LDR things are getting weird and I'm not sure where to go with it
Q. so i met this really cute guy on a dating site and he came to where i live, which is like 2 hrs away from where he lives, 2 days after we started talking. the first date went great. we kept talking constantly sometimes until about 4 o clock in the ...
A. 15 July 2010: If you think he is a keeper I would talk to him. Or write him a long e-mail. As long as you don't do it in a accusatory way (as in,, you do this wrong and this wrong, know what I mean?)
He's got a pretty trying job, that is another thing you have... (read in full...)
How do I keep my man hard enough for penetration?
Q. Hi, just wondering if any woman or guy could help me with this... Im in a relationship now with a guy for nearly a year now, who i love very much. He's great fun outgoing and treats me perfectly..except in the bedroom. I get turned on by being with ...
A. 15 July 2010: Try having him wear two condoms, it seriously cut out the sensation and for guys what aren't GREAT at staying hard it can be helpful. Sounds silly, but it does work.
Cock rings can do the same.
It can be something like performance anxi... (read in full...)
What was he doing with the laptop for 30 minutes?
Q. I spent a week over my cousins house. One is my age and one is younger. The boy is my age. Well he went down stairs with his laptop and never came back up until 20 or 30 minutes later. I'm not sure what he was doing though. When he came back up he ...
A. 15 July 2010: Checked his e-mail? Looked at funny links, his MySpace,Facebook, played Hearts and beat the computer.. Does it really matter what he did? ... (read in full...)
I miss having sex but he isn't working on the problem!
Q. okay so my boyfriend of a year has lost his sex drive. This isnt a recent problem, it's been going on since about November last year. I could count the times we've had sex this year on one hand... it's gettting me down. Now we've talked about this ...
A. 15 July 2010: If he is bipolar he really SHOULD take his meds. Hands down.
I DO understand why he's been using pot, it might prevent the HIGH highs and the LOW lows. However, pot is not (nor have it ever been a "cure-all" ) It's a tool to escape or alleviat... (read in full...)
B/f a complete stranger now! Is he cheating on me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and a few days. Before we went out I had just gotten out of a nasty relationship about 1 1/2 months before, maybe a bit longer. He used to text me every night 'I love you sweet dreams!" and cute ...
A. 15 July 2010: I think there is something going on. Is he cheating I don't know but he seems awfully distant.
I would sit him down and talk to him.
Also, I would stop bending over backwards for your man. Be who you are, do what you like, say what you think.... (read in full...)
He never tells me something is wrong until we start fighting!
Q. Okayy so me and this kid have been going out for about two months. And yesterday for example, we were talking all day and he was acting totally fine. And then that night i asked him how his game went...and he said that they won and so on. After that ...
A. 15 July 2010: I think you were both a bit in the wrong. Why on Earth did you feel a NEED to point out that he hasn't had a home run in a while? That is like a kick in the pants to a guy who takes him sport serious.
I think his reaction was a bit over the top ... (read in full...)
Why is he sending another woman text messages saying "hey beautiful"
Q. i have been living with my boyfriend for a year and lately he has been distant. Not ass affectionate and attentive as before. I just felt like something was off so i checked his text messages (up until now i have never felt a need to) and saw ...
A. 15 July 2010: Sorry hun, Where there is smoke there is usually fire.
Own up to the fact that you snooped. You obviously had a gut instinct telling you something was up. Yes, I don't really approve of snooping, but I really HATE cheating. Ask him point blank an... (read in full...)
I miss having sex but he isn't working on the problem!
Q. okay so my boyfriend of a year has lost his sex drive. This isnt a recent problem, it's been going on since about November last year. I could count the times we've had sex this year on one hand... it's gettting me down. Now we've talked about this ...
A. 15 July 2010: Depending on what medicine he is on, it can really affect his libido. Pot doesn't always help wither, so the combo maybe be the biggest reason why.
If he isn't willing to go talk to his doctor and maybe try another type of meds, it's not going to... (read in full...)
Do my scars discomfort her?
