to bring a pen to write postcards with. He has a female friend whom he used to be in love with before he met me, and I know he will want to send her a postcard, he sent her one a year ago ...
A. 28 May 2010: Whoa! It a postcard, no a pre-nup he wants to send her. I think you are being obsessive about something that is really trivial, a postcard.
Personally I think it's a nice gesture to send someone you consider a friend a postcard, after all WHO ... (read in full...)
I caught my boyfriend of 6 years watching transexual porn!
Q. Yesterday I caught my boyfriend of 6 years watching transexual porn, he cried and claimed that it was normal and that he wasnt interested in men. Hes always told me that hes interested in strap ons and female domination and has requested that I...
A. 27 May 2010: I don't transsexual porn for straight people either, it's fake chicks with a dick.. basically...
I guess it can be something different to watch?
I would talk to him and go with my gut. ... (read in full...)
A guy with too many feminine traits. Please help!!!
Q. Hello All, I am a guy aged 23 years. This is not a very serious question, but would appreciate your views. I really want to see the movie - Sex and the City - 2". Considering the fact that this movie is considered a "chick flick", woul...
A. 27 May 2010: Call a female friend and offer to take her to see the movie:) I see nothing wrong in your taste in movies.
Personally I'm NOT a fan of most "chick-flick", nor will I watch hacker-slasher movies... We all have a genre we like. That... my friend i... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants us to live with his parents. What should I do?
Q. Hello. I have a problem. My bf wants us to live in the same house as his parents. And even if I like them, I'm not sure I want to live quite so close to them. What should I do: tell him no and maybe lose him or agree to it?...
A. 27 May 2010: Why would you two live with his parents? If you are in the 26-29 age group you both should be old enough to have jobs and a place of your own.
Sorry, I adore my FIL ( Father In Law) but there is no way I would live with him.... (read in full...)
My sister is dating someone that doesn't seem right for her. What should I do?
Q. Help! My sister is dating this guy and he doesn't seem right for her at all. What should I do? Should I tell her or shut up and pretend to be happy for her? The absolutely biggest reason that I can point out is that she really wants kids and pretty ...
A. 27 May 2010: I would tell her IF she asked what you thought about the guy. Otherwise... it's her life, her mistakes.
You may be sisters but that doesn't always mean you have the same taste in men.... (read in full...)
Is my fiance cheating, or am I paranoid? Please Help!
Q. I don't know how I can tell if my fiance is flirting and possibly seeing my best friend. He seems to be constantly tugging her hair or tickling her or something. When I talked to my best friend about him flirting with her she said she didn't think ...
A. 25 May 2010: Why not tell him that you find his attention to your Best Friend a little much? If you two are engaged to be married you need to learn how to communicate. Otherwise there will be no trust or respect by the time you are ready to walk down the ... (read in full...)
Will my body adjust to his large penis size to ensure a long and happy sexual life for us?
Q. My boyfriend and I are getting ready to make love after being together for awhile. My question is his penis is 10 1/2 inches long and 3 inches wide, how can i adjust to this size to enjoy the intercourse? I know lubricants will help, but will my ...
A. 25 May 2010: I can't see why not. Just take it slow and take your time.... (read in full...)
What does he want by contacting me again?! He cheated on me and used me!
Q. When we first met my instinct told me loud and clear that he was trouble but he was also very attractive and after hanging out a couple of times the sexual tension grew so strong that I couldn't help but giving in to the temptation. We started ...
A. 25 May 2010: I'm guessing he is in between women, and likes to see just how good he is a jerking people around, After all when he yells jump, you start to jump your ass off. And you don't even know why.
1. change your phone number, email address, block hi... (read in full...)
What should I do... I'm not the same person I used to be..
Q. Okay im 16 for the record. So I met this guy Chris online in july. after meeting him, we totally fell for each other :) i'd do anything for him. so for the first time, he got me to send him underwear pics. and then eventually i also sent him a ...