Q. Hello people, I have a problem here, or maybe I'm paranoid. Either way, I know this gal, She's 21, and I'm 27. Oh and I should make it clear that I have a number of scars on my body and 2 on my face because when I was in Afghanistan in duty an ...
A. 15 July 2010: Read the link Q1605 put up, it's interesting and healthy.
Also, read this story:
http://www.oregonlive.com/steltz/
And this:
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/07/04/ny...ewanted=1&_r=1
None of us are perfect 24/7. But you can be, perfec... (read in full...)
I had an emotional affair and the woman is still on my mind
Q. Hey, everyone. I am in a relationship of several years. It's rocky. We have trouble communicating. She often won't tell me what she's thinking and a lot of the time I keep things to myself because I think she'll get sad, defensive, or ju...
A. 15 July 2010: Well. it's time to shit or get off the pot.
You and your GF can not move forward if you have to walk on eggshells around each other. So. Sit her down. Ask her what SHE thinks will improve your relationship, and tell her what you feel.
If you ... (read in full...)
How to I choose the right cock ring?
Q. OK, so I have a few questions abut using a cockring. I'm kinda a novice in this area. First, the reason I want to use one is my GF craves sex, and quite frankly, I am not always super horny because we do it so often. As a result, I sometimes have ...
A. 15 July 2010: My suggestions is that you try out a few different kinds. DO NOT get the leather or metal ones. They are not for novices. (and from what I hear not all that comfortable)
Go with silicone/rubber (silicone is usually more flexible so a good start) ... (read in full...)
Adoring my workmate from afar
Q. Hi there everyone OK, here goes. I am in LUST with a man at work. This isn't going away. I have lusted after him for over a year. I sit in meetings and look at things like... the tiny little hairs on his arms. Or his lovely eyes. Or his beautiful...
A. 15 July 2010: Do you honestly see anything good coming from this?
Think it over. Having a Crush is all fine and dandy, but when you are mentally replacing him with your husband in your marriage bed I think you have crossed some lines.
I think you need t... (read in full...)
Dating site guy coming on too strong?
Q. i signed up on a dating site... this guy emailed me.. we've talked and he seems nice so far.. he thinks am gorgeous and hes smitten.. he emailed me this: him: can i be straight to the point i would love to have a long term relation...
A. 15 July 2010: If that is what he said jsut after a few chats/IM/E-mails... then, Yes, he sounds like he is either a TAD desperate or he is a player (who isn't good at "playing" )
It would definently make me back away.... (read in full...)
LDR things are getting weird and I'm not sure where to go with it
Q. so i met this really cute guy on a dating site and he came to where i live, which is like 2 hrs away from where he lives, 2 days after we started talking. the first date went great. we kept talking constantly sometimes until about 4 o clock in the ...
A. 15 July 2010: Maybe this whole LDR is not for you? How much do you know about this guy? His job, his family and so forth?
LDR are hard hard work and you need to have decent communication and a whole lot of trust.
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4 years and no sex! Who else would put up with this?
Q. my boyfriend n i have been together for 4 years. we've never had sex. for the first year he kept puttin it off by blaming drink tiredness or not in the mood. truth was he's so nervous, he's afraid he won't be able to keep it up. after i found th...
A. 14 July 2010: Obviously he doesn't see it as a big problem, since.. you are still around...
Maybe it's time to cut your losses? ... (read in full...)
My friends don't like the new me, but I do!
Q. I've changed! Suposibly I've gotten prettier, I lost some weight, I've gotten taller, i don't talk as much, I'm not as loud and alot more. But my friends don't like it. They don't like the new me. They miss the old me. But I like the new me not the ...
A. 14 July 2010: Be you. Let them get used to the new you. We all change a little as we grow, it's part of nature.
Feeling more confident is not a bad thing, could be some of them are a little jealous, so just don't rub it in ;) ... (read in full...)
Am I setting a good example by staying for the kids, or am I setting myself up to be alone with a stranger when the kids leave the home?