A. 25 May 2010: First off, STOP sending pictures of yourself in your undies or naked to ANYONE! You just don't know where they an end up at.
Secondly, take your time getting to know a person before getting intimate with them. I don't mean chat on the Internet... (read in full...)
She said "He dreams about me" and its true but I can't tell her that!
Q. Hi I'm a guy, 19 years, in the last six months have been in a class for adult education to improve my maths. In my class is a girl (21 years) who I think is really cute, nice and intelligent. Today when we were at the school to fetch some pap...
A. 25 May 2010: Go for it. Ask her out to a Cafe nearby after class to play pool/back gammon or for brunch on a sunday :) ... (read in full...)
Is his 'size' effecting us not getting pregnant?
Q. Im with a guy that is above normal in size. he goes in all the way but i can't get pregnant. can him going in real deep affect me from having a child?...
A. 25 May 2010: Nope, size have nothing to do with it. Whether he is 2 inches or 9 the average healthy male discharges 50 million sperm in a single ejaculation.
If you aren't sure what is keeping you two from getting pregnant, I suggest you see a doctor about it... (read in full...)
My step- children don't respect me what should I do?
Q. My husband and I have 6 kids. Three are his and three are mine. I am at home with the kids the most so I deal with their behaviour issues and just day to day stuff making sure they get their responsibilities (which are very minimal) taken care of. ...
A. 25 May 2010: I agree with YouWish.
You need to sit your husband down and you two set the ground rules for what is acceptable and what is not acceptable in your household, then YOU both have all 6 kids in and explain the rules.
It might also be a good i... (read in full...)
Making A Fool Of Myself perhaps?
Q. I have just returned from a lovely cruise ( third this year) and already booked this ship again for two month time many of the apssengers have been on this ship loads of times as its small and gfriendly I am worried thaqt I might have made a fool...
A. 25 May 2010: Don't worry about it :)
You didn't do anything wrong or "bad". You gave a person whom you felt deserved it, a compliment. I'm betting he really appreciated it.
Now if you started to stalk or chase down every ship he is on.. you might have a pro... (read in full...)
How long should you wait if you want to keep a man?
Q. How long should you wait to have sex with a man you are seeing if you want to keep him?...
A. 25 May 2010: Men aren't goldfish.. you don't KEEP them...
However, I think it really depends on YOUR morals, values and general ideas. For some it's 6 days, 6 weeks or 6 months.
I guess what it comes down too for me, personally, is that when I was datin... (read in full...)
I did everything for her, now we don't get on. Has she used me?
Q. Hey, I have been with a girl for coming up two years now. She started to work in the office where I work- I am 34 and she is now 23. I tried to give this relationship my all. We moved in together after a short while of dating. I paid the depo...
A. 25 May 2010: Maybe she feels more like a daughter/father relationship? Since you take care of everything for her. Just a thought.
I think when a relationship isn't equal, it can be hard to make it work.
Maybe you need to grab your stuff and move out. (o... (read in full...)
Is it ok to act as his girlfriend?
Q. My 2 friends like eachother but the girl wont admit that they are a couple. They guy is completely in love with her and would do anything to make her happy. Is it far to the guy for my friend to act like a girlfriend but not admit that they are a ...
A. 21 May 2010: Let them sort our how they want to "act" or be around each other. Maybe their aren't ready to be "acting" like a couple and just maybe they are happy with the way things are.
It's their "relationship/friendship. They will figure it out.
What... (read in full...)
I cringe at compliments!
Q. There's this guy who likes me, and he constantly tells me how beautiful and amazing i am and how it's so good we have a lot in common, (music etc) However, i feel uncomfortable when people say things like that to me, im not sure why exactly,...
A. 21 May 2010: Learn to gracefully say thank you to compliments.
If you feel like they are insincere or fake, then just say thanks and move on. The guy you are mentioning seems .... clingy and controlling.. both a no-no in my book.
The overly many compliments... (read in full...)