Q. Hi, I am 28yrs old and have been married for 9 years. I am not sure exactly what answers I am seeking, but am compelled to tell my story in hopes of gaining some advice, or at least a different perspective from those in similar or different ...
A. 14 July 2010: Wow, that is a lot to deal with.
Marriage and kids do change us (specially women) And I think a lot of women lose themselves in the process of being Mom,dad,wife,maid,cook...... you name it.
What you are saying is that you feel compelled to jus... (read in full...)
I don't feel the spark in my relationship anymore, so I should just leave, right?
Q. there is no spark in my relationship with my girlfriend (a year and some months) who i love or loved (i cant tell which it is). should i talk about not feeling the spark with her or just wait a little longer to see if they come back. its already ...
A. 14 July 2010: Make it spark, make it goddamn blow fireworks! You will not have "sparks" every day in a relationship, there a ruts & slumps. There are good time and bad. Ups and downs. Relationships like vintage cars, they take TIME, WORK, LOVE and EFFORT to run. ... (read in full...)
The ex wants to hang out, but I want more than friendship. What do I do?
Q. Alright so, my gf has recently dumped me because she thought she was never there for me. Even though we didn't see eachother as much as we wanted to due to homework, sports, family, etc. I still think we had a great relationship.. I asked if w...
A. 14 July 2010: She wants a guy who can spend more time and attention, for now, that just isn't you.
If you want more then friendship and she doesn't, there isn't much you can do. If being friends hurt to much, let her go. Move on.
Sometimes timing really ju... (read in full...)
Why does my hubby want me to lick, finger, and penetrate his arse. Does this mean he is gay or bi?
Q. "OP Own Title" Why does my husband want me to play with his butt so much? He always wants me to touch it, finger it, even lick it. He is often putting it in my face during 69. I don't particularly like it, but do it sometimes when I am drunk or ...
A. 14 July 2010: Nope doesn't necessarily make him gay or bi. It makes him curious. If you don't want to lick or finger him, be honest.
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Do my scars discomfort her?
Q. Hello people, I have a problem here, or maybe I'm paranoid. Either way, I know this gal, She's 21, and I'm 27. Oh and I should make it clear that I have a number of scars on my body and 2 on my face because when I was in Afghanistan in duty an ...
A. 14 July 2010: Honestly I find scars sexy. Call me weird.
I don't think she was disgusted, maybe shocked and feeling over protective of you. If they bother her, then she is shallow and you need to find a better woman.
You know the scene in Lethal weapons I... (read in full...)
Boyfriend commented badly on the nude picture I sent him!
Q. Im in a long distance relationship and in a committed relationship of one year.well i really love my bf and even he loves me a lot.the problem is that he told me to send some nude pics..well i don't have any problem because we are close and i have ...
A. 14 July 2010: I'd stop sending him nude pictures if he is complaining like that.... (read in full...)
Did you ever love someone you couldn't have?
Q. This isn't really for advice, more for opinions. Is there anyone whose ever loved someone before or had feelings for someone, but there was sort of an obstacle to get to that person? Did you ever get to them? Was it worth it to risk the things y...
A. 14 July 2010: Oh yes! Though looking back it was definently more of a CRUSH or LUST, then real love.
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Can a previous abortion be to blame on why I can't get pregnant now?
Q. i had abortion a year ago I don't stay with my man but I have been trying to get pregnant its been 4months and nothing yet I'm worried my abortion may be causing this is it possible? Please help! ...
A. 14 July 2010: It can be the cause, but ther can be many other reasons as well. If you are worried, go see a gynocologist.
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Do I have to make my career choice already at 15?
Q. hi, im 15 and i've been told i have 5 months to decide what i want to do and i have to apply for college in 5 months. im not sure what i want to do i wanted to be a police woman and make a change because i really do care but im not very healty( ...
A. 14 July 2010: No you don't, but it is a good idea to take some time and think what you MIGHT want to work with.
I'm 41 and I still don't know what I want to be when I "grow up". I'm going back to school and taking graphic design. I also have a degree in marke... (read in full...)
My husband keeps texting sex lines!
Q. my husband keeps texting sex lines. i have asked him to stop several times and told him i will leave him if it happens again but i have just seen his phone bill and once again he's been doing it! We have 2 small sons who are 18 months and 7 wee...
A. 14 July 2010: Can you call the Cell phone provider and block those numbers?
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My partner's mother wants to move in with us even though she can take care of herself, and I feel as a young couple with young children we cannot deal with the burden!
Q. Hi all, need some much needed advice. I am 24 Ive been with my fiance for 7 years and we have a beautiful baby girl and I am due to have a baby boy in August. We recently moved home for a fresh start after I found out my fiance had an affair however ...
A. 14 July 2010: No way I would want her to move in. I would sit your fiancee down and tell him how it's going to be. HE will have to be the one telling her, no you are not living with us.
You and the kids should come first in his life. She can come visit and yo... (read in full...)
My husband has lied to me and cheated on me. Why can't I forgive?
Q. my husband has lied to me and cheated on me thru phone sex,date sites,porn,actual contact with another female,i have caught him everytime,and confronted him,but i cant seem to move past it,he says he is a sex addict,and goes to therapy,and has made ...
A. 14 July 2010: Because part of your anger is not really at him, it is directed at yourself. YOU are having issued with STILL being around and taking this kind of shit over and over, instead of walking away.
Been there - done that - burned the T-shirt.
He can ... (read in full...)
Under what circumstances would you lie about your name to a person of the same gender?
Q. Before I start shooting my question, I want to thank you all for reading my post. This is not about relationships, however, it has been bothering me since it happened. Today, my friend's gf arranged a surprise dinner for him in a near by city. In...
A. 14 July 2010: Honestly, I would let it go. It seems like a really weird thing to do. I have never told a friend of a friend a fake name & story ever.
I have, however given a fake phone number to guys who just wouldn't take no for an answer. ( I worked as a bar... (read in full...)
Is it out of line for me to ask to see the engagement rings he gave to his ex's?
Q. He's been engaged before and he still has the rings, is it ok for me to ask to see the rings or is that out of line?...
A. 14 July 2010: Yes, I think it's out of line to ask to see the ex's engagement ring. If he volunteer showing it, that is HIS choice. However, I am wondering WHY he still has it.
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He doesn't want me to come out with him on his work nights out, is it normal for couples to go out drinking without each other?
Q. This is going to be long, sorry :X My boyfriend and I have been dating since our high school days (started when we were 17, now we are 23/24). We've been living together for 2 years now and are both in university. However, lately we've bee...
A. 14 July 2010: Talk about lacking social skills! you man really lacks any kind of TACT!
When I was your age and lived with my then BF we would go out separately and together. We weren't joined at the hip, but I knew his friends and he knew mine. We would at... (read in full...)
Do girlfriends discuss their lovers in detail?
Q. Another post had me wondering... when you girls talk about your BF's to fairly close or very close friends, what is the limit on discussion? Do you just say things like "he's great in bed" "he's very tender", or do most women go into more detail ...
A. 14 July 2010: Oh my goddness, I don't think guys want to know this, but yeah sometimes every little embarassing detail...
You get a bunch of women together, open a bottle of wine and woo you would blush!
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Should I ask him why he stop calling me beautiful or babe?
Q. Hey well my bf used to always say "morning babe" or "morning beautiful" but lately he hasnt been he just says "morning". I miss him calling me that stuff do you think it would be ok if i asked why he stoped? Its only been like 3 or 4 days but i ...
A. 14 July 2010: Start calling him cute, silly names and maybe he will get the hint, now if you TELL him to call you nick names it's just not cute, know what I mean?
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Need to spice up our sex life after 16years, how??
Q. Please help, how can I spice up my sex life with my fiance of 16 years?...
A. 14 July 2010: You have been engaged for 16 years? Wow marry her already! - have a nice romantic honeymoon.
Google some romantic sex kits, games, playing cards - mostly though, GET her involved in finding stuff that might be fun. Court her again. ... (read in full...)