Opinions on sexy pictures?
Q. What do people think of allowing your partner to take sexy pictures of you? I'm not talking about nude or even in bra/pants. I'm thinking of a sexy babydoll or chemise, something racy but with no parts showing so if anyone did end up seeing them I ...
A. 21 May 2010: I think if you are 16-17 then you especially need to NOT do it. You just never know where those pictures end up, specially on the web.
Don't do it.
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Horrible rash on my legs
Q. Hi, this morning I shaved my legs in a hurry and stupidly did it without using any soap or cream...or anything but water and the razor. Consequently a now have a rash on my legs and it looks awful!! Needless to say, I haven't done that before and ...
A. 21 May 2010: I found this info. Razor burn is actually a skin irritation," says Dr. Placek. "When you shave, you're basically peeling off part of your epidermis--the top layer of skin. The redness is a normal response to tissue injury. Blood flow increases t... (read in full...)
Treats me like dirt, U dump him, suddenly he's perfect!
Q. so here's the deal. i was dating my boyfriend (now ex) for about six months. things seemed fine and great until i found out he was getting pictures from another girl and flirting with other girls via the internet. he is a shy guy and like lives on ...
A. 21 May 2010: Honey, he's not going to change. He just know which buttons to push to get you to "momentarily" forgive him.. Cut the contact, find a guy who is actually worthy.... (read in full...)
Am I really that bad at sex?
Q. Almost two years ago i had this boyfriend and he had sex with so many other women. his penis was slightly smaller than average(but i have had small guys before so no biggie) and everytime we had sex he always complained about something. like when i ...
A. 21 May 2010: I agree with Chigirl.. it was almost 2 years ago let it go. I'm guessing it's still in the back on your mind and that is why you are asking, but honestly.. unless you made his penis bend in a weird way ( that might hurt) I don't really think you... (read in full...)
Why has my husband gone off sex?
Q. What are the reasons for a married man to completely gone of sex? I really don't know what to think.. This is my husband ,after 26 years... Around 4 years ago ,he stopped touching,having any sexual feelings all together. Almost feels like a spell......
A. 21 May 2010: I suggest you talk to him. Best way to find out what's really going on. Speculations will only lead to far fetched theories and hurt feelings.... (read in full...)
This "father figure" situation has gone too far....
Q. Hi, I have been dating a girl on an off that has only been living in the US for a few years. I myself have lived abroad for almost 2 decades. I tend to become a father figure to the girls I have dated and I don't mind it. I am not controlling, ...
A. 21 May 2010: Maybe start dating a REAL women? Someone who needs a man not a Daddy?
And I agree with the other Aunts & Uncles, this is YOUR pattern, YOUR behavior, YOU need to be the one changing it.... (read in full...)
How do I show him that I am no longer interested?
Q. So how do you give a guy signs you're not interested? I thought I really liked this boy, so I was really into him and flirty and stuff.. now I've gone off of him. Its for various reasons, but the thing is he still keeeeps on texting me and ...
A. 21 May 2010: Just tell him. The longer you drag it out (that means replying to his texts, mails so forth) he will think you are still interested, so be honest ( don't be rude or crude) Be polite and tell him as nicely as possible, that you aren't interested and ... (read in full...)
Is lending him money a good enough reason to get married
Q. Hi All, Here's the situation. My SO and I have been in a relationship for nearly a year and a half. We've lived together for a year now and are preparing to go off to grad school this fall. The thing is, he's asked me to cover his living expenses...
A. 21 May 2010: Nope. I don't think lending money is a good idea. Nor is getting married because you are lending him money.
Like Timm D wrote, don't "carry" anyone, specially not a partner, the whole things will be about not being equal and about the money. W... (read in full...)
I stained my sheet three times... is there any chance she'll still want me?
Q. Well... As my screen name states it all. I am dumb. I recently cheated on my wife of 12 years. I regret everything about it. It does get worse it was with three women. I know that this act is insulting and a slap in the face to her. I dont know the...
A. 20 May 2010: IF you are military, you can EASILY get counseling without informing your CoC. ( For those not in the military CoC = Chain of Command) All you have to do is call MilitaryOneSource. ( you can look up the numbers on the www). It will not be on your ... (read in full...)
I like him but my friends and family don't!
Q. me and this guy, were not dating each other, but we hang round loads, and we always kiss and... Basically we act like were going out, but my friends all seem to hate him they say he's a player and all this stuff, but if i like him does it matter wat ...
A. 18 May 2010: Now if you take a minute ( or 20) to sit back and think about what your friends and family are saying and think about WHY they are saying this. ( As in they know you, they love you, they want what is best for you, they want you to succeed and be ... (read in full...)
H'es giving up because legally I'm still married!
Q. Ive been dating a guy for 6 months and we both have told eachother that were falling in love with one another. I am still married and have been seperated from my husband for over a year. I just found out our marriage is not going to be final for ...
A. 18 May 2010: I understand him 100% . Get your own life in order THEN look for your next relationship. If he is still available you might be in luck.
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Is it safe to have sex in the water?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are going to the beach this Saturday and I wanted to know is it's safe or not to have sex in the water? I am thinking about bringing this idea up to her but I don't know if it is safe or not....
A. 18 May 2010: You know, if you want sex & water.. Try it out in a tub or shower.
And,..... sex on the beach is way hotter in the movies, sand in every crack isn't hot at all - Trust me. ;)
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Can you tell if a guy has recently had sex?
Q. How can you tell if a man has recently had sex? I am in a relationship with someone who sometimes has a very strong odor around the tip of his penis. He also has a very reddish on his testicles sometimes? Are these signs of a man recently having ...
A. 18 May 2010: He could be allergic to the laundry soap or the fabric his underwear is made off, he could has a STD or sweats a lot.
Strong odor can be from cigarette/cigar smoking, too much coffee, red meat and so forth. Bodily fluids change "flavor/... (read in full...)
I stained my sheet three times... is there any chance she'll still want me?
Q. Well... As my screen name states it all. I am dumb. I recently cheated on my wife of 12 years. I regret everything about it. It does get worse it was with three women. I know that this act is insulting and a slap in the face to her. I dont know the...
A. 18 May 2010: I think until you can HONESTLY say WHY you cheated 3 times, you have no chance. You didn't just wake up with a woody and fell over some woman and had sex. You consciously CHOSE to cheat. Cheating takes a little planning, even if you just picked a ... (read in full...)
Pictures of his ex on his bedroom wall! And porn-type ones with her on his phone and computer!
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for just under 2 months, and when i was over his i noticed on his phone and computer he has porn like pictures of him and his ex and a photo of her on his bedroom wall. so i gave him time to delete them etc. but he didn...
A. 18 May 2010: Yup, like MarieClaire said, he is still into her. Honestly I think you are "rebound-girl" :( Sorry, I would dump his ass.... (read in full...)
Is it safe to have sex in the water?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are going to the beach this Saturday and I wanted to know is it's safe or not to have sex in the water? I am thinking about bringing this idea up to her but I don't know if it is safe or not....
A. 18 May 2010: If you mean can she still get pregnant? Or could either of you catch the other persons STD ( if either of you have an STD)
The answer is YES. She can still get pregnant and STD's can still be transmitted..
Safest way to avoid pregnancy is usi... (read in full...)
We broke up and I slept with someone else, but now we are back together she wants a break just to sleep with another guy to get back at me!
Q. My girlfriend broke up with me 8 months ago and i slept with someone else after a few weeks. After this she wanted me back and i told her what happened and she still wanted to get back together with me. It was OK for a couple months but then she ...
A. 18 May 2010: Seems utterly immature of her.
I see nothing good coming from this. If you don't "let" her she will obsess about your "fling" and if you do let her, you will both regret it, but the blame will fall on you.
A no win/no win situation.
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