Taking the pill while pregnant?
Q. if i'm pregnant, and i dont know, and i keeep taking my birth control regularly, when it comes time for my period, will i get it? or spot? or not bleeed at all? please help mee....
A. 14 July 2010: IF you are pregnant and keep taking the pill you will STILL be pregnant.
There is a slightly higher significance of miscarriage and ectopic pregnancy in women who continued taking birth control while pregnant. An ectopic pregnancy is when a fe... (read in full...)
Exhausted at being Mrs. Transportation
Q. my boyfriend lost his vehicle over 8 months ago so ive been taking him back and forth to work when he is schedule he works 10 minutes away from where we live and writes his own schedule for work when i have to be at work at 10am and my job is near ...
A. 14 July 2010: I'm sorry. don't you think it's time for him to get some wheels of his own after 8 months? He should have saved up a LOT...... or at least he COULD have.
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Boyfriend has a girl friend that causes problems
Q. My Bf used to flat with two girls when we started going out. One was very clingy and flirty. she was always all over him, and would write on his facebook how much she loved him. She would call him baby and intimate things, and many thought she was ...
A. 14 July 2010: They are a lot more then "just" friends. I would move on and let her have your "leftovers"...
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Should I come clean about cheating or not?
Q. hi i am teddy and i have made a big mistake .... i have cheated on my bf who i have been with for ages its love ... shall i come clean and tell him .... xxxxx help me ...
A. 14 July 2010: Either you come clean or you will have to live with the guilt and the fear of being found out.. Pretty easy choice don't you think?
How well do you think a relationship without trust can be?
Own up.... (read in full...)
I feel I want more than snogging but I'm not totally sure what I want to do!
Q. I've been going out with this guy for 3 and a half months, he is the first boy I've kissed and the furthest we've gone is snogging, we're both 14 but I feel like I want more and im not sure what I want and what to do. If you could help i wou...
A. 13 July 2010: Take it slow :) That is my best advice.
Until you know exactly WHAT you want, don't do something you may regret.
And remember if sex comes into the piture, use protection. Don't be careless about it. READ up on it, KNOW what YOU need to do t... (read in full...)
We were talking about losing our virginity to each other, but then 2 weeks later he lost his to another girl! Now he wants me more than ever I don't know what to do....
Q. Well, i have been talking to this guy and weve liked each other since childhood.one day we asked each other about our virginity and we both admitted we were. I believe in abstinence,none the less i was willing to loose my virginity to him. But a ...
A. 13 July 2010: I agree, don't sleep with him YOU will regret it. Obviously he wasn't the right person to share first time sex with. If he could wait mroe then 2 weeks to have sex with jsut ANYONE (again, obviously he didn't give a flying fart about the girl he DID ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this bitterness towards the woman my partner cheated with?
Q. My partner cheated on me and this is not a question about him. I've been dealing with it with him. It's about the girl. I have taken so much anger out on him but she walked away with having no affect in her life and ruining mine. He knew her, h...
A. 13 July 2010: You so focus your anger at the wrong person.
Maybe you feel like she walked away without a care i the world, and maybe she did, but she is NOT the one who made promises to you, she is not the one who was in a relationship.
Obsessing ove... (read in full...)
Should I tell him about my STD?
Q. Soo I have this nasty ass ex boyfriend i've dated for 3 years and we had sex maybe a month ago. I heard he was sleeping around and sure enough he gave me clamidia. I took the z pack a week an half ago. Now i have a boyfriend and i don't know ...
A. 13 July 2010: Try find a free clinic and get retested.... (read in full...)
Should I tell him about my STD?
Q. Soo I have this nasty ass ex boyfriend i've dated for 3 years and we had sex maybe a month ago. I heard he was sleeping around and sure enough he gave me clamidia. I took the z pack a week an half ago. Now i have a boyfriend and i don't know ...
A. 1 July 2010: PLEASE take Kc100's advice.
And if you can't be honest with a guy about your sexual past (which I might add include STD's) DON'T HAVE SEX!... (read in full...)
